DanielParul

I agree with the above post.

I see that a comment saying 'America is the greatest, most free, most unique country to date' offended a poster enough to justify 'I personally find that Australia is better than the US in many ways'.

Why do the same people get offended when people say its not right to talk negative about Aerica because it has accepted you and lets just respect the fact.

Maybe we can start a thread about 'Negatives to being an Australian or Canadian' and see the same people being a sport about their country's negative things.

He is risen indeed.

Welcome to VJ. Wish you a speedy AOS and a speedy end of his deployment too.

Why, I wonder over and over again, is it so common among foreigners to change their name when they get married? I do understand the historical context, when a father gave away his child to another man, together with a few sheep or cows and with it all resposibility for her and transferred it to the husband. But in 2010?

Don't immigrants realize that it is perfectly okay to keep their name and identity and would, especially in case of an immigrant who has to deal with USCIS and travel, and later perhaps dual citizenship, give them a lot less to worry about?

Nothing to do with 2010 and sheep and cows. Its a tradition followed in some parts of the world. Like in India for the woman to change her name after marriage. Has nothing to do with losing identity either. Immigrants realise whats ok in your part of the world. Maybe you can try and understand others customs and traditions or maybe not comment if you don't know.

When I travelled after our marriage. I purchased the ticket in my maiden name (as in the passport) and carried my GC (married name) and marriage certificate to make sure there were no problems coming back.

Baby Ayman and you are in my prayers. God bless him.

Sounds like some pretty poor "negatives". You're turning honors and duties into negatives. Though you already are a US citizen, if you had such a problem with, passports, jury's, taxes, being loyal and proud of your new country, why even bother? It seems more of a hassle to you than a privilege. It's an honor for the US to allow you to become a citizen, it's definitely not something any immigrant deserves or has a right to. While the whole "find 10 things bad about being a citizen" may be just a "game", it shows some pretty poor attitude about being granted the priviledge to live in the greatest, most free, most unique country to date.

Too much of bashing America is going on. I love my country but if I choose to live here then I respect and should have my loyalty to this nation that has accepted me too. I don't see how that is a negative.

etanagar, India

I was visiting family in India back in Feb. You have to shave before you try to get on the subway there or the paramilitaries will want to talk to you. Facial hair is a big no-no if you don't want people to think you're Moooslem.

I do not believe that. What city are you talking about?

Don't know much about deportation maybe someone else will come along and give you more info.

No, No, I'd try to recover some of my money by reselling it

Since it's you, SachinKy - I recommend this -

partial bridal regalia with shiny salwars, bangles, sindoor

and use 200 percent more bangles than at the actual wedding.

try to borrow as many gold ear-to-nose chains as possible, I recommend at least 4 on each side.

Don't put anything metal IN THE HAIR, though.

Good Luck !!

Maang tikka and bindis till the cheekbones.

I wore jeans and a shirt. Just don't look super casual in torn up jeans and faded tees. As long as you look presentable, its fine. Too dressed up or too casual looks uncomfortable.

I'd suggest moving to singapore, becoming a singapore citizen - and then you'd be able to come in/out of usa on the visa waiver program.

Your immigration is taken care of till 2018. Thats when you will renew your card. You do not have to remain married to him for your greencard and he cannot do anything to your status here in the US either. A divorce will not change anything for you except that you will probably be happier not being his wife.

Congratulations!

Makes us worry about our baby and how much he will be taxed to pay for somebody's healthcare while he stands in line to get treated for anything.

Well, I'm not necessarily talking about myself, but so what if he did? Having children means making sacrifices. A year is not that long in the scheme of things. You'd want your exhausted wife to have sex with you out of guilt even if it's the furthest thing from her mind?

I just don't see the need to run out to therapy to fix the "problem". It seems to be a pretty common thing after having a child and things usually go back to normal eventually.

Agree

Oxytocin helps in bonding. Cuddling and kissing can actually help moms bond with their husbands again since all their energy is used in taking care of the baby.

It was good for us in a way since Daniel came back from his deployment when our baby was 5 months old and we were ready for us time again. He did not have much to complain about

We have 2 joint savings accounts, 1 joint checkings account. I was added on to these accounts when I moved here and he was the primary account holder. For some reason, I have become the primary on all these accounts overtime since I handle the finances mostly.

Daniel and I have a laptop each. His is Sony vaio, I have the cheap Dell xps and we also have a HP desktop. I am typing this on the desktop.

Good Luck! Let us know how it goes.

I don't agree with your sidenote. Many people on VJ met by internet and only have known their fiance(e) for a short period of time. I went through this process several years ago and married in my SO's country. I wish that I had lived with her for several months BEFORE marrying her so that I could see what type of woman she was...she was looking for a meal ticket and a VISA to the USA. Thankfully, I cancelled everything shortly before her interview in Bogota, Colombia. But, that brought up other issues of getting a long-distance divorce, etc. What a nightmare!

Additionally, the way I read the posting...the fiancee already left the USA and returned to Russia. The way I read the guides, the K-1 visa is a ONE-TIME entry for 90 days. There was no mention of an "emergency" exception. I think the only option for this person is starting over again. He will not like hearing that but...

Regards,

Franc

I agree with Sachinky. K1 is not to see if you want to live with the person and maybe marry them after the trial period. It is a visa for people who have decided to get married and want to do it in the US.

To the OP, you have some good advice here. Let us know how it goes.