Lust of Love

[Thai 0]

Have you ever asked yourself that you got married to that person for lust or love ?

[MichelleN 0]

Lust is often short termed. So unless you're marrying someone within a few weeks of knowing them, I don't think it's a concern. And really...if you have to ask yourself such a question, should you really be marrying the person in the first place?

[Matt_Stevens 5]

Not once. Nope. It was love, all the way. Lust could not sustain a long term relationship like this. That would have been impractical, so say the least.

[Dave_Thao 0]

[baxxy 0]

Lust could not sustain a long term relationship like this.

Oh sure it could...

[Matt_Stevens 5]

I can get hot pieces of ### right here in in the USofA and not spend thousands on travel, thank you very much. Only a loon or a millionaire would invest that kind of money into a lust driven relationship.

[Dau_Que 0]

This question should be directed to the VNese ladies. Majority cases of marriages (with either VNese or American) involving the ladies from this country result in divorces AFTER they qualify for the "Green card".

First couple years after their arrival in the US...........You talk, they listen...............

Third year (after they receive their 10-year Green card), you talk, you listen to yourself.........then she talks, you be quiet, trying to respond with little effect.

A few years afterward, especially, after having the first-born, you're on your knee, begging her to be easy on your VISA/MC, whatever, charge accounts.............

A decade later, you look like a bum, trying to work 3 jobs to make the "MINIMUM" payments on your CC bills, covering her trips back to VN once every 3 months to visit her "NEW" boyfriend. You're HISTORY dude! with child-support payments on your mind!

LOVE ME, baby!

[philliptham 0]

Vietnamese ladies just like any other ladies. If you treat them with respect and full of love, there is no way they turn away from you. They have a heart too. My friend auntie married an American , she is Vietnamese, married and live with that Arche until he died at age 78, their married was last for 42 years. My cousin now married to an American and they still live together its been 8 years still no trouble. I guess your purpose in this forum is just want to place HATEFUL comments about them. I'm careful read your words, all you want is You talk, you talk and you talk, is that how you treat your love's one ? You married some one just because you want to have some to listen to you ? See how demand you are, the way you talk, the way you think, I think you deserve what ever you 've done. I guess not even Vietnamese ladies, any ladies who live with you will be endup the same way, you will be kick ### even harder.

Every one have a heart, even dog. Get what you paid for.

This question should be directed to the VNese ladies. Majority cases of marriages (with either VNese or American) involving the ladies from this country result in divorces AFTER they qualify for the "Green card".

First couple years after their arrival in the US...........You talk, they listen...............

Third year (after they receive their 10-year Green card), you talk, you listen to yourself.........then she talks, you be quiet, trying to respond with little effect.

A few years afterward, especially, after having the first-born, you're on your knee, begging her to be easy on your VISA/MC, whatever, charge accounts.............

A decade later, you look like a bum, trying to work 3 jobs to make the "MINIMUM" payments on your CC bills, covering her trips back to VN once every 3 months to visit her "NEW" boyfriend. You're HISTORY dude! with child-support payments on your mind!

LOVE ME, baby!

[Melrose Plant 1]

That's an easy one.......I married for lust.

[Matt_Stevens 5]

DPNH's comments clearly do not describe all Vietnamese women. Of course not. HOWEVER, it is a simple fact that a large portion of these relationships are done via fraud and that includes women (and men) tricking Americans into getting hitched and then when they have that 10 year green card, it is BYE BYE baby.

I personally know someone this happened to.

My wife knows numerous girls who came here through false relationships, either by skamming some poor stupid dopey guy or by marrying a cousin.

My best friends has a good buddy who was taken to the cleaners by his scheming ####### of a wife.

This just happens and it happens a lot.

Doesn't mean your relationship is the same. Not at all.

In our case, my wife's green card is up next Spring and then it is time for the ten year. I'm not worried about that. Not at all.

Edited August 11, 2008 by Matt_Stevens

[K&A 0]

Have you ever asked yourself that you got married to that person for lust or love ?

Great question and interesting topic.

Lust is what made me continue or motivated me to sustain a long distance relationship in the first place.

After courting, getting to know each other for months, years and some arguements on the phone some time later ... .I still said yes to his proposal to marry so I guess by that time it was love. So, I married for love

And I know it is LOVE because I have not met anybody in my past or present who can make me lose my ever lasting mind like he does and STILL LOVE him...nope nobody can hold a candle to him He is especially made for me...thats my baby

[luckytxn 2,263]

I figure if she is still with me years down the road then she has to be nuts. If she is then I write her into my will and thank God for my good fortune.