What are your 'friends' saying?

[I AM NOT THAT GUY 5,715]

Can we form a drum circle and a hug a tree together? Set that inner hippie free, brother.

I was hippie, when hippies weren't cool. Now that hippies are all conformists, I reject that lifestyle.

Tyranny by another name is still tyranny.

Edited July 20, 2011 by Some Old Guy

[one...two...tree 2,762]

I was hippie, when hippies weren't cool. Now that hippies are all conformists, I reject that lifestyle.

Tyranny by another name is still tyranny.

You have some funny ideas about a lot of things, Bill. But that's ok. Lets form a drum circle and smoke a peace pipe, bringing harmony to the world.

[I AM NOT THAT GUY 5,715]

You have some funny ideas about a lot of things, Bill. But that's ok. Lets form a drum circle and smoke a peace pipe, bringing harmony to the world.

Harmony is overrated.

[one...two...tree 2,762]

Are the international dating sites that much different to the other "main-stream" sites such as eHarmony that is constantly being advertised on late-night cable television? I'd argue the find the foreign/submissive/whatever girl of your dreams "sales pitch" is no better or worse than the find the perfect girl for you "based on 99 character traits that are proven to make a relationship last" pitch. Both, in effect, are pitching a load of BS that some people may or may not buy into.

Hey BJ! I missed this post until now. Yep. I think you are right on that one. It's all marketing and the relationship business has exploded over the last decade.

[bahaynamin 13]

I also have heard many of the same comments even though my wife is nine years my elder, I always hear that "oh she just wants a green card and she doesnt really love you but i really dont listen to anyone who says those things because obviously those people aren't really my friends if they say those things

[kikayrheina 0]

I am married to an Asian too not a Filipino but a Taiwanese.yeah same ethnicity but definitely different culture...all i know is that when you both decide to file for a petition such as K-1, both of you should be ready for any changes.it's not as simple as just filing papers and viola you're in US, both parties are making some sacrifices but the thought of finally being together is very rewarding.

[Psoas10 17]

My friends said Filipinos make the best wives, well since they all are Filipino. I am glad she is Filipino and not from the Mainland, since the culture shock is alot less.

[Rebecca Jo 1,962]

Stereotypes and generalizations are what you get form putting many of the same culture, the same country, the same area together. It DOES NOT mean all people in Women's lieration has given her a choice and a chance to make sure I do not abuse my rights as a male to take care of her properly. However, as long as I love her with all of my heart, love her as she is my soul she will love me and support me in the old fashioned traditional marriage. When I abuse her, when I hurt her, when I take advantage of HER rights, then she needs to have rights to leave. But also, when she decides to take her love from me, to judge me as unworthy, I also need to be able to ask her to leave. the key is, I need to be a husband as Christ is the church.

I know I'm a little late to the party here, but that might be a good thing in this instance.

Darren, re-read that. Really. Now that it's been a couple of weeks since you wrote it, I wonder if it will look as strange to you as it does to me.

IMO, your ideas of marriage are very odd, especially when you try and paint them in a Biblical context. It's as if you think there is some sort of "out" clause in the Bible. Truth is, it is modern day society and the women's movement that gives your bride the right to leave if you abuse her.

As for you as a Christ-like figure being able to ask your wife to leave if she judges you as unworthy - well I don't know how in the world you draw a Christ-like correlation to that.

[Rebecca Jo 1,962]

Having my fiancee's dad blessing on our marriage is huge.

Correct me if I am wrong here, but didn't your fiancee's dad give you his blessing after just a few internet chats? Before you even had met her or them? Before they knew anything much about you at all?

Don't get me wrong. I met my husband over the internet also, so I know that very real feelings are involved here. But my family wasn't all over it at first and blessing it. My family is conservative also, and they were insistent that he come to the US for a first meeting, rather than me flying to Europe. And while they all stood together at our wedding, they were still skeptical. I wanted to use my sister's property for our wedding, but she declined.

I know you want to believe that this paternal blessing is some sort of stamp on your upcoming marriage. I suppose it's better to believe that there is something spiritual or "ordained" about it, rather than the ancient concept of a Father trying to find the highest bidder for his daughter.

[~happyndinlove~ 540]

Correct me if I am wrong here, but didn't your fiancee's dad give you his blessing after just a few internet chats? Before you even had met her or them? Before they knew anything much about you at all?

Don't get me wrong. I met my husband over the internet also, so I know that very real feelings are involved here. But my family wasn't all over it at first and blessing it. My family is conservative also, and they were insistent that he come to the US for a first meeting, rather than me flying to Europe. And while they all stood together at our wedding, they were still skeptical. I wanted to use my sister's property for our wedding, but she declined.

I know you want to believe that this paternal blessing is some sort of stamp on your upcoming marriage. I suppose it's better to believe that there is something spiritual or "ordained" about it, rather than the ancient concept of a Father trying to find the highest bidder for his daughter.

This prior post is curious...

My fiance's dad and I have an agreement, once I get her here, then I will turn around and buy him a boat. If I can afford it sooner I will, or if he can save from the money I send, that is fine as well. In buying him a boat and getting him some equipment,

Certainly leaves room for subjective interpretation.

Edited August 6, 2011 by ~happyndinlove~

[one...two...tree 2,762]

This prior post is curious...

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My fiance's dad and I have an agreement, once I get her here, then I will turn around and buy him a boat. If I can afford it sooner I will, or if he can save from the money I send, that is fine as well. In buying him a boat and getting him some equipment,

Certainly leaves room for subjective interpretation.

Holy mackerel! I hope the boat deal isn't mentioned in the embassy interview.

[I AM NOT THAT GUY 5,715]

Holy mackerel! I hope the boat deal isn't mentioned in the embassy interview.

My wife only cost me a carton of American Marlboro's.

[DavenRoxy 1,073]

The more red hearts a member has, the less you should trust their advice. Excessive posting causes delusions of grandeur...

I see you have quite a few hearts going on there...

MODs, any chance of closing this old, tired, totally off-topic thread in the interest of public safety? Or just deleting it altogether, perhaps??

[I AM NOT THAT GUY 5,715]

I see you have quite a few hearts going on there...

MODs, any chance of closing this old, tired, totally off-topic thread in the interest of public safety? Or just deleting it altogether, perhaps??

The OP needs to make that request.

[Tahoma 2,291]

My wife only cost me a carton of American Marlboro's.

You overpaid.