Gemmie

Shirorisu, STOP POSTING MULTIPLE TIMES WITH QUESTIONS AND WORRISOME RAMBLINGS.
This thread was started by someone who is worried about something and she doesn't need your neurotic postings cluttering everything and making it seem worse than it is. You have Aspergers, she doesn't. She's looking at things broadly, you're examining every word under a microscope. And please stop yelling at everyone to 'stop telling people to tick 'yes' to the question' because NO ONE here has done that.
Angelheart, I think (and this is just me) it's OK for you to tick 'no' in your case. You've stated that it was a case of depression and self-harm that happened years ago, that you're 100% certain it will never occur again, and if you can get a doctor note to back that up, perfect. I interpret the question to ask if you have a mental disorder that will put you or others at risk, so if you feel you don't, then I would think it's fine to answer that way.

I never said you couldn't post in here, I said to stop posting multiple posts rambling on about your case. Why do you feel the need to make a point, then post again to make another point, then another post to freak out about how scared you are, etc. I brought up your Aspergers because your situation is completely different. You have a medical condition, the OP doesn't.
No one here hates you, lots of people have tried to help you in the past and you refused to listen. Instead you choose to ignore it and go on about something else that means you'll probably be inadmitted for anyway, and then go back to the original problem where you grossly over-exaggerate every dot made on any immigration form.

Shirorisu, STOP POSTING MULTIPLE TIMES WITH QUESTIONS AND WORRISOME RAMBLINGS.
This thread was started by someone who is worried about something and she doesn't need your neurotic postings cluttering everything and making it seem worse than it is. You have Aspergers, she doesn't. She's looking at things broadly, you're examining every word under a microscope. And please stop yelling at everyone to 'stop telling people to tick 'yes' to the question' because NO ONE here has done that.
Angelheart, I think (and this is just me) it's OK for you to tick 'no' in your case. You've stated that it was a case of depression and self-harm that happened years ago, that you're 100% certain it will never occur again, and if you can get a doctor note to back that up, perfect. I interpret the question to ask if you have a mental disorder that will put you or others at risk, so if you feel you don't, then I would think it's fine to answer that way.

I'll tell you what, either I've been hardened by being on the internet way too long, or that was an extremely impressive stretch in order to reach feeling insulted. To lighten the mood, here is a picture of T-Rex. He is scandalized by this thread.

Personally I preferred them merged. If I'm in the mood for OT chat, I like a mixture of things.
Right now I either have to choose between "YOU'RE A DIRTY LIBERAL" or "LOL..."

I might be wrong, this is just me. But I don't think people are going green-eyed monster because you got to spend time together in person often. I think the reason people bring it up is because you yourself often do the "They have THEIR NOA2, they have THEIR interview date, what about me" etc. It's just a way of saying 'they were lucky to get their next step through before you, but you've been lucky to see each other often whilst others haven't been able to' and putting things into perspective.
There was someone in my filing group that had her case lost TWICE by USCIS, so by the time we were getting our visas, she was still putting together another package to send. Then after going to a judge and being told that USCIS must come up with her NOA2 in 30 days and then having that be ignored, she finally gave up after 1.5 years of attempting the K1. Well I heard the other day that her husband has just been granted a visa to HER country, two years after they originally filed for the K1, and they're so happy to finally be able to be together. In a lot of ways, she gets green-eyed that me and my husband were together after 9 months of the K1 and didn't have to go through all that. But in other ways, I get green-eyed that there is a house and job waiting for him in her country, whilst I've been trying to get these things in America ever since I came. Ultimately, they've gone through a lot of pain to be together and I've gone through a lot of pain to make my own life in the US, but no one can say who has suffered more. It's all about give and take, and when you play the game of comparing yourself to others, whether it be about speed of the process, number of visits, ease of transition, etc... it's really a pointless game. My point is, people aren't being jealous of your time together in my view, of it they are it's just in response to your own jealousy about others process.
Try not to stress yourself too much with tying up the loose ends and preparing for the wedding. Julian will be home before you know it, and there will be another big obstacle you have to overcome, and I guess that happens throughout life.

