Need to know what to do

[lmc1968 0]

Hi, I came in the US through a K-1 Visa but I am now currently out of status because my husband and I divorced after 29 days of marriage. Well, our divorce is still on process. To make things short, he cheated on me and he lied to me repeatedly and he is full of sh**. I decide to end my almost 4 years relationship with him now even if I don't have my green card than end it later when we already have kids. At this point, I do not know what to do with my status here. He's a lawyer and yes if I did not live with him, I wouldn't know that the only time he didn't lie was when his mouth was closed. I told him to file a divorce so I could go back to the Philippines immediately. I asked him what would happen to our interview and papers since we will be divorcing. He was friggin sneaky that he didn't reply to my email instead he sneakily filed nullity based on fraud. I appeared in Court Pro Per versus him ( a lawyer) and his lawyer. I have a lot of evidence that our marriage was not fraud. He lost and the judge was to order $7, 000 a month temporary spousal support because of my status. Because it was gonna cost him a lot, he made a stipulation with me to have his nullity withdrawn and to wave the support and attorneys cost and fees. I appeared pro per in court because I could not afford an attorney, but by family law, I could request for one and have him pay for it. So he requested that I would wave everything, because I feel bad that it was costing him a lot (which was stupid of me), I agreed and told him its fine and that I wouldn't be asking anything anyways if he didn't complicate things. So he withdraw his nullity and just proceed with divorce. Right when I left him, I called USCIS to withdraw my AOS petition since we applied for it after we got married. At that point I didn't have my receipt number because he kept all my immigration papers and refused to give them to me. They instructed how to get it. After my case against him got settled, I followed up with the USCIS to have my AOS petition withdrawn.I found out that he reported me for fraud. I am so mad because he tricked me again. Although he withdraw his nullity case in the family court, he sneakily reported me for fraud to the USCIS. How could he have done this? I don't even have my green card or anything. If I wanted it, I would have chosen to stay with him until I get my green card or until my status is stable in the US. I did him a huge favor by cutting his loses.

Now he wants me back because he probably realize that I didn't ask for any penny from him (which he was so insecure because he thought I was just after for his money) even if the court ordered so. He promised again not to cheat and give up his woman and start all over again. Even if I would want to, how could I trust him he's not up for something or that if isn't trying to put me in trouble. If I would go back to him, he could accused me later on that I went back because I want me green card. So at this point, I do not know how else I could save my relationship with him and I don't want to risk going back to him anymore because he's sneaky. At the family court hearing, he emphasized my country citizenship to imply a nefarious side on my part. The judge said, he's a lawyer and that if it was a fraud, as a lawyer, he wouldn't risk signing legal docs just to get me here. There's is something wrong with him and I dont trust him anymore. He was sneaky that he didn't tell me about his affair while I was still back in the Philippines. I asked him this he said he was afraid he would lose me. He probably thought it would change a thing once I get here in the US and after living in his fancy house, I would just suck everything he did. Well, too bad, he's wrong.

[lmc1968 0]

