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Hello! How are you all? I just got in from the grocery. That was the highlight of my day. I tell you that is boring huh? The kids love it, they got a toy (as always). I just picked up some drinks, snacks, and other things I needed for the week ahead. I been munching on these new vegetable flavored round buttery crackers and sharp cheddar cheese squares all weekend. Yum! I think they're delicious and they help me to indulge in something pleasurable amidst all this other stuff I have to deal with.

I got in a huge, huge, huge double humongous argument with DH today! Not sure if we are going to make it or not. I think we wont make it because we can't stop fighting. Also, tell me this do you think it is fair for me to buy my tickets and him also expect me to pay my hotel fees? He could atleast accomodate me if I am going all the way there. I could stay at his family home but then no privacy and his mom thinks he is still a vir**. Ugh!

Mahitab

Sounds as exciting as my weekends lol.

Mahitab,

I think its fair to expect him to pay what he can. It's hard to swallow that you might have to foot the bill, but if you cannot expect him to pay for something he simply cannot(if thats the case). If he CAN pay for the hotel, and expects you to pay for it instead..well, thats shameful..but i dont think its the latter.

that is my opinion hun.

If he is not in a position to help you now, then he can pay you back when he gets a job here...by lavishing you and the kids with gifts! ;) heh

It is probably very hard for him, as a muslim man/or any man for that matter to have to ask you to pay for anything.

You knew getting into this what his situation was, please try not to get angry over something you have no control over and that you knew of from the beginning.

please dont think im lecturing or anything of the sort, im trying to stay positive and give you some words to help accept the situation. I know the money subject is hard for you and him :)

(L)

Lisa

"you fondle my trigger then you blame my gun"

Timeline: 13 month long journey from filing to visa in hand

If you were lucky and got an approval and reunion with your loved one rather quickly; Please refrain from telling people who waited 6+ months just to get out of a service center to "chill out" or to "stop whining" It's insensitive,and unecessary. Once you walk a mile in their shoes you will understand and be heard.

Thanks!

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My sad song for my husband and I: Un piccolo grande amore by Cladio Baganeli

We have matching ring tones of Sara perche ti amo.

I should be studying for my exams but I rather party (on the internet that is).

I am supposed to be studying too but can't concentrate!

Here I made you all some party snacks! Enjoy!

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Hello! How are you all? I just got in from the grocery. That was the highlight of my day. I tell you that is boring huh? The kids love it, they got a toy (as always). I just picked up some drinks, snacks, and other things I needed for the week ahead. I been munching on these new vegetable flavored round buttery crackers and sharp cheddar cheese squares all weekend. Yum! I think they're delicious and they help me to indulge in something pleasurable amidst all this other stuff I have to deal with.

I got in a huge, huge, huge double humongous argument with DH today! Not sure if we are going to make it or not. I think we wont make it because we can't stop fighting. Also, tell me this do you think it is fair for me to buy my tickets and him also expect me to pay my hotel fees? He could atleast accomodate me if I am going all the way there. I could stay at his family home but then no privacy and his mom thinks he is still a vir**. Ugh!

Mahitab

Hey guys I'm back. Before I get started partying, I have to address this LOOOL

Huh? :blink:

Why are moms (even my own) soooooo in denial when it comes to their sons??? LOL you two are married, surely they have a clue??? Unless you two are darn good at hiding things LOL But how can you hide a beautiful facial glow and a smile from ear to ear? LOOOOOOOOOOL

I had a very good friend from Pakistan and she was a very devout Muslimah. They did their nikah but not the walima and so the parents told them they couldn't "be together" until after the walima... Both of these kids were ultra religious... he was in her room (in her parents house too) till dawn and then would sneak out...which is perfectly fine, because their nikah is done, there is no sin. How her parents believed them two, I have no idea, but they got away with it for a long time!

Don't worry about the fighting...you are gonna be fine. Back in like July or August my husband and I were fighting every single day...I also wondered at that time if we were gonna make it. I have to admit, the fighting was mostly my fault :blush: but still...it wasn't a problem until that time :whistle:

Anywayz, when I went for my long visit with him in October, it was WONDERFUL! We finally went back to the lovey dovey way we were before :wub: and it did wonders for our marriage. Since then we have not had any more fights.

I hope your visit will help ease the tension and resolve any lingering issues. Someone else said it and I will say it again. There is a very big stress on a relationship when a couple is married and you can't even sleep together. You're alone and frustrated. It's normal to get all this pent up aggression...nothing a few days in bed won't take care of! Take your trip and make the most of it.

As for the hotel...ask him kindly to either pay for the hotel or allow you to stay in his family or even another relative's house. He must have an aunt/uncle/cousin which he trusts with his secrets where you can stay. Don't put yourself in a financial problem, it will only ruin your trip.