I might be wrong, this is just me. But I don't think people are going green-eyed monster because you got to spend time together in person often. I think the reason people bring it up is because you yourself often do the "They have THEIR NOA2, they have THEIR interview date, what about me" etc. It's just a way of saying 'they were lucky to get their next step through before you, but you've been lucky to see each other often whilst others haven't been able to' and putting things into perspective.
There was someone in my filing group that had her case lost TWICE by USCIS, so by the time we were getting our visas, she was still putting together another package to send. Then after going to a judge and being told that USCIS must come up with her NOA2 in 30 days and then having that be ignored, she finally gave up after 1.5 years of attempting the K1. Well I heard the other day that her husband has just been granted a visa to HER country, two years after they originally filed for the K1, and they're so happy to finally be able to be together. In a lot of ways, she gets green-eyed that me and my husband were together after 9 months of the K1 and didn't have to go through all that. But in other ways, I get green-eyed that there is a house and job waiting for him in her country, whilst I've been trying to get these things in America ever since I came. Ultimately, they've gone through a lot of pain to be together and I've gone through a lot of pain to make my own life in the US, but no one can say who has suffered more. It's all about give and take, and when you play the game of comparing yourself to others, whether it be about speed of the process, number of visits, ease of transition, etc... it's really a pointless game. My point is, people aren't being jealous of your time together in my view, of it they are it's just in response to your own jealousy about others process.
Try not to stress yourself too much with tying up the loose ends and preparing for the wedding. Julian will be home before you know it, and there will be another big obstacle you have to overcome, and I guess that happens throughout life.

I might be wrong, this is just me. But I don't think people are going green-eyed monster because you got to spend time together in person often. I think the reason people bring it up is because you yourself often do the "They have THEIR NOA2, they have THEIR interview date, what about me" etc. It's just a way of saying 'they were lucky to get their next step through before you, but you've been lucky to see each other often whilst others haven't been able to' and putting things into perspective.
There was someone in my filing group that had her case lost TWICE by USCIS, so by the time we were getting our visas, she was still putting together another package to send. Then after going to a judge and being told that USCIS must come up with her NOA2 in 30 days and then having that be ignored, she finally gave up after 1.5 years of attempting the K1. Well I heard the other day that her husband has just been granted a visa to HER country, two years after they originally filed for the K1, and they're so happy to finally be able to be together. In a lot of ways, she gets green-eyed that me and my husband were together after 9 months of the K1 and didn't have to go through all that. But in other ways, I get green-eyed that there is a house and job waiting for him in her country, whilst I've been trying to get these things in America ever since I came. Ultimately, they've gone through a lot of pain to be together and I've gone through a lot of pain to make my own life in the US, but no one can say who has suffered more. It's all about give and take, and when you play the game of comparing yourself to others, whether it be about speed of the process, number of visits, ease of transition, etc... it's really a pointless game. My point is, people aren't being jealous of your time together in my view, of it they are it's just in response to your own jealousy about others process.
Try not to stress yourself too much with tying up the loose ends and preparing for the wedding. Julian will be home before you know it, and there will be another big obstacle you have to overcome, and I guess that happens throughout life.

I might be wrong, this is just me. But I don't think people are going green-eyed monster because you got to spend time together in person often. I think the reason people bring it up is because you yourself often do the "They have THEIR NOA2, they have THEIR interview date, what about me" etc. It's just a way of saying 'they were lucky to get their next step through before you, but you've been lucky to see each other often whilst others haven't been able to' and putting things into perspective.
There was someone in my filing group that had her case lost TWICE by USCIS, so by the time we were getting our visas, she was still putting together another package to send. Then after going to a judge and being told that USCIS must come up with her NOA2 in 30 days and then having that be ignored, she finally gave up after 1.5 years of attempting the K1. Well I heard the other day that her husband has just been granted a visa to HER country, two years after they originally filed for the K1, and they're so happy to finally be able to be together. In a lot of ways, she gets green-eyed that me and my husband were together after 9 months of the K1 and didn't have to go through all that. But in other ways, I get green-eyed that there is a house and job waiting for him in her country, whilst I've been trying to get these things in America ever since I came. Ultimately, they've gone through a lot of pain to be together and I've gone through a lot of pain to make my own life in the US, but no one can say who has suffered more. It's all about give and take, and when you play the game of comparing yourself to others, whether it be about speed of the process, number of visits, ease of transition, etc... it's really a pointless game. My point is, people aren't being jealous of your time together in my view, of it they are it's just in response to your own jealousy about others process.
Try not to stress yourself too much with tying up the loose ends and preparing for the wedding. Julian will be home before you know it, and there will be another big obstacle you have to overcome, and I guess that happens throughout life.

