getting divorce and applying for citizenship

[zibra0000 2]

I been married for over 5 years.everything was fine till my us citizen wife started to control me and abuse me...we had an incident where the police officer came and arrested her for domestic violence.i realy cant have freinds i cant even go to the gym i mean kind life i dnt wish it for nobody not even my enemy...anyway we are still married but things not going well for us...i decided to apply for us citizenship under 5 yrs rule.but my wife and i talking about divorce if we get divorced will it have any impact on my us citizenship?and now my wife is threatning me to call immi office on me is that will keep me away from having us citizenship?and does the immi office will ask me about why i get divorce and if he does should i tell him i just dnt feel like trashing my wife to another person by going into details? Please i will appreciate any help you guys will offer me thank you so much.

[canadian_wife 1,791]

5 year rule does not apply for marriage, it is 5 years as a LPR, when did you get your residency status?

good luck

[zibra0000 2]

8/20/2009...yeah doesnt apply for marriage but as far as she threatning me with immi office after divorce..basically i have to stay in abusive relationship or call immi office you know...im really down bcuz of this...i just dnt know what to do and not having a family close to me or just a friend cuz of course she make sure ive no friend....hmmmm

5 year rule does not apply for marriage, it is 5 years as a LPR, when did you get your residency status?

good luck

[jenny2014wu 7]

You are good to apply us citizen. My girlfriend divorce his USC husband with 3 years, she got the citizen. Can you tell your wife, life is too short,why don't we enjoy the life together, if not,she cannt control you for the rest of life. Io won't dismiss your visa .she is the one abuse you.

[JimmyHou 610]

I been married for over 5 years.everything was fine till my us citizen wife started to control me and abuse me...we had an incident where the police officer came and arrested her for domestic violence.i realy cant have freinds i cant even go to the gym i mean kind life i dnt wish it for nobody not even my enemy...anyway we are still married but things not going well for us...i decided to apply for us citizenship under 5 yrs rule.but my wife and i talking about divorce if we get divorced will it have any impact on my us citizenship?and now my wife is threatning me to call immi office on me is that will keep me away from having us citizenship?and does the immi office will ask me about why i get divorce and if he does should i tell him i just dnt feel like trashing my wife to another person by going into details? Please i will appreciate any help you guys will offer me thank you so much.

You say, you've decided to apply under the 5 year rule, so I assume you've had your green card for at least 5 years.

If you've had your green card for 5 years, then you can apply whether you are married or divorced.

If you've been married for under 5 years, then you may not want to apply right now, because you'll have to present evidence of your marriage.

If you pass the 5 year mark, then you shouldn't worry about anything, just go ahead and apply. You probably won't even be asked anything about your marriage/divorce, but as long as you're open and honest you shouldn't have any trouble.

So basically, if you're applying based on 5 years of permanent residency, it won't matter if you are married or divorced.

[zibra0000 2]

Yeah i been lpr for 5 yrs and yeah my fair is if she caused my proccess to be delayed because of calling immi..which i dnt know why anyway but thats what im worry about

You say, you've decided to apply under the 5 year rule, so I assume you've had your green card for at least 5 years.

If you've had your green card for 5 years, then you can apply whether you are married or divorced.

If you've been married for under 5 years, then you may not want to apply right now, because you'll have to present evidence of your marriage.

If you pass the 5 year mark, then you shouldn't worry about anything, just go ahead and apply. You probably won't even be asked anything about your marriage/divorce, but as long as you're open and honest you shouldn't have any trouble.

So basically, if you're applying based on 5 years of permanent residency, it won't matter if you are married or divorced.

[jenny2014wu 7]

Yeah i been lpr for 5 yrs and yeah my fair is if she caused my proccess to be delayed because of calling immi..which i dnt know why anyway but thats what im worry about

If you don't tell your wife you apply for citizen, she will never know it.

[zibra0000 2]

She knows she have upper hand bcuz shes the us citizen and me as permanent resident gotta suffer hmmm....is there any differnce if she divorce me or i divorce her??

You are good to apply us citizen. My girlfriend divorce his USC husband with 3 years, she got the citizen. Can you tell your wife, life is too short,why don't we enjoy the life together, if not,she cannt control you for the rest of life. Io won't dismiss your visa .she is the one abuse you.

[N-o-l-a 7,167]

She knows she have upper hand bcuz shes the us citizen and me as permanent resident gotta suffer hmmm....is there any differnce if she divorce me or i divorce her??

No, doesn't matter who files for divorce or if you co-petition. Feel free to divorce at your leisure.

Just move away, block her calls, and start your new life.

[zibra0000 2]

She is in charge of any fly enter the house...the finance everything..calling the back everyday to see if i spend a dollar somewhere and hell if i dnt give her good explanation....i wish if ive seperate account..i mentioned that one time having seperate account and she almost lost it on me...i mean im just hoping it wont be no delay on my proccess...cuz shes the us citizen nd im nt nd she knows that too...im realy sorry for you to hear all this im realy sorry..

If you don't tell your wife you apply for citizen, she will never know it.

