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10 hours ago, Mrs. P said:

This is very helpful thanks for sharing!

Absolutely!🙌

Hi everyone! 

I filed AOS June 23rd (I am in Michigan, so maybe that is part of the reason?) and I got the EAD approval notice today! 

It was under the documents section in my USCIS account, the case status has NOT changed yet, though!

I had just read online, I believe yesterday on Reddit *and* on this app called Lawfully that USCIS has been approving applications and adding the documents under the "documents section" but they only update the actual case status a week or so later.

So - if any of you are waiting for your approvals, I thought I'd share this tip that I've found with you and I hope it helps even one person! ❤️

Ps: I've attached a screenshot of what it looks like in my own account in case anyone needs to see. 

20 hours ago, Timona said:

 

 

Did you attach I-130 receipt to I-485 package?

Soooo - the interview has already been waived! WOW! This whole case has been processing for less than a month! 

How can this be? Any ideas?!

13 minutes ago, Timona said:

 

 

Did you attach I-130 receipt to I-485 package?

Yes, I did! ❤️

31 minutes ago, Timona said:

Did you pay for I-130 separately? 

Total is supposed to be $1670, IIRC 

Yes, paid for the i-130 separately, my husband filed it online and it was $530 I believe. So it's all paid for, that's why I'm very confused about the rejection letter....

11 minutes ago, Timona said:

1. How much was your total check? 

2. Did your bank remit all the money to USCIS? 

 

That's why I advocate for money orders 

The check was for $1225 total, i.e. for the adjustment of status and biometrics. 

We just checked the transactions in the bank account app right now and the check was cashed 07/10/2023, it all went through.

So we are confused as to why we got this rejection notice which is dated 07/11/2023, the day AFTER they cashed the check... So confusing!

This rejection notice essentially says that this center cannot process the information or correspondence that we sent and that they'll send it all back to us. But on July 21, I was sent a notice that I'm scheduled for biometrics! 

How can this be?

I don't understand what's happening, so anyone's help is greatly appreciated! ❤️🙏

18 minutes ago, Rocio0010 said:

Where do you live?

 

where did you send your package?

I am in Michigan and I sent it to the Elgin Lockbox in Illinois. On the USCIS website, they said that if you live in MI, to send it to the Elgin Lockbox in IL.

I think that Elgin sent this notice because USCIS transferred our case to NBC?

On the biometrics appointment dated 07/21/2023, it said that the center is now NBC -- so maybe that's why?

Thank you!

Hi everyone!

USCIS cashed the check for the adjustment of status and biometrics fees on the 10th or 11th of July - and they scheduled me 2 days ago for biometrics on 08/08/2023. 

Today I checked the mail and I received a rejection notice from the USCIS office where I applied -- I don't understand why they sent the rejection notice and the check if they scheduled me for biometrics? Has this happened to anyone else?

Looking forward to your answers, thank you.

45 minutes ago, bdglen said:

If it's not too personal a question, could you elaborate on what the fighting has been about specifically. Is he cheating on you? IS he stealing money from a joint account? sometimes the specifics of a situation can really change the necessary actions.  Again, respond only if you feel comfortable.

 

Last year I got pregnant right after we got married, I wanted to keep the baby, he kept saying that we can't afford it and that we are apart, so I should have an abortion. It was an extremely hard decision for me because I wanted to keep it, he kept saying that he'll be "a deadbeat dad" (actual quote from him). So now I'm realizing he was letting me know he won't be there if that's the line of reasoning he seemingly went down on. So, I felt pressured to have an abortion...

A couple nights ago I confessed about how I'm still hurting mentally from that whole experience last year, and somehow, I don't remember exactly how it all happened because it was a heated argument... he said something along the lines of that his ex girlfriend didn't have an abortion and she simply drank and smoked her baby to death, and that I should *somehow* feel better for doing it the humane way. **But I didn't want to have an abortion AT ALL**. 

I feel like my heart has been ripped in half ever since the abortion, and he simply refuses to understand, and I should understand that he will likely never change.

This is why we argued - it's this discussion and seemingly every discussion that turns into an argument. Every day...

13 minutes ago, bdglen said:

Maybe I'm old school too, or maybe it's because I'm gay and married to another man, but my attitude is " happens" sometimes our emotions outpace our heart and brain. If a few lousy words spoken in a moment of passion are enough for you to throw it all away, maybe you never really had it in the first place. If you don't want to fight to keep it, it's not really worth keeping.

I'll be honest -- we've been arguing every day ever since I've posted this. I don't know that I haven't fought for this love, I'd say that I definitely did, but it's really tiring that I have come to a point to need to record him due to the lies... Simply to show I'm not going crazy, he's just straight up lying to me and gaslighting me.

I don't know how I can keep fighting for this... I can barely get out of bed from how depressed it gets me😔

4 hours ago, Crazy Cat said:

You can leave any time you want.  There are no immigration checks when departing the US.  However, numerous people have made such decisions which they regretted alter.  The two questions I see standing out are:

1.  Is the relationship salvageable?

2.  Do you intend to continue on a path to legal residence in the US?

 

If you leave the US without an approved Advance Parole document at this point, you will abandon your Adjustment of Status.

Good luck.  I hope you find peace in the direction you decide to go.