I might be wrong, this is just me. But I don't think people are going green-eyed monster because you got to spend time together in person often. I think the reason people bring it up is because you yourself often do the "They have THEIR NOA2, they have THEIR interview date, what about me" etc. It's just a way of saying 'they were lucky to get their next step through before you, but you've been lucky to see each other often whilst others haven't been able to' and putting things into perspective.
There was someone in my filing group that had her case lost TWICE by USCIS, so by the time we were getting our visas, she was still putting together another package to send. Then after going to a judge and being told that USCIS must come up with her NOA2 in 30 days and then having that be ignored, she finally gave up after 1.5 years of attempting the K1. Well I heard the other day that her husband has just been granted a visa to HER country, two years after they originally filed for the K1, and they're so happy to finally be able to be together. In a lot of ways, she gets green-eyed that me and my husband were together after 9 months of the K1 and didn't have to go through all that. But in other ways, I get green-eyed that there is a house and job waiting for him in her country, whilst I've been trying to get these things in America ever since I came. Ultimately, they've gone through a lot of pain to be together and I've gone through a lot of pain to make my own life in the US, but no one can say who has suffered more. It's all about give and take, and when you play the game of comparing yourself to others, whether it be about speed of the process, number of visits, ease of transition, etc... it's really a pointless game. My point is, people aren't being jealous of your time together in my view, of it they are it's just in response to your own jealousy about others process.
Try not to stress yourself too much with tying up the loose ends and preparing for the wedding. Julian will be home before you know it, and there will be another big obstacle you have to overcome, and I guess that happens throughout life.

I might be wrong, this is just me. But I don't think people are going green-eyed monster because you got to spend time together in person often. I think the reason people bring it up is because you yourself often do the "They have THEIR NOA2, they have THEIR interview date, what about me" etc. It's just a way of saying 'they were lucky to get their next step through before you, but you've been lucky to see each other often whilst others haven't been able to' and putting things into perspective.
There was someone in my filing group that had her case lost TWICE by USCIS, so by the time we were getting our visas, she was still putting together another package to send. Then after going to a judge and being told that USCIS must come up with her NOA2 in 30 days and then having that be ignored, she finally gave up after 1.5 years of attempting the K1. Well I heard the other day that her husband has just been granted a visa to HER country, two years after they originally filed for the K1, and they're so happy to finally be able to be together. In a lot of ways, she gets green-eyed that me and my husband were together after 9 months of the K1 and didn't have to go through all that. But in other ways, I get green-eyed that there is a house and job waiting for him in her country, whilst I've been trying to get these things in America ever since I came. Ultimately, they've gone through a lot of pain to be together and I've gone through a lot of pain to make my own life in the US, but no one can say who has suffered more. It's all about give and take, and when you play the game of comparing yourself to others, whether it be about speed of the process, number of visits, ease of transition, etc... it's really a pointless game. My point is, people aren't being jealous of your time together in my view, of it they are it's just in response to your own jealousy about others process.
Try not to stress yourself too much with tying up the loose ends and preparing for the wedding. Julian will be home before you know it, and there will be another big obstacle you have to overcome, and I guess that happens throughout life.

