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Thank you for your ideas and yes him and I are religous people.....I do enjoy reading the Bible and it does help.....Im not sure what it is.....I ask myself is it the interview that Iam so concerned about or is it that I know he is going to be here that soon????? Have not seen him in a year and a half now......I have so many thoughts running through my mind.....He just now arrived in Lagos today at about 10pm his time after a long bus trip. Got a call from him and he is setteled in for the night wating for me to call him later......He will be going to the Doctos tomorrow to get his medical results and finish up with that......then he is going to take some time to just try and relax before the interview.......Knowing that he is there in Lagos now gives me a little breathing room...Seems I am a little more relaxed but still at times I want to cry.....I cant wait to be with him again and in his arms where I belong.......Im concentrating on What im going to wear, gettng my nails done, my hair done, and just how im going to pick him up from the air port.....thought one good way would be to rent a Limo......what do you think????? Will have about 7 to 9 family members there to greet him and wanted all of us to travel home together all in the same car......Tell me what you think???? Ohhhh yes with bottles of sparkling Apple Cider with toasting glasses...........

Haha! Girl, you made me laugh, sparkling Apple Cider and toasting glasses. That's nice. I may just get my fiance and I some Sparkling Grape juice with some plastic cups! WOW! Rent a limo? You are really truly going all out for your love. If I did that for my fiance, he'd probably be embarrased that I got him a limo to pick him up in just to be dropped off at an apartment building where he will be staying at. That's great lady. Go ahead and do what seems best for your love. I am not trying to thwart you in anyway. Go head get your hair and nails done though. I know I am not going to be greeting my guy with beedy bee and head scarf and old shabby clothes. I am going to look nice for him.

That's great that he is in Lagos and readying himself for the interview. At least that gives you some comfort. I know that we are all still human and we are going to have that emotional spell once in a while, but keep trusting God. My fiance will be doing the same thing, jumping on the bus and getting the rest of his medicals done in Lagos before the interview. He feel that it would make more since to get the rest of the things done a few days before his interview so that he will not have to go back and forth. Does your fiance live in Port Harcourt?

I think it is the interview and him being here that has given us all the heebee jeebees. Yep, and the different thoughts are running through my mind as well. I am thinking, ok, when I pick him up, I am going to get my car washed inside and out with a little bit of "new car smell" air freshener. Although, it wouldn't make since seeing that it would be snowing in the winter time and my vehicle would be covered in sludge in snow anyway. I have to buy him a coat because he said that he want to be here in December before Christmas. My closet is so small, so I'd probably have to buy a cedar chest for him to put his clothes in once he move in after we get married or I'd just thin out my closet. I got more shoes than clothes in that place. Yes, yes the count down is near.

Do what you gotta do girl. You go!

I too am happy that you have posted this thread Nigerianlove. You are right by making the Bible the aspect of your home. That's great. As Boaz said, Proverbs 31 is a great passage of scripture. I read other passages in the bible as well such as Ephesians and Matthew in regards to husband and wife relations.

I am also a very independent person. I've been by myself for so long and now that the reality of being with a husband is coming soon, I am becoming very afraid I mean, I know that he is THE ONE. I just got to get into the habit of having a husband in my "realm". Actually, it is getting kinda scary. To be with someone for the rest of your life is...wow! I guess, that is why I've been so overly anxious and worried these few weeks before his interview. I believe it's not the part of him being approved or not, but it is the part where he would eventually be here and we have to prepare ourselves to be M-A-R-R-I-E-D! Shucks, I am just so used to being on my own. I am used to having unwashed dishes in the sink til the next day. I am used to kicking off my shoes and leaving them in the middle of the hallway floor all day. I am used to having my work and school paper lying around the house. I am used to forgetting to screw the toothpaste cap on my toothpaste, ha!

However, there are pros to the whole situation too. I live in the midwest and we sometimes get a smorgasboard of snow here in winter. I would have help in shoveling snow. He can cut the grass and take the garbage to the curb every Friday morning. Hey, those are manly things arent they? I try not to bruise his ego at all. I don't talk down to him. Not only African men, but men in general, ego can be bruised easily. Their egos liked to be stroked sometime. I always tell my guy how intricate he is when it comes to working with tedious objects. I give him pet names and he seems to purr like a lion when I give him those sweet pet names.