Hi, I came in the US through a K-1 Visa but I am now currently out of status because my husband and I divorced after 29 days of marriage. Well, our divorce is still on process. To make things short, he cheated on me and he lied to me repeatedly and he is full of sh**. I decided to end my almost 4 years relationship with him now even if I don't have my green card than end it later when we already have kids. At this point, I do not know what to do with my status here. He's a lawyer and yes if I didn't live with him, I wouldn't know that the only time he didn't lie was when his mouth was closed. Right after I left him, I told him to file a divorce so I could go back to the Philippines immediately. I asked him what would happen to our interview and papers since we will be divorcing. He was friggin sneaky that he didn't reply to my email instead he sneakily filed nullity based on fraud. I appeared in Court Pro Per versus him ( a lawyer) and his lawyer. I have a lot of evidence that our marriage was not fraud. He lost and the judge was to order $7, 000 a month temporary spousal support because of my status. Because it was gonna cost him a lot, he made a stipulation with me to have his nullity withdrawn and to wave the support and attorneys cost and fees. I appeared pro per in court because I could not afford an attorney, but by family law, I could request for one and have him pay for it. So he requested that I would wave everything, because I feel bad that it was costing him a lot (which was stupid of me), I agreed and told him its fine and that I wouldn't be asking anything anyways if he didn't complicate things. So he withdraw his nullity and just proceed with divorce. Right when I left him, I called USCIS to withdraw my AOS petition since we applied for it after we got married. At that point I didn't have my receipt number because he kept all my immigration papers and refused to give them to me. They instructed how to get it. After my case against him got settled, I followed up with the USCIS to have my AOS petition withdrawn.I found out that he reported me for fraud. I am so mad because he tricked me again. Although he withdraw his nullity case in the family court, he sneakily reported me for fraud to the USCIS. How could he have done this? I don't even have my green card or anything. If I wanted it, I would have chosen to stay with him until I get my green card or until my status is stable in the US. I did him a huge favor by cutting his loses.

Now he wants me back while our divorce is ongoing because he probably realize that I didn't ask for any penny from him (which he was so insecure because he thought I was just after for his money) even if the court ordered so. He promised again not to cheat and give up his woman and start all over again. Even if I would want to work things out and save our marriage, I no longer know if I could still trust him. How could I trust he's not up for something or that if isn't trying to put me in trouble. If I would go back to him, he could accused me later on that I went back because I want me green card. So at this point, I do not know how else I could save my relationship with him and I don't want to risk going back to him anymore because he's sneaky. At the family court hearing, he emphasized my country citizenship to imply a nefarious side on my part. The judge said, he's a lawyer and that if it was a fraud, as a lawyer, he wouldn't risk signing legal docs just to get me here. There's is something wrong with him and I dont trust him anymore. He was sneaky that he didn't tell me about his affair while I was still back in the Philippines. I asked him this he said he was afraid he would lose me. He probably thought it would change a thing once I get here in the US and after living in his fancy house, I would just suck everything he did. Well, too bad, he's wrong.

I want to go back to the Philippines and get a working Visa later on since I am a nurse but with all the things he did against me, I don't know how feasible its gonna be. Plus my I-94 expired for i think less than 10 days before we filed my AOS. So most likely I'll be banned once I go back to the Philippines. My friends told to check what I can do since I entered the US legally before going home.

[Inky 1,111]

This really sucks !! so sorry he did this and a lawyer at that too! wow what a jerk off.

He tricked you 2 times already and now wants you back? I would NOT trust that since he filed TWO counts of fraud against you without any proof and really underhanded in the way he did it too.

If I was you I would just go back home after this and start a new life that is not with a sneeky liar!

[lmc1968 0]

This really sucks !! so sorry he did this and a lawyer at that too! wow what a jerk off.

He tricked you 2 times already and now wants you back? I would NOT trust that since he filed TWO counts of fraud against you without any proof and really underhanded in the way he did it too.

If I was you I would just go back home after this and start a new life that is not with a sneeky liar!

Yeah going home isn't a problem but mostly he kind of messed my status up here in the US already. It's my plan after my divorce is finalized because I would not go back without a final judgement. Oh the other reason why I left him is that he wanted me to sign a post nuptial because he said I left him many times. I told him I wouldn't have left if at least made effort to correct his mistakes. I told him, I don't care as long as the post nuptial would say, if he cheats on me, it would be ineffective. He didn't want that either, so what was I suppose to do? My first option is to look at what I can do while I am still here in the US.

Edited November 3, 2009 by lmc1968

[Inky 1,111]

This really sucks !! so sorry he did this and a lawyer at that too! wow what a jerk off.

He tricked you 2 times already and now wants you back? I would NOT trust that since he filed TWO counts of fraud against you without any proof and really underhanded in the way he did it too.

If I was you I would just go back home after this and start a new life that is not with a sneeky liar!