I might be wrong, this is just me. But I don't think people are going green-eyed monster because you got to spend time together in person often. I think the reason people bring it up is because you yourself often do the "They have THEIR NOA2, they have THEIR interview date, what about me" etc. It's just a way of saying 'they were lucky to get their next step through before you, but you've been lucky to see each other often whilst others haven't been able to' and putting things into perspective.
There was someone in my filing group that had her case lost TWICE by USCIS, so by the time we were getting our visas, she was still putting together another package to send. Then after going to a judge and being told that USCIS must come up with her NOA2 in 30 days and then having that be ignored, she finally gave up after 1.5 years of attempting the K1. Well I heard the other day that her husband has just been granted a visa to HER country, two years after they originally filed for the K1, and they're so happy to finally be able to be together. In a lot of ways, she gets green-eyed that me and my husband were together after 9 months of the K1 and didn't have to go through all that. But in other ways, I get green-eyed that there is a house and job waiting for him in her country, whilst I've been trying to get these things in America ever since I came. Ultimately, they've gone through a lot of pain to be together and I've gone through a lot of pain to make my own life in the US, but no one can say who has suffered more. It's all about give and take, and when you play the game of comparing yourself to others, whether it be about speed of the process, number of visits, ease of transition, etc... it's really a pointless game. My point is, people aren't being jealous of your time together in my view, of it they are it's just in response to your own jealousy about others process.
Try not to stress yourself too much with tying up the loose ends and preparing for the wedding. Julian will be home before you know it, and there will be another big obstacle you have to overcome, and I guess that happens throughout life.

I might be wrong, this is just me. But I don't think people are going green-eyed monster because you got to spend time together in person often. I think the reason people bring it up is because you yourself often do the "They have THEIR NOA2, they have THEIR interview date, what about me" etc. It's just a way of saying 'they were lucky to get their next step through before you, but you've been lucky to see each other often whilst others haven't been able to' and putting things into perspective.
There was someone in my filing group that had her case lost TWICE by USCIS, so by the time we were getting our visas, she was still putting together another package to send. Then after going to a judge and being told that USCIS must come up with her NOA2 in 30 days and then having that be ignored, she finally gave up after 1.5 years of attempting the K1. Well I heard the other day that her husband has just been granted a visa to HER country, two years after they originally filed for the K1, and they're so happy to finally be able to be together. In a lot of ways, she gets green-eyed that me and my husband were together after 9 months of the K1 and didn't have to go through all that. But in other ways, I get green-eyed that there is a house and job waiting for him in her country, whilst I've been trying to get these things in America ever since I came. Ultimately, they've gone through a lot of pain to be together and I've gone through a lot of pain to make my own life in the US, but no one can say who has suffered more. It's all about give and take, and when you play the game of comparing yourself to others, whether it be about speed of the process, number of visits, ease of transition, etc... it's really a pointless game. My point is, people aren't being jealous of your time together in my view, of it they are it's just in response to your own jealousy about others process.
Try not to stress yourself too much with tying up the loose ends and preparing for the wedding. Julian will be home before you know it, and there will be another big obstacle you have to overcome, and I guess that happens throughout life.

If they receive an interview date now or within the next few days, Julian will only attribute that to his call to the MP. Nevermind that it was on schedule anyway.

I don't see any problem with Julian trying everything he can to speed up his process, if he actually believes it will do something. Personally, I don't think it will put him to the back of the queue but I don't think he'll get it any faster either. Hence why you hear of celebrities that are turned down due to visa laws, and having to go back to their country until their visa is processed under normal processing times. But the point is, if he wants to give it a shot, then I don't see why not.
The problem that most are having, Melissa, is that you're constantly whining that you've been waiting so long, and you're sick of it already. Julian saying that 'I've been waiting over a year already, this is MY bloody time' and claiming that they should be processing things 'in a timely matter' comes across as a child stamping their feet. They receive THOUSANDS of cases and process them as quickly as possible. They even try to work with your travel dates even though you're told repeatedly not to book anything until the visa is in hand. I don't know why he's thinking the workers at the Embassy are just sitting around reading magazines. At my interview, it was busy as he1l, they literally approved hundreds of visas because they got to me. I had a 5 hour wait at the Embassy. Is Julian going to get his MP to speed up that wait too?
I've seen you quite a few times comparing your case to others', asking why theirs have been through faster than yours. But whenever someone tries to point out that your case is in safe hands and is in great processing speed in comparison to their own, you're quick to jump up with "well this is MY case, so if I want to complain about it, then I will". If you don't want people who have been waiting longer than you to drone on about their own case and tell you how lucky you've been, then stop doing it yourself. It's so easy to compare yourself with others in this process and feel that you're being left behind, but in reality, you're not. Everyone in my filing thread had a moment where they wondered if they would ever get their approval, and now they're all married, with green cards, and adjusting to American life.

