Jewel-8

Just walk uphill

I hate my job because initially I signed up as a sex kitten, not a housewife.

I wondered why I didn't know that then I googled it and realised its arty and that's not my strong side - though I do like Bill Shakespeare.
More of a 'how to maintain your lawn mower' man.
Now to the question before us...
First rule of relationship break ups is that it's a very bad time to make decision coz one's mind is totally scrambled. I have decided that if my OH goes off with Jose the body building gardener (quote: man with 2 brains), I would move to Safety Harbor, Florida where I was before and where it takes a 400 yards walk to watch the dolphins, and rent a nice condo. I would let all the legalities of the deeayeveeohaaghhhsee-eee go through and visit the UK a couple of times and if, after 6 months, I was feeling like going back, then I would do a 2 week trip, find a house and buy it, and then return to Florida while it was all going through. Then I would ship my stuff direct to my new owned house in England. No rush and plenty of time to acclimatise
Thing is this - as they say in the Beautiful South song 'Rotterdam' - anywhere is Rotterdam alone. Landing back in England alone will be just as lonely and nasty and unsatisfactory as some extremist religious nut ridden hole in Montana.
I did 18 years on my own between marriages and when you are 40 and a Finance Director with a nice house and a Mercedes and you live near two big cities, life as a single man can be tolerable but not much better than tolerable coz the future is not clear and the present is unsettled. Gin got me through and I owe it a debt of gratitude coz I never got hooked.
So first thing is to realise your precarious emotional state and don't do ANYTHING irreversible. You are pregnant with your new life and it's going to take a while for it pop out so you can take a look and see if it's ugly.
So do what your heart tells you but make sure you don't burn your boats. Rent don't buy. Keep don't sell.
When you get tennis elbow it can be 2 years for it to heal - through that time you have to bear the pain and know that it will get better one day. No quick fixes but the only way through is to know that it does get better.
My first divorce wrecked me and I was thrown out at age 36 with 2 kids in favour of an 18 year old boy who lived with his mum and dad and had a pedal cycle with no lights. Now I look back and see it was the finest thing that ever happened to me as she is as thick as pig muck and I was living a dead life. I was with her 14 years and I can't remember any of it ! Your perceptions of relationships and the UK and the US will change a LOT over the next 10 years - so the only danger is running from one end of the ship to the other and losing time and money in between. So defensive mode now. Be super selfish for once and think ONLY of yourself and what you truly feel while realising that these feelings will change - so you need to have plan B available at all times.
I had a woman working for me that wanted to run to Fort William in Scotland even though she was a scouser. She had never been there. She was newly divorced and wanted to run. She got the Fort William paper delivered and made all sorts of plans. It's the wettest gloomiest place in the whole if Europe. She phoned me from Stranraer when she got lost while trying to get there. She never did get there. It's natural to want to run but 99.954321% of people who run, run somewhere else or back to the starting point.
Nope it's a time for visiting places and people and and lots of quiet reflection. We narcissists are good at reflections. Oh and don't forget the GIN but if ya get hooked baby - it's nobody else's fault - so it's ok for the occassional bad day.

Any bottle of Tequila that sells in the supermarket is sure to make you puke.

'Cheers' according to the authorative dictionary means ' Wow you are incredible !I can't express my thanks and deep gratitude enough. I was so lucky to find someone as wonderful and talented and hard woring as you'
English english, especially Yorkshire dialect is well known for having one word expressions to express either a sentence or even a full paragraph. For instance the Yorkshire word 'thoile' as in 'Can't thoile those shoes' means :
I have plenty of money but I really don't think this product is worth that much money so I can't bring myself to pay that price.
ps he owes me a pint for this.

Mine too =) High five!
Can you legally work with the EAD approval notice or must we wait another 30 effing days for the card to arrive in the mail before job searching?
This is especially touchy because my husband actually had a job offer dependent on the EAD, but I guess that's not really on the table anymore. I guess I don't really give a flying fox about the approval notice if it doesn't mean anything.
Anyway, forgive my snarky attitude but the "novelty" of immigration wore off a long freakin' time ago!

When you make a blog and put your deepest and darkest on there, people will sympathize, analyze, and pass judgment. That's not a bad thing...we all make judgments a million times a day, ranging from 'I don't like cottage cheese' to more heavy ones. By the very nature, your blog is inviting that speculation; you are allowing your own personal life to be a car wreck on the shoulder of the freeway that everyone passes by, shakes his/her head, and makes comment. I'd suggest you either decide what's more important; having readers and people who can empathize with you, or protecting the sanctity of your privacy in your relationship. You don't know what's going on in my relationship simply because I don't allow you in....so if you want the same, do the same.
Otherwise, don't be surprised if ppl feel your blog is a psychiatrist's wet dream.
In my past relationship, I felt the need to write in a 'blog' of sorts. I used a word document instead. Password encrypted, as well.
The thing is this, Melissa...I can empathize how incredibly frustrating and difficult it must be for you. When I was in the end stages of a past relationship, I felt completely alone, and really felt the need to unload on someone. But I didn't. You know why? Because talking to my friends or family about my partner would have been the worst thing possible....why? Because if we decided to work things out, they'd always remember what I said. They would always judge him. And on that off chance that we made it work, I had to think of protecting him, and protecting my own sanity from those same people throwing my own words in my face. We all have our own dealbreakers; what you think may be 'letting off steam' may make one of your confidants sick at the very sight of your fiance. So unfortunately, what I'm advising is for you to draw a line in the sand. You can't do the 'poor me this is what's going on' thing and then berate people afterward for having an opinion on it. And as much as it pains me to say so, you can't be all lovey lovey with your fiance one minute, then throw him under the bus and betray his confidence the next. Many people here thought he was a prat before we read the blog, but now think even less of him now. And you only have yourself to blame for that.
Basically, resolve the situation yourself, or remove yourself from it. But don't treat your support system as a yo-yo.
Good luck.

If this gets locked, I'm taking it over to Melissa's blog. +1 this post if you're with me.

I hate that too! However, I love people that reply to me and bold the section I posted that they are referring to.

They may have decided your application didn't require an interview at your local office. In a week you might receive another email saying it's being processed at a USCIS office. That just means it arrived in CA safely.

1) The case is 30 days beyond timelines posted on USCIS website
2) RFE has been issued but there is confusion over it
3) Interviews at embassies have gone horribly wrong and they won't tell you what's going on
4) Immigration Officers have said inappropriate things regarding your case