[jenny2014wu 7]

Put your paycheck in to your own account, cancel the joint account. That my USC husband did cancel our joint account. We fight for joint account all the time before.he never tell me a word when he spent 2000 dollars in joint account. When I found it, he said that is our money, why should I let you know every time I spend something. Then I am mad then we said something to heart each other. Finally he close the joint account to eliminate the fight. I really don't know why the imm office want to see joint account? It cause lots of fight. Now we don't have joint acc . When I give him some money, he appreciate . He spend something on me, I am happy.

If you are married or divorced, it won't affect your 5 year rule citizen application.

I do under stand your situation. I have been go through these too.when I got 10 year green card, he said you got your permanent card, he want to divorce due to I use his computer. He suspect I check his email. I didn't. We fight fie 4 month for nothing. Then I told him, when I married him I don't have anything , now I have everything, good job, nice house. I still want to give us a chance together. I can find someone younger to love me if he doesn't love me anymore. Then we both cry. We love each other , so we are still together now. We do not fight a lot now. After 5 years marriage, I know what not to say to cause fight. When he raise his voice, I just ignore him. He is unhappy for me not to fight back.we fight for nothing. What is the point to say something to hurt each other for nothing. Hope you talk your wife and work things out. Tell her you are not hurry to apply citizen. Work your relation ship out first. If you are not working out. You still can apply for citizen. Just don't let her know it. If you already divorced, how came she know it. Wish you both can work things out

[zibra0000 2]

I really appreciate sharing your experience with me thank you so much....but theres a differencr between being non caring or quick temper or non responsible and being abusive and controling and agressive..my wife abused me physicaly emtionaly and verbaly and bcuz shea us citizen anf im permanent resident she think she can do whatever her heart desire...i mean shes forbiden me to not work with female at work i cant help it theres male and female everywhere and ahe doeant understand that..i found my self in situatn that ive to beg ny associate directeur to change my hours so i wont be working with female that is not right...by the way im the only person that has income in the house shes nt working....and i dnt mind it but she doesnt appreciate it ar all..i

Put your paycheck in to your own account, cancel the joint account. That my USC husband did cancel our joint account. We fight for joint account all the time before.he never tell me a word when he spent 2000 dollars in joint account. When I found it, he said that is our money, why should I let you know every time I spend something. Then I am mad then we said something to heart each other. Finally he close the joint account to eliminate the fight. I really don't know why the imm office want to see joint account? It cause lots of fight. Now we don't have joint acc . When I give him some money, he appreciate . He spend something on me, I am happy.

If you are married or divorced, it won't affect your 5 year rule citizen application.

I do under stand your situation. I have been go through these too.when I got 10 year green card, he said you got your permanent card, he want to divorce due to I use his computer. He suspect I check his email. I didn't. We fight fie 4 month for nothing. Then I told him, when I married him I don't have anything , now I have everything, good job, nice house. I still want to give us a chance together. I can find someone younger to love me if he doesn't love me anymore. Then we both cry. We love each other , so we are still together now. We do not fight a lot now. After 5 years marriage, I know what not to say to cause fight. When he raise his voice, I just ignore him. He is unhappy for me not to fight back.we fight for nothing. What is the point to say something to hurt each other for nothing. Hope you talk your wife and work things out. Tell her you are not hurry to apply citizen. Work your relation ship out first. If you are not working out. You still can apply for citizen. Just don't let her know it. If you already divorced, how came she know it. Wish you both can work things out

[dioxide45 25]

The fact that she is a citizen and you are not, means nothing. Don't let her hold anything over you for that. She has no power over the situation. You need to do what is right for you and if leaving her and filing for divorce is it, then you need to do that. She is holding the power over you because you are letting her.

[jenny2014wu 7]

I really appreciate sharing your experience with me thank you so much....but theres a differencr between being non caring or quick temper or non responsible and being abusive and controling and agressive..my wife abused me physicaly emtionaly and verbaly and bcuz shea us citizen anf im permanent resident she think she can do whatever her heart desire...i mean shes forbiden me to not work with female at work i cant help it theres male and female everywhere and ahe doeant understand that..i found my self in situatn that ive to beg ny associate directeur to change my hours so i wont be working with female that is not right...by the way im the only person that has income in the house shes nt working....and i dnt mind it but she doesnt appreciate it ar all..i

She is not right. Did she hit you?next time she hit you, call the police to get police report. Then you are free. I heard someone married USC , USC hit her, she called the police for police report, they just married 6 month, she divorce then get 10 year gc directly due to abuse. I think your wife love you, worry lose you, so she check you everything. You need to let her know if she continue abuse you. You will leave her alone.you already get 10 year gc no one can kick you out USA.let her know this. She might become better.my husband treat me better than before now.

[zibra0000 2]

Thank you so much for your advice...but as you as immigrant comming different country not easy..and as immigrant people always give us the bad side automatically....eventhoug i been supporting her all this time....i think im gonna get over my fair nd get it done cuz its driving mr nutts i cant even have friend i cant even have my own money that im busting my butt for it....im really sorry for you to hear all this and thanks for all the support...

The fact that she is a citizen and you are not, means nothing. Don't let her hold anything over you for that. She has no power over the situation. You need to do what is right for you and if leaving her and filing for divorce is it, then you need to do that. She is holding the power over you because you are letting her.