My russian nevesta thinks sometimes its all a fairy tale then frustrations

[almaty 19]

####### is wrong with chopf##ks,..don't they get enough warm fuzzies ( not you brother fuzzy) in their life

[iceyspots 0]

dude... take the risk it's so much more fun and exotic that way

[Chuckles 0]

Well this is the story. I am 23, she is 21 right now. I AM coming to her first to her on her birthday in july.

When we talked the first month, it was exciting, full of information. Then second month on the phone, emotions started with information, she the 3rd month she really opened and is sometimes is all open and tells me how she is scared she might stop loving me when i come to her.. stuff like its a fairy tale... untill i see i won't beieve most of it.. a lot of this frustrates me because I know its real and im meeting her, i got the tickets and my tourist visa..and etc. then she tells me 20 mins later..oh im sorry.. i didn't mean it.. plus she only says stuff like "I love you" only when she feels it, would never say because she knows it. Just a lot of frustrations, I heard that the best thing to do before meeting her, is just ignore those things from her and just know that things will be different when she sees, no more skaska.

I can tell you right now at this moment since my date of arrival is nearing, she is getting more of a reality point of view and thats why she is more scared...what could happen..

Any of you guys with this experiencce? what are your opinions, suggestions?

Well, meeting like you have over such a long distance is not the 'societal norm' and that scares people. She never expected something like this could happen, and she has her doubts. Perfectly normal. I would personally be leary if she wasn't having her doubts. I mean... you haven't met in person and she doesn't really know you.

Anyway, I met someone in Russia without really expecting to, with all the reservations you and your friend are having. Definitly go see her! See if there is good chemistry between you. If not, you will have had a very interesting vacation in Russia. Just be prepared for it.

Two things though, you can't fall in love with a picture and you can't judge chemistry/compatibility over the phone or internet or whatever.

[Sling 0]

Well this is the story. I am 23, she is 21 right now. I AM coming to her first to her on her birthday in july.

When we talked the first month, it was exciting, full of information. Then second month on the phone, emotions started with information, she the 3rd month she really opened and is sometimes is all open and tells me how she is scared she might stop loving me when i come to her.. stuff like its a fairy tale... untill i see i won't beieve most of it.. a lot of this frustrates me because I know its real and im meeting her, i got the tickets and my tourist visa..and etc. then she tells me 20 mins later..oh im sorry.. i didn't mean it.. plus she only says stuff like "I love you" only when she feels it, would never say because she knows it. Just a lot of frustrations, I heard that the best thing to do before meeting her, is just ignore those things from her and just know that things will be different when she sees, no more skaska.

I can tell you right now at this moment since my date of arrival is nearing, she is getting more of a reality point of view and thats why she is more scared...what could happen..

Any of you guys with this experiencce? what are your opinions, suggestions?

Well, meeting like you have over such a long distance is not the 'societal norm' and that scares people. She never expected something like this could happen, and she has her doubts. Perfectly normal. I would personally be leary if she wasn't having her doubts. I mean... you haven't met in person and she doesn't really know you.

Anyway, I met someone in Russia without really expecting to, with all the reservations you and your friend are having. Definitly go see her! See if there is good chemistry between you. If not, you will have had a very interesting vacation in Russia. Just be prepared for it.

Two things though, you can't fall in love with a picture and you can't judge chemistry/compatibility over the phone or internet or whatever.

i can tell u when i saw a video of her, its not what i expected ..however after watching the videos many times..i realized thats really her..same reality with when i see her..im not picky..all i need is same feelings back and i love that person..

[workin4somethin 0]

Well this is the story. I am 23, she is 21 right now. I AM coming to her first to her on her birthday in july.

When we talked the first month, it was exciting, full of information. Then second month on the phone, emotions started with information, she the 3rd month she really opened and is sometimes is all open and tells me how she is scared she might stop loving me when i come to her.. stuff like its a fairy tale... untill i see i won't beieve most of it.. a lot of this frustrates me because I know its real and im meeting her, i got the tickets and my tourist visa..and etc. then she tells me 20 mins later..oh im sorry.. i didn't mean it.. plus she only says stuff like "I love you" only when she feels it, would never say because she knows it. Just a lot of frustrations, I heard that the best thing to do before meeting her, is just ignore those things from her and just know that things will be different when she sees, no more skaska.

