Valentine's Gifts

[DeadPoolX 9]

Well... it's getting close to that time of year again (February 14) and even though it seems to be common place for many women nowadays to say they don't need a gift on this very commercialized holiday, I have a strong feeling that most still desire one, nonetheless. Perhaps I'm wrong about that; I have been mistaken before.

Regardless, I'm at a complete loss this year. The previous years I've sent my SO flowers. She said really liked them and while I don't doubt her sincerity, I'd rather do something different. Getting the same gift year after year (or one that's very similar) has to become quite boring after a while.

Originally, I was thinking about getting her a photo calendar. Considering the fact we're apart for most of the year, I thought something that displayed the two of us together and would be useful (and wouldn't die, like flowers inevitably do), might be a nice gift. Unfortunately, every single place that I can find that does this has long processing and shipping times. This wouldn't be a issue if she lived in the U.S., but even delivering to Canada takes extra time.

So I'm asking for suggestions. I realize you guys don't know her, but at this point, I'm just looking for ideas. Even if you can't help me, maybe someone will help another VJ poster on here.

[Marilyn. 340]

take some little slips of paper and write down things you love about your SO and then put them in a nice decorative box....

if you didn't have to mail it i would also suggest putting some chocolate kisses in the box too...

Edited February 2, 2008 by MarilynP

[one...two...tree 2,762]

I thought after marriage, Valentine's Day was just an ordinary day?

[Marilyn. 340]

I thought after marriage, Valentine's Day was just an ordinary day?

tsk tsk

[Kazan' Tiger 1]

I'll help the women out...

I thought after marriage, Valentine's Day was just an ordinary day?

[one...two...tree 2,762]

I'll help the women out...

I thought after marriage, Valentine's Day was just an ordinary day?

Hasn't Valentine's Day turned into just another excuse for us to be bombarded with consumerism? If a guy, particularly a married man, goes out on that day and buys his wife roses, because 'that's what he's suppose to do', that's depressing to me. I know it's different when you are courting someone, but married couples have different expectations with each other.

Edited February 2, 2008 by Mister Fancypants

[Alex+R 0]

I'll help the women out...

I thought after marriage, Valentine's Day was just an ordinary day?

Hasn't Valentine's Day turned into just another excuse for us to be bombarded with consumerism? If a guy, particularly a married man, goes out on that day and buys his wife roses, because 'that's what he's suppose to do', that's depressing to me. I know it's different when you are courting someone, but married couples have different expectations with each other.

Valentine's Day hasn't "turned into another excuse to be bombarded with consumerism" because that's what the holiday always was. However, you can subvert that expectation and use the day to do something special for your partner that doesn't cost anything. I know the day is commercial, but I still think it's nice to be reminded to acknowledge your love for your partner.

Also, I don't understand this distinction you're making between dating and married couples. When you're dating, you're supposed to do things you find disingenuous for some reason?

[Marilyn. 340]

i don't want my hubby to buy me stuff because he has to... I want him to do it because he wants to...

even if he did something like I suggested that doesn't really cost any money I would be over the moon...

and no it shouldn't be confined just to Valentine's Day... but it can just be a day where you do something extra special for your SO...

Edited February 2, 2008 by MarilynP

[Jenn! 918]

I don't like Hallmark telling me when I should express my love. We won't be celebrating.

[one...two...tree 2,762]

I'll help the women out...

I thought after marriage, Valentine's Day was just an ordinary day?

Hasn't Valentine's Day turned into just another excuse for us to be bombarded with consumerism? If a guy, particularly a married man, goes out on that day and buys his wife roses, because 'that's what he's suppose to do', that's depressing to me. I know it's different when you are courting someone, but married couples have different expectations with each other.

Valentine's Day hasn't "turned into another excuse to be bombarded with consumerism" because that's what the holiday always was. However, you can subvert that expectation and use the day to do something special for your partner that doesn't cost anything. I know the day is commercial, but I still think it's nice to be reminded to acknowledge your love for your partner.

Also, I don't understand this distinction you're making between dating and married couples. When you're dating, you're supposed to do things you find disingenuous for some reason?

That is a good idea.

Married couples have different expectations with each other than dating couples. I'm all for being romantic in marriage, but to me it's just different....hard for me to explain.

[DeadPoolX 9]

I'll help the women out...

I thought after marriage, Valentine's Day was just an ordinary day?

Hasn't Valentine's Day turned into just another excuse for us to be bombarded with consumerism? If a guy, particularly a married man, goes out on that day and buys his wife roses, because 'that's what he's suppose to do', that's depressing to me. I know it's different when you are courting someone, but married couples have different expectations with each other.

I fail to see the difference between married and unmarried in this situation. If you love someone, you love them -- end of story. Regardless of the day in question, why should marital status affect how couples show that love to each other?

[one...two...tree 2,762]

I don't like Hallmark telling me when I should express my love. We won't be celebrating.

Those are my sentiments.

[Marilyn. 340]

yeah, Hallmark has banned us from showing our love to our SO's on any other day besides Valentine's

I think we should see it has a day we can do something extra special for our SO and it doesn't even have to be something that costs money...

[Kazan' Tiger 1]

I use the day to reaffirm my love without the consumerism. Plenty of ways to have a romantic day without cards, flowers, and chocolate! I've always been one to take my S/O out for a nice romantic dinner.

I'll help the women out...

I thought after marriage, Valentine's Day was just an ordinary day?

Hasn't Valentine's Day turned into just another excuse for us to be bombarded with consumerism? If a guy, particularly a married man, goes out on that day and buys his wife roses, because 'that's what he's suppose to do', that's depressing to me. I know it's different when you are courting someone, but married couples have different expectations with each other.

I don't celebrate because Hallmark tells me too. I do it because it's an additional excuse to have fun and be a little extra romantic.

I don't like Hallmark telling me when I should express my love. We won't be celebrating.

[DeadPoolX 9]

I don't like Hallmark telling me when I should express my love. We won't be celebrating.

Those are my sentiments.

So... I guess you don't celebrate Christmas, Easter or birthdays either, right? After all, the first two have been very commercialized and the last one is merely indicated in a chronological sense and denoted on the calendar. With all three, some other entity is telling you when to celebrate these events.

Edited February 2, 2008 by DeadPoolX