In order to get over the fact of being independent, I am preparing myself to be a wife and a virtuous woman for my husband. I want to make the Lord the rock of our marriage. Lord willing, when he get here, I want us to paint the living room together in the color that we want it. I told him that he will learn how to drive when he get here as well. He's been wanting to learn for the longest. That way he will be able to go places and be my chauffeur too. I once told him that I'm glad that he didn't learn to drive in Nigeria because he would pass on the prohibited driving techniques here in this State. It may crazy, but I don't want him to be too Americanized. I just want him to be his same sweet self, with the adjustment of just being in America.

Have you ever had a cat where you'd get another one for the first cat, but the first cat already knew that he was king of the castle. The first cat would get upset when another one would try to take over. That is how I am. I like my freedom. That is going to have to come to an end eventually. My friend said that I have to come out of my comfort zone, and SOON! Lord knows I want to be married, but I just gotta get out of the dogon comfort zone. I am getting better.

Well its Saturday night well I guess Sunday mor. 12:25 am and I cant sleep, Up crying and just very emotional. Have tried reading, taking a warm bubble bath, now Im drinking Diet 7-up....Cant get the stomach to settle down.....Ohhhh this waiting.......So happy that we have the interview but even more nervous that it is in 4 days.........Cant get a handle on all the what ifs?????? Once its over and he gets his visa do think that maybe I will get better or does it start all over again waiting for him to get here???????.......How do we get the nerves to stop?????Please give me some Ideas????? Willing to try just about anything.........

Hi Moon1968. Hope your day is going well since last post. Try not to think about the situation too much. That's what I'm doing. Do you go to a church anywhere? Any close friends you can hang out with? Reading God's word is helpful as well. Well, my suggestion is to read the book of Psalms chapter 37. Rest assured you will come out rejoicing after your done. Just keep reading a few verses or chapters a day until the interview comes, that way you will be empowered and ready! I am sure the interview will go well. I believe that all the jitters will go away once the interview is done. Keep praying too. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers as well.

Just me again,

Im glad to know that Im not alone in the way I feel. My Husbands interview is next Thursday only 6 days away now.......Im not eating, Cant stomach is to sick, cant sleep well, Masive stress headach, On the verge of tears all the time.......No matter what I do I cant get the anxity to stop. It is at such a high level that I dont know what to do now......I did take the day off from work to be home when I find out what happens at his interview......right now im just trying to make it until then.......Man I thought waiting to get the interview date was bad.......Seems like the level of anxity is kicked up 100 times more.......Ohhhhhh the waiting.......What do we do???

Whoa! yours is right around the corner too! I am just praying the best and that things will go super on your interview day. Hang in there lady.

Wonderful! Wishing you the best on your new life together.

i know how you feel! trust me, i understand completely. just try to be as calm as possible and keep yourself BUSY! also, i meditated and prayed a lot ( i am not sure of your faith)...that really helped...the day before nana's interview, i heard a song called: "why worry when you can pray" and it made my day...and helped me to calm down....also, work keeps me busy, busy, busy! just take a deep breath, and know that everything is on your side!

peace and love

Thanks Radical Lover. I remember that song myself. I appreciate the affirmations.

Sheesh, I think I'm gonna be like you 'cause I tend to get nervous. All I can say is maybe take a sleep aid. It helps me to put on some relaxing music when I go to bed, but sometimes I wake up 3-4 times during the night. The only thing that works for me is to take a sleep aid.

GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!!!!!!!

(and please let us know how the interview goes).

Thanks Queen Jenn. Everyone takes anxiety in a different way. I try to keep away from the sleep aids and indulge in a hot cup of decaffeinated chamomile tea to try to soothe and calm my nerves. Also reading in the book of Psalms helps me out a lot too.

Right now I am eating an angus burger quesadilla with onion rings from Applebees, sounds strange but scrumptious right? ha! ...Eating stuff I never ever tried before! Whoa, this has got to stop!

Wow, LovinLiberia, you were pretty sick there! I can only imagine how it would be for me the night before...probably up all night til he finished his interview. I probably will even take the day off work because I know I would not have gotten enough rest the night before.

Jomo's girl, Truthfully, if I could get Good times and Little house on the prairie AND Sanford and Son as the only channels, I would be a happy soul. Just give me a couple bottles of Mango Snapple and some chocolate chip cookies and I'm a happy couch potater at...well at least til the fiance comes.

Hi Naijagal, I will be keeping you in my thoughts and prayers for your upcoming interview. I know all will be well for you.

