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Thanks to the Vermont Center. :crying: Because of their lack of transparency, speed of operations, and general typical governmental output, my son's fiance broke up with him today. She is living and working in London, is a Romanian national, and just returned to London after 10 days at home with her family.

She is depressed, lonely, and so forth. They haven't seen each other since July. I am wondering if she is having second thoughts about coming here, but for whatever reason, it looks like it is over. My son wants to quit his job and go over there to be with her, but I know that is not a good option. I don't know if he can get a leave of absence.

Also have a question - if she goes back to Romania, and does change her mind, will that make it harder to get a visa, or should it not have any bearing on it?

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NOA1 February 29, 2008

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Thanks to the Vermont Center. :crying: Because of their lack of transparency, speed of operations, and general typical governmental output, my son's fiance broke up with him today. She is living and working in London, is a Romanian national, and just returned to London after 10 days at home with her family.

She is depressed, lonely, and so forth. They haven't seen each other since July. I am wondering if she is having second thoughts about coming here, but for whatever reason, it looks like it is over. My son wants to quit his job and go over there to be with her, but I know that is not a good option. I don't know if he can get a leave of absence.

Also have a question - if she goes back to Romania, and does change her mind, will that make it harder to get a visa, or should it not have any bearing on it?

That is to bad. I know that being away from your fiance can be hard - in this case, she has the double problem of being away from her family also.

IMO, about your question, I don't think it would make it harder to get a visa later. Is your son in the process of ending the petition? Perhaps if he goes to visit her in London, she will change her mind?


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Filed: K-1 Visa Country: Romania
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That is to bad. I know that being away from your fiance can be hard - in this case, she has the double problem of being away from her family also.

IMO, about your question, I don't think it would make it harder to get a visa later. Is your son in the process of ending the petition? Perhaps if he goes to visit her in London, she will change her mind?

He doesn't know yet. I think he is maybe going to see if he can get leave from work and go over there.

I wish that the governmental "workers" would realize that these are real people waiting and waiting, in some cases way too long, and not just receipt numbers...


NOA1 February 29, 2008

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RFE received: 06/19/2008

touch 06/24/2008

touch 11/18/2008

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Thanks to the Vermont Center. :crying: Because of their lack of transparency, speed of operations, and general typical governmental output, my son's fiance broke up with him today. She is living and working in London, is a Romanian national, and just returned to London after 10 days at home with her family.

She is depressed, lonely, and so forth. They haven't seen each other since July. I am wondering if she is having second thoughts about coming here, but for whatever reason, it looks like it is over. My son wants to quit his job and go over there to be with her, but I know that is not a good option. I don't know if he can get a leave of absence.

Also have a question - if she goes back to Romania, and does change her mind, will that make it harder to get a visa, or should it not have any bearing on it?

i completely understand the couple's frustrations. chats and video can only do so much. in my situation, my foreign fiance can't get the internet sometimes for days. half the time skype cuts off if we use video. i haven't seen him since august and i live alone, so depression sets in easily. i'm sorry they didn't make it. sometimes i'm not sure if i can, but i just try to keep positive, think that my approval could be right around the corner, and remember why i did this in the first place. hopefully your son can salvage this, or learn alot from it.

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i completely understand the couple's frustrations. chats and video can only do so much. in my situation, my foreign fiance can't get the internet sometimes for days. half the time skype cuts off if we use video. i haven't seen him since august and i live alone, so depression sets in easily. i'm sorry they didn't make it. sometimes i'm not sure if i can, but i just try to keep positive, think that my approval could be right around the corner, and remember why i did this in the first place. hopefully your son can salvage this, or learn alot from it.

Thanks! I feel so bad for them = and for all that are waiting so long. Good luck to you - I admire all the couples who are going through this and make it work!

Nancy


NOA1 February 29, 2008

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RFE received: 06/19/2008

touch 06/24/2008

touch 11/18/2008

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It is not that government workers are SLOW, or do this on purpose....they have THOUSANDS of petitions to deal with. The fact that they are understaffed doesnt help. They did not make any of us choose someone who is not in the USA to marry, we did that.

Is the timeline you set for your son correct? bc i dont see it taking them THAT long without sending some kind of information about it. Has your son called USCIS? Has your son gotten intouch with his congressman or senator?? These are things that he can be working on.

That is to bad. I know that being away from your fiance can be hard - in this case, she has the double problem of being away from her family also.

IMO, about your question, I don't think it would make it harder to get a visa later. Is your son in the process of ending the petition? Perhaps if he goes to visit her in London, she will change her mind?

He doesn't know yet. I think he is maybe going to see if he can get leave from work and go over there.

I wish that the governmental "workers" would realize that these are real people waiting and waiting, in some cases way too long, and not just receipt numbers...

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Hey,

I am sorry for what happened. I think your son should go and see her if she still loves him. Just leave the petition alone right now and only stop it once it is sure that the two won't get back together.

This situation is hard on every couple. We have a similar timeline but are lucky enough that we can afford (in terms of time and money) seeing each other. We would go crazy without that as well as we are just not used to being away from so long from each other. I know if I would break up he would stand in front of my door the next days. So, I just hope she still loves your son (which I assume if they wanted to get married) and it's the frustration messing with her mind and doubting it all. Again, I think seeing each other for a bit might help tremendously.

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Hey,

I am sorry for what happened. I think your son should go and see her if she still loves him. Just leave the petition alone right now and only stop it once it is sure that the two won't get back together.

This situation is hard on every couple. We have a similar timeline but are lucky enough that we can afford (in terms of time and money) seeing each other. We would go crazy without that as well as we are just not used to being away from so long from each other. I know if I would break up he would stand in front of my door the next days. So, I just hope she still loves your son (which I assume if they wanted to get married) and it's the frustration messing with her mind and doubting it all. Again, I think seeing each other for a bit might help tremendously.

I agree. I suggested he see if he can get a leave of absence from work. He doesn't know if he can; hopefully he will look into it.

Thanks!

Nancy


NOA1 February 29, 2008

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RFE received: 06/19/2008

touch 06/24/2008

touch 11/18/2008

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Filed: AOS (apr) Country: Bulgaria
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My advice would be to send a written cancellation request to the service center. Include a copy of your first NOA. Its a long shot because it didn't help me at all. By the time my cancellation request was processed my petition was already approved. This forced me to file a waivier request for my new financee.

The hard truth of the matter is that if she is having doubts now, what is she going to do when the going gets tough after your married? It's a tough choice but I would move on with life. I've been in your shoes, and it SUCKS!!! :(

ps. I have the most awesome financee in the world now!! :)

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