I'm sorry that you have to go through all of this. It hurts hearing the stand that some men think they are entitled to when it comes to women.
The way I see it there are 3 options:
* Counseling: and that depends on whether you think you relationship is worth working for.
* leaving him and applying for vawa based on emotional abuse (you will have to provide proof, I'm not sure what kind of proof you would need)
* leaving him and leaving this country. Which you might have to way your options especially if you are all by yourself here. (Not impossible to overcome being by yourself, but possible to build from 0)
If anybody can guide you on the evidence you would need, number 2 option is the way I would go in my opinion. However as I said before, you are an intelligent and free woman. You know what's best for you and your future.
The fact that he said what he said about an unborn baby is beyond my imagination. Not all men are like him I promise.