Yeah going home isn't a problem but mostly he kind of messed my status up here in the US already. It's my plan after my divorce is finalized because I would not go back without a final judgement. Oh the other reason why I left him is that he wanted me to sign a post nuptial because he said I left him many times. I told him I wouldn't have left if at least made effort to correct his mistakes. I told him, I don't care as long as the post nuptial would say, if he cheats on me, it would be ineffective. He didn't want that either, so what was I suppose to do? My first option is to look at what I can do while I am still here in the US.

I have seen alot of people talk about local philippines centers were you can get help from maybe if you could contact one of thos some how they could give you some advice or maybe help you find some kind of legal advice and help on your US status?

[Boiler 48,860]

You are deporatable now, if caught.

After 6 months overstay you have a 3 year ban, 10 years after a year.

[lmc1968 0]

You are deporatable now, if caught.

After 6 months overstay you have a 3 year ban, 10 years after a year.

we got married within 90 days? I already know that but that is if I over-stayed and we didn't get married with 90 days?

[Boiler 48,860]

You are deporatable now, if caught.

After 6 months overstay you have a 3 year ban, 10 years after a year.

we got married within 90 days? I already know that but that is if I over-stayed and we didn't get married with 90 days?

Filing to adjust status keeps you legal, you are otherwise dependent on the expiration date on your I 94

[lmc1968 0]

You are deporatable now, if caught.

After 6 months overstay you have a 3 year ban, 10 years after a year.

we got married within 90 days? I already know that but that is if I over-stayed and we didn't get married with 90 days?

Filing to adjust status keeps you legal, you are otherwise dependent on the expiration date on your I 94

ok let me make it clear, we got married with 90 days but we filed aos after my I-94 expired (i think 5 days after my I-94 expired is when we filed my AOS)

Also would I get a 3-year ban if I go home before 180 days? How long would I be banned at this point (my I-94 expired last june)?

Edited November 3, 2009 by lmc1968

[Scott and Mhay 57]

since your AOS was filed, you are fine. You are not in any trouble. It doesnt matter if your I-94 was expired when you filed the AOS as long as you got married within the 90 days because you could get married on the 90th day and you need time to wait for the marriage certificate. You should get a 2 year green card with conditions. He was the one that cheated and decieved you. You should be able to remove conditions without him since you entered the marriage in good faith. This is my understanding of this. I was previously married to a filipina and went through the fiancee visa path before.

[lmc1968 0]

since your AOS was filed, you are fine. You are not in any trouble. It doesnt matter if your I-94 was expired when you filed the AOS as long as you got married within the 90 days because you could get married on the 90th day and you need time to wait for the marriage certificate. You should get a 2 year green card with conditions. He was the one that cheated and decieved you. You should be able to remove conditions without him since you entered the marriage in good faith. This is my understanding of this. I was previously married to a filipina and went through the fiancee visa path before.

Thanks, he told me he withdrew his sponsorship. My friends or relatives are willing to sponsor while unable to work because of my status. So, not sure if this is possible.

Also, I left before biometrics and interview because I did not want to pursue my green card especially through him. But if I could fix my status since our marriage is bonafide, why not? He wants me back so badly and fix our marriage, but since he messed everything up for reporting me to the USCIS, I don't think its a good idea to go back to him even if I want to because he reported me for fraud and me going back to him will appear that I would just want my green card. At least if I can fix my status then go back to him, it would be different. I'd be stupid if I would go back. So I am confused with my feelings and with my mind is telling me. But I learned, as much as I make things easy for him, he makes things difficult for me.

I think at this point, though my AOS has been filed, my status is currently unlawful even if my presence is? What conditions should be removed? And then what?

[Boiler 48,860]

since your AOS was filed, you are fine. You are not in any trouble. It doesnt matter if your I-94 was expired when you filed the AOS as long as you got married within the 90 days because you could get married on the 90th day and you need time to wait for the marriage certificate. You should get a 2 year green card with conditions. He was the one that cheated and decieved you. You should be able to remove conditions without him since you entered the marriage in good faith. This is my understanding of this. I was previously married to a filipina and went through the fiancee visa path before.

