VAWA Part 2

[monab28 1]

I will. You are the first one,who told me to do that,beside my friends and my lawyer. I am very emotional already,I don't want to loose my sanity along the way,but I will try. He called me yesterday,I am recording every conversation since I left,on Monday. He yelled,ask me to listen and not to speak ,because I am having troubles with english(keep saying that about the eastern european),he started to extend the word and speak in a manner that will scare you,even if you are not next to him. And the main thing,he told me is that he doesn't want a divorce. I can 't talk to him,every time I answer,I am not myself,I am shaking ,maybe my english is not at the best,but is very good,I am just loosing it when I am talking to him.

[Hopeful-2011 2]

Monab28,

Every situation is different, so I won't say that I've been through the same thing. But I can definitely say that I can closely understand and resonate with your state. My husband was a US citizen and treated me as if I was coming from a village. He was very dominating, which used to scare me a lot. But, please stay positive and trust in God. This might sound cliche' but, we do not have control over anything and everything happens for a reason. All we can do is perform actions to the best of our ability and then surrender to the divinity. Divinity takes care of itself. So in our situations, we need to take actions and file for the relevant paperwork. And luckily we have this forum, which is a good support system to maintain our sanity and helps us boost positivity.

Good luck! And smile...I know it's not easy.

I will. You are the first one,who told me to do that,beside my friends and my lawyer. I am very emotional already,I don't want to loose my sanity along the way,but I will try. He called me yesterday,I am recording every conversation since I left,on Monday. He yelled,ask me to listen and not to speak ,because I am having troubles with english(keep saying that about the eastern european),he started to extend the word and speak in a manner that will scare you,even if you are not next to him. And the main thing,he told me is that he doesn't want a divorce. I can 't talk to him,every time I answer,I am not myself,I am shaking ,maybe my english is not at the best,but is very good,I am just loosing it when I am talking to him.

Thank you, Murid2010! This was very helpful.

God bless!!!

Write a letter with the title request for Prima Facie Extension a copy of your I-360 receipt notice and a copy of your Prima Facie notice. Send it to Vermont Service Center. Note: You must sign the letter and send it 15days prior to your prima facie expired.

Sample Below

Your Name

Your Address

USCIS

Vermont Service Center

Att: VAWA UNIT

75 Lower Walden St

St Albans, VT 05479

REQUEST FOR PRIMA FACIE EXTENSION CASE # EAC XXXXXXXXXXX

This letter is to request an extension of my prima facie determination which was issued xx-xx-xxxx and expired on xx-xx-xxxx based on my pending I-360 Self Petition as a battered spouse of a US Citizen.

Applicant Name:

A # :

Receipt # :

Date of Birth :

Enclosed is a copy of notice receipt and a copy of my prima facie determination notice.

Your urgent help in this matter will be greatly appreciated.

Sincerely,

Hopeful-2011

[monab28 1]

I thank you all,I am getting a little stronger. I had a nervous breakdown today. I am an greek orthodox,and I baptize a very good frien's daughter. She is orthodox,from Ukraine,just to understand why I couldn't do it togheter with my husband. The main reason will be that he won't do it,regardless,but also in my friend's orthodox church,they asked that the Godmother to be from the mom's side and the Godfather,from the father's side. The moment ,I stepped in the church ,I felt like somebody is protecting me and watching my pain. I started to cry,and did ,until the end. I am starting to loose balance,I almost felt inside and outside the church. Thank you all,God bless you and I will try not to loose hope and faith,I wish to find the strenght to put everything togheter ,but I feel like I need to put myself togheter first.

[murid2010 6]

I thank you all,I am getting a little stronger. I had a nervous breakdown today. I am an greek orthodox,and I baptize a very good frien's daughter. She is orthodox,from Ukraine,just to understand why I couldn't do it togheter with my husband. The main reason will be that he won't do it,regardless,but also in my friend's orthodox church,they asked that the Godmother to be from the mom's side and the Godfather,from the father's side. The moment ,I stepped in the church ,I felt like somebody is protecting me and watching my pain. I started to cry,and did ,until the end. I am starting to loose balance,I almost felt inside and outside the church. Thank you all,God bless you and I will try not to loose hope and faith,I wish to find the strenght to put everything togheter ,but I feel like I need to put myself togheter first.

