sandinista!

This website serves a bigger purpose for a lot of people in international relationships than just visa stuff, and that's great. But time after time there's just so much cart before the horse. K-1 visas are not trial offers. A) because, they aren't. And B) because, especially in high fraud countries like Morocco, they are extremely difficult to acquire when people are approaching them like they're trial offers. As it should be. It's actually probably not hard enough though, considering. People with paranoia or doubts or questions about the intentions of their MENA fiancé are not even remotely close to be even starting to think about anything to do with visas and immigration. That has got to be addressed before anything else, IMHO. People often get so wrapped up in all the visa stuff, which is so stressful anyways, that they're in no position to be scrutinizing relationship stuff adequately, clearly, and fairly. And while that's an ongoing process, in any relationship, the time and place for addressing the bulk of it is so very, very far before thinking about immigration. Much less having those concerns about a guy who is chomping at the bit to get over here already, abandon his lifelong citizenship and loyalties to the country of his birth and pledge military allegiance to a whole new place he's never even visited before, let alone lived in. I'm sorry, that just sounds flipping crazy. But what the heII do I know, high horsed wife of foreigner that I am...

the guy who wants to get here asap so he can join the air force, you're having doubts about? Smdh.

Plenty of people respond to or at least look closer at their situations when offered good advice here. It's not all heads in the sand all the time. Plenty of long, interesting threads on this exist. There's a difference between some of the really good dialogues that have taken place, and throwing out random thoughts from some random Moroccan guy talking out of his ####### like it's gospel.

This website serves a bigger purpose for a lot of people in international relationships than just visa stuff, and that's great. But time after time there's just so much cart before the horse. K-1 visas are not trial offers. A) because, they aren't. And B) because, especially in high fraud countries like Morocco, they are extremely difficult to acquire when people are approaching them like they're trial offers. As it should be. It's actually probably not hard enough though, considering. People with paranoia or doubts or questions about the intentions of their MENA fiancé are not even remotely close to be even starting to think about anything to do with visas and immigration. That has got to be addressed before anything else, IMHO. People often get so wrapped up in all the visa stuff, which is so stressful anyways, that they're in no position to be scrutinizing relationship stuff adequately, clearly, and fairly. And while that's an ongoing process, in any relationship, the time and place for addressing the bulk of it is so very, very far before thinking about immigration. Much less having those concerns about a guy who is chomping at the bit to get over here already, abandon his lifelong citizenship and loyalties to the country of his birth and pledge military allegiance to a whole new place he's never even visited before, let alone lived in. I'm sorry, that just sounds flipping crazy. But what the heII do I know, high horsed wife of foreigner that I am...

This website serves a bigger purpose for a lot of people in international relationships than just visa stuff, and that's great. But time after time there's just so much cart before the horse. K-1 visas are not trial offers. A) because, they aren't. And B) because, especially in high fraud countries like Morocco, they are extremely difficult to acquire when people are approaching them like they're trial offers. As it should be. It's actually probably not hard enough though, considering. People with paranoia or doubts or questions about the intentions of their MENA fiancé are not even remotely close to be even starting to think about anything to do with visas and immigration. That has got to be addressed before anything else, IMHO. People often get so wrapped up in all the visa stuff, which is so stressful anyways, that they're in no position to be scrutinizing relationship stuff adequately, clearly, and fairly. And while that's an ongoing process, in any relationship, the time and place for addressing the bulk of it is so very, very far before thinking about immigration. Much less having those concerns about a guy who is chomping at the bit to get over here already, abandon his lifelong citizenship and loyalties to the country of his birth and pledge military allegiance to a whole new place he's never even visited before, let alone lived in. I'm sorry, that just sounds flipping crazy. But what the heII do I know, high horsed wife of foreigner that I am...

This website serves a bigger purpose for a lot of people in international relationships than just visa stuff, and that's great. But time after time there's just so much cart before the horse. K-1 visas are not trial offers. A) because, they aren't. And B) because, especially in high fraud countries like Morocco, they are extremely difficult to acquire when people are approaching them like they're trial offers. As it should be. It's actually probably not hard enough though, considering. People with paranoia or doubts or questions about the intentions of their MENA fiancé are not even remotely close to be even starting to think about anything to do with visas and immigration. That has got to be addressed before anything else, IMHO. People often get so wrapped up in all the visa stuff, which is so stressful anyways, that they're in no position to be scrutinizing relationship stuff adequately, clearly, and fairly. And while that's an ongoing process, in any relationship, the time and place for addressing the bulk of it is so very, very far before thinking about immigration. Much less having those concerns about a guy who is chomping at the bit to get over here already, abandon his lifelong citizenship and loyalties to the country of his birth and pledge military allegiance to a whole new place he's never even visited before, let alone lived in. I'm sorry, that just sounds flipping crazy. But what the heII do I know, high horsed wife of foreigner that I am...

