Sub-Saharan cyber cafe # 2

[Ban Hammer 14,269]

Uno, I have that type of webcam. I had to configure it through Yahoo Messenger under call-setup (or some similar name).

This is really no help, because the only way I could do it was while in the midst of doing it

I don't know if you are using Yahoo, but I'm sure the other messenger programs like AIM and MSN have similar setups.

Essentially, it goes into your advanced audio setup in your computer's Control Panel, and it switches it to the audio on your external webcam program. It can also allow you to change to headset microphone too.

Again, you can either do it from the Control Panel or from the Messenger Call Setup area.

I'm sorry that I can't just write it out for you step-by-step....AND I refuse to ride the SHAWT BUT too!

ROFLLLLLLMAOOOOOO!!!!!

control panel, never even looked there (duuhhhh), I'll check it out.

and you are exempt from riding today only:))

i do remember having some fits with yim when i installed new versions, it went thru some setup ####### that never did seem to work right at first.

probably best for you to review all of the options on yim to make sure things are right.

PS Hi Charles, how are you and Nessa coming along with the bambino? (Can't believe I forgot our honorary subbie by way of Brazil!)

she's tired all the time. and i get to do more housework because of that.

[Zee Bee 61]

Morning everyone

[Simply_Uno 1]

[Bassi and Zainab 1]

Morning!!!

Stevi, I'm shocked. I wouldn't expect unnecessary drama in London. They usually seem to breeze through. I wonder if it's because he's african. I'll add you to my prayer list sis'. Keep a positive spirit. This is a blip in time and it will come to an end EVENTUALLY!!

Sabine, you've made a connection with an attorney! Wow! That's big news. It's good he knows you're on top of your game, so he won't slack off. Maybe he could use a good challenge! Still praying for you and S. It'll feel sooooo good when you two are finally together.

Charles, you're up to the challenge. Housework, cooking, midnight runs to ..... just keep thinking about that sweet angel in your arms in just a few months. I can't wait for pics!!

Zee, we're in the same boat unfortunately. But Bassi's been so busy in school he's not stressing about it. I've asked him to schedule me in. He's hyper sensitive about doing well in school, so he's constantly studying.

Uno's still dippin' and dodgin' that short bus. It's okay sweetie....we love you anywhoo!

Yardie, we have a recipe thread on here that has some great stuff and links to a couple african cooking sites. Check it out! Zee is still working on that kenkey recipe, but we found a store here that sells it. Isn't that AMAZING?!! YES, GIRLS, I found an african/caribbean shop way behind God's back in upstate NY. And they sell stuff from Guyana and Ghana. We're in NIRVANA. And gaining weight as I type. They even have a big selection of african movies. I need to get out more. I don't even know my own area!

Hugs!

Z

[stevi1123 0]

Thank Zanaib for your prayers. And about what you said concerning "being an African at the London Embassy" I'll just say again that there were 16 people there for interviews that day....and 2 were African.......14 got their visas.....and 2 did NOT. Guess which 2 did not! Nuff Said.

Peace

Edited October 29, 2008 by stevi1123

[Ta Ta 1]

Thank Zanaib for your prayers. And about what you said concerning "being an African at the London Embassy" I'll just say again that there were 16 people there for interviews that day....and 2 were African.......14 got their visas.....and 2 did NOT. Guess which 2 did not! Nuff Said.

Peace

I get so sick of that European prefential treatment. ( And I am German ! ). I know the fraud cases are higher for Africans,but geez can they just not be on auto pilot with their ####### all the time while some shady non Africans slip right through ?!

Don't get me started.

Breath...breathe.

[Zee Bee 61]

Thank Zanaib for your prayers. And about what you said concerning "being an African at the London Embassy" I'll just say again that there were 16 people there for interviews that day....and 2 were African.......14 got their visas.....and 2 did NOT. Guess which 2 did not! Nuff Said.

Peace

Are you serious ?

That is ridiculous.

[Ta Ta 1]

I have a bad headache too much stress.

My ex and father of my children has less than a month to live and my kids are falling apart in their own way. Any tips on what I can do ?

I don't know where my place is in all of this or where I even fit in. We got the news yesterday.

[Simply_Uno 1]

OOOh, I did my civic duty today, I rocked the vote!

Did you??

Hey Bassi/Zainab, what is up mizzy??

I am so happy/proud of you, LL, and Zenusah/ZeeBee (who are you these days??)

I think you guys' relationships give me the most hope in love.

Stevi, girrrrlll, hang onnnn.

The following is specifically dedicated to you and your SO.

"When things go wrong as they sometimes will, When the road your trudging seems all uphill, When the funds are low and the debts are high, And you want to smile but you have to sigh, When care is pressing you down a bit Rest if you must, but don't you quit. Success is failure turned inside out, The silver tint on the clouds of doubt, And you can never tell how close you are, It may be near when it seems afar. So, stick to the fight when your hardest hit It's when things go wrong that you mustn't quit." Author: Unknown

Omoba, I am so sorry to hear of what you guys are going through. It seems that 2008 is the year of the reaper for all that I know in the flesh and in the spirit. I pray you strength and peace of mind. To your ex and that of your children I pray you all peace that surpasses all understanding in the midst of it all. When you have no more words to say, and no more tears to cry, that is when the Holy Spirit intervenes and translates your loss of utterane to the Master Potter.

