Nu B

19 minutes ago, FeDaniela said:

Sorry you have to go through this, My surprise is what kind of lawyer gives this information.... You can get an EAD C09 category base on the I-485 you just filed with Vermont service center, I suggest you go back to your lawyer and tell her to please resend form I-765 base C09 category, I think you need to paid for it since the initial one was sent C31 category which this category did not need to sent form I-765 for it because in the I-360 form clearly ask if you want an EAD after approval, Also in the I-765 instructions page clearly mentioned you do not need to sent form I-765 if applying for I-360 it will be sent after approval. 

Wow..... I just knew this. So, even though I didn’t send I765 form, it means that USCIS will send EAD C31?

Thank you so much for your response @FeDaniela God bless you dear 😘

On 1/7/2020 at 11:42 AM, DanyT. said:

Hi All,

 

These forums have been really helpful and have given me some hope in the middle of this nightmare. Thanks God I realized that there was a light at the end of this path after all the threats and abuse of my wife against me.

 

I got married on October 2017 and this is my time line so far:

 

03/08/2018 - I-130 received by uscis (PD)

08/06/2018 - I485, I131, I765 received by uscis

08/13/2018 - Fingerprint fee was received

09/05/2018 - Biometrics done

09/06/2018 - Fingerprint review was completed

At some point here the I-130 was approved.

01/23/2019 -  I765 - I131 Case approved

01/25/2019 - Card is being produced

01/27/2019 - Card was picked up by USPS

01/30/2019 - Card was delivered by USPS

08/08/2019 - I765 - I131 renewal received by uscis

08/09/2019 - Interview Was Scheduled

08/17/2019 - I765 Case Was Updated To Show Fingerprints Were Taken

09/19/2019 - Interview in Hialeah Office (Hard Interview)

11/09/2019 - Decided to not continue with the threats and marriage

11/15/2019 - I360 - I765 - I131 Received by uscis

11/21/2019 - Filled for the divorce (She doesn't want to divorce and she is delaying it until now).

11/27/2019 - I765 Case Was Updated To Show Fingerprints Were Taken

12/16/2019 - I360 Request for additional evidence was sent (Good moral Character)

12/31/2019 - Response To USCIS' Request For Evidence Was Received

 

It seems this will be a long way until i finish this process and I have some questions to you people because you are more experience adn time on it:

 

- I requested to move the priority date of my I130 to I360, this means they are going to process my I360 faster o the PD is only for the interview for the Green card?.

 

- There was a work permit and travel document in course since august 2019 because my current work permit finish on january 15th 2020 , if they approve it, can I use it or should I wait to get the work permit sent with the vawa?.

 

- Because this process takes a lot of time, can I use the travel document i filled before the vawa to go abroad while the case is still in progress or should I stay in the country until is approve?.

 

Thanks all for your comments,

 

D.

 

 

 

Hello D, I guess we are kinda similar. Here are my timeline:

07/11/19 Sent the application by mail I-485, I-130, I-864, I-765, I-693

07/15/19 USCIS received my case I-485, I-130, I-765

07/25/19 Receiving I-797C by mail for I-485, I-130, I-765 case

08/03/19 Receiving I-797C by mail for bio-metrics schedule

08/12/19 Walking-in for bio-metrics

08/13/19 USCIS completed the review of my fingerprints for my I-485 and I-765

I WAS LEAVING MY ABUSE HUSBAND

11/26/19 I checked on CASE STATUS ONLINE that on 11/21 my case (I485) is ready to be scheduled for an interview

11/27/19 I sent AR-11, I360, I485, I765, I864W to VSC

11/29/19 USCIS Vermont accepted my package

12/05/19 Interview cancelled for I485

12/05/19 My case (I485) is ready to be scheduled for an interview

12/09/19 New Card is Being Produced (EAD C09)

12/10/19 We approved your I765 (EAD C09)

01/03/20 NoA I360 case was received 

01/03/20 NoA I485 fees were waived

01/06/20 NoA I765 VSC is RETURNING your application because of eligibility category, I made it BLANK, because I was confused that time should I put C09 or C31.

My plan is to resend the I765 form to VSC

My prayer for everyone, so that we still have at least a hope that we can move on and have a better life without the abuser, especially for @sandranj a speed recovery my sister....