Okay...back to the party... :dance:

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Hello! Yes, I guess on the $ part I will see how to cope. But what about the v word and his mom?

Hello! How are you all? I just got in from the grocery. That was the highlight of my day. I tell you that is boring huh? The kids love it, they got a toy (as always). I just picked up some drinks, snacks, and other things I needed for the week ahead. I been munching on these new vegetable flavored round buttery crackers and sharp cheddar cheese squares all weekend. Yum! I think they're delicious and they help me to indulge in something pleasurable amidst all this other stuff I have to deal with.

I got in a huge, huge, huge double humongous argument with DH today! Not sure if we are going to make it or not. I think we wont make it because we can't stop fighting. Also, tell me this do you think it is fair for me to buy my tickets and him also expect me to pay my hotel fees? He could atleast accomodate me if I am going all the way there. I could stay at his family home but then no privacy and his mom thinks he is still a vir**. Ugh!

Mahitab

Sounds as exciting as my weekends lol.

Mahitab,

I think its fair to expect him to pay what he can. It's hard to swallow that you might have to foot the bill, but if you cannot expect him to pay for something he simply cannot(if thats the case). If he CAN pay for the hotel, and expects you to pay for it instead..well, thats shameful..but i dont think its the latter.

that is my opinion hun.

If he is not in a position to help you now, then he can pay you back when he gets a job here...by lavishing you and the kids with gifts! ;) heh

It is probably very hard for him, as a muslim man/or any man for that matter to have to ask you to pay for anything.

You knew getting into this what his situation was, please try not to get angry over something you have no control over and that you knew of from the beginning.

please dont think im lecturing or anything of the sort, im trying to stay positive and give you some words to help accept the situation. I know the money subject is hard for you and him :)

(L)

Lisa

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Hello! Yes, I guess on the $ part I will see how to cope. But what about the v word and his mom?

Hello! How are you all? I just got in from the grocery. That was the highlight of my day. I tell you that is boring huh? The kids love it, they got a toy (as always). I just picked up some drinks, snacks, and other things I needed for the week ahead. I been munching on these new vegetable flavored round buttery crackers and sharp cheddar cheese squares all weekend. Yum! I think they're delicious and they help me to indulge in something pleasurable amidst all this other stuff I have to deal with.

I got in a huge, huge, huge double humongous argument with DH today! Not sure if we are going to make it or not. I think we wont make it because we can't stop fighting. Also, tell me this do you think it is fair for me to buy my tickets and him also expect me to pay my hotel fees? He could atleast accomodate me if I am going all the way there. I could stay at his family home but then no privacy and his mom thinks he is still a vir**. Ugh!

Mahitab

Sounds as exciting as my weekends lol.

Mahitab,

I think its fair to expect him to pay what he can. It's hard to swallow that you might have to foot the bill, but if you cannot expect him to pay for something he simply cannot(if thats the case). If he CAN pay for the hotel, and expects you to pay for it instead..well, thats shameful..but i dont think its the latter.

that is my opinion hun.

If he is not in a position to help you now, then he can pay you back when he gets a job here...by lavishing you and the kids with gifts! ;) heh

It is probably very hard for him, as a muslim man/or any man for that matter to have to ask you to pay for anything.

You knew getting into this what his situation was, please try not to get angry over something you have no control over and that you knew of from the beginning.

please dont think im lecturing or anything of the sort, im trying to stay positive and give you some words to help accept the situation. I know the money subject is hard for you and him :)

(L)

Lisa

you know whats funny? i missed hta part until narina bolded it in quotes LOL

its hilarious that she thinks he's a virgin....my stance on that? get over it mom, im married! lol

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"you fondle my trigger then you blame my gun"

Timeline: 13 month long journey from filing to visa in hand

If you were lucky and got an approval and reunion with your loved one rather quickly; Please refrain from telling people who waited 6+ months just to get out of a service center to "chill out" or to "stop whining" It's insensitive,and unecessary. Once you walk a mile in their shoes you will understand and be heard.

Thanks!

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Hello! Yes, I guess on the $ part I will see how to cope. But what about the v word and his mom?

Hello! How are you all? I just got in from the grocery. That was the highlight of my day. I tell you that is boring huh? The kids love it, they got a toy (as always). I just picked up some drinks, snacks, and other things I needed for the week ahead. I been munching on these new vegetable flavored round buttery crackers and sharp cheddar cheese squares all weekend. Yum! I think they're delicious and they help me to indulge in something pleasurable amidst all this other stuff I have to deal with.