I don't see any problem with Julian trying everything he can to speed up his process, if he actually believes it will do something. Personally, I don't think it will put him to the back of the queue but I don't think he'll get it any faster either. Hence why you hear of celebrities that are turned down due to visa laws, and having to go back to their country until their visa is processed under normal processing times. But the point is, if he wants to give it a shot, then I don't see why not.
The problem that most are having, Melissa, is that you're constantly whining that you've been waiting so long, and you're sick of it already. Julian saying that 'I've been waiting over a year already, this is MY bloody time' and claiming that they should be processing things 'in a timely matter' comes across as a child stamping their feet. They receive THOUSANDS of cases and process them as quickly as possible. They even try to work with your travel dates even though you're told repeatedly not to book anything until the visa is in hand. I don't know why he's thinking the workers at the Embassy are just sitting around reading magazines. At my interview, it was busy as he1l, they literally approved hundreds of visas because they got to me. I had a 5 hour wait at the Embassy. Is Julian going to get his MP to speed up that wait too?
I've seen you quite a few times comparing your case to others', asking why theirs have been through faster than yours. But whenever someone tries to point out that your case is in safe hands and is in great processing speed in comparison to their own, you're quick to jump up with "well this is MY case, so if I want to complain about it, then I will". If you don't want people who have been waiting longer than you to drone on about their own case and tell you how lucky you've been, then stop doing it yourself. It's so easy to compare yourself with others in this process and feel that you're being left behind, but in reality, you're not. Everyone in my filing thread had a moment where they wondered if they would ever get their approval, and now they're all married, with green cards, and adjusting to American life.

I don't see any problem with Julian trying everything he can to speed up his process, if he actually believes it will do something. Personally, I don't think it will put him to the back of the queue but I don't think he'll get it any faster either. Hence why you hear of celebrities that are turned down due to visa laws, and having to go back to their country until their visa is processed under normal processing times. But the point is, if he wants to give it a shot, then I don't see why not.
The problem that most are having, Melissa, is that you're constantly whining that you've been waiting so long, and you're sick of it already. Julian saying that 'I've been waiting over a year already, this is MY bloody time' and claiming that they should be processing things 'in a timely matter' comes across as a child stamping their feet. They receive THOUSANDS of cases and process them as quickly as possible. They even try to work with your travel dates even though you're told repeatedly not to book anything until the visa is in hand. I don't know why he's thinking the workers at the Embassy are just sitting around reading magazines. At my interview, it was busy as he1l, they literally approved hundreds of visas because they got to me. I had a 5 hour wait at the Embassy. Is Julian going to get his MP to speed up that wait too?
I've seen you quite a few times comparing your case to others', asking why theirs have been through faster than yours. But whenever someone tries to point out that your case is in safe hands and is in great processing speed in comparison to their own, you're quick to jump up with "well this is MY case, so if I want to complain about it, then I will". If you don't want people who have been waiting longer than you to drone on about their own case and tell you how lucky you've been, then stop doing it yourself. It's so easy to compare yourself with others in this process and feel that you're being left behind, but in reality, you're not. Everyone in my filing thread had a moment where they wondered if they would ever get their approval, and now they're all married, with green cards, and adjusting to American life.

