Changing my name to my fiance's, so I have the same last name as our daughter?

[KittyPollitt 284]

I'll be finally filing our I 129f next month- and today at my daughter's pediatrician's office, my mother posed a question to me.. My newborn daughter has her father's last name, which has already proven to be difficult for most American secretaries to spell, and it's compounded by the fact that I still have my ex husband's last name, which is also a "ethnic" name, and equally as difficult to constantly spell out.. In my state, it's relatively easy to change one's name, and my mother asked me why don't I change my name to my fiance's name, so the baby and I at least have the same last name. Would having the same last name on the K1 application be a red flag of some sort, or an obstacle in our application? Or is it something that I could easily explain in a notation on the application?

Any advice or opinions are appreciated. I know it seems like a silly thing to do, but caring for a newborn alone right now is stressful enough and dealing with this little issue would be a nice thing to have eliminated, if it is advisable.

Thanks,

Sarah

[canadian_wife 1,831]

I would advise against this. Married people change their names, not engaged people. You want to avoid the possibility of the CO making the false assumption that you are married and therefore inelligible for the K-1 visa. I think if you wait to change your name until after you are married, it will make this process easier on you.

Good luck.

[Gary and Alla 3,696]

I'll be finally filing our I 129f next month- and today at my daughter's pediatrician's office, my mother posed a question to me.. My newborn daughter has her father's last name, which has already proven to be difficult for most American secretaries to spell, and it's compounded by the fact that I still have my ex husband's last name, which is also a "ethnic" name, and equally as difficult to constantly spell out.. In my state, it's relatively easy to change one's name, and my mother asked me why don't I change my name to my fiance's name, so the baby and I at least have the same last name. Would having the same last name on the K1 application be a red flag of some sort, or an obstacle in our application? Or is it something that I could easily explain in a notation on the application?

Any advice or opinions are appreciated. I know it seems like a silly thing to do, but caring for a newborn alone right now is stressful enough and dealing with this little issue would be a nice thing to have eliminated, if it is advisable.

Thanks,

Sarah

No. Do not do this until AFTER you are married. You are dealing with an extremely difficult consulate that would LOVE to deny your fiance's visa, do not give them a reason! Changing your name would be all they need to deny your visa on the premise you are already married.

Just relax and put up with spelling your name to people, what's the big deal?

[KittyPollitt 284]

I'll be finally filing our I 129f next month- and today at my daughter's pediatrician's office, my mother posed a question to me.. My newborn daughter has her father's last name, which has already proven to be difficult for most American secretaries to spell, and it's compounded by the fact that I still have my ex husband's last name, which is also a "ethnic" name, and equally as difficult to constantly spell out.. In my state, it's relatively easy to change one's name, and my mother asked me why don't I change my name to my fiance's name, so the baby and I at least have the same last name. Would having the same last name on the K1 application be a red flag of some sort, or an obstacle in our application? Or is it something that I could easily explain in a notation on the application?

Any advice or opinions are appreciated. I know it seems like a silly thing to do, but caring for a newborn alone right now is stressful enough and dealing with this little issue would be a nice thing to have eliminated, if it is advisable.

Thanks,

Sarah

No. Do not do this until AFTER you are married. You are dealing with an extremely difficult consulate that would LOVE to deny your fiance's visa, do not give them a reason! Changing your name would be all they need to deny your visa on the premise you are already married.

Just relax and put up with spelling your name to people, what's the big deal?

You're right, Gary.. I guess I'm just letting small things get to me lately.. things have been crazy, and I'm kinda trying to simplify as much as I can.. Patience is a virtue I've always had to work to hold on to..

[Nik+Heather 122]

I'll be finally filing our I 129f next month- and today at my daughter's pediatrician's office, my mother posed a question to me.. My newborn daughter has her father's last name, which has already proven to be difficult for most American secretaries to spell, and it's compounded by the fact that I still have my ex husband's last name, which is also a "ethnic" name, and equally as difficult to constantly spell out.. In my state, it's relatively easy to change one's name, and my mother asked me why don't I change my name to my fiance's name, so the baby and I at least have the same last name. Would having the same last name on the K1 application be a red flag of some sort, or an obstacle in our application? Or is it something that I could easily explain in a notation on the application?

Any advice or opinions are appreciated. I know it seems like a silly thing to do, but caring for a newborn alone right now is stressful enough and dealing with this little issue would be a nice thing to have eliminated, if it is advisable.

Thanks,

Sarah

No. Do not do this until AFTER you are married. You are dealing with an extremely difficult consulate that would LOVE to deny your fiance's visa, do not give them a reason! Changing your name would be all they need to deny your visa on the premise you are already married.

Just relax and put up with spelling your name to people, what's the big deal?

You're right, Gary.. I guess I'm just letting small things get to me lately.. things have been crazy, and I'm kinda trying to simplify as much as I can.. Patience is a virtue I've always had to work to hold on to..

Having a difficult name is the pits, huh!! Nik's got a nice, English sounding name. Unfortunately, it's just missing one letter from an extremely common name, and they sound very similar. It doesn't seem to matter how many times I spell it. How many times I tell them that it's NOT the way it sounds but a different way, it's still wrong 50% of the time.

I really feel for you - what with having this same thing with your own name and your daughter's. Soon you'll be married and then you can look forward to only half the pain.

[kizza 1]

Im not sure your fiancé would like the idea (mine sure doesnt! ), but after you are married, your husband could also change his name to take yours.

Or you could pick a new name all together.