marriage problems

[Alex+R 0]

What would be gained by not telling her she needs to file a AR-11... other than revenge...

The AR-11 says:

Failure to report a change of address is punishable by fine or imprisonment and/or removal.

IMO, the OP should make no effort to tell her about this requirement.

The OP is not even sure that his wife has "tricked" him. Perhaps she entered into the marriage in good faith. Does he have any feelings toward her children? They've lived together for 3 years now; it's not like she just arrived and wants to bail.

The AR-11 doesn't even come into play until she leaves. When she leaves, whether she 'tricked' him or not, it's in his best interests to get her in as much legal trouble as he can.

Why? I wouldn't do that to someone.

[iceyspots 0]

I wonder how long it took her to come up with this decision to move. I wonder if she just said it in the heat of the moment (yes they happen when dealing with teenagers) or if it was a long drawn out plan.

[w¡n9Nµ7 §£@¥€r 123]

When she leaves, whether she 'tricked' him or not, it's in his best interests to get her in as much legal trouble as he can.

Why?

Because the legal process in this country is by nature adversarial.

[mawilson 2,133]

The AR-11 doesn't even come into play until she leaves. When she leaves, whether she 'tricked' him or not, it's in his best interests to get her in as much legal trouble as he can.

The AR-11 doesn't come into play ever. File it, don't file it, the result is the same --

the USCIS have no idea you've changed your address.

[w¡n9Nµ7 §£@¥€r 123]

The AR-11 doesn't even come into play until she leaves. When she leaves, whether she 'tricked' him or not, it's in his best interests to get her in as much legal trouble as he can.

The AR-11 doesn't come into play ever. File it, don't file it, the result is the same --

the USCIS have no idea you've changed your address.

What if the USCIS were informed by someone else?

[Alex+R 0]

When she leaves, whether she 'tricked' him or not, it's in his best interests to get her in as much legal trouble as he can.

Why?

Because the legal process in this country is by nature adversarial.

Maybe I'm too young to be that cynical.

[Kez/JWolf 6]

We know nothing about this couple... why do people assume that because she has said she may move out... that all this is somehow all her fault.... it take 2 to make a marriage and 2 to make it go wrong....

Are we all so vindictive that it is ok to tell the OP to get his wife and her children into as much legal trouble as possible???

Who is to say that it is not the OP's fault and that he is a bad husband and has caused her to become so uncomfortable living with him that she feels she has to leave.....

Kezzie

[Alex+R 0]

We know nothing about this couple... why do people assume that because she has said she may move out... that all this is somehow all her fault.... it take 2 to make a marriage and 2 to make it go wrong....

Are we all so vindictive that it is ok to tell the OP to get his wife and her children into as much legal trouble as possible???

Who is to say that it is not the OP's fault and that he is a bad husband and has caused her to become so uncomfortable living with him that she feels she has to leave.....

Kezzie

that's what I was trying to say. thanks.

[mawilson 2,133]

Maybe I'm too young to be that cynical.

No, you're just too nice.

[w¡n9Nµ7 §£@¥€r 123]

Are we all so vindictive that it is ok to tell the OP to get his wife and her children into as much legal trouble as possible???

This isn't about being vindictive. This is about realizing that once she leaves, the OP has to take steps that are consistent with the adversarial nature of our legal system. Even if he's at fault for the failure of the marriage.

[mawilson 2,133]

The AR-11 doesn't even come into play until she leaves. When she leaves, whether she 'tricked' him or not, it's in his best interests to get her in as much legal trouble as he can.

The AR-11 doesn't come into play ever. File it, don't file it, the result is the same --

the USCIS have no idea you've changed your address.

What if the USCIS were informed by someone else?

Their bureaucracy is so slow that by the time they act on this information (if they ever do),

she'll have become a US citizen.

[iceyspots 0]

We know nothing about this couple... why do people assume that because she has said she may move out... that all this is somehow all her fault.... it take 2 to make a marriage and 2 to make it go wrong....

Are we all so vindictive that it is ok to tell the OP to get his wife and her children into as much legal trouble as possible???

Who is to say that it is not the OP's fault and that he is a bad husband and has caused her to become so uncomfortable living with him that she feels she has to leave.....

Kezzie

I think her reasoning for moving out was more-so the way their children were acting together, than the marriage itself. Imagine all the stress of having teenagers in a household who aren't blood relatives who can't get along. Not everyone is the brady bunch. But who knows what is really going on.

[Alex+R 0]

Are we all so vindictive that it is ok to tell the OP to get his wife and her children into as much legal trouble as possible???

This isn't about being vindictive. This is about realizing that once she leaves, the OP has to take steps that are consistent with the adversarial nature of our legal system. Even if he's at fault for the failure of the marriage.

But she's the immigrant. What could she really take him for if they got a divorce? It doesn't sound like there's a great amount of conflict other than between the kids.

[one...two...tree 2,762]

When she leaves, whether she 'tricked' him or not, it's in his best interests to get her in as much legal trouble as he can.

Why?

Because the legal process in this country is by nature adversarial.

Maybe I'm too young to be that cynical.

Old age is no excuse for cynicism. I'm with you on this one also...karma and the Golden Rule.

[dalegg 143]

Defnitely a tough situation to be in. My 15 year old son doesn't get along with my 13 year old daughter and they grew up together. It got to be so bad that my son had to move out and live with his mother. So I can imagine what problems could come of mixing kids of different cultures.