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Poor "the USC wife".

Yet another another reason the government needs to do away with the k-1 visa

Scammers are patient. They also don't really care about the name of the visa, their goal is to come.

Whatever name you call the visa (K, IR, F...). If they care it's because one is quicker compared to the other.

I'm sorry for you.

I understand that people loose their Noa2, but what I don't understand it's that doesn't seem to bother him. Maybe he hide it?

You did it right. Every where that you saw other name used, write your maiden name. Dont' worry, you are not the only one. It doesn't matter for your passeport also. They can match the name on your passport with the marriage certificate.

You have nothing to worry about the majority of women who came to this country deal with the same problem.

Wish you the best

It's a suggestion:

Why not thinking about the CR1 also instead of the K1.

With the CR1, he will reveive his green card just after coming in USA, for the K1, he will have to wait some months before being able to travel (after his Advance of Parole).

I think that for his business, it will be easier for him to travel, if something happens.

Just my 2 cents.

Good luck whatever way.

I have one rule on picky eating and I have implemented this on my own children from the time they were toddlers.

Whenever they have the picky tantrums, I just let them be. I don't force them to eat. Once they feel the hunger and their stomach growling they will eat whatever food I put on the table. Make sure they don't have access to other stuff like cookies or chips. Give them milk or fruit juice until they decide to eat.

It would be different if she was alone, it is easier to let the child feel hungrier, but if the child finds somebody to "help" her or him, like a daddy who give cereal or for me this afternoon, 3 donuts. It's more difficult.

Maybe, working on the daddy is the best solution, showing him some documentation about the consequences of eating too much chicken nuggets with pictures.

Wish you good luck.

And you're Not At All a mean step-mother,

I have a picky eater son (almost 4), so i can understand, it has never been easy and is still not.

He loves pasta, bread, bagel, french fries...
Today, I mixed pasta-tuna salad-mixed vegetables. He was screaming (as always) because he saw the mixed vegetables in his pasta.

Your husband needs to be involved, and if the mother travels often maybe she doesn't have anywhere else to leave the children, in this case they will more likely to stay with you. Even if they don't like it or not.

What I'm trying to do with my son it's to add little by little more vegetable in his food, he is young so i can play with him, hide some vegetables. At 10, you will more likely need another apporach, like she helps you to buy or prepare the food. It can be one day, her turn to cook (under supervision) for all the family- with vegetable. She can help you make chicken fingers. She can do all the preparation, and you cook them. It's easy.

I recently did some (twice). My picky eater son liked them (ate them the second time, not the first time- and because his dad buys sometimes chicken wings).

I'm doing also a lot of smoothies, my son helped me one time (I don't remember that he liked his smoothie much more than mine), but I have to be perseverant. But in a way, that will help her to be involved in what she is eating.

If you have time, you can do some researches with her, on the importance of the different food, nutrients...

and little by little remove the chicken nuggets out of your house.

-The things is that she is playing with you. When i think that my son is able to drink a tablespoon of cod liver oil with my husband, and me I have to wrestle 1 hour with him for him to eat a sweet pea, I'm furious against some dads.

And with my nephews it's the same, my sister have 2 picky eaters, but they are able to eat garlic if their dad asks them to do it.

I wish you my best luck.

It's great that somebody is caring about the health of those children. I'm so shocked when I see that the only dream of american it's to feed their children with cupcakes, donut's....

There is a misunderstanding somewhere, and i didn't insinuate anything at all.

My question was simple. Because you talk about "your" N-400, on your second post. So i asked you politely what is your relationship (more thinking that you were a dependant, like a daughter, a wife, which could maybe change the answers that you can obtain).

My question was more in what way "your" N-400 is link with "his" N-400?

It was to help you, don't be so defensive, please?

Other VJ members would ask you the same question, if they don't understand your question.

By reading again, you second post, I may have misunderstand that "your" N-400, is the N-400 that you are preparing, not "your" own N-400.

Sorry, but it was not so clear the first time that I read it.

Be certain, that If I asked you the question, It was only for a clarification purpose, just for other members to understand, not to judge you.

I still wish you my best luck, you and your brother. And please, don't take my question in a bad way, my aim wasn't not at all to hurt you or to judge you.

Thanks for your answer, but do I also need to include saperate paper and court paper with my N400 packet?

Sorry I don't have any answer for you.

I still don't understand what your friend's N-400 has to do with your N-400, if you are only colleagues.

Other VJ members will ask you the same question.

Good luck for everything.

So what kind of the relationship exists between your friend and you?

I'm black, my husband white, we have a bi-racial child.

I don't really think that it's racism, maybe being rude or inconsiderate.

I have this experience with my husband, with people talking with him more than with me.

But, I'm 100% certain that it's because my husband is much more outgoing than me; he is able to talk with stranger during hours talking about rain, weather, mechanics, sports....talking even when he is sleeping or alone, Me, i can stay hours without talking.