This website serves a bigger purpose for a lot of people in international relationships than just visa stuff, and that's great. But time after time there's just so much cart before the horse. K-1 visas are not trial offers. A) because, they aren't. And B) because, especially in high fraud countries like Morocco, they are extremely difficult to acquire when people are approaching them like they're trial offers. As it should be. It's actually probably not hard enough though, considering. People with paranoia or doubts or questions about the intentions of their MENA fiancé are not even remotely close to be even starting to think about anything to do with visas and immigration. That has got to be addressed before anything else, IMHO. People often get so wrapped up in all the visa stuff, which is so stressful anyways, that they're in no position to be scrutinizing relationship stuff adequately, clearly, and fairly. And while that's an ongoing process, in any relationship, the time and place for addressing the bulk of it is so very, very far before thinking about immigration. Much less having those concerns about a guy who is chomping at the bit to get over here already, abandon his lifelong citizenship and loyalties to the country of his birth and pledge military allegiance to a whole new place he's never even visited before, let alone lived in. I'm sorry, that just sounds flipping crazy. But what the heII do I know, high horsed wife of foreigner that I am...

This website serves a bigger purpose for a lot of people in international relationships than just visa stuff, and that's great. But time after time there's just so much cart before the horse. K-1 visas are not trial offers. A) because, they aren't. And B) because, especially in high fraud countries like Morocco, they are extremely difficult to acquire when people are approaching them like they're trial offers. As it should be. It's actually probably not hard enough though, considering. People with paranoia or doubts or questions about the intentions of their MENA fiancé are not even remotely close to be even starting to think about anything to do with visas and immigration. That has got to be addressed before anything else, IMHO. People often get so wrapped up in all the visa stuff, which is so stressful anyways, that they're in no position to be scrutinizing relationship stuff adequately, clearly, and fairly. And while that's an ongoing process, in any relationship, the time and place for addressing the bulk of it is so very, very far before thinking about immigration. Much less having those concerns about a guy who is chomping at the bit to get over here already, abandon his lifelong citizenship and loyalties to the country of his birth and pledge military allegiance to a whole new place he's never even visited before, let alone lived in. I'm sorry, that just sounds flipping crazy. But what the heII do I know, high horsed wife of foreigner that I am...

Plenty of people respond to or at least look closer at their situations when offered good advice here. It's not all heads in the sand all the time. Plenty of long, interesting threads on this exist. There's a difference between some of the really good dialogues that have taken place, and throwing out random thoughts from some random Moroccan guy talking out of his ####### like it's gospel.

I'm so sorry for all of this FBW. I wish all the best for you, for the easiest, most comfortable treatment possible, and good outcomes.

I'm so sorry for all of this FBW. I wish all the best for you, for the easiest, most comfortable treatment possible, and good outcomes.

Three pieces of good news--Younes made it with no problems and can stay until July. We are NOT going to AOS because I made a promise to God that if he could be with me, we would not abuse his visa. We're leaning towards getting married within the next few months and then filing CR-1. Hopefully by the time he has to go back to Morocco I will have gotten through the worst of treatment and be well on my way to recovery.
The other good news is my scans showed not evidence of metastasis. The doctors were quite confident there would not be, but it's a relief to hear. Also, my cancer is receptive to hormone therapy--including a just approved new drug my oncologist seems jazzed about.
The bad news is that it has spread to my lymph nodes. This is a very aggressive cancer and it's scary to think that it's progressed so far when I just found the lump a little over two months ago.
I just had genetic counseling today. With my unusually young age, it's recommended that I get tested for the BRCA gene (the gene Angelina Jolie has). My family history doesn't point to me having it, but there's some questions--like prostate cancer occurring in middle age. If I have the gene, it increases my risk of a second breast cancer and ovarian cancer by huge numbers so that's scary.
Thank you for all your good thoughts and prayers.

yeah, nope. flu shots keep pregnant women from getting the flu. and when they get the flu anyways when vaccinated, which can sometimes happen, they have milder cases with far less complications, like death and stuff. they also tend to be less contagious. getting a flu shot during pregnancy also has the lovely advantage of passing immunities to babies born during flu season who can't be vaccinated for flu yet.
similar principles with the other vaccines required for immigration. they're like, necessary, important, and life saving and stuff.

yeah, nope. flu shots keep pregnant women from getting the flu. and when they get the flu anyways when vaccinated, which can sometimes happen, they have milder cases with far less complications, like death and stuff. they also tend to be less contagious. getting a flu shot during pregnancy also has the lovely advantage of passing immunities to babies born during flu season who can't be vaccinated for flu yet.
similar principles with the other vaccines required for immigration. they're like, necessary, important, and life saving and stuff.