God bless us all.... Amen.

Hello guys, thank you so much for all supports, comments and any kind of information that all people share on this forum.

I was confused according to my timeline:

10/11 I was leaving my abuse husband (USC)

11/26 I checked on CASE STATUS ONLINE that on 11/21 my case (I485) is ready to be scheduled for an interview, knowing that I quickly:

11/27 I sent AR-11, I360, I485, I765, I864W to Vermont

11/29 USCIS Vermont accepted my packet (according my USPS tracking)

12/05 there were 2 emails came, asking me to check my account in USCIS. It stated that:

•12/05 11/21 my case (I485) is ready to be scheduled for an interview

•12/05 interview cancelled for I485

12/09 New Card is Being Produced (according CASE STATUS ONLINE)

12/10 We approved your I765, if you don’t receive approval notice by XXX, please go to www.uscis.gov/e-request (According CASE STATUS ONLINE)

While, Vermont didn’t send any I797 letter to me OR based on I130 that my husband did only state “Case Was Received” and I never come for any interview about our marriage.

Any explanation about that? Thank you so much guys. God bless!

On 10/16/2019 at 6:39 PM, cashweed said:

@Nu B

1. I like hiking but I don’t like hiking off the trail because anything could be happen and it happened one time. We get lost. Even my husband already get mad and screaming because we can’t get back to the trail. I don’t like hiking off the the trails, for me it’s kinda danger. Does this mean that the reason you dont want to go to the hikes is because you fear that you might get lost and you are afraid of your husbands violent reaction. My question is the last time you did hike with him was his reaction threatening to you? Either physically or emotionally. Was he abusive in any ways to you?. Has he threatened you in such away that you fear he might do anything to you while hiking?. My take on this is, If you can prove anything like that or similar happened then that can be used as evidence. This evidence can be inform of affidavit from anyone you told about this who is willing to do it for you. Ofcourse you can also explain what happened also in your own affidavit. Since you mention that they keep on asking you to follow them on hikes which you already refuse then you can use this evidence to show a pattern. Because they keep on pushing you to do this and you said you just cry and cry. How about you talk to a psychologists. 

2. Father-in-law pay for the first and second month but not 3rd and 4th, and wants to pay the 5th since I’m runaway. I stopped work since May 2019 since I moved to their house and they know my condition. My take on this is that they have already helped you even when you left. I dont think you can use this to your favour at all. The fact that they have accepted to help you financially even after you left favours them. Even if they know your condition as you put it. You are the one who decided to leave and I really doubt they are obliged to help you. They might be helping you inorder to use this in future. It makes them look good. If I were you I would be careful. Did theh force you to live your work?. Did they make any agreement that they will support you which they are breaking?. 

3. They know I don’t like some kind of movies according to my belief, I’m not saying I’m perfect, but they force we to sit with them as spending time with them. The key word here is Force. How do they force you?.Do they threaten you?.  No one should make you do things against your will. If I were you I would be careful so that this incompatibility is not seen as a way to show that your marriage is not bonefide. I have heard that the uscius scrutinises carefully marriages between people of different beliefs. It's always seen as a redflag. This is not to mean that there are no true marriages between people with different beliefs it happens sometimes but it's difficult. In your case if you can prove there was an agreement before that your husband would respect your beliefs. And again you have to explain how you were forced. Again this is just my speculation on what you wrote. I stand to be corrected if I am wrong.  All in all forcing you to do things against your belief can be seen.ad  is psychological abuse but also if he forces you to do this physically then this can be seen as physical abuse. 

5. They suggested to cancel all my religious activities or any kind of invitations from friends became we need to spend our time together. This sounds like abuse inform of isolation and over controlling. Again if you can proof this in some sort of way. Can someone from your religious activities write affidavit showing concern that you have been missing from your religious activities . Your friends whom you have turned down their invitation because you were forced to do so by your husband can also help you out by writting affidavits. The most important is to show patterns of isolation and being overcontrolled. This is some form of domestic abuse. Try father evidence on this. 

6. Even, they asked me to stop any kind of social media, and phone, because they love old fashioned, and they force me to do the same.  This is isolation and overcontrol. Prove how they force you. 

