Teenager Issues

[one...two...tree 2,762]

I take it a lot of people here didn't have sex when they were in High School? That's a lot of pent up frustration.

You're missing the point. I had plenty of high school sex - just not at my parents' home (not when they were in, anyway ) To me, it's a simple respect issue.

No offense, but that's silly...applying what it was like for you as a teenager to your stepchild.

Respect her privacy. If she has her own room and she is bringing over a boy who you and your wife don't have any issues with, let her have her privacy. She'll be 18 before you know it.

[Pinocchio Liberal 268]

Walk in on them and say, could you please keep it down. Walk out and be sure to leave the door open. I would definately be having a chat with the boy.

[AlHayatZween 2]

Walk in on them and say, could you please keep it down. Walk out and be sure to leave the door open. I would definately be having a chat with the boy.

I take it a lot of people here didn't have sex when they were in High School? That's a lot of pent up frustration.

You're missing the point. I had plenty of high school sex - just not at my parents' home (not when they were in, anyway ) To me, it's a simple respect issue.

No offense, but that's silly...applying what it was like for you as a teenager to your stepchild.

Respect her privacy. If she has her own room and she is bringing over a boy who you and your wife don't have any issues with, let her have her privacy. She'll be 18 before you know it.

i don't know... maybe my parents were ol skool... but i didn't have any rights to anything while living under their roof or while being financially dependent on them.

[SP&JM 0]

If their mother allows it, and since she basically gave the "ok" with the birth control, (which is good - being proactive about it), then you should just let it go.

Of course, I would have a sitdown talk with them, and the boyfriend, express your feelings about it, and go from there.

What is the age of consent where you live? That could open a can of worms...

I agree wholeheartedly re the birth control. By accepting the fact that her teenage daughter will have sex, the mother has been, as you say, proactive and discussed the issue at length with her daughter. I'm all for that.

I hear what you say about the age of consent, but quite frankly, it's a non-issue in my book. She's 17, he's 18, and it's fine to be having sex at that age in my book, irrespective of the law.

Ah - but look at all the issues people are having being labelled a "sex offender" for doing exactly that.

But I do agree with you, they should have more respect and not actually do it in the house with "thin" walls - I would be personally mortified if my parents were listening in on my love making...

Not that there is anything wrong with that...

Amen to that. And I'm an adult.

Do they know you can hear them? Sometimes people are oblivious. If you mention it they might be so embarassed that they stop...or at least wait until you're not at home.

Free thinking aside, I can't believe that they wouldn't be mortified if it were brought to their attention.

[Pinocchio Liberal 268]

Walk in on them and say, could you please keep it down. Walk out and be sure to leave the door open. I would definately be having a chat with the boy.

I take it a lot of people here didn't have sex when they were in High School? That's a lot of pent up frustration.

You're missing the point. I had plenty of high school sex - just not at my parents' home (not when they were in, anyway ) To me, it's a simple respect issue.

No offense, but that's silly...applying what it was like for you as a teenager to your stepchild.

Respect her privacy. If she has her own room and she is bringing over a boy who you and your wife don't have any issues with, let her have her privacy. She'll be 18 before you know it.

i don't know... maybe my parents were ol skool... but i didn't have any rights to anything while living under their roof or while being financially dependent on them.

It shows nothing but utter disrespect!

[Big Papa Zone 93]

No offense, but that's silly...applying what it was like for you as a teenager to your stepchild.

Why is it "silly?" Could you possibly quantify that remark?

Respect her privacy. If she has her own room and she is bringing over a boy who you and your wife don't have any issues with, let her have her privacy.

I do respect her privacy - I just don't want to listen to her wailing like a banshee, that's all!!!

She'll be 18 before you know it.

And what difference will that make? Are her and th b/f going to magically disappear in a puff of smoke or something?

And are you Fancypants, btw?

[one...two...tree 2,762]

i don't know... maybe my parents were ol skool... but i didn't have any rights to anything while living under their roof or while being financially dependent on them.

..and back when your parents were teenagers, they weren't allowed to date without a chaparone. Times a changing.

Edited April 22, 2009 by Col. 'Bat' Guano

[sara..... 371]

what ever i say on this topic will be because of my own religious and moral attitudes, but i can say for a fact if i ever am lucky enough to have a girl child, God will have to help her if she ever tried this in my home

sara

[AlHayatZween 2]

i don't know... maybe my parents were ol skool... but i didn't have any rights to anything while living under their roof or while being financially dependent on them.