I don't know if you have my kind of personality...but I learnt more than 20 years ago (without doing it...lol) that I have to go also towards people. In my case, i think that it's more the problem.

And when i'm going towards people, it's better (except that i have a strong french accent and receive a lot of "blank stare"...).

Just my 2 cents.

Have a nice day.

Don't forget the civil surgeon!

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What am I missing !!!????

Somebody was talking about SS#, a second one wrote back a reply that other members didn't understand, so they explained kindly to that member that SS# = Social Security Number and anything else.

And several are trying to understand what else SS# can be in US. and also for immigration purpose.

Do you understand better?

I think that each state has different rules. In nys, if you have the intent to immigrate (like a K1 visa), you are considered as a resident so you need your driver licence.

Being a resident is not the same for DMV and USCIS.

If you are a tourist, i don't think that the same rules apply than having the intent to live in the US.

Do a search also on VJ, you will find more elaborate replies (over the years, I read a lot of those).

As Boiler tried to tell it:

from september-to april : 7 months. Will he have already his interview?

Does he plan to go back to Pakistan for his interview?

I'm just guessing:

if Pakistan accepts your marriage, and the interview is in Pakistan: so CR1

if the interview is in UK, and they don't accept your marriage so K1.

I may be wrong.

Wish you the best and as iammrsregi said thank you "for reading our advices, remaining civil, and........ordeal".

He spoke with a lawyer and apparently this is a common mistake among k1 visa applicants. Possibly because marriages were scarcely documented? Per the lawyer, fill out the DS 230 form and submit as usual to Get inteview date. have a letter explaining the mistake on the i129f form and present our case. I'm aware my fiancé had previous relationships and of course I can't cant change the past. It just aggregating cause this is potential something that can hold the process even longer. Generation gap has different ways of thinking I guess.

And I know that people are forgetful but this is immigration involved. We say we forgot this. But they can look at it that we are hiding it from them.

My fiancé view is if we were to hide it we wouldn't try to correct it now. I'm just thinking if he was smart he would have told me.

So the risk or forgetting a marriage is higher among K1 applicants?

After that, if the lawyer sees that a lot it's normal for him to reach this conclusion.

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But no need of a lawyer to make this assumption ...or excuse.

I'm also surprised. Ask Darnell to help you, he probably knows what to do

The website for the Italian embassy in the US clearly states "The Consular office will evaluate the documents submitted and may request additional ones at its discretion. Furthermore, you should also be aware that submitting the required documentation does not automatically guarantee the issuance of a visa. " right under the requirements listed. I do not think you were discriminated against. (I also think the officer probably told you or meant to tell you it was discretionary, not discriminatory)Yes, your past travels may help make it easier to get a visa to some countries, but it does not guarantee you anything. Italy may not care you lives in the US so long or have been to Europe before.. they saw something with your application that just makes them want that extra check.

If you have your birth certificate then what is the big deal? Why all the anger for something they are just taking care to make sure all is well? If the trip to Italy is worth it then just supply them with what they requested and enjoy your trip.

Yea like Medroni said "discretionay instead of discriminatory".

When I read this part, i didn't catch it, but maybe it's "discretionary", maybe an open door for several things included "subtil discrimination" (lol).

But take it easy.

Good luck

I can't tell for the Schengen visa, but in France a birth certificate is necessary for a lot of forms.

I don't think that you were discriminated.

It would be surprising for me that France is a member of the Schengen zone and doesn't ask for this document. You need it to go to school, for the driver licence...everything which is government oriented.

Like others said, I would go.

You have nothing to lose and a daughter to raise. It's hard I know.

I don't think that everybody wants to leave in US, some people they want a job, some to have their friends around them, some people their families... everybody is different.

you can also find a job, using maybe your bilingual skills, working online...

Hello Resalien,

I really apologize for what I wrote. I was wrong.

To tell the truth all the week I was pissed off, so it wasn't totally from your post.

I'm also married (not an ex) and my husband is wonderful, 7 years that we know each other, and he is still so wonderful (strong and sweet). Lol.

I hope that everything will be fine for you. Sorry for the situation with your child.

I agree with the VJ members, I wouldn't use it.

If you have plenty of evidence, use them instead of this one, nobody knows how it can be seen , lol.

I would use it as a backup also.

I would be nice (I'm a woman, at-home mom, came here in 2008, almost never worked, has to support myself and my 3 and half son... almost without complaining).

After your 6 months out of the country, you can now go get a job if you don't watch the child anymore, so now you will help to pay for child care, for alimentation...for the child. If it's too much burden, go get a second job.

You can find jobs at some stores, some offers great benefit (health insurance). The fact that you took care for the child was maybe a win-win situation, but now that things change, you have to change your mind...Asking the mother of your child to care financially about you!!!!

I feel sorry for this woman and your child.Really.

Get a job to care about this child. Think about the child first.

Work 3 jobs.

In 5 years I have never been so piss off by a post.