 

Its maybe difficult to prove this kind if psychological abuse. You can talk to therapist who document what you go through for now. Tall to a psychologist. Domestic abuse social workers. Tell them the truth everytime you meet with them. This is a way to document your suffering. And which can be used to prove your abuse for vawa later on. You mentioned that you cry alot because of what they put you through. This can be a sign of depression. A psychologists can help out to by therapy and later they can give you prove to use in your case. 

You mentioned your father in law is a lawyer. If that's the case. They are probably careful so you cant prove anything.  Be careful they probably suspect you would apply using vawa. So whatever you do do it carefully. If you cant talk to police since you dont want him to be arrested. Talk to therapists and also to people who deal with domestic violence so they can document it for you. Once you have gathered evidence enough apply for vawa. Remember to check requirements needed for vawa to make sure you have those as well. Be careful and follow your instincts. 

 

1. Thank you @cashweed @Stillwinning!!!😊 @NeverGiveUp Nov17 @Shroy123 @Pinkrlion @sandranj and all the my fellas... to be honest emotional abuse it’s hard to collect the evidence since my father-in-law is a lawyer too but I think I’ll go talk to the psychologist to talk about this, I hope I have a new hope.

2. I don’t want to make a report in the police station last Friday because I know he had a dv already, I don’t want to put him on a jail. He needs help but not in the jail. He depends his life to his father for everything. I can’t imagine if I’m in danger, get pregnant, having baby or need any kind of help, since he don’t what to do before ask his father’s direction. (Even for our sex life he needs his father’s guidance)

Since we are married having baby is a good as a proof our marriage also I love children, but according to his father, better wait until I have my GC.
3. I didn’t work since I moved to his father’s house, I don’t have money, if I want buy snacks I use my credit card, his father paid only 2 months and stop. So for the next month I need to borrow money to a friend to help me pay my credit card bills. They refused  to have a joint account, while we need that as one of our evidence. I don’t want his $500,000.00 saving, but at least please show his responsible as a husband.

4. They limit and even stop my access to my own life, especially my spiritual needs. I feel like they only wanna fulfill their needs. I’m not their doll. I guess 5 months was enough for me to be silent. I want to have my own freedom again.

5. I know it’s hard to find any evidence in my case, all I want is a new life. I don’t want him, his money, or anything related to him, I want to leave everything behind, is it possible?? It’s hard for me to meet with him or his Dad for while. I need a time to recover.... Please pray for me guys, since I have no status in this country... Thank you so much again. God bless us all!

6 minutes ago, Shroy123 said:

All i can say point 5, 6 and 7 may comes under isolation, social withdrawn but does it affect your health? 

I feel trapped, stressed and I feel not the same as I’m before. About the vitamins since they take expired vitamins too, and it didn’t effect to them so, they think it will not harm me.

11 minutes ago, Stillwinning!!!😊 said:

Life is basically survival of the fittest!!! I admire your humanity but this is not the time for sentiments! Especially if you really mean what you said earlier that you might be in danger! Sometimes it's shoot or get shot! If you still love him and feel protective of him..or even believe he should be helped then you probably should not go this route...💁

Since Monday until now, it seems like I got stucked. When finally I found a private lawyer and wants to make appointment for what happen to me, she asked $250 for vawa appointment.

I don’t want to go back to my husband, I just want to continue my life with peace and start new beginning.

Just now, NeverGiveUp Nov17 said:

 

Totally agree!!! Wait for Sandra’s advice 
Also, you did it right! I am also ran away from the house that I have been living with my ex... 

when you went to the police, did you submit a report? that could help to start gathering evidence 

I didn’t make a report because I don’t want my husband go to the jail, he has mental problem and needs help through special treatment. Also he and my father-in-law has one charged domestic violence already. I don’t want to put them on a jail. Only want to get out from my trap and continue my life with peace. I told that and the officer bring me to one lady, this lady works in the police station but she is not police officer only handle domestic violence cases. 

6 minutes ago, Stillwinning!!!😊 said:

Hey..not so fast! Weigh your options before taking that decision! There's always a way! Better still wait for Sandra's legal advice!💁

I went to legal service to asked help they suggest to divorce and go to the court but I don’t want to see my husband. And when I asked vawa they said no longer and we can’t help.

