BethandBilly

I think he did think twice and gave her wife another chance. Also are you sure that no bf would allow their gf to marry someone so they could get something out of it? Lol. I dont know what world you live in but these things really happens and theres a lot of women who would stop at nothing to get what they wants. These women plays the emotions of their victims and i believe the op is so inlove with his wife that he couldnt decide what to do even when he knows the right thing to do hence he is here asking for opinions.

I agree with this. I am sorry. I really think the best thing is to return to Italy where the child will have citizenship and the mother can work.
I do not know of any path to citizenship or permanent residency that are available to your friend.

OP, besides sending evidence to USCIS/ICE, send a snail mail letter with all information on her and evidence to the US Embassy in Manila. They have fraud prevention unit and can add the evidence to her file and this way you can stop the "real love of her life" making it to the US if/when she files for him.

I agree with the consensus on here to notify USCIS, ICE, etc immediately and file for divorce. Do not live with this woman another day! As to the futility of expecting ICE to get her deported, that is really not the main issue. If she cannot adjust status but remains here illegally, under the radar, that effectively kills the I-864 and that is what is most important for the USC! In addition, being here illegally will not afford her the opportunity to get her boyfriend or her extended family here either. So don't be focused on deportation, just get that ROC de-railed! Good luck!

So sorry to read about your story.. Your wife certainly has to learn her lessons the HARD WAY! ACT NOW! before she gets another opportunity to make-up some crazy ideas against you.

I think in reality she only have two options: either go back to the Philippines voluntarily or the other option is she'll get deported which is more shameful. I believe this is marriage Fraud.

Oh. true---you are right there. Really I am going to take this action for her sake, not mine. This will be the biggest gift I can offer---to send her home, and release her from the misery of life in the USA, and return her the better quality of life she came from. I am trying to be selfless.

I see a very likely scenario where once I meet with ICE/USCIS, provide the evidence, show her the piles of fraud evidence submitted, and make it clear that I am not going to support her petition to remove conditions, she will not take on trying to file alone. She fears confrontation regarding any wrongdoing on her part, and she is not a persistent and optimistic person. She always believes the worst case scenario is what she will be faced with, and lacks confidence in herself. I know things could go much different than I am hoping, however I think an offer to pay for her flight home, and an offer to provide temporary support, on condition he returns, will be a feasible outcome.
But I am not naive----I will protect myself from possible VAWA claims as much as possible, and assume she will pursue ROC regardless.
I am just looking for ideas that will limit her options, and ideas to convince her that returning home is her best option.

Sure. I was married to my high school sweet heart for 8 years....she was unfaithful...We owned 2 homes, 2 vehicles and had 2 children together....10 months later, she wanted to get remarried.....My sister married her husband after 3 weeks, and after 27 years of marriage and 7 children and several grandchildren later...they are still happily married, and both are very devote Catholics. Either you keep your vows or you don't.

I am so sorry for you situation....I've been there...I do know. And the best thing to do is get it over with. Even having to give up on someone you love, means you'll be better off in a very short run...Its pretty clear as soon as she is legally able to bring her Boyfriend here herself, she will.
I've been DIV 4 times; 2 of them wanted to get remarried? Two for being unfaithful, two went to rehad twice each!!
And when/if someones says "oh you should have known."....blah blah blah...just like this woman, in any culture and country, Women will lie lie lie....That is all she did to you from the very beginning. So don't feel alone, and your not the only one this has ever happen to. Of most of the friends and relatives I've known in my lifetime, its usually been the woman cheating....they can do it with a straight face, lie to your face, walk away and do it again and again.
Like in "THE MASK" movie.....she is always looking for the BBD...thats the bigger better deal.....when they someday realize they had it once and let it go....don't take them back either; if they aren't mature enough to be faithful and a good wife...You'll find one when you get rid of this one....!! Dont worry...It will pass.

And the point of your biblical quote is?

And the point of your biblical quote is?

Hi Dan and Rheamy -I just want to share my thought here - no bad intentions but merely sharing my thought ok? Anyway, here's my thought - i agree that the OP shouldn't prey himself over negative emotion. It will just consume his well being and sanity. But I do not agree to just letting it go. The OP should do something if not to stop, atleast to prevent further fraud his wife may cause in future time. I don't just want to let karma do the job on that we must first do. I am not sure whats the impact in reporting to the ICE, but I think he really should. If everyone just let it go, marriage and / or visa fraud will just go on and on.

And the point of your biblical quote is?