I got in a huge, huge, huge double humongous argument with DH today! Not sure if we are going to make it or not. I think we wont make it because we can't stop fighting. Also, tell me this do you think it is fair for me to buy my tickets and him also expect me to pay my hotel fees? He could atleast accomodate me if I am going all the way there. I could stay at his family home but then no privacy and his mom thinks he is still a vir**. Ugh!

Mahitab

Thanks for the enlightenment! You and Lisa are the best! I will tell you more about the walima issue later too. Hehehe...not now won't crash the party. I want pizza anyone bringing any? If so post it on here with my snacks!

Sounds as exciting as my weekends lol.

Mahitab,

I think its fair to expect him to pay what he can. It's hard to swallow that you might have to foot the bill, but if you cannot expect him to pay for something he simply cannot(if thats the case). If he CAN pay for the hotel, and expects you to pay for it instead..well, thats shameful..but i dont think its the latter.

that is my opinion hun.

If he is not in a position to help you now, then he can pay you back when he gets a job here...by lavishing you and the kids with gifts! ;) heh

It is probably very hard for him, as a muslim man/or any man for that matter to have to ask you to pay for anything.

You knew getting into this what his situation was, please try not to get angry over something you have no control over and that you knew of from the beginning.

please dont think im lecturing or anything of the sort, im trying to stay positive and give you some words to help accept the situation. I know the money subject is hard for you and him :)

(L)

Lisa

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Okay...wanna know what I was doing this fine evening?

Well I cleaned my house...actually I clean it enough for the maids to come clean the rest LOL They're coming next week, thank God...

Then I sat down and watched my taser training DVD. Since my home was broken into, I have been very anxious, nervous, and scared. I'm a wreck these days! I keep having nightmares and stuff... one of my colleagues said she experienced the same thing when her car was vandalized. She said it took a few weeks then it passed. Well, she had her husband and family with her. I don't...

That brings me to my funny story from yesterday.

5 of us ladies (my colleagues) all met for dinner at an Italian place that was supposed to be real nice. We get there and they tell us it's a 2 hour wait. We decided not to wait that long, and find someplace else. So my friend says, "We can go eat at Bass Pro Shop"... I'm like, "isn't that a sporting goods store?" Turns out it also has a restaurant inside. So I was like "ok." We're all there having dinner and sharing our stories and I told them what happened to me with the robbery. So I told them, "I'm planning on buying a gun." So my friend says, "Wanna go check them out while we're here?" So I'm like, "Ok." After dinner, 5 very well dressed, professional, women go upto the gun counter and inquire about guns LOL. I know we probably looked completely out of place. I mean, I was still in my suit LOOOOOL So the man says, "I'll have to run a background check on you." I tell him, "I promise you I'm a very good girl." LOOOL So he then proceeded to run the whole check...and what do I find? A PINK taser... Pink, I'm in love...have to have it! So I bought myself a pink taser...but I also wanted some real heat, so I asked him what he would recommend for me. He pulls out this pistol (really heavy one) and tells me that he recommends this gun for any woman. I'm like "why this one?" He then tells me that it uses shotgun bullets, which scatter...so instead of a clean bullet hole, you get like this huge explosion LOL. He says, "You'll dismember an arm or leg with this thing...even a lousy shot will hit something with this gun." So I was like, "I'll take it!" I proceeded to drop an obscene amount of money on weaponry and all the accesories (fancy case, etc)... I walk out with a few bags, in my skirt suit and high heels LOOOOL My friends offer to walk me to my car, and I say, "Why? I have an artillery here!" LOL they laugh at me and tell me, "Your guns aren't loaded and you don't even know how to shoot it yet." I was like, "I know that, but I can do some serious damage to someone with these heavy shopping bags." LOL So they all laughed at me and shook their heads and escorted me to my car.

I can't make up my mind if I feel safer now or even more scared. I keep looking at them to make sure they're not pointed in my direction and I keep thinking of these different scenarios where I might have to use them...

I shoulda just bought some mace!!!

LOOOOL

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OMG narina, that is hilarious. Dinner and weapons tonight, gals? lol

well, just be careful with your armory please. gun+post break-in nervousness=potential disaster

what does the husband think about you having fort narina set up now?

Im sure he has been completely nutted up also since it happened.

can you send the maid over here when she's done please? i just need some light housework, maybe laundry..i hate laundry

"you fondle my trigger then you blame my gun"

Timeline: 13 month long journey from filing to visa in hand

If you were lucky and got an approval and reunion with your loved one rather quickly; Please refrain from telling people who waited 6+ months just to get out of a service center to "chill out" or to "stop whining" It's insensitive,and unecessary. Once you walk a mile in their shoes you will understand and be heard.

Thanks!

