just something to think about

[aya*abouelnasr 0]

http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/32891829/ns/us_news-life/

I just read this and can't help thinking how awful it would be to be in this situation, tho i am sure it has happened here before, or worse.

[Kenza 1]

so sad... (F) It kinds of disgusts me in a way how this soldier is risking his life for our country and his own son can't live in the US with his mom in remembrance of his brave dad.

[meowmeowmeow 0]

[doodlebugg 10]

If the military recognizes the marriage shouldn't it be law that all states recognize it, as long as one of the parties is in the miltary? I bet they could win on appeal or something. What I don't get though is why did they actually want to conceive a child before he got deployed? I mean they did that on purpose according to the article. That confuses me. Being pregnant is a time when you really need support from your husband.

[Muh and me 18]

This is so sad! I feel sorry for the wife and child.

[CnT4ever 1]

If for nothing else, they should just let the baby stay, for the sake of the marine. They ask people to support the troops and the war, but they themselves (government) don't support that marine's memory

[MrsAmera 41]

Money - more combat pay if you have another dependent/dependent on the way?

If the military recognizes the marriage shouldn't it be law that all states recognize it, as long as one of the parties is in the miltary? I bet they could win on appeal or something. What I don't get though is why did they actually want to conceive a child before he got deployed? I mean they did that on purpose according to the article. That confuses me. Being pregnant is a time when you really need support from your husband.

[Nothing1234 2]

If for nothing else, they should just let the baby stay, for the sake of the marine. They ask people to support the troops and the war, but they themselves (government) don't support that marine's memory

As a mother...over my dead body would my baby stay away from me....just saying I'm sure that is why they are fighting for both of them. They were together 13 months in Japan...that's longer than most of the couples on this board are together w/ their spouses before they get visas. Our goverment is azz backwards at times...

[S and S 12]

I feel really bad for this guys wife and child. Some people have no idea how much harder marriage can be when you have the military keeping you separated on top of immigration issues.

As for money being the motive, you only get extra money for one dependent, not more. If the military recognized the marriage, then he was getting separation pay for his wife. He would get no extra money for any children. There was a time many years ago you got more pay for each dependent but they stopped that awhile ago after they did a bunch of military pay increases to get military off of welfare.

[M_n_M 1]

omg, the part of the article where it says that the man called his mom and said, "I'm in love" was soooooooooo adorable and it made the whole thing so much sadder May God rest his soul in peace and may she hopefully be granted residency!