The US public does not want to be exposed to things we all have been vaccinated against. Your application can be denied and you can be asked to leave. Not only do you need to be vaccinated but your future children will be vaccinated also.

Oooo...Its been a while since we've had a juicy topic like this...
Rosesarered, based on your conclusions about Moroccan men, you probably shouldn't trust this Moroccan man "friend" that's telling you to beware of Moroccan men. He's probably be doing the very same thing that all Moroccan men who "befriend" older American women are doing, he's just trying to snag a visa. my thoughts to you Rosesarered is to cut your losses and stop trusting ANY Moroccan man that would be "friends" with a non-virgin, over age 30, American woman -including your current Moroccan man friend who's so kindly warning you about Moroccan men.

These dads are taxpayers themselves. If you had read the article, you would have found that with this model families benefit, taxpayers benefit and businesses benefit. It's a win all around. All that has to happen is to set the right priorities - making family a priority is a good thing. I hear that all the time in this country. Too bad that it's just lip service.

This is how family policy works. When "family first" or "focus on family" is just a slogan - which is largely the situation in the US - families, businesses, communities and the nation as whole suffer. When a nation - the people, politicians and businesses alike - recognizes the importance of the family and everyone starts pulling in the same direction, then you're actually getting somewhere. It's a long read but quite worth it. This nation could learn so much from its peers overseas. And to think that once - just a few short decades ago - the US was actually a leader. That position was pizzed away for nothing but short term gains and profits for a select few.

Amanda,
I'm so sorry hun. More than sorry. Sorry doesn't really come close, actually. It doesn't make sense and it isn't right. Life can really work us over sometimes, this I know. Look, I'm not a doctor but I am in the science field and the best advice I can give is to find the very best oncologist that specializes in your type of breast cancer and from the very first appointment have him or her go over not just the diagnosis but all the recent studies, clinical trials, everything. You need as much information as possible, to help you decide which treatment path to take. I know the word cancer conjures up worst case scenario in everyone's minds but the truth is that every patient is different. Everyone has a different outcome. Stay strong and positive and don't be afraid to lean on those you love when you need to. I'm glad Younes still has the visitor visa and Inshallah he'll have no issues at POE. Please keep us posted.
Much love,
Sarah

I read and reread this post trying to think of what to say and I'm just at a loss as I always am, but I don't think it's really about what what you say in these situations I think it's more about listening. But regardless of my lack of eloquence, I'm really sorry that you're going through this. I actually work on an Oncology floor so I see many people, young and old, going through the same battle... many of which have chosen different paths to fight this battle, whether its chemo, radiation, surgery, or nothing. My only words of wisdom that I have learned from the many different people I've encountered is don't let the cancer consume you. Do your research, learn about your options, find a support group of survivors/ people battling, and keep striving to achieve your goals even if you are achieving them much slower and it's much, much harder.I really hope that your fiance will be able to join you soon and you can fight this together. It's a scary thing but you will come out of this! Stay strong and don't give up on yourself and your dreams no matter what! What I've noticed in my patients is that there is still sweetness to life after diagnoses, even if it has metastized. So keep your passions and strengths in your heart, you will prevail.

So having a legit marriage means it's ok to commit fraud and bypass the normal visa process that everyone else has to go through? I think everyone in this forum would argue that they also have a legit marriage/relationship and also would like to be together ASAP. Deciding to live in your husband's country and having several children is a decision you chose to make knowing full well that if you decided to move to the states you would be separated for awhile. You're not new to this site. You know this information. Feigning ignorance doesn't equal not knowing the rules.

Wa salaam
You specifically said, in the two threads that got shut down by mods, that you were asking about work and tourist visas because the actual visa that's appropriate to your situation takes too long. Visas don't work like Burger King, where you can have it your way. Unless he is really truly most definitely absolutely just visiting, which everything you've posted recently says that isn't the case, then get in line like everyone else is/has done.

Wa salaam
You specifically said, in the two threads that got shut down by mods, that you were asking about work and tourist visas because the actual visa that's appropriate to your situation takes too long. Visas don't work like Burger King, where you can have it your way. Unless he is really truly most definitely absolutely just visiting, which everything you've posted recently says that isn't the case, then get in line like everyone else is/has done.

My husband's come across a few people here and there who think he's talking about Monaco when he says he's from Morocco. They'll start babbling about casinos and Grace Kelly, and he's like, what now? Nice people, just not the best geography skills.

Because Muslims and Christmas and Jesus are like vampires and garlic or Superman and kryptonite.
That being said, I hope everyone celebrating has a wonderful holiday, with lots of love from family and friends, and lots of yummy treats.