Put yourself together, you will be ok. Focus on gathering your evidence and write your statement clearly and with lot of details. THE ATTACHMENT BELOW CAN GUIDE YOU THROUGH THE PROCESS

FillingAnI-360Self-Petition.pdf

[monab28 1]

I really belive again,in the fact ,that there are a lot of good people in this world,except for my friends. I went to the doctor today,and is not good. My blood presure was 180/130. He told me to calm down,gave me a pill and let me seat for 20min. He measured it again,it was 190/130. He did an EKG,I have been put on pills,he told me to swallow one,when I pick them from the farmacy. And 0.50'Mg Xanax. How did I come so far? He wants to see me on Wednesday and reffer me to some specialist. You think am I gona be able to file that petition,bymyself? I don't know how much a lawyer can cost,he is holding my EAD card,until I want to meet him,but I am shaking only when I picture his face,so I am not going to.Maybe,he'll give it to my friend and I can start working anywhere. Maybe,I'll go to a charity org,but I am ashemed to walk in to a center and tell them that I need legal asisstance. I have friends,that offer me some financial support,which hopefully I will be able to return. I use to belive that I can do anything by myself. I am not there yet,but I hope the pills will help. Thank you so,so much. God bless you

[yulisa 9]

I really belive again,in the fact ,that there are a lot of good people in this world,except for my friends. I went to the doctor today,and is not good. My blood presure was 180/130. He told me to calm down,gave me a pill and let me seat for 20min. He measured it again,it was 190/130. He did an EKG,I have been put on pills,he told me to swallow one,when I pick them from the farmacy. And 0.50'Mg Xanax. How did I come so far? He wants to see me on Wednesday and reffer me to some specialist. You think am I gona be able to file that petition,bymyself? I don't know how much a lawyer can cost,he is holding my EAD card,until I want to meet him,but I am shaking only when I picture his face,so I am not going to.Maybe,he'll give it to my friend and I can start working anywhere. Maybe,I'll go to a charity org,but I am ashemed to walk in to a center and tell them that I need legal asisstance. I have friends,that offer me some financial support,which hopefully I will be able to return. I use to belive that I can do anything by myself. I am not there yet,but I hope the pills will help. Thank you so,so much. God bless you

Plse be calm.it going to be ok.your health is very important and 190/130 is bad so plse take care of ur self.dont be shy of any body to look at u when u enter the charity org.they are good people so they will help u.just pray and the lord will listen.your friends cant always be there for u,they wil help u today but tommorow they cant,so plse be strong to file the vawa.u are lucky that u do not ave any baby with him.i was lucky to get someone to work with,without asking for my employment card.so i think u can get a job when u look around or on craiglist.take care.

[monab28 1]

I am trying to be strong. He keeps calling me,and when I see his number coming on the screen,I am having panick attacks. I can't breath ,I can swallow,my mouth gets dry,my heart goes crazy and if I will answer,I think I'll have no voice.I have friends,thank God,that I couldn't stay in touch too much,because he was controlling my phone. I was afraid to go on the internet,while in his house,because he might check the history. I asked a friend to do it for me,she went to a lawyer and he said if I can stay until the interview,fine,if not,to leave and not to put my life in danger. That's what I did. I try to show him that evrything is ok,everyone has bad days(all his days are bad) and I put togheter what I could find. He has a black carry on,full with documents. I didn't know when he will come ,so I grab only what I could. I wanted to go with the police,but then he will know. Is it VAWA ,100%,confidential? What if they'll send by mistake a letter there? And can you tell me ,what is the fee to file? Thank you all,so much.

[TransPorter 1]

I am trying to be strong. He keeps calling me,and when I see his number coming on the screen,I am having panick attacks. I can't breath ,I can swallow,my mouth gets dry,my heart goes crazy and if I will answer,I think I'll have no voice.I have friends,thank God,that I couldn't stay in touch too much,because he was controlling my phone. I was afraid to go on the internet,while in his house,because he might check the history. I asked a friend to do it for me,she went to a lawyer and he said if I can stay until the interview,fine,if not,to leave and not to put my life in danger. That's what I did. I try to show him that evrything is ok,everyone has bad days(all his days are bad) and I put togheter what I could find. He has a black carry on,full with documents. I didn't know when he will come ,so I grab only what I could. I wanted to go with the police,but then he will know. Is it VAWA ,100%,confidential? What if they'll send by mistake a letter there? And can you tell me ,what is the fee to file? Thank you all,so much.