..and back when your parents were teenagers, they weren't allowed to date without a chaparone. Times a changing.

back when my parents were teenagers, dating was more like: This is who we are arranging for you to marry...

[one...two...tree 2,762]

i don't know... maybe my parents were ol skool... but i didn't have any rights to anything while living under their roof or while being financially dependent on them.

..and back when your parents were teenagers, they weren't allowed to date without a chaparone. Times a changing.

back when my parents were teenagers, dating was more like: This is who we are arranging for you to marry...

Progress is a good thing.

[AlHayatZween 2]

Progress is a good thing.

It's true... but i still wouldn't feel comfortable with my kid shagging in my house. But i think i may have revealed that i am even more a prude than Damian.

[Empress of Groovy 373]

She'll be 18 before you know it.

And what difference will that make? Are her and th b/f going to magically disappear in a puff of smoke or something?

It wasn't a ridiculous comment--I get the impression from your posts that at least part of the reason you find the situation distasteful is the 17-year-old's age (i.e., not an adult). I imagine you wouldn't feel quite the same way if she were, say, 19 or 20. That is, it seems that it's not just the noise that bothers you, is that right?

I think this needs to be brought to the attention of the 17-year-old. If she's old enough to be having sex, she's old enough to be asked to respect other people in the house and keep it down. As someone else mentioned, maybe they're not aware that you can hear them doing the deed and would be embarrassed to discover this. I wouldn't tiptoe around the issue, because the lovebirds aren't exactly being subtle about what they're up to.

Given that she's nearly an adult, it's less of a respect issue (in the traditional "respect the parents" sense) and more of a consideration issue--like, being considerate of others in the house who presumably don't want to hear them f^cking.

Maybe you could give them a white noise machine as part of your presentation:

[one...two...tree 2,762]

She'll be 18 before you know it.

And what difference will that make? Are her and th b/f going to magically disappear in a puff of smoke or something?

It wasn't a ridiculous comment--I get the impression from your posts that at least part of the reason you find the situation distasteful is the 17-year-old's age (i.e., not an adult). I imagine you wouldn't feel quite the same way if she were, say, 19 or 20. That is, it seems that it's not just the noise that bothers you, is that right?

I think this needs to be brought to the attention of the 17-year-old. If she's old enough to be having sex, she's old enough to be asked to respect other people in the house and keep it down. As someone else mentioned, maybe they're not aware that you can hear them doing the deed and would be embarrassed to discover this. I wouldn't tiptoe around the issue, because the lovebirds aren't exactly being subtle about what they're up to.

Given that she's nearly an adult, it's less of a respect issue (in the traditional "respect the parents" sense) and more of a consideration issue--like, being considerate of others in the house who presumably don't want to hear them f^cking.

Maybe you could give them a white noise machine as part of your presentation:

Well said, sister big hair.

[Big Papa Zone 93]

It wasn't a ridiculous comment--I get the impression from your posts that at least part of the reason you find the situation distasteful is the 17-year-old's age (i.e., not an adult). I imagine you wouldn't feel quite the same way if she were, say, 19 or 20. That is, it seems that it's not just the noise that bothers you, is that right?

Nope, not right. If you read my earlier posts, you'll see that I have no issue with her having sex at 17 - I just don't want her doing it under my roof. The same would apply at 18, 19, 20. Or 40, for that matter. When me and 'er indoors go and stay over at a friend's house, we don't ** in their guest room bed. Talk about off.

[one...two...tree 2,762]

It wasn't a ridiculous comment--I get the impression from your posts that at least part of the reason you find the situation distasteful is the 17-year-old's age (i.e., not an adult). I imagine you wouldn't feel quite the same way if she were, say, 19 or 20. That is, it seems that it's not just the noise that bothers you, is that right?

Nope, not right. If you read my earlier posts, you'll see that I have no issue with her having sex at 17 - I just don't want her doing it under my roof. The same would apply at 18, 19, 20. Or 40, for that matter. When me and 'er indoors go and stay over at a friend's house, we don't ** in their guest room bed. Talk about off.

Wow. I find that strange.