Yeah, I go to my Bible reading and prayer for comfort through these times. It really helps when I tend to forget and get afraid and worry. All in all, I know all will be well. Even my fiance has been in a moody mood lately. I believe it's really getting to him too, now that the time is drawing near. Anyway, all of you guys are great. Thanks for the encouragements. I will try to keep myself occupied with a few things. I love to bake and sew. I will probably do some of that too.

Sounds like you're having a wonderful reunion! I hope my man will like to clean the house too. I look forward to taking him to Wal-Mart when he comes home. That's my favorite store!

Shanon

Ditto!

That's excellent news! Seems like yesterday... Anyway, Congrats!

Ohhhh I know what you are going through.....Our interview is on the 20th of this month.....Only 6 days aways after today......Ohhh Im going crazy.....I am an emotional mess.....Crying one min. Happy the next.......Right now i am suffering with stress headaches......so bad I had to get medication from the doctor......Cant sleep sick at my stomach and not eating.......Ohhhhh Im making myself sick even before he get here......Have been waiting for this interview but now that it is almost here its getting even more stressful......I just want it over with......Want and need to be with my Husband........Im trying to keep foucused on other things to keep busy.....Planing on what we are going to do when he gets here.....things to keep him busy....Planing a big a party for when he gets here.......anyway I guess this is just te process we all have to go through.......Ohhhhh just want it over.....

Mmm hmm. Yep, I know what you mean! I've been sick two weeks ago with bad cold virus. I still sound like I'm talking through my nose because I've been so congested. I rarely get sick. I'm eating everything in sight. It seems I have so much to do with so little time. Planning wedding for the next few months and getting things done around the house. My mom is planning on having a dinner for him when he get here as well. I think I need a day in a nice relaxing bubbly jacuzzi! You know, I think he'll owe me one when he get here. Tee hee! B)

Is it just me or am I gone stone cuckoo! I guess this interview stage is really getting to me. I have had recent nights of tossing and turning and crying spasms during television shows. Can you believe that I cried during the television show Good Times and during Little House on the prairie! Yipes, I never been this before til recently! Here it is close to three weeks til the interview. I am like deadman walking here! I just pray everything goes well. Just can't wait til it's over!

Great news! Congrats!

Alright! That's great. It's just right around the corner. Congrats!

Hey lady! How you doing these last hours? I know you are countin' down the minutes, if not hours. Hope you are doing ok. I just know Everything will be fine.

Hi Radical Lover. Thanks for coming online and letting us know that the interview will be coming up. I know what you mean about the stressful part of it all. I have been unable to properly sleep lately too and the dreams.....HA! tell me about it! I must remember that God is in control and all will be well. I am just now getting things together and about to send it off to my Fiance for his October interview. He is all calm about it, but I am just a bundle of nerves. Anyway, continue to pray and leave it in God's hands. If God be for us, who can be against us. I will definetely be keeping you guys in my prayers. Yes, all will be well.

Thanks for the help, you all are wonderful.

I always think that it's better to have more than you think you'll need than to get there and not have what they ask for. We haven't been to the interview yet, but I plan on sending tax returns with W-2's for the past three years and AT LEAST 6 months worth of pay stubs and bank statements (from EVERY ACCOUNT) and IRA statements, along with a letter from my employer and the title to my car.

GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!

Ditto. That's what I'm gonna do too. It's better to be safe than sorry. Thanks.

Ok, so the poverty guidelines is 17,112 for a household of two. Here's a dumbo question... Does the household of two mean for me and my fiance. I thought it meant for me and someone who is already living with me such as a child.

Secondly, do they look at the w2's and add up the years. Let's say for instance 2004 tax was 10,000, 2005 was say 12,000, and 2006 was 14,000. Do they add those numbers up in order to get a total to meet the poverty guideline of the household of two or do they use the one for just 2006? Also, do they use the pay stubs to add up with the 2006 tax income to meet the poverty guideline. Call me a perfectionist but, I just want to be in the clear here. I'm trying my best to avoid a let down.

Hello...again. I want to know if anyone out there know what the poverty guidelines are for a K-1 visa in submitting the affidavit of support. Did anyone send any asset info for their fiance interviews just in case? I am concerned on whether or not I qualify. I am boggled.

Yayyyyyy! Alright! God is good! Congratulations!

Hi JJ! I am sure everything will be fine. You have been in my thoughts and prayers and all will be well.

Thanks people! I truly appreciate the advice. Especially about the Birth certificate.

I'm happy for you LL! Praying that he has a safe journey to the U.S. of A. Can't wait to have my boo here too.