I understand your situation my friend, i also experienced panic attacks when my spouse telling me nasty things,did your hands shake to?! to answer your question yes vawa is confidential, just make sure that you hide your documents properly and address it your documents where you think it safe. vawa filing fee is free.

Edited July 19, 2011 by TransPorter

[lucymiss 0]

I will. You are the first one,who told me to do that,beside my friends and my lawyer. I am very emotional already,I don't want to loose my sanity along the way,but I will try. He called me yesterday,I am recording every conversation since I left,on Monday. He yelled,ask me to listen and not to speak ,because I am having troubles with english(keep saying that about the eastern european),he started to extend the word and speak in a manner that will scare you,even if you are not next to him. And the main thing,he told me is that he doesn't want a divorce. I can 't talk to him,every time I answer,I am not myself,I am shaking ,maybe my english is not at the best,but is very good,I am just loosing it when I am talking to him.

hey monab28. so sorry to hear what you are going through right now. the day i left my husband .i called the police and next day my friend took me to a shelter. since then my life has freedom and everything started to get back together. druing my stay in shelter.i filled my vawa. it is still pending since last year but there is some hope. if you don't have a place to stay try to find the shelter online .

if you have any question we are welcome to ask me. we are all the children of LORD. for some reason we can't have a life with our husband. we wish it was not this way.but we have no choice but to leave. the marriage with my husband makes me feel whether i am a living human or not in this world.

hope my story can make you strong. take care

[monab28 1]

All your stories,makes me strong and I thank you for that. I have a place to stay for a while,at least. She is a friend of mine,I hate to bother them,she has a 2 year old son,who keep asking"did you cry?". I am laughing and I always tell him that I have something in my eye. He asked me what and now he goes to his mom and ask to have his eyes checked. But that is just a story...Since I moved by her,the 11th of jully,I started to search the internet. I've seen that there is a fee ,about 500$,for the VAWA. Maybe ,I am wrong.I might go to a place,where they protect woman,to ask if they know a lawyer and if they can help with VAWA. I still scared that ,my husband is gona find out. Any ideea,what to do,so he'll give me the EAD card? If I'll loose my patience,I think I'll call the police,I rather not,because I think he'll look for me ,and I will have to move to another state.

[monab28 1]

I am sorry ...transporter! My hands are shaking even now. When he use to yell,thread and call me all names ,my whole body will feel numb,I had no air,and a strong sweat coming from the hair,down to my ears ,instantly. I still have those simptoms,when I think or I see his calls,but with the medication,that I started to take today,I felt all right. The doctor,that I've seen,thinks is a depression and some post traumatic stress,or something like that. He insist ,that I have to see a pshychiatrist. Today,was the first day ,I felt good,for the past 6 months,and I guess,because of the med.I wanted to call him and tell him to go to hell. I forgot to tell you,or maybe I posted,that the day before I left him,he asked me to shut up that moment,or he will make my lips looks like botox. I froze,and he said "if you're thinking to call the police,don't bother,I have been in jail for 5 years". I thought he was bluffing but I went on a site of a county court house and yes,he has 2 criminal records. Battery felony and theft/to deprive. I don't know how serious it is,I am not familiar with the legal terms,it doesn't say if or between what dates ,he was in jail,but it brought me to the point,where I hate him so much,and I never hated any one in my life. Hope I am gona sleep tonight,with all those pills,I need to give my brain a break. Good night,if we can say so...

[yulisa 9]

i just had an email and a txt dis morning, saying i ave interview on the 19th of august 2011.am soooo happy.

[yulisa 9]

i just had an email and a txt dis morning, saying i ave interview on the 19th of august 2011.am soooo happy.

[monab28 1]

I am happy for you too! You deserve it. A lots of luck,and I hope,that everything will be fine.

[murid2010 6]

Congrats Yulisa. One step forward