Should he need pick me or be smart and save our money..

[cheep-cheep 0]

Our interview is scheduled for April 20, but mu hubby has only visited once. He stayed from Jun 18 2008 to July 27 2008 and we were married during that time. Since then he hasn't visited, but we have kept records of our Yahoo Messenger conversations and we've spent time together online every day. We've also exchanged cards and gifts through mail.

Do we have reason to fear being denied since he hasn't visited, even though we have kept in regular contact with each other?

Also his job and his school is at risk if he go here to pick me and jin me in the interview. He is working as after school tutor ans studying at the same time. He's graduating on june so his prof's are strict. If he pick me due to that reason his willing. But as a wife i feel guilty taking him away of his job and school and puting his career at risk.

If he lose job then how can he support me..

Please help me and give me advice..

[belovedbyme 0]

If he can't make it my dear. Don't push him to come here or else he might lose his job. Prepare all necessary documents of your relationship for your interview. Anyway you spent together for almost 2 months. Just explain everything to the CO that he wants to come over but he is not allowed by his superior due to work and schooling.

Good luck!

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Thank you ate!

Are you sure is that ok?

Will they accept that reason?

[Reba 2]

It is not a requirement that the US citizen spouse attends the interview, some consulates won't even allow them in!

I would be more concerned with gathering ample evidence that your relationship is genuine, as you have only met once, it may raise some questions.

[cheep-cheep 0]

Really? about evidence, i have no fear i have every evidence they need for the interview. just wanna make sure that they will not use that reason of not visiting often for my denial.

Ym records, text records, pictures from wedding and some places that we went, family gathering pictures, letters, cards, gifts, reciept of our wedding ring, reciept of the restaurant where our wedding took place, remitances, affidavit of support and etc isnt that a strong evidence?

[ailyn 0]

It is not a requirement that the US citizen spouse attends the interview, some consulates won't even allow them in!

I would be more concerned with gathering ample evidence that your relationship is genuine, as you have only met once, it may raise some questions.

It may raise questions being that you got married right away in the first time you've seen each other. Just be prepare to answer all possible questions and dont show any nervousness or anything. Me and mt husband saw each other 3 times before marrying and we've known each other for 2 yrs before we decided to meet for the first time, yet they still ask me a questions like why did he wait for 2 years to visit u and wait 3 years to get married?? lol, i guess we cant really say if it depends on how short or long the engagement is..they still will ask questions about it. Good thing about my interview tho, the IO praised me and my husband for being patient and taking time to really know each other..like he told me, we had a very good start and then he said im approved, lol.

I wish u good luck and everything is gonna go well. Keep the faith!

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Thank you for all your advice you're really helping me to calm down and not panic,

To be honest im not at peace this past few days because im thinking of that too much..

[Bobby+Umit 161]

Really? about evidence, i have no fear i have every evidence they need for the interview. just wanna make sure that they will not use that reason of not visiting often for my denial.

Ym records, text records, pictures from wedding and some places that we went, family gathering pictures, letters, cards, gifts, reciept of our wedding ring, reciept of the restaurant where our wedding took place, remitances, affidavit of support and etc isnt that a strong evidence?

All that looks good to bring to the interview. You may also want to show evidence on the "length" of your relationship, your not very clear in you OP. (did you two meet the first visit then, then get married?)

How is his finances? no co-sponsors? How far ahead is he from the poverty level? That is the only thing they may trigger on (lack of meeting after marriage) -

[cheep-cheep 0]

My father in law who is working in the governemnt co-sponsor me. He's the only child but he's working as after school tutor and been working for 8 years as a night shift manager at a super market. He's is also studying but he's is graduating in june and final is coming up thats why he cant leave school and work is strict.

We've known each other for 6 months before he decided to meet me in person. Than after 1 month we decided to get marry. We're now 1 year and 3 months his last visit was july 27.

Edited March 22, 2009 by Reaubean

[cheep-cheep 0]

Also my father in law stated in his sponsorship that he will help us for 3 years and his salary is really big he has many assets and my husband is in his will and some of his asstes.

Though even without my father-in-law my husband can still support me because except for teaching he is also doing a lot of part time jobs.

I hope thats reasonable...

[WROCLAW 0]

good luck.

[Old Dominion 26]

Good luck! Just be prepared to answer questions about your husband's personal life, because they will want to see that you know him very well even though you got married almost as soon as you met in person. That is the unusual part, being married so quickly. It is the season now of spring breaks for university classes, and they might wonder why he didn't come to see you now, when there are no classes -- or last Christmas, perhaps.

Regarding the sponsorship, your father-in-law's obligation will end when the two of you are married and you apply for the green card (AOS). Whoever sponsors you for the green card is making a ten-year commitment. By then, your husband may have a fulltime job and he can be the sponsor.

[Carlos and Jocel 2]

Our interview is scheduled for April 20, but mu hubby has only visited once. He stayed from Jun 18 2008 to July 27 2008 and we were married during that time. Since then he hasn't visited, but we have kept records of our Yahoo Messenger conversations and we've spent time together online every day. We've also exchanged cards and gifts through mail.

Do we have reason to fear being denied since he hasn't visited, even though we have kept in regular contact with each other?

Also his job and his school is at risk if he go here to pick me and jin me in the interview. He is working as after school tutor ans studying at the same time. He's graduating on june so his prof's are strict. If he pick me due to that reason his willing. But as a wife i feel guilty taking him away of his job and school and puting his career at risk.

If he lose job then how can he support me..

Please help me and give me advice..

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Don't worry to much of him not visiting you as much. SAVE your money and keep your records. Also take a picture of him in front of his schhol and the most current newspaper. I haven't vsiited my wife since we got married last MAY 2008, so I know where you at. Economy is bad enough, he doesn't need for him to visit you rather concenrates on his school and his job and sooon you will be together. SALAMAT !!! I am in the miliotary and being an INSTRUCTOR I can't take 1 month of leave even if I want to...they will only let me go for 2 weeks but I decided not to because of the expences, plane ticket, hotels, food, transportation. Instead I save my money and use that money I will use for my vacation for my wife's rent, plane ticket to manila from Cebu, Cebu to Texas and souvenirs expences!

[I Miss Her 0]

Our interview is scheduled for April 20, but mu hubby has only visited once. He stayed from Jun 18 2008 to July 27 2008 and we were married during that time. Since then he hasn't visited, but we have kept records of our Yahoo Messenger conversations and we've spent time together online every day. We've also exchanged cards and gifts through mail.

Do we have reason to fear being denied since he hasn't visited, even though we have kept in regular contact with each other?

Also his job and his school is at risk if he go here to pick me and jin me in the interview. He is working as after school tutor ans studying at the same time. He's graduating on june so his prof's are strict. If he pick me due to that reason his willing. But as a wife i feel guilty taking him away of his job and school and puting his career at risk.

If he lose job then how can he support me..

Please help me and give me advice..

Do not worry about days you spent together, I came across so few people on VJ who spent years together and/ or having child together but still got “AP”.

[shawns40 0]

You should'nt have any reason to worry, I met my filipino wife in a a third country, were we spent 4 months together. I have never traveled or visited the PI. We applied for our K1 in Jun 08 and she arrived here in Dec 08,