I don't think they get mad! Unfortunately, if they delay cases there is no other way for us to move on with our lives. I personally don't understand why they delay cases for VAWA petitioners. A lot of us need to move to a different address or state or change jobs or surnames just to be safe from our exes. So I honestly believe that reaching out to your representative will NOT have any negative impact on your petition. I heard that 80-90% of what congresspeople do is immigration issues - so you are definitely not the only one they inquire about. I'm personally ready to sue - otherwise they will take years to make a decision.
I'm sure your life will be normal, and all this waiting and negative experience will be over very soon! May I ask about your citation?
Well, luckily annulment is extremely hard to prove. Unless he wants to throw himself under the bus too. I feel like your ex will ditch as soon as they realize that they cannot prove anything. As of now, all it proofs is that your ex is a psycho and is trying to continue the abuse by messing with your immigration. Hoping for the best 🙏🏻