3 minutes ago, NeverGiveUp Nov17 said:

If you feel emotional abuse... It took me a while to recognize that was happening to myself... you will need to support all that is happening to you, that will be your abuse evidence, as soon as I can, I will send you a pdf with the vawa step by step

Yes, first I didn’t notice about that until on Tuesday they asking, will you go hike with us again? I said I don’t want to go if out of trails and go to the place that I got bite of the insects again. They replied, the temperature will go low and no more insect. The next day they asking the same question and the next day again and the next day again until I can’t sleep and cry all night. And finally on Friday, I call USCIS officer and said all my stories and I asked if I go to married counseling, will it help? The USCIS officer said better pack your belongings and go to the police. I went there and meet the counselor and she was agreed with my decision to go out from the house. 

1 hour ago, Pinkrlion said:

This does not sound like abuse.  It sounds like incompatibility.  If you want to divorce and go home you have that option.  They are not denying you anything by paying your bills.  What basis is your restraining order...You don't like the outside?  @sandranj

I like outside but not the same location and then have an idea to off the trails, it’s danger since we never know what will happen. 
So... better ask divorce and go back to my country? Thank you for your suggestion.

10 minutes ago, NeverGiveUp Nov17 said:

Quick question... do you have any kind of proof of that??? Text messages... pictures... witnesses... something that could help you out to get evidence of emotional abuse 

Yes for credit card bills and all the invitations, but no proof for the rest

That’s what my husband and my father-in-law said, that they taking care of me, so why I went from the house, but my counselor said they’re clever and manipulated me.

1. I like hiking but I don’t like hiking off the trail because anything could be happen and it happened one time. We get lost. Even my husband already get mad and screaming because we can’t get back to the trail. I don’t like hiking off the the trails, for me it’s kinda danger.
2. Father-in-law pay for the first and second month but not 3rd and 4th, and wants to pay the 5th since I’m runaway. I stopped work since May 2019 since I moved to their house and they know my condition.

3. They know I don’t like some kind of movies according to my belief, I’m not saying I’m perfect, but they force we to sit with them as spending time with them.

4. Not only movies, show or sports, they forced me to have the same favorite team, interests, political views, etc

5. They suggested to cancel all my religious activities or any kind of invitations from friends became we need to spend our time together.

6. Even, they asked me to stop any kind of social media, and phone, because they love old fashioned, and they force me to do the same.

7. Also all the food, the vitamins, and so on.....

No physical abuse, but I feel trapped. 
 

I know my husband didn’t about withdrawing i130 but my father-in-law sent email to me that they can’t wait forever. 
 

I don’t want comeback since I’m not sure they will change as I want. I just afraid.

PS: 2 years ago, my mother-in-law did suicidal through overdose xanax, in their house. Now I understand what the mother-in-law feeling that time.

Hello guys,

I share my story, I was married with USC for almost 5 moths, he has like mental problem, I didn’t know until I live in the house. He never hit me but for me he is over controlling me. Before we married he said never stop my religious activity but after married, he changed. He say I can go wherever I want while he is not home. They like to watch adultery movie while I don’t be as long as I sit with them it’s enough, they like to hiking every weekend at the same spot but I don’t because it’s boring. While they often off the track too which is I don’t like because it’s danger. That’s why, weekend always become the stressed days ever for me since married.
The things that I don’t like because he always say that this is our time together as a married couple, we need to spend time together. I feel something isn’t right and I feel trap. I gave up.

That’s why, I run away from the house and after I had some suggestions from USCIS officer and the police officer. I move to a friend’s house in another city.

Until now, my husband tried to call me and leave some voicemails also my father-in-law to ask me comeback to the house again, and the things that made me surprised, they said they will pay my credit card bill (since they know I’m not working since I move to their house and I don’t have money) and they said wants to continue my i130, as long as I comeback home.

But, for me it’s enough, since the 1st and the 2nd month my father-in-law always pays my credit card bill, stop in the 3rd and 4th month but remember again in the 5th month after I left them.

Also, the weekend time become a nightmare I’m afraid, they will ask me to go hiking to unknown place and do something bad to me.

What should I do know guys?

Since I move to another city and call some legal aid services and they didn’t know vawa and they said it stop already, they suggested me to make restraining order and go to the court. I don’t want to see my husband and my father-in-law (he is a lawyer too) for now.

Any suggestions will help me sooo much. Thank you guys. I’m sorry if too much. God bless you all!