STAY IN USA forever OR MOVE BACK HOME ?

[Jack and Barbara 0]

What I was referring to was those who have no intentions of staying in the U.S. There were a couple of posters who said they plan on moving back immeadiately to their country of origin so, I guess, they are here primariliy for dual citizenship. To me, if one has no intentions of staying in the first place (and especially for the minority who doesn't like the U.S. and would talk bad about it) if they would decide before applying here that they want to live abroad, then why not pursue that route? I understand people immigrate to the U.S. for different reasons (financial/family/etc), but for those who are planning to come and immeadiately return, by them applying in the first place, they are in turn creating backlog, right?

I know things change and some who plan on living here decide to move back. It seems to me, though, that for the minority who want to "immeadiately" move back home, they don't want to be here in the first place and maybe it would be more beneficial to them and to those who want to stay here for the forseeable future to just have their SO apply for citizenship where they want to live. Again, I know this is a minority, but most are aware of the backlog for naturalization applications and every bit helps.

[*JG* 2]

I would be very disappointed if we jumped through all these hoops for him to immediately go back. Luckily, hubby gets more and more fed up with who/what he left behind and says he's not even sure he wants to go back and visit.

[Jack and Barbara 0]

I would be very disappointed if we jumped through all these hoops for him to immediately go back. Luckily, hubby gets more and more fed up with who/what he left behind and says he's not even sure he wants to go back and visit.

I would hope he wouldn't immeadiately go back without you.

[*JG* 2]

I would be very disappointed if we jumped through all these hoops for him to immediately go back. Luckily, hubby gets more and more fed up with who/what he left behind and says he's not even sure he wants to go back and visit.

I would hope he wouldn't immeadiately go back without you.

We haven't been back in almost 2 years. Nothing immediate going on here.

[Dr. Obvious 49]

I know things change and some who plan on living here decide to move back. It seems to me, though, that for the minority who want to "immeadiately" move back home, they don't want to be here in the first place and maybe it would be more beneficial to them and to those who want to stay here for the forseeable future to just have their SO apply for citizenship where they want to live.

In my case, I can't. Germany doesn't allow dual citizenship for PR wishing to naturalize. There are very, very few exceptions to this rule and none apply to me. I would consider it, but I would have to live in the country for such a substantially long time that it no longer makes that much sense to keep it. It is a committment I am reluctant to make, but then German PR is a cakewalk for spouses of citizens, so I really don't care unless there are massive changes to the law.

I think if no one wanted to be here, they wouldn't bother. However, doesn't mean where you came from was something you closed the door on ever going back to. That may not be forever either. Uncertainty is the name of the game for some people married to foreign spouses. In anycase, makes more sense to make things as easy on yourself as possible and just go through this whole process once and be done with it.

[gwenneh 7]

We're pretty comfortable here, but we know we'll move back someday - probably in the next few years.

[Mrs.Bayoumi 0]

Abdalla and i have had a lot of conversations about this, and at first i was dead against moving to Egypt...until i went to see him, i fell madly in love with Alexandria and the Egyptian people. We have decided that once he comes here we can save enough money to buy a flat and rent it out until we decide to move back...i would really like to raise my children in Alexandria (L)

[F1Belle 0]

My husband has told me many times that nothing could entice him to ever live in Canada again. I lived there with him for 7 years, so I can say that I have experienced it and that was enough for me (I hate snow!)

[ELW 5]

Isn't it interesting, all the votes for moving back home!

We both love India and want to return someday to live, maybe in 10 years or so. We are trying to earn and save as much as possible and not get any debts, to make that a reality. He can get US Citizenship then get an OCI card which would allow him to live in either country indefinitely. And I could get a PIO card which would allow me to keep my US Citizenship and still live permanently in India.

Edited May 26, 2008 by ELW

[HighwayStar 0]

Well, as I think 'forever' is a long time, I didn't vote... However, if I really had to choose now, I'd go for 'stay in the US forever'. When I leave (hopefully soon...), it will be to make a new life for myself and my husband (the USC), and if I stayed here in Italy I would always have to deal with the weight of some bad memories. Though I have a home, a job and other property, and getting here would be much easier for my fiancé than it is for me to move to the US, the current situation in Italy is not good at all. He would probably find no job, unless he wanted to work under the table and risk his life every day, since he doesn't speak Italian, and at 39 he would be considered too old for the Italian job market. Since he has got three children from his previous marriage, to whom he has to pay child support, without a job it would mean either not to pay (and therefore never be able to go back to the US), or ask me to support them (which wouldn't be possible for a number of reasons). On the other hand, he's got lots of opportunities in the US, and I would be able to find a new career for myself much more easily than he would here.

As to going back to Italy sometimes.. well, at my age (47) I would never be able to find another job, after I resign from mine after a period of unpaid leave of absence. Moreover, I really have no ties here - my parents are both dead, I am estranged from my only brother, and I have very few friends. My job doesn't give me any satisfaction either, so I don't really have a lot to lose. I've already lived abroad (in Finland) for a number of years, and I am very adaptable, as well as having no language problems. This means I'll do my best to make my home in the US.... I'll miss my home town of Rome, but very little else.

[Dr. Obvious 49]

...and at 39 he would be considered too old for the Italian job market.

Ouch. 39 isn't even old. If you retired at 67, you would still have 28 years left to work. 28 years is a long time to be aged out of the market.