I think I'm going nuts

[rebeccajo 14]

The Writ of Mandamus filings are for citizenship. I don't think there is legal precedent yet for filing them for AOS.

I notice that dani_christine and hubby are infopassing tomorrow morning regarding his name check. I hope she asks them if being a citizen of Northern Ireland has anything to do with these delays. My husband was never a member of the IRA or the UDA. He couldn't pass the bomb-making exam.................*rolls eyes*

Edited August 14, 2006 by rebeccajo

[one...two...tree 2,762]

Regarding moving. I have a son who is about to enter his senior year in high school. Not only is he an excellent student who just whipped out an ACT score of 29 on his first try (which gives him the WV Promise Scholarship - full tuition - no room and board) but he is the Drum Major for the marching band this year. An honor and distinction he has worked his BUTT off to earn for the last 3 years. I can't take that away from him.

A lot of this immigration journey has been done with my son in mind. In all honesty it would have made more economic sense for me to have moved to Northern Ireland. Wes had a stable job - even though he hated it he had been there 8 years. He also had a house that he could have purchased for the paltry sum of 15000 sterling (due to the fact he and his family had rented it for 30 years). Effectively I could have sold my home, taken the equity and moved over there and paid cash for his. We could have improved it with grant money from the UK government, lived in it for 5 years, sold it (I'm guessing given his deep discount, improvements we would have made, and the passage of time) and moved back here with enough cash in our pockets to buy a comfy home plus live easily for a bit without worrying about immediate employment. But he moved here instead because of my boy.

That's understandable and admirable. Good luck with your son! My son is about to start his first year in high school and he'll be in the marching band as well as jazz band playing drums.

[Mand 1]

Rebecca, I'm pretty ####### at advising when I have no clue what to say...but I do know from experience that the crappy times make the good times feel even better when they come along...and they WILL come along girl! Good people deserve good things to happen to them, which means ye have a bundle of goodies waiting for you both

[Laura_and_IanM 0]

*sigh*

When my husband immigrated over here for good on Sept. 15 of last year, we had a plan.

We needed for him to be working within about nine months. That has happened but I know it's not a job he really likes. Plus its 25 miles one way from our house and he has to arrange to ride with someone else. The one week I transported him I filled my gas tank 3 times. Multiply that by what you know you are paying for gas these days and see if that fits into your budget. Right not he's about to change shifts and he is needing to find another ride.

We needed for me to find a better job. I keep having interviews and nothing happens. Each time I go for another my self-confidence takes another blow. Usually if I could get an interview I could get the job. I can't figure it out.

We knew we would have to move by next summer. Our house is too large and my son is moving to college next fall. We really can't afford to stay here. Because our financial plans haven't worked out we've got the house for sale now. After 2 months on the market we still don't have a buyer. We keep looking for a smaller home but nobody will make a contract with us because ours is not sold. I'm having a hard time grasping the concept of how we are supposed to wait till we have a buyer before we can select a house. Just because my buyer found something doesn't mean there will be a house on the market that meets our needs. It scares the hell out of me.

Wes had his AOS interview March 9 but we still don't have is greencard. Namecheck hell. He has the occasional dream where the men in black come to our door to collect him.

I feel like my entire world is upside down. I don't know where I will be living or working this time next year. I don't know if Wes will be happy with his life. Basically I am so full of worry I spend too much time on this machine or sleeping. I let my household chores go. I can still laugh, have fun, and do my job. But my mind is always wandering and I keep going 'if if if if if if if'.......

The econony here is not great but I really thought we would have our act together within 18 months. Now I'm worried I'm gonna be living in a cardboard box.

What the hell is the matter with me? Shouldn't I be happy that at least Wes and I are together? Why isn't that enough?

####### I hate it when I spill my guts on here.

AWWWWWWWWWWWWW REBBECA!!!!!!!!!!!! I am so sorry that I have only just read this thread, and to read of your problems. Please hun know that I know how you feel and really do understand the agony of it all. You have to keep your chin up girl!!! Things do have a way of working out for the better. Before I came to the UK, I left my management job in Sept. 2004 for personal reasons, and when I went to find another, I couldn't believe how hard it was. I was turned down because I was overqualified and they rather pay someone else minimum wage rather the wage that I was worth. There were times where I was just so depressed that I wouldn't leave my house for days on end. Someone finally shook me into reality and told me that feeling sorry for myself isn't going to help. They were oh so right..lol.

We are here for you hun...please keep your chin up...you are great!!!! Something will turn up for you...I promise!!!

LJ

[Welshcookie 17]

Hate to hear you so down Rebecca Hope things start falling into place for you real soon....keep smiling thro

[Patricia_and_andy 0]

Well Rebecca.....all I can say is sorry for all you are feeling and going through right now... and I think the sex advice is good advice!!! hehe

Hugs to you both!!!

patricia

[Karen_L 1]

Hi Rebecca! Things will turn around soon and I really, really think Wes will get his greencard; he's in a security/name check chasm right now, but there's absolutely no rational reason he would be denied -- just keep holding out for it and he'll get it

I don't have any advice to offer, but I think that despite the financial hardships, you're making the right choice for your son by not moving yet and permitting him to finish high school with his friends in a place where he is successful.

*hug*

[Alex+R 0]

Hi Rebecca! Things will turn around soon and I really, really think Wes will get his greencard; he's in a security/name check chasm right now, but there's absolutely no rational reason he would be denied -- just keep holding out for it and he'll get it

I don't have any advice to offer, but I think that despite the financial hardships, you're making the right choice for your son by not moving yet and permitting him to finish high school with his friends in a place where he is successful.

*hug*

Yeah Rebecca, if it's any consolation, I think you're being a model mom. I hope your son thanks you for this later (and now)!

I have no advice, but I hope everything works out and you are able to feel better soon.

[irishgirl73 1]

You seem a bit overwhelmed at the moment Rebecca....................and who wouldn't be with everything that you have going on right now?

Selling a house, waiting for Wes to get his greencard, looking for a job-that is a lot on your plate woman! Things will work themselves out. You will get the pefect job, your man will get his greencard & everything else will fall into place(fingers crossed for ya).

I think we ALL go through times like this. I may not be selling a house, but I am looking for a better job, I worry about how Gav will get on when he is here, I worry about being in debt, I worry about having enough money to get by, what do I want to do for the rest of my life? where do I want to live? ...........the list goes on & on(God no wonder I have stomach issues- .

Everything will fall into place-you'll see

Take care of yourself!

Colleen

[incanada1234 0]

Well if the companies you're interviewing with are anything like the company I work for, then I know why you aren't getting hired. Everytime a position opens up, the new person they bring in is about 20 years old. They only want young meat these days. Idiots.

Anyway, hope things start looking up for you guys.

Edited August 14, 2006 by incanada1234

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