Yardies at Home and a Farrin (part 19)

[jawi876 2]

I think I will encourage A to do it...because I don't like the fact that as a permanent resident, they can still be deported. No one wants to think that something bad might happen..but I don't like thinking that my husband of twenty odd years can be taken away on a technicality.

The good thing is that Jamaica is a country that will recognize dual citizenship. I want to get my Jamaican citizenship this time around. I just never got around to it with my last marriage.

I had a small disagreement with A because his sister posted some pics of them dropping their other sister off at the airport, and I noticed that A didn't have his wedding band on. I didn't agrue or yell at him, but he knew I was upset because he can automatically sense my moods. He told his sister about it because she overheard him talking to me about it. He apologized and told me that he just forgot to put it on that day. Well, his sister sent me a message on FB telling me that she understands my point but not to be mad at him. She said that he is taking me being upset about it very hard...that he can't stop talking about me and he loves me so much. She asked me not to be mad at him because she forgets to put her rings on all the time. Then, she told me that she has my back because she believes in our love 1000%.

I'm upset because A NEVER put his ring on with his ex-wife...and he told me it was because he didn't love her. Am I making too big a deal out of this? He said he will just get in the habit of putting it on before his other jewelry...so he doesn't forget. I'm still upset. On the other hand, I feel like I am sweating the small stuff. The symbolism of the ring is important to me...even though I know it won't stop a man or woman from doing what they want to do. How do you guys feel about the wearing of the wedding band?

[SupportOAFJF 0]

Jawi..i can uderstand ur point...BUT for me it's not a big deal..a ring is just a ring is just a ring it's for society i think..kashi wears his most of the time same me...I know for me i forget..also when i get hot my fingers swell and the ring starts to feel contricting..so there goes it..as soon as i get i nthe house or comfy somewhere they are off...

[Islandwoman 0]

Hi everyone.

I am very sad because my husband found out this morning that his mother passed away. He is on a plane right now on his way back to Jamaica. The saddest part about it is that he had a ticket to go down for a week on monday. He was just five days short of seeing his mother one last time.

She had been sick with headaches and dizzy spells, but nobody thought she was on her deathbed. She was only 51 years old. I still don't know what she died from.

So, my question is...what should I do? I want to go down and be there for him, but the money just isn't there. I don't have any experience with Jamaican funerals or customs.

I'm sorry for your loss Acrow.

[phillyfashionista 8]

I am cracking up at the people of walmart... boy i could add some pic to that site lol ...

:rofl: Girl I know you can and you know I want to see LOL have to go there today

Morning all!

My condolences, Acrow -

So, yesterday started off good - ended up being DDay in my office - One attorney and the dept. director gone, at least one more to come.

Sorry Sus this recession is hitting hard!

[Islandwoman 0]

Bunz I'm the only one you didn't add as a friend on FB...hhhhmmm.

I haven't seen Bunz on FB......

Morning all!

My condolences, Acrow -

So, yesterday started off good - ended up being DDay in my office - One attorney and the dept. director gone, at least one more to come.

Eeeekkkk....Sus, are you safe?

[My4rmylife 0]

I say badger them to get citizenship..God forbid they are in the wrong place at the wrong time and end up i a bad situation...here comes the possibility of deportation..and what are u left with at that point? just think about it guys...

i never thought about that .... i will certainly discuss it more..

well ladies off to work i go

[JAPrincess 27]

Wow Jawi, I would feel a way too...

Does he take it off to sleep?

I feel the wedding band should stay on. I don't even take this "promise" ring off

And I tell you seeing his ring on his finger in all those pictures he just sent me sure made me feel good!

Maybe A will recognize now that you said something and not take it off anymore

[jawi876 2]

Jawi..i can uderstand ur point...BUT for me it's not a big deal..a ring is just a ring is just a ring it's for society i think..kashi wears his most of the time same me...I know for me i forget..also when i get hot my fingers swell and the ring starts to feel contricting..so there goes it..as soon as i get i nthe house or comfy somewhere they are off...

I feel you...and my finger too...but I only take them off at home. I got my rings bigger for that very reason...so I wouldn't be tempted to take them off all the time. He has been wearing the ring consistently here at home...first thing he grabs in the morning (besides his smokes)...so why forget it now? I wouldn't have gotten as upset about it if he didn't have all his other jewelry on in the picture. He keeps everything together...so I still don't understand how he forgot to put that ring on.

[Islandwoman 0]

I say badger them to get citizenship..God forbid they are in the wrong place at the wrong time and end up i a bad situation...here comes the possibility of deportation..and what are u left with at that point? just think about it guys...

That was always my thought as well Kimmy. I could never understand why they never wanted that extra layer of protection.

[JAPrincess 27]

Mi gawn to get ready for work now. Have a good day yardies!

[Islandwoman 0]

Bunz you are so right it all happens in God's time and all we can do is have faith! I am prying for a quick interview date for you girl. I would love to see you during the holiday but more than anything I want you to be here in the states wid yuh man! Canal Street here we come

Sus and I will meet you there - we were just shopping Canal street on Labor day weekend!

[finesse 3]

mawnin peeps!! 1 more day til Friday!! woohoo!

[jawi876 2]

Wow Jawi, I would feel a way too...

Does he take it off to sleep?

I feel the wedding band should stay on. I don't even take this "promise" ring off

And I tell you seeing his ring on his finger in all those pictures he just sent me sure made me feel good!

Maybe A will recognize now that you said something and not take it off anymore

Yes he takes it off to sleep...and do chores around the house. Honestly, we still haven't gotten it re-sized and it is too big. He almost lost it down the garbage disposal at home...so he started taking it off. Knowing how he felt about wearing one with his ex-wife made me proud when I watched him put it back on his finger with so much reverence...but it also hurt to see it missing when he was away from me.

[IrieCat 2]

Jawi, I would feel upset as well. I never take mine off, unless my finger gets all swollen for some reason and then I feel naked.

Louis takes his off for work sometimes. He got it caught on something once and hurt his finger. But otherwise it is on even in sleep.

However, don't dwell on it. You know he loves you. Don't let that sit on your mind. Its just a ring, he can't just leave his heart sitting on the nightstand.... he carries your love everywhere.

[Chiney*Eyes 0]

Jawi..i can uderstand ur point...BUT for me it's not a big deal..a ring is just a ring is just a ring it's for society i think..kashi wears his most of the time same me...I know for me i forget..also when i get hot my fingers swell and the ring starts to feel contricting..so there goes it..as soon as i get i nthe house or comfy somewhere they are off...

I feel you...and my finger too...but I only take them off at home. I got my rings bigger for that very reason...so I wouldn't be tempted to take them off all the time. He has been wearing the ring consistently here at home...first thing he grabs in the morning (besides his smokes)...so why forget it now? I wouldn't have gotten as upset about it if he didn't have all his other jewelry on in the picture. He keeps everything together...so I still don't understand how he forgot to put that ring on.

ooo i see what ur saying now..BUT don't deal wid di ting too badly..tek time..

I say badger them to get citizenship..God forbid they are in the wrong place at the wrong time and end up i a bad situation...here comes the possibility of deportation..and what are u left with at that point? just think about it guys...

That was always my thought as well Kimmy. I could never understand why they never wanted that extra layer of protection.

exactly...