Cheating Fiance

[Susita 175]

If she finds your request to stop going clubbing 'unreasonable' ... well, I wouldn't take the relationship any farther. But that's just me.

She's lucky you even forgave her for what she did. It's bad enough she cheated on you. At least she admitted it though.

[JINNY 2]

Going out to a nightclub and sleeping with a stranger when a person is engaged to be married is reckless, immature, and violates the intimacy of a committed couple unless the nature of the relationship is an open one. Ask her if they used a condom. Then you would know the extent of how reckless with your heart she can be and if you want to maintain a relationship with someone like that.

[klicristina 0]

Me too.

me three.

[Calypso 465]

You seem to lack peace of mind right now. Do you think you'll get over these thoughts as days go by? If you pursue your relationship and you'd look back to her confession with the same feeling as you have today, you better stop as early as now. Are you wishing that you wouldn't have known this? Do you believe that what you don't know won't hurt you anyway?

You are aware how flirtatious and bold American guys are. Will you stay at ease whenever she goes out? Even when I spent an afternoon in the public library, there were two "friendly" guys who found a way to talk to me.

If you couldn't deal with what you feel right now, you better say goodbye to her. I had my share of wild days, too, but when I met my husband, I changed my cellphone number, e-mail adds and deleted senseless Facebook contacts.

It would also be not good if you marry her and when you have fights, you'd bring back her transgression. Will you be strong enough to avoid doing that?

[one...two...tree 2,762]

Even if someone is single and unattached....who meets somebody at a bar and has a one night stand? Actually, I've known some people like that...and their lives end up looking like a train wreck...from a lifetime of reckless behavior.

[Calypso 465]

Even if someone is single and unattached....who meets somebody at a bar and has a one night stand? Actually, I've known some people like that...and their lives end up looking like a train wreck...from a lifetime of reckless behavior.

Besides, some STIs don't have symptoms. Even if a guy or a girl looks gorgeous, you can never tell what disease they have.

[rika60607 215]

Go see her!... It will help you to make a decision.

Why did you fall in love with her? Was it her club going easy personality by any chance?

[IR5FORMUMSIE 850]

You seem to lack peace of mind right now. Do you think you'll get over these thoughts as days go by? If you pursue your relationship and you'd look back to her confession with the same feeling as you have today, you better stop as early as now. Are you wishing that you wouldn't have known this? Do you believe that what you don't know won't hurt you anyway?

You are aware how flirtatious and bold American guys are. Will you stay at ease whenever she goes out? Even when I spent an afternoon in the public library, there were two "friendly" guys who found a way to talk to me.

If you couldn't deal with what you feel right now, you better say goodbye to her. I had my share of wild days, too, but when I met my husband, I changed my cellphone number, e-mail adds and deleted senseless Facebook contacts.

It would also be not good if you marry her and when you have fights, you'd bring back her transgression. Will you be strong enough to avoid doing that?

I wasn't one of them, I swear.

Lots of opinions here and good advice but I'm going to side with the majority. Unsettled get settled and show her the door. She won't change for the man she loves so I guess she's not willing to makes sacrifices and that's not a foundation for any sort of relationship. You are asking very, very little.

[Pinocchio Liberal 268]

Hec dude, go out and get laid!

[IR5FORMUMSIE 850]

Besides, some STIs don't have symptoms. Even if a guy or a girl looks gorgeous, you can never tell what disease they have.

Like a hidden #######. Just kidding, STIs are certainly one more thing that you have to worry about.

[SunDrop 59]

Besides, some STIs don't have symptoms. Even if a guy or a girl looks gorgeous, you can never tell what disease they have.

This is a good point. Has she been through the medical yet? If you do decide to pursue the relationship and visa, you should ask her to go for an STI screening before her medical, and if she tests positive for anything, she'll need to declare it. And get it treated, obviously.

[I AM NOT THAT GUY 5,715]

Even if someone is single and unattached....who meets somebody at a bar and has a one night stand? Actually, I've known some people like that...and their lives end up looking like a train wreck...from a lifetime of reckless behavior.

I miss my lifetime of reckless behavior!

[IR5FORMUMSIE 850]

Hec dude, go out and get laid!

You again? I b*tchslapped you so bad last time you had to change your name. Sorry to break your heart tinky-winky, but I ain't into dudez.

I miss my lifetime of reckless behavior!

Not half as much as Silver, I bet.

[Calypso 465]

This is a good point. Has she been through the medical yet? If you do decide to pursue the relationship and visa, you should ask her to go for an STI screening before her medical, and if she tests positive for anything, she'll need to declare it. And get it treated, obviously.

STD testing for K1 is usually limited to HIV and syphilis (that's how it is for the medical exam in the Philippines). There's so much more to test like HSV1, HSV2, chlamydia, gonorrhea, and others (you can event count diseases that are transferred through skin contact and body fluids like saliva... surely they kissed).

Edited February 7, 2010 by Arbind.Ariadne

[FortLaudy 10]

Hec dude, go out and get laid!

I think he meant this to the OP, I agree !