UNO

[boo boo 1]

I have a bad headache too much stress.

My ex and father of my children has less than a month to live and my kids are falling apart in their own way. Any tips on what I can do ?

I don't know where my place is in all of this or where I even fit in. We got the news yesterday.

I am so sorry to hear about your children's father, very heart breaking news. I would suggest calling him or visiting him w/ your children and give him moral support and maybe even ask if you could pray w/ him. I think that it would mean alot to him. If he is at home and he is living alone, maybe a nice home cooked meal would be nice.

[Ta Ta 1]

Thanks Uno

[Simply_Uno 1]

you are most welcome, Omoba.

for Omoba and Stevi:

[Ta Ta 1]

I have a bad headache too much stress.

My ex and father of my children has less than a month to live and my kids are falling apart in their own way. Any tips on what I can do ?

I don't know where my place is in all of this or where I even fit in. We got the news yesterday.

I am so sorry to hear about your children's father, very heart breaking news. I would suggest calling him or visiting him w/ your children and give him moral support and maybe even ask if you could pray w/ him. I think that it would mean alot to him. If he is at home and he is living alone, maybe a nice home cooked meal would be nice.

I wish I could but......he is not on speaking terms with me. He cheated on me and I divorced him. We were married 24 years.

He was never able to face his guilt so hating me seemed easier.

He was a born again Christian who converted to paganism and the occult before the divorce.

For the sake of my grown kids I send him several cards, the latest with a little money in it wishing him well.

It was never acknowledged. He will not speak to me.

He told my kids I am not allowed to his funeral but then said only if my kids wanted me there for comfort and only briefly and I am not allowed to speak to his wife.

My kids are very upset over all this and told him they need me there for comfort.

I have done all I could but still it all bothers me that someone can be so harsh even in death and in front of my grieving kids who are angry all at the same time.

He did not call my oldest daughter to tell her he was dying but eventually did and then said he called so many people to let them know ......neighbors, friends, relatives.....

but he never called her. She feels like a nobody because of this.

Thanks for letting me vent............it is therapeutic if nothing else to get it out of my system.

[Ta Ta 1]

you are most welcome, Omoba.

for Omoba and Stevi:

I realized I am having a meltdown and need to take my eyes of the circumstances and look up to the hill where my help is coming from.

[stevi1123 0]

Thank you, Uno. You are the best!

I loved that song. It was so beautiful. It made me do some deep thinking...

(This is quite long, so forgive me - I feel like releasing)

Omoba, I had no idea you were going through so much. I am so sorry. My first husband died 5 years ago, but we were happily married. We were best friends. We grew up together: 14 years as best friends and 14 years married. I was devastated. He had diabetes, which led to kidney failure, dialysis and the need for a simultaneous kidney/liver/pancreas transplant, which never occurred. I did not want to live in this world without him, and to this day, my heart still aches because he was in my life for most of it. I came home from work one day and found him lying on our bedroom floor with the phone in his hand. He was gone.

It was a blessing when I met Taiwo. I had dated an African man who was rich and sent for me to visit Nigeria. Promised me the world, carried shopping bags of money everywhere we met. Then, when his father met me, he denounced the relationship and sent a "distant relative" to end it. From Lagos to Warri, this man traveled to tell my then "fiance" to end the relationship AND HE ACTUALLY ENDED IT. His father did not like Americans and thought I would take all of the family money that his son was sending to all of the family

My sister's husband lives in Lagos. I called him and his family immediately took me in, because my so-called fiance started to completely ignore me after that distant relative came to visit. My sister's husband's family treated me so well and I stayed with them until it was my time to leave Nigeria.

When I got home, my sister's husband introduced me to his childhood friend who lives in London. He was the polar opposite of the "rich" man. It was like God had brought him into my life. After a year of phone conversations, instant messengering, and endless text messages, he sent for me to come to London. He had almost IDENTICAL characteristics and qualities of my late husband, yet he was his own, unique man. I know for a fact that God was at work all along.

I condensed the story a lot, because I don't want to give that first man any credit. He had 5 gigantic houses, six children all in fancy boarding schools, a high level job at Shell Oil, yet he was ALL ALONE. His first wife had died. I thought we had so much in common. He had 20 acres of virgin land that he wanted to build a school on, and was going to make me the Administrator of it. I was somewhat conned, because he originally said he was relocating to the U.S. but once I got there, he completely changed....Oh, well - His loss was Taiwo's gain

Although this story is not related to what you are going through, I just wanted to share a little bit about my background. I was at the lowest point in my life when my husband died. We were loners and homebodies together, and we were completely happy and content in our own little world. We did everything together and traveled by car all across the country. But today, I stand tall and thank God for every day and every blessing.

My mother died when I was 15. She was 40. She died of Breast Cancer. This affected the way I communicate with females, because to this day, it is hard for me to bond with women. I have many platonic men friendships. My father just died a few months ago, and I have been trying my best to get better, but he was my best friend too.

Life can surely be hard at times, but I know He has a purpose for me, and I am determined to fulfill whatever that purpose may be. Yes, I am still trying to figure out just what my purpose is! In the meantime, I just keep on keeping on.

I will keep you in my prayers. You are a helluva woman.

Edited October 30, 2008 by stevi1123