Nope

I suggest you read the post before commenting.

[Zen Den 18]

Hi, I came in the US through a K-1 Visa but I am now currently out of status because my husband and I divorced after 29 days of marriage. Well, our divorce is still on process. To make things short, he cheated on me and he lied to me repeatedly and he is full of sh**. I decided to end my almost 4 years relationship with him now even if I don't have my green card than end it later when we already have kids. At this point, I do not know what to do with my status here. He's a lawyer and yes if I didn't live with him, I wouldn't know that the only time he didn't lie was when his mouth was closed. Right after I left him, I told him to file a divorce so I could go back to the Philippines immediately. I asked him what would happen to our interview and papers since we will be divorcing. He was friggin sneaky that he didn't reply to my email instead he sneakily filed nullity based on fraud. I appeared in Court Pro Per versus him ( a lawyer) and his lawyer. I have a lot of evidence that our marriage was not fraud. He lost and the judge was to order $7, 000 a month temporary spousal support because of my status. Because it was gonna cost him a lot, he made a stipulation with me to have his nullity withdrawn and to wave the support and attorneys cost and fees. I appeared pro per in court because I could not afford an attorney, but by family law, I could request for one and have him pay for it. So he requested that I would wave everything, because I feel bad that it was costing him a lot (which was stupid of me), I agreed and told him its fine and that I wouldn't be asking anything anyways if he didn't complicate things. So he withdraw his nullity and just proceed with divorce. Right when I left him, I called USCIS to withdraw my AOS petition since we applied for it after we got married. At that point I didn't have my receipt number because he kept all my immigration papers and refused to give them to me. They instructed how to get it. After my case against him got settled, I followed up with the USCIS to have my AOS petition withdrawn.I found out that he reported me for fraud. I am so mad because he tricked me again. Although he withdraw his nullity case in the family court, he sneakily reported me for fraud to the USCIS. How could he have done this? I don't even have my green card or anything. If I wanted it, I would have chosen to stay with him until I get my green card or until my status is stable in the US. I did him a huge favor by cutting his loses.

Now he wants me back while our divorce is ongoing because he probably realize that I didn't ask for any penny from him (which he was so insecure because he thought I was just after for his money) even if the court ordered so. He promised again not to cheat and give up his woman and start all over again. Even if I would want to work things out and save our marriage, I no longer know if I could still trust him. How could I trust he's not up for something or that if isn't trying to put me in trouble. If I would go back to him, he could accused me later on that I went back because I want me green card. So at this point, I do not know how else I could save my relationship with him and I don't want to risk going back to him anymore because he's sneaky. At the family court hearing, he emphasized my country citizenship to imply a nefarious side on my part. The judge said, he's a lawyer and that if it was a fraud, as a lawyer, he wouldn't risk signing legal docs just to get me here. There's is something wrong with him and I dont trust him anymore. He was sneaky that he didn't tell me about his affair while I was still back in the Philippines. I asked him this he said he was afraid he would lose me. He probably thought it would change a thing once I get here in the US and after living in his fancy house, I would just suck everything he did. Well, too bad, he's wrong.

I want to go back to the Philippines and get a working Visa later on since I am a nurse but with all the things he did against me, I don't know how feasible its gonna be. Plus my I-94 expired for i think less than 10 days before we filed my AOS. So most likely I'll be banned once I go back to the Philippines. My friends told to check what I can do since I entered the US legally before going home.

if you want to stay here in the US and live a new life, why go back to the phils first when your chances of applying for a working visa later on might have complications?

if your AOS application is still being processed and not yet withdrawn, it woul dbe better to go ahead with it. you are allowed to go to the interview w/out him, for as long as you are able to prove that you married him in good faith.

you're already here, so before going home to phis, why not get your GC

[Eric-Pris 1,610]

since your AOS was filed, you are fine. You are not in any trouble. It doesnt matter if your I-94 was expired when you filed the AOS as long as you got married within the 90 days because you could get married on the 90th day and you need time to wait for the marriage certificate. You should get a 2 year green card with conditions. He was the one that cheated and decieved you. You should be able to remove conditions without him since you entered the marriage in good faith. This is my understanding of this. I was previously married to a filipina and went through the fiancee visa path before.