I can tell you right now at this moment since my date of arrival is nearing, she is getting more of a reality point of view and thats why she is more scared...what could happen..

Any of you guys with this experience? what are your opinions, suggestions?

Sling,

Since you asked, I think you should go over there and expect all things to be okay. Be yourself, and try to have a good time. You will probably discover the answers to your questions and concerns. My advice is: Go with your gut feelings. If you feel that the relationship is right, go with it. If you feel that she is not the person you believed she was, then accept it. It's possible that you're some years away from a real committed relationship if this one doesn't work out. In any event, you should experience new and interesting things while you're there. And I hope you discover the woman of your dreams.

[Marc and Olga 0]

Sling, I agree 100% with Workin! Relax, go, have a good time and MOST IMPORTANT... BE YOURSELF!

Olga and I had a small problem in translation (before my trip) and the reply I received from that small error, which was my fault 100%, I said nights and SHOULD have said evenings. At that point I knew Olga was the one for me as it tore my heart to think of life without the person I grew to love through our letters.

That was all before my trip, my trip to visit Olga only solidified my feelings which I will share now, but first I worry when I hear visiting my girl and tourist visa! You WILL understand!

I went to Russia on a tourist visa but at immigration control, when question by the officer I was told "wait here" (no one else was waiting there!) and the officer left for a few minutes, my nerves went haywire! When the immigration officer return she informed me that I SHOULD have gotten a GUEST visa to visit Olga! I heard those words and they sounded like too bad, so sad, bye bye! It wasn't!

Now let me tell a bit about my trip TO Russia as I love to share it:

After a 2 hour flight to LA, 7 hour layover IN LA (UGH!) a 14 hour flight to Seoul, 3 hour layover in S. Korea (WHY OH WHY could I not have the 7 hour layover HERE!?), a 3 hour flight to Vladivostok then the mess of Passport control, Immigration control (see above), and customs (the best part of my arrival), this was where I first saw my angel peering through the door and that was what I thought from the first sight of Olga in person...My Angel.

I did not jump on that too seriously though as I did have one heck of a trip and was quite tired. Though the next day, when Olga arrived at my hotel room and I opened the door to see My Angel standing there looking all angelic, I knew without even the slightest doubt!

Marc

Edited June 30, 2006 by Marc and Olga

[GaryC 7]

Well this is the story. I am 23, she is 21 right now. I AM coming to her first to her on her birthday in july.

When we talked the first month, it was exciting, full of information. Then second month on the phone, emotions started with information, she the 3rd month she really opened and is sometimes is all open and tells me how she is scared she might stop loving me when i come to her.. stuff like its a fairy tale... untill i see i won't beieve most of it.. a lot of this frustrates me because I know its real and im meeting her, i got the tickets and my tourist visa..and etc. then she tells me 20 mins later..oh im sorry.. i didn't mean it.. plus she only says stuff like "I love you" only when she feels it, would never say because she knows it. Just a lot of frustrations, I heard that the best thing to do before meeting her, is just ignore those things from her and just know that things will be different when she sees, no more skaska.

I can tell you right now at this moment since my date of arrival is nearing, she is getting more of a reality point of view and thats why she is more scared...what could happen..

Any of you guys with this experiencce? what are your opinions, suggestions?

Well, I can relate my first meeting with Luz. We met on Yahoo Personals Jan 2004. We chatted for a few months, talked on the phone and such. We got very close quickly. I felt something special right away. I went to see her March of 2004. When I got off the airplane I was SO nervous!!! I wandered out of the airport and started looking for her. There was a mob of hundreds of people there and I couldn't find her. I stopped to ask an attendant if there were other places that she might be and he just pointed his finger down. I looked down to find her looking up at me with that beautiful face of hers and she said "here I am baby!". I melted on the spot. I knew right there that I had found the one God always intended me to be with!!!! Since then our love has grown beond anything I ever knew existed. The love we feel for each other goes all the way down to our very souls!

All I can say to you is: when it's right, it's right! You will know it when you feel it!!