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OMG narina, that is hilarious. Dinner and weapons tonight, gals? lol

well, just be careful with your armory please. gun+post break-in nervousness=potential disaster

what does the husband think about you having fort narina set up now?

Im sure he has been completely nutted up also since it happened.

can you send the maid over here when she's done please? i just need some light housework, maybe laundry..i hate laundry

I just did my laundry today too. Duh! That's what I'm hearing! I kept looking behind my head, thinking I heard banging on the window...it's the damn clothes in the dryer!!! LOOOOOOL :blush:

My husband did not want me to obtain any weapons. He (and my brother) are afraid that with my temper, I will shoot one of them. LOL :lol: I promised him that I wouldn't use the shotgun/gun...only the taser, if he makes me mad... :lol: LOOOOL

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OMG narina, that is hilarious. Dinner and weapons tonight, gals? lol

well, just be careful with your armory please. gun+post break-in nervousness=potential disaster

what does the husband think about you having fort narina set up now?

Im sure he has been completely nutted up also since it happened.

can you send the maid over here when she's done please? i just need some light housework, maybe laundry..i hate laundry

I just did my laundry today too. Duh! That's what I'm hearing! I kept looking behind my head, thinking I heard banging on the window...it's the damn clothes in the dryer!!! LOOOOOOL :blush:

My husband did not want me to obtain any weapons. He (and my brother) are afraid that with my temper, I will shoot one of them. LOL :lol:I promised him that I wouldn't use the shotgun/gun...only the taser, if he makes me mad... :lol: LOOOOL

heh heh

that seems fair

"you fondle my trigger then you blame my gun"

Timeline: 13 month long journey from filing to visa in hand

If you were lucky and got an approval and reunion with your loved one rather quickly; Please refrain from telling people who waited 6+ months just to get out of a service center to "chill out" or to "stop whining" It's insensitive,and unecessary. Once you walk a mile in their shoes you will understand and be heard.

Thanks!

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OMG narina, that is hilarious. Dinner and weapons tonight, gals? lol

well, just be careful with your armory please. gun+post break-in nervousness=potential disaster

what does the husband think about you having fort narina set up now?

Im sure he has been completely nutted up also since it happened.

can you send the maid over here when she's done please? i just need some light housework, maybe laundry..i hate laundry

I just did my laundry today too. Duh! That's what I'm hearing! I kept looking behind my head, thinking I heard banging on the window...it's the damn clothes in the dryer!!! LOOOOOOL :blush:

My husband did not want me to obtain any weapons. He (and my brother) are afraid that with my temper, I will shoot one of them. LOL :lol: I promised him that I wouldn't use the shotgun/gun...only the taser, if he makes me mad... :lol: LOOOOL

Oh, the maid...my God, when she emailed me, I called everyone I know with excitement! I had been using her service for awhile...she is the ONLY person that did a job that I was happy with. Then one day, I call her and all her phones are disconnected, she's not answering my emails. I had to hire another company which did a terrible job (so terrible that the owner came to see for himself and agreed it was a terrible job). So for over a year, I had to just clean the whole house myself. It's really too difficult for one person to clean...so whenever I got company or something I would have to take like 3 days to clean it. Then out of nowhere she emails me to tell me she's got a new phone number, etc... I was so relieved! I asked her to come right away! LOOOOL

She's mine! I'm not loaning her to anyone!!! :lol:

Okay, for you, I'll make an exception... :wub:

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awwww, thanks for sharing her with me :)

you know what? i actually hate the idea of someone else cleaning up after me. my mom hired a lady for about a year when we were kids and i hated it then..i would clean my room immaculately before she came lol

but, if i had a huge house to clean, i guess i could be swayed ;)

"you fondle my trigger then you blame my gun"

Timeline: 13 month long journey from filing to visa in hand

If you were lucky and got an approval and reunion with your loved one rather quickly; Please refrain from telling people who waited 6+ months just to get out of a service center to "chill out" or to "stop whining" It's insensitive,and unecessary. Once you walk a mile in their shoes you will understand and be heard.

Thanks!

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anyone want a datebar? I forgot i made them and walked into the kitchen..."hmm whats this, yum yum yum" lol

"you fondle my trigger then you blame my gun"

Timeline: 13 month long journey from filing to visa in hand

If you were lucky and got an approval and reunion with your loved one rather quickly; Please refrain from telling people who waited 6+ months just to get out of a service center to "chill out" or to "stop whining" It's insensitive,and unecessary. Once you walk a mile in their shoes you will understand and be heard.

Thanks!

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Another one of my favorite songs:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2tg_NVcYxsw

Our wedding song (with a overly simplified English translation LOL):

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ifvwr_XjtDM

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