Sleepless in Arizona

[waiting4Oliverio 0]

I can't believe how much sleep I am losing over this whole thing. Every time I try to sleep I'm overwhelmed with the whole process of getting my hunny back here. It's been almost 2 months since I've seen him.....

How does everyone cope with this ?....

[JenT 0]

VJ

[GaryC 7]

I cope by waking up every few hours to check my status ( I work midnights so I "sleep" in the day) , compulsivly monitor VJ, bug my lawyer, call my senators and generally make a total wreck of myself.

[waiting4Oliverio 0]

I cope by waking up every few hours to check my status ( I work midnights so I "sleep" in the day) , compulsivly monitor VJ, bug my lawyer, call my senators and generally make a total wreck of myself.

That sounds about right....I'm already a wreck and I just sent in my I-129 on July 24......I don't even want to think about how I'll be a month from now!!!

[RonMay 1]

I cope by waking up every few hours to check my status ( I work midnights so I "sleep" in the day) , compulsivly monitor VJ, bug my lawyer, call my senators and generally make a total wreck of myself.

That sounds about right....I'm already a wreck and I just sent in my I-129 on July 24......I don't even want to think about how I'll be a month from now!!!

apart from being insane, i keep myself busy by checking the status online, do something productive by day dreaming about my fiance, then get myself busy again by checking the status online... talks about my life lately

Edited August 9, 2006 by ronmay

[aj1 1]

I cope by waking up every few hours to check my status ( I work midnights so I "sleep" in the day) , compulsivly monitor VJ, bug my lawyer, call my senators and generally make a total wreck of myself.

That sounds about right....I'm already a wreck and I just sent in my I-129 on July 24......I don't even want to think about how I'll be a month from now!!!

apart from being insane, i keep myself busy by checking the status online, do something productive by day dreaming about my fiance, then get myself busy again by checking the status online... talks about my life lately

Its very difficult for everyone this is not an easy process we are dealing with here. It takes alot of time patience and god to get through something like this. I have not seen my baby in 8 months and i still have a long way to go. We talk everyday either online or on the phone. We send each other emails, We talk about our life together. Through this process you really have time to really get to know the person in depth ALOT through conversations. But don't worry just take it one day at a time. Believe me all the waiting is definetely worth it in the end when you are together forever. Hang in there, we will al get there.

AJ1

[waiting4Oliverio 0]

I talk to my hunny twice a week and it's hard....I wanna talk to him every day but it's nearly impossible where he lives and he has no access to a computer

I guess this is where the saying "What doesn't kill us; makes us stronger" comes into play hu......

[Lizzy 0]

It was 9 months till i got my visa......the one thing i did was Pray, Pray everyday, it worked for me.

[Qiao - 108 days 0]

We have tried to be creative to have as many ways to communicate as possible. We talk on the phone at least twice a day, and use web cams on the weekends. We email each other when the other one is asleep. Every once in a while we send something in the mail, and we use ecards, too.

Spending time here reading about other people's experiences has helped keep me sane. Just knowing that people out there are going through the same thing really does help. People on VJ can truly identify with you when you are feeling down.

For my daily life, I do as much as I can to stay busy. In three weeks it will have been one year since I saw my fiance. I have a daily routine that helps keep me distracted from how lonely I am. Getting exercise helps me burn off some of the frustration.

Going through all of this really sucks, but at this point in the experience, I can really see how committed we are to each other, and I know that we will cherish our time together when this is finally over.

[seldi 1]

VJ

[Jersey Girl 2]

If you change your mind, you'll change your world.

Right now, you're "waiting for tragedy." Change that to "waiting with faith and hope."

You're already stressing and expect to be anxious. Change that to relaxing and enjoying all the blessings you have this very day.

You'll need a variety of techniques to get through this process sane and intact. But the most important is to have a realistic time frame. Will it be six months? A year? No one can stay at a high stress level all that time without having a breakdown. Change that. Think of this time as a period in which you get healthier, in mind and body. Not for you, but for the sake of the one who loves you.

If you've got a spiritual side, pray everyday. God knows what we need but likes to hear us ask and stay in touch.

Treat yourself well. Eat wholesome food. Exercise. Get plenty of sleep. Take care with your appearance.

Stay busy with work, hobbies, volunteering.

Stay connected socially. Don't isolate yourself and sink into a depressed state.

Distract yourself. Read, rent movies, paint a picture, paint the whole house ...

It's natural to feel lonely, hopeless, and overwhelmed, and people here will support you. But it's also possible to consciously pull yourself out of the inevitable funks by having a number of strategies that work for you.

[waiting4Oliverio 0]

Thank you all for your input and support! This site is really helping me with things......