Do people read the whole posts before replying or just wing it? The quoted post does NOT apply to this situation at all.

To the OP,

It doesn't matter whether or not you got married within the 90 days, that only matters when applying for AOS. But in your case, AOS doesn't seem likely.

If your I-94 expired, you are OUT OF STATUS and are incurring overstay days. The overstay is forgiven once AOS is approved. But in your case, it is doubtful that it will happen since he pulled his sponsorship/support. Unless you somehow get AOS approved, you will be subject to a ban based on overstay. After 180 days out of status, you are banned for 3 years. After 1 year out of status, you are banned for 10 years. If your I-94 expired in June xx, you have till December xx to leave the US.

You seem to be considering going back to him. Forget the immigration aspect. Do you still love him and want to be with him? You need to answer that question first. You are weighing the immigration aspect more than the fact of whether you actually want to be with him which makes you look like a greencard digger.

Edited November 3, 2009 by Eric-Pris

[lmc1968 0]

since your AOS was filed, you are fine. You are not in any trouble. It doesnt matter if your I-94 was expired when you filed the AOS as long as you got married within the 90 days because you could get married on the 90th day and you need time to wait for the marriage certificate. You should get a 2 year green card with conditions. He was the one that cheated and decieved you. You should be able to remove conditions without him since you entered the marriage in good faith. This is my understanding of this. I was previously married to a filipina and went through the fiancee visa path before.

Do people read the whole posts before replying or just wing it? The quoted post does NOT apply to this situation at all.

To the OP,

It doesn't matter whether or not you got married within the 90 days, that only matters when applying for AOS. But in your case, AOS doesn't seem likely.

If your I-94 expired, you are OUT OF STATUS and are incurring overstay days. The overstay is forgiven once AOS is approved. But in your case, it is doubtful that it will happen since he pulled his sponsorship/support. Unless you somehow get AOS approved, you will be subject to a ban based on overstay. After 180 days out of status, you are banned for 3 years. After 1 year out of status, you are banned for 10 years. If your I-94 expired in June xx, you have till December xx to leave the US.

You seem to be considering going back to him. Forget the immigration aspect. Do you still love him and want to be with him? You need to answer that question first. You are weighing the immigration aspect more than the fact of whether you actually want to be with him which makes you look like a greencard digger.

I guess I didn't elaborate the whole story. I already went back to him several times 2 months after I dealt with his craps before we got married and after we got married. Even if I still love him, what use is it if he choose not to do the right thing and keep doing mistake over and over. I certainly shoud be concerned of my status because he reported me for fraud to the USCIS since can't convince the family court about it. So my point is, if I go back again even if I already tried several times, at this time realizing that he probably will never change because he never did, then I'd still divorce him later on. I am saying if I go back later and my status is okay (if I can fix it), then it would be a different story. At this point, I do not trust why he wants me so bad while when I was with him, he did nothing to save the relationship. He is a lawyer, he is very sneaky. He lies and makes story. He's own stupidity costs him a lot of money because he had to hire 2 law firms for represent himself. Yet, he still lost. He's probably pissed at this so not sure if tries to get me back so he could have substantial evidence of his claim for fraud against me because I would go back to him. I don't seem to understand why he would report me if he really wanted to work things out. And now after he reported he's trying to get me back? Something is wrong.

I can't just use my feelings and not think what he's up to because he already screwed me up while I was concerned about him. At least I have to learn from that.