I don't see any problem with Julian trying everything he can to speed up his process, if he actually believes it will do something. Personally, I don't think it will put him to the back of the queue but I don't think he'll get it any faster either. Hence why you hear of celebrities that are turned down due to visa laws, and having to go back to their country until their visa is processed under normal processing times. But the point is, if he wants to give it a shot, then I don't see why not.
The problem that most are having, Melissa, is that you're constantly whining that you've been waiting so long, and you're sick of it already. Julian saying that 'I've been waiting over a year already, this is MY bloody time' and claiming that they should be processing things 'in a timely matter' comes across as a child stamping their feet. They receive THOUSANDS of cases and process them as quickly as possible. They even try to work with your travel dates even though you're told repeatedly not to book anything until the visa is in hand. I don't know why he's thinking the workers at the Embassy are just sitting around reading magazines. At my interview, it was busy as he1l, they literally approved hundreds of visas because they got to me. I had a 5 hour wait at the Embassy. Is Julian going to get his MP to speed up that wait too?
I've seen you quite a few times comparing your case to others', asking why theirs have been through faster than yours. But whenever someone tries to point out that your case is in safe hands and is in great processing speed in comparison to their own, you're quick to jump up with "well this is MY case, so if I want to complain about it, then I will". If you don't want people who have been waiting longer than you to drone on about their own case and tell you how lucky you've been, then stop doing it yourself. It's so easy to compare yourself with others in this process and feel that you're being left behind, but in reality, you're not. Everyone in my filing thread had a moment where they wondered if they would ever get their approval, and now they're all married, with green cards, and adjusting to American life.

If they receive an interview date now or within the next few days, Julian will only attribute that to his call to the MP. Nevermind that it was on schedule anyway.

If they receive an interview date now or within the next few days, Julian will only attribute that to his call to the MP. Nevermind that it was on schedule anyway.

As much as I don't like the idea of abortion, I have to say I could never advocate banning it.

I assumed it meant "people that don't have a car at all" since I've heard those comments from them as well.

Melissa, I don't know what happened in the other thread in Site Updates that got closed because post/s were deleted. I posted those examples of the things Julian has said because you didn't believe that he could possibly say something like that. I hate to break it to you, but you DO know he can say things like that, because he's made several antagonizing posts in topics that you have been involved in (and you even spent a while apologizing on his behalf) and they were towards Americans, Jamaicans, Russians etc. If you need proof of that, I can find those too.
If you don't like that people are saying these horrible things about your relationship, then ignore it. Do you know what I would do if someone told me that I'm with my husband for selfish gain? Let them think what they like, because it doesn't affect me or my relationship. I know why I'm in this. Don't come in here once the topic has been closed just to open up another can of worms. If you were really upset that Julian has said certain things, why not log off VJ and speak to him directly about it? The moment someone else agrees with you and says that Julian has been saying horrible things for a long time, you jump to his defense and claim that no one here knows him and calling us condescending b!tches.
Comparing how much your situation is worse than others is a losing battle, as someone else pointed out. In the time your entire process has taken until now, we hadn't even gotten the NOA2 yet. You're lucky enough to see Julian often while many people either don't have the money to do so, or have too many ties meaning they can't leave. You're lucky enough to have bought a 4/5/whatever bedroom house that is to your liking while many people are either living with in-laws trying to save up the money or living paycheck to paycheck after the visa process has cleared their bank accounts. You're lucky enough to have the option of working full/part time, being a housewife, being a mother, whatever you want because you're financially secure enough to choose; while many people are dying for their EAD so they can work any job they can to pull money. Try focusing on those things whenever you feel the need to whine about how many hurdles you've had to overcome. And by the way, I don't say that out of jealousy. I say that because it's offensive to see you bring up your horrible process and compare it to others when you've been extremely lucky.
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Please don't close this topic, it isn't involving language, sexual tone, racism, sexism, etc. There's not even any bullying going on here. It's no different to any other topic where there's a different in viewpoint.

This is what someone on Facebook (a friend of my MIL) has posted in response to someone asking what was solved by America going to war in Iraq:
Most of that isn't relevant to the terrorism/9/11, but I am so fed up with right-wing fear and extremism.

I'm pleased with the idea.
BUT I still think moderators need to be less trigger-happy.