Thank you very much, sir, for the advice! 

To answer your questions: 

1. From where I stand, I wouldn't have put this much love and energy into our marriage if I didn't think it could work for us. But last night, given that he basically showed me how much he resents me by calling me a b....., I think it's time to realize that it takes two grown adults to keep a marriage going, and that I can't make up for both of us.

2. At this point, I'll be honest, I reached a point where I don't know anymore where I want to live or what to do, because it feels like this is the rock bottom. I'll stay in this country as long as I still believe that our marriage is worth fighting for... But it feels like a limbo situation at this moment because we haven't even spoken to each other since yesterday, so I do not know where he personally stands on whether he has given up on us or is ready to be a man and a husband... Time will tell. 

On 7/4/2023 at 7:09 AM, Redro said:

Is this your first big argument/fight? 

Is this your first time 1.) living together 2.) Having to organize finances and life stuff 3.) Blending your life together?

I won't disagree your husband was disrespectful towards you during the fight. 

Did the fight just happen? Are you still not talking?

 

As you are adjusting status, if you leave the US you will abandon the process (unless you have AP). You are currently allowed to stay in the US because you have the NOA1. It indicates are you allowed to remain in the US even though the I94 has expired. But, if you leave you might not be allowed to return to the US for some years (as a tourist) depending on what the consulate decides when you apply for a B1/B2 and if either tourist visa or ESTA are still valid for use for a return trip (you've shown immigrant intent by applying for adjustment). 

 

See how your husband behaves after the fight.

Is he apologetic? Is he willing to work on the issues you were arguing about?

In addition, the things you called him out on... if he never changes these behaviors would you be able to stay with him? It seems like you are saying no... 

You are in a tricky situation because you are most likely fully dependent on him until you obtain EAD. You might also want to consider going back to your home country, work on the marriage and obtain the immigrant visa via the consulate. This would give you more independence in the relationship as you would return the right to work and drive. 

 

 

 

 

It isn't the first big fight, there have been other fights/arguments, but this is the first time he crossed a line and I am disappointed it happened. It is the first time trying to organize our finances together.

And, yes, we still aren't talking.

He said last night "I'm sorry I called you a (removed)", but I honestly don't believe he is - it didn't feel like an apology at all. If he was sorry, he would step up and treat his wife better. I know I'd do that if I really cared about the person in front of me.

He doesn't seem to be willing to work on the issues, he keeps saying that he doesn't see the point because, from where he stands, I am the person who doesn't at all care about him. But his "justification" just seems circular. I am extremely mentally exhausted, to be completely frank....

5 hours ago, Catia&Sal said:

OP doesn't have a green card, just filed adjustment of status in June 2023.  

Right, she's in the GC process... But my advice remains the same: when it comes to major decisions that will impact the course of your life permanently, try to be cool and don't rush"

 

I appreciate this advice so much - wise and levelheaded. I will not rush😊

6 hours ago, Bob in Boston said:

To answer your question , you can leave anytime you want to, just hop on the plane and go. I will advise you to think about it though. If you dont feel safe by all means get away. Just make sure its what you really want to do. Some things cant be undone and if you leave in a huff and then want to come back.... things will get complicated. 

Now that some hours have passed from the argument, it's the next day, I definitely see your point - I'll take some time to think about it and to understand what happened ❤️

And yes, someone asked if the fight just happened, it did - last night before going to sleep...

6 hours ago, Catia&Sal said:

An advice from an old experienced italian lady: don't leave immediately!

Leave the "dust" fell down on the floor, and take your time to rethink about the entire situation.

If you moved here, leaving your Country and went through the (endless) process to obtein the GC, it means something, right? Just now was a fight. It happens sometimes to say things you don't really think only because you are angry. Now I try to see your point: "I'm here alone, nobody from my family, US is a difficult Country for living, maybe some problem with language (as I have!)... and this man I gave everything for, the love of my life, now became my worst enemy!!!"... It is  very human reaction thinking to run away!

But take a bit for thinking about it , and all the consequences it would bring. It's worth to do it? Are you really sure that coming back to your Country is the solution that would make you happier and safer? If you leave now, probably will be very difficult to step back. Running  and doing things on the spur of the moment never solved a problem. So, unless you are afraid for your security, I would take some time for myself, just to clear my mind.    

Good luck!

This went straight to my heart, thank you very much for every word! Means a lot.

Hi everyone. 

I have just created this account because I'm not sure what to do now and I'd appreciate any kind of advice you have -- I'm sure you've seen lots of things on this forum.

My husband (USC) and I (beneficiary) have filed for AOS in June 2023.

A few hours ago, we were fighting about finances, the home situation -- well, I ended up being called a "(removed)" by him for calling him out on certain things.

I am heartbroken because this made me realize he doesn't respect me, and for me it is important that I am married to someone who respects me as his wife. I think that he will most likely only keep disrespecting me, actions speak louder than words...

My question is -- how do I proceed in a way that doesn't jeopardize me and us both in this process?

Just yesterday my i-94 date expired - so does that mean that I can still go on a plane departing the US or how does the process work?

I am truly not sure how to proceed given that I'd like to leave the US since he was the only reason I was here. And I don't think he will improve, I think he has shown me who he truly is...

Thank you for all the advice, it is greatly appreciated!