I met my fiance online 11 years ago. It took me until February of 2012 to be able to work up the courage to go visit him. And I did and my entire life changed that weekend. I've seen him every 20-25 days since then. But I think if I would have to met him sooner, (besides being stupidly young and naive) it wouldn't have been as amazing as it is now.
I feel bad for the OP. It really sucks that he has wasted time, energy, money and emotions on this. I hope and pray that you are able to deal with this and get out of what seems like a dead ended marriage. Good luck and best wishes

First a mild correction. There are a few ways to ROC and the main ones are:
1. with your spouse
2. without your spouse due to divorce (and good faith marriage)
3. without your spouse due to abuse (and good faith marriage)
From your post you won't be doing #1, #3 is harder than #2 so most people pick #2. Here's where your assumption is wrong about #2. She doesn't have to file with the divorce decree. She will get an RFE for the decree and she will have 86 days to respond. If she doesn't respond she goes before an immigration judge and she'll tell him/her she's waiting for the decree and the judge will order that they wait to adjudicate the ROC when the decree is received... so. Waiting doesn't help you or hurt her.
I personally suggest you:
1. File your report with ICE, USCIS and all of that BEFORE alerting her to the divorce
2. Remove her name from everything you can. Make sure she has no access to your bank accounts or financial records. Make sure you hide any important financial and personal documents (safety deposit box). Protect yourself and your possessions both from theft and destruction.
3. Make sure you know when she's going to be served and NEVER be alone with her after that point. While she doesn't need an abuse claim to ROC she could (as others have) try and use this as a reason to have you evicted from your house until the divorce is final or whatever. The longer you stay married the more claims to your "stuff" she has.
4. As your divorce lawyer about having her kicked out. If she doesn't have her own source of income sometimes they will order YOU out because you have money to support the household. Friend of mine really go screwed over. Still had to pay all the household bills and medical insurance and all of that until the divorce was final.

I knew my wife almost ten years. I found out she lied every day for the last 2 years of our relationship. Anyone can get scammed. Get off your high horse please.
I still wonder about the face of her true love when she told him she was pregnant... from me. Kind of pathetic really. A sociopathic liar will lie to everyone (friends, family, lover, authorties) with little to no remorse. Just very selfishly doing things only for herself.

Honestly? I don't have sympathy for people who meet someone online and then in real life all of two times before they get married (all within a six month time frame) and then find out they've been scammed. I've been apart from my husband now for 14 months and we STILL have to complete NVC and the 601. I can't even tell you how hard it is to see people get approved and complete their journey in 4 months time when I have a REAL relationship, met him in REAL life and am not getting SCAMMED. So sue me for being so "judgmental" when this process is ANYTHING but fair.

I'll never understand why USCIS approves petitions for people who meet online and then in real life all of two times before getting married... but then when someone like me (who LIVED with my husband, WORKED with my husband, and was PREGNANT with his child) drives 400 miles in one day to marry him while he's detained in immigration jail, USCIS thinks I have a f***ing fake marriage and takes twice the amount of time to approve my petition. This sh!t pisses me off so much.

Yes you're 100% correct. I reported my ex and all ICE said was they will add her to the list. Even the ICE OFficer said unless she breaks a law that they have about 1.5 million illegals that are on criminals ahead of her. Great advice you gave. But I would file a complaint just to start the process...

Gowon are you taking about the law in your home Country right? In AMERICA He doesn't need an eviction order to kick his wife #### from his house,and vice versa.
Several people that i advised to call the cops they called , and the cops waited 1 hour until the individual took the stuff. Its not a big deal. Including one person here from VJ last week called the cops and they went there and waited one hour until she took her clothes.

Go to the police station and ask one or two cops to go with you to your house and ask her to leave.The cops would take her out of your house,ask them the police report ok. Surprise her and then she won't have time to "prepare" a Vawa case.
I bet she will file I-751 based in Vawa, then before she gets the papers ready for Vawa you should take some action. Hide all documents regarding the marriage,let her kill herself trying to prove a bonafide marriage.Call ICE when she leaves, divorce and move on.Good luck

He has referenced it in his other posts before. That's as legit as it gets.

I think it is in everyone's best interest that people who have information about immigration fraud report it. I think it hurts our greater society to just say, "oh well, I can do nothing, so too bad." You CAN do something. You have proof of what appears to be a common immigration scam: keep old bf, marry American, then marry old bf at some point in the future and secure his place in the new country. I think the fact that on your wedding day, she posted a love note to her bf makes it very plain; it was an effort to build up confidence on a day that was difficult for the old relationship. That day should have been about your marriage, but instead it appears to have been a "trial" in the long term goal of this couple.
Of course, don't expect a miracle, and do expect to be in the dark about the investigation, but please make a report and let the professionals deal with it. You CAN do something, so please do it, for the greater good. We don't need people who prey on the good will of Americans in this country.
ICE may not deport right away, but this person has many hoops to jump through before she is really "here" in the US. Please make your report so the authorities can questions her when she continues her immigration process.

Darnell,
This case sounds suspiciously similar to my case. Weird.
I've submitted a mountain of evidence and received zero feedback from USCIS or ICE. Yet my wife filed VAWA and get an EAD by providing USCIS with a multitude of lies and using a non-profit religious group. Let the lover beware. Women will do anything, and I mean ANYTHING to come to the USA. It is a disgusting abuse of the immigration system.