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We had a wedding party and Wael was still put in AP. Makes NO difference.

It's super hard... if I had a dollar for every tear I shed in a cab, airport waiting room, shuttle bus, etc. when I was leaving Egypt I'd be a rich woman. But honestly, even with all of those tears, it was nothing compared to the heart-wrenching goodbye that my husband had with his family (sisters, nieces, brothers) when he was finally leaving with me. Because they all knew that he wouldn't be seeing them again for at least a few years (it's been three years now, and not sure yet when we will be able to go back to visit definitively. They were crying, then I was crying, then my daughter was crying because I was crying, and I felt like such a heel for taking him away from his family which obviously loved him so much. I think sometimes we forget that as much as it pains us to live away from our husbands/wives during the immigration process, it is also painful for them to move away from their families.

It's super hard... if I had a dollar for every tear I shed in a cab, airport waiting room, shuttle bus, etc. when I was leaving Egypt I'd be a rich woman. But honestly, even with all of those tears, it was nothing compared to the heart-wrenching goodbye that my husband had with his family (sisters, nieces, brothers) when he was finally leaving with me. Because they all knew that he wouldn't be seeing them again for at least a few years (it's been three years now, and not sure yet when we will be able to go back to visit definitively. They were crying, then I was crying, then my daughter was crying because I was crying, and I felt like such a heel for taking him away from his family which obviously loved him so much. I think sometimes we forget that as much as it pains us to live away from our husbands/wives during the immigration process, it is also painful for them to move away from their families.

Please have no regrets, you loved very deeply and now you know how true and honest you are, and how there are a lot of bad people pretending to be doves. You're lucky you have no kids with him! If he has anything of his left at your place, give it to charity, or better yet, pitch it.

I say, the true test of the relationship is when lack of sleep comes in to the picture. Either from screaming kids at 2am or from working mad overtime to buy those new Pumas. When you're so tired, you're stumbling like a drunk and dinner hasn't been made- who's gonna do it? When the kid has a blowout in the middle of the night- who's going to clean it up?
I remember being all rainbows and unicorns and staying up half the night on MSN sending hearts and blushing smilies. When I think back to those days, I LOL. Especially when I look at the kitchen sink at all the damn dishes to be done, when I've been out working 14 hours and he's been watching movies on the HBO I pay for. Marriage is fun.

Are you kidding me? post in the MENA boards because we are familiar with that culture? the culture of what, wife-beating? i don't think mena would be any more helpful than the people here. unfortunately spousal abuse happens at every point on the globe.

A UK immigration official put his Pakistani wife on the no-fly list when she went home for a visit because he didn't want to be with her anymore... #######? http://www.reuters.com/article/2011/02/02/idUS256856829920110202
Immigration Officer Put Wife On Terrorist List To Get Rid Of Her
By Jetpacker at The Jetpacker
Wed Feb 2, 2011 10:30am EST
If you thought breaking up with someone via text message was harsh, wait until you hear about this.
There’s a story coming out of the United Kingdom about an immigration officer who put his wife on the terrorist list to get rid of her.
The guy was so sick and tired of his wife that when she flew back to Pakistan to visit her family, he covertly added her name to the Border Control’s list of suspected terrorists.
When she tried to return home to the UK, she was shocked to find that she wasn’t allowed to board the plane, and security refused to tell her why.
So the wife remained stuck in Pakistan… for THREE YEARS.
That’s right, it wasn’t until three years later that the truth finally came out during an interview for a promotion in which the husband was questioned about his wife being a terrorist.
That’s when he confessed to putting her on the No-Fly list to get rid of her. He was subsequently fired for gross misconduct and the wife was allowed to return to the UK to give him a good beating.

Are you kidding me? post in the MENA boards because we are familiar with that culture? the culture of what, wife-beating? i don't think mena would be any more helpful than the people here. unfortunately spousal abuse happens at every point on the globe.

Are you kidding me? post in the MENA boards because we are familiar with that culture? the culture of what, wife-beating? i don't think mena would be any more helpful than the people here. unfortunately spousal abuse happens at every point on the globe.

I came to this site knowing that i would always be respectful to anyone and everyone that was here. Never once would I judge someone for anything they discussed. I asked for help and I want to thank all of you that gave me advice, even the negative ones. But, in this case i must draw the line. Excuse me, but really I am nothing like you try to insinuate i am. When I first started talking with Mohammed, he did not have a photo of himself represented and I did not know he was 19. We started speaking as friends and he was my rock when he stuck by me through an abusive relationship. 3 months after we spoke I found out his age was 19 almost 20 and I did not believe it until he showed me his photo...he looked on the younger side but still looked older. He showed me his ID and sure enough he was 19. The maturity level he showed, I never would have guessed 19. Anyway...we continued as friends until March of 2010 and then we became more. I will be meeting him for the first time in a few days and if all goes well I will return in July to marry him. When this started, I had no intention of looking for or seeking out a younger man. I am not sure what has made you so bitter, but regardless of how you presented yourself to me....a person that you don't even know...I will accept what you say, but I will not respect you hurting people. My 22 year old fiance' is much more forgiving than me, and i will tell you he was very offended in what you said about two people who know the truth about the relationship. The most important thing is...my 22 year old fiance' shows more respect and more mentality in his little finger than you did with your hateful words. With that being said, I prefer to put "my fangs" into a loving person than a spiteful one such as yourself. Be an adult and try to see through something other than tunnel vision. There are many here with big age differences with the female being older, and i am sure they will agree that you have a right to your opinion, but act older than a "manchild" and respond in a more appropriate way.

If I had to pick one to compare it to it would have to be the one where you have to dig the flag out of the giant nose.

so right on. too often visas are seen as the end game. but it's really more like one of the physical challenges on double dare. you still have that big obstacle course to get through afterwards.

Are you kidding me? post in the MENA boards because we are familiar with that culture? the culture of what, wife-beating? i don't think mena would be any more helpful than the people here. unfortunately spousal abuse happens at every point on the globe.

Are you kidding me? post in the MENA boards because we are familiar with that culture? the culture of what, wife-beating? i don't think mena would be any more helpful than the people here. unfortunately spousal abuse happens at every point on the globe.

Frankly, nobody asked you what you thought. The question wasn't about what you as an American think about America. Nice, forward thinking analogy, though (women=cows). Brilliant.