Nina~

RKK, I have been reading your posts for a while now but I never really felt the need to reply because you are already getting wonderful advice from everyone else here. As a 3rd person, who has heard only your side of the story, here are the Red Flags I have observed so far:
1) You felt like he pushed you towards a commitment too fast and you felt uneasy about that. For crying out loud, he had to ask you 30 times before you said yes!!!! As a woman, you need to learn to trust your intuitions. If you have a gut feeling that something is not right, don't try to explain it away. You have no regrets now, but remember that you are still in the honeymoon phase. Of course everything is hunky dory when you go to visit him because you guys are going to be on your best behavior because it is another mini-honeymoon. And I strongly believe that this is not cultural. My Indian parents dated for 11 years before they got married, and this was back in the 70's. I know several Indian people who dated for many many years or had extended engagements and did not rush into marriage just because their parents approved and the stars aligned the right way.
2) You feel like he is too clingy and that makes you feel uncomfortable. Again, listen to your gut.
3)He holds grudges. This means that your fights never get resolved. It just gets buried till the next big fight for it to rear it's ugly head. Big no no.
4) He feels like he is being enslaved. This is a very dangerous feeling because whether his feelings are justified or not, he will eventually try to break free from his "enslavement". His feelings might not seem logical to you, but those are his feelings and they are quite real to him.
5) "But he loves me and treats me better than anyone else has in the past!" As a previous poster mentioned, love is not enough to hold a relationship together. The person who coined the phrase "love conquers all" needs to have their head examined.
6) He uses guilt to get his way with you. This is extremely manipulative, and normal people do not do things like that.
7) He has no qualms about changing the rules of the game whenever it suits him. This is called Bait & Switch, and I don't see how you can trust a person like that. Keep in mind, people change and grow as they become older & wiser. But it is a serious red flag where he will tell you one thing and change his mind a few days/months later when he decides that it is not in HIS (not yours & not both of you as a couple, but only his) best interests. I remember you commenting in your previous thread about his parents visiting that he agreed to you at first knowing that he can get you to change your mind after the wedding. Again, this is super manipulative.
8) He gets depressed & cries when his friends remind him that he got no dowry from your family. Seriously.. yuck. Read between the lines, he is marrying up and makes no balls about it. On top of that, he gets sad that he is not getting more out of this marriage?
9) Entitlement issues. I dont understand this.. You owe his family a car because your dad bought you one, and now he needs to get his family one to help them to keep up with the Jones? I honestly can't believe a grown adult man would say something like this to his wife. You owe him NOTHING. Even if he had to sell his left kidney to be with you, it does not entitle him to send you into more debt. As someone who has been paying student loans for 3 years now and still have not made a dent, I can tell you that you will end up resenting him for this later on. Trust me RKK, my loans are not nearly as bad as yours but it is extremely frustrating to see the balance inching down at a snail's pace.
10) ME ME ME ME ME: This whole saga seems like how it is always about his ego & his need to help his family rather than your needs or even his parents needs (unless they are secretly demanding he does all this behind your back).
These are just a couple of points I see aside from the most obvious things that everyone else has mentioned. Only you can decide how much you will put up. His family & friends might tell you how lucky you are to marry him, but remember only you get to see a side of him that nobody else does. Only you can decide what is best for you in the long run.
Edited for Grammar.

You have bigger problems in your marriage than immigration when your spouse decides to leave without discussing it with you first.

You have bigger problems in your marriage than immigration when your spouse decides to leave without discussing it with you first.

You have bigger problems in your marriage than immigration when your spouse decides to leave without discussing it with you first.

You have bigger problems in your marriage than immigration when your spouse decides to leave without discussing it with you first.

You have bigger problems in your marriage than immigration when your spouse decides to leave without discussing it with you first.

You have bigger problems in your marriage than immigration when your spouse decides to leave without discussing it with you first.

You have bigger problems in your marriage than immigration when your spouse decides to leave without discussing it with you first.

You have bigger problems in your marriage than immigration when your spouse decides to leave without discussing it with you first.

You have bigger problems in your marriage than immigration when your spouse decides to leave without discussing it with you first.

Law enforcement in Dubai is a joke. Here is another article of a man being jailed for filming an assault.
http://www.7daysindubai.com/Man-arrested-putting-assault-clip-YouTube-says/story-19531429-detail/story.html

hey man, you're wide open..

Seriously. Ann Coulter says people should go to prison for wearing a hijab.
And yet we're supposed to take her seriously?
Please.

Oh yes, because people with college degrees and bright prospects never commit crimes or do harm to society.
There's nothing conservatives love more than touting America in it's prime as a rags to rich, make your own way sort of society. Whether it's true or not is irrelevant, but it would be highly hypocritical of them to espouse such views as Ann Coulter [aka Satan's most epic shart] graced us with above.

if we're concerned about the quality of character in america, anne coulter should be on the first boat back to the great pacific garbage patch she slithered out of..

i have zero respect for anyone who touts anne coulter.
and i stopped reading at "because we were running short on single mothers".
bunch of whiners.

Bullshite. If they have fancy college degrees from third world countries, we won't recognize those degrees and offer them bright prospects as cab drivers. Welcome to America!
Ann Coulter. Pfft.

Says the guy who lets his ####### do the typing.

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Yep
So is punctuation.

I have never posted in here, so I thought it was about time I did.
All along, I've been keeping a secret from you. I'm not really a woman who married (and then split from) a British man. I'm actually a 50-year-old dude named Chad. My fiancee's name is Verinka. I thought it was about time to out myself after six long years of keeping my secret.
I'd also like to take the opportunity to post another Latin poem, since the last one resonated so well. I dedicate it to VJ, and I think it sums up how I feel about this place, this veritable Hotel California of internet fora:
Odi et amo. Quare id faciam fortasse requiris.
Nescio, sed fieri sentio, et excrucior.
And with that, I bid you good day. I said, GOOD DAY!

####### is wrong with you? Good Lord you are a strange man.

I have removed a number of posts.
Admin action will be taken if further derogatory posts and bickering continue.

Not too sensitive at all. If anything, it makes me grateful that the men in my life are as respectful as they are. I chose wisely.