Study: Strong causal association between abortion and mental health disorders

[Ban Hammer 14,572]

olivia

[B&Gie 0]

"when the the study doesn't actually show that. "

Can we get that in flashy, bright neon?

I looked but I can't find a neon sign font

Far2Long: That's a very melancholy and insightful story.

[Peikko 1,575]

In High School at 18 I got pregnant with my 27 year old college boyfriend. When I told him he started crying. Here was this grown man crying in front of me and I didn't know what to do. He told me we had to get an abortion. He didn't explain why but I knew that I wasn't going to be raising a kid alone. My family always told me if I got pregnant then don't come home. So we had an abortion. I wrote an essay about it later in college. There were protesters there lined against the sidewalk with bloody aborted fetus signed and their kids the day we went to have one. My boyfriend borrow his Mom's company van cos his car was in the shop. She owned a Christian Book Store. So we drove into the parking lot with this christian bookstore name on the side of the van and these protesters lined up with their signs silently. We went inside and it was very nerve racking. The nurse said if I did't want to have one she would out there and tell my boyfriend I couldn't have it because of medical reasons. She made him come in and watch the video with me that explains the procedure. He started crying again. In the waiting room there was this mother of 3 kids with a big tummy telling me this would have been their 4th kid but they just couldn't afford it. She was 10 weeks but she looked like she was bigger than that with a very noticeable round belly. Afterwords in the recovery room it was painted this soft pink with pink recliners around the room and there was this woman wailing in the corner on a mattress they laid down. I saw that mother of four again and they sat me next to her. She was silently crying and we didn't talk much. On the radio the station played "everybody hurts" by REM and I thought it was ironic. They made me wait for an hour it seemed like before they would release me. When I went outside my boyfriend held one of my arms for support and the protesters were still there watching us. I saw their signs again and I went around to the front of the van and vomited. Then they lowered their signs for some reason and we slowly drove out of there. My boyfriend took me to a small greasy spoon and tried to order me some blue berry pancakes and proceed to talk to me about it. I wasn't hungry and I didn't want to talk about it. He took me to his apartment and laid me down on his bed to rest and went outside to talk to his room mate. They went outside for awhile and then I cried. I was sad about it for several months and then summer came and and life went on. He broke up with me almost a year after that. It was an odd bond between us and I was really heart broken because I really loved him. He was my first love. I hadn't thought about the abortion in a long time till last night when I was watching this episode of south park online and they were referencing some material about it. I actually made me sad again for the first time in a long time and now this morning I read this. I can say it links to depression but I don't know about other disorders or their controlled environments.

I don't really care about spelling and grammar at this point.

No one should have to illustrate their point of view by exposing themselves, their real life decisions on a message board just because some people refuse to understand that any decision to abort is an incredibly emotionally complex one and relate to real lives, with real people making real decisions for incredibly individual reasons. I am sorry you felt the need to do this. I felt both saddened and voyeuristic and also humbled to read this post. I couldn't do that no matter how strongly I felt about a subject.

A for Olivia.

[Danno 1,228]

And what's up with that boyfriend.... "deciding" you needed to abort your fetus... and then then all that crying he's doing

Sounds like a real ####### to me.

[Waldo 0]

I am doing a study. This Sunday I am going door to door to see how many people go to Church. Just a simple yes or no and I'll tally them up and get back to you.

[Peikko 1,575]

And what's up with that boyfriend.... "deciding" you needed to abort your fetus... and then then all that crying he's doing

Sounds like a real ####### to me.

...and this is the very reason I personally wouldn't share something so personal on an open message board. No matter how well intentioned, someone will come along and try to 'correct' your story.

[HAL 9000 96]

Yeah Olivia... my sympathies.

An ex GF of mine had one before starting to date me... quite an experience as I was told why she had to have it.

[B&Gie 0]

...any decision to abort is an incredibly emotionally complex one and relate to real lives, with real people making real decisions for incredibly individual reasons.

incredibly emotionally complex. That's the phrase I wanted and couldn't think of.

Definitely, a for Olivia.