Pam&Mbaye

To mind my own business, I don't need anyone elses drama in my life but my own

I'm not sure on this one, but the dealings that I have had thus far with USCIS is that they don't go above and beyond to resolve errors for you other then to send RFE's. You might want to call the USCIS 800 number and explain the situation and ask what you should do from this point.

I hope this helps!

I am so sorry to hear of your misfortune. Although you may not appreciate it at this moment, at least you weren't married when you found out about her double life. I think if you look at some of the forum archives you might find an answer about whether you are financially responsible for her. I am almost sure I have read something similar happening to someone else on here and the answer was that the wording on the I-134 is ambiguous and therefore not binding as with the I-864. I'm not quite sure. Sorry I couldn't be of more help but research the forum and the best of luck to you.

I just read Charles and Nessa's response after having posted mine so disregard the part about someone posting concerning this issue.

Mercy,

For someone who is a pessimist you have a good attitude about it all

Christmas tree, that is!!

Just what were you thinking, hmmmm?

Your post is too cute...you put a smile on my face

To the 23 openly online members and 81 guests signed into VisaJourney right now- and we know who we are- It's Christmans! Addicts! Get help!

And you 6 anonymous members, at least you know you have a problem- the next step is fixing it!

Merry Christmas!!

(I don't know why I put 12 member online in the sub topic. too much nog already I guess.)

I had a good little chuckle at your post, I guess I am addicted as well as missing my husband as well as not being one of those who celebrates Christmas...however to those who do happy holidays and I promise not to be on here New Year's day...well at least I will try not to be

Wouldn't it be easy to pick up the phone and call BA to get the answer straight from the horses mouth per say? :energetic:

Does anyone know if British Air allows a handbag in addition to the carry on? It doesn't really say on their site and although it says it allows ONE bag onboard, usually implied in that is that a pocket book can be brought too, right?

Doodle,

I went to Africa in June using British Airways and I had my handbag and a carry on bag which I put in the overhead compartment, and the handbag I kept next to me. You still may want to call BA to make sure.

All the best

By the way, sorry about not knowing how to put the quote into quotation marks I am still getting the hang of this. So the first paragraph is a quote I took from someone's post that I had a problem with.

Thanks!

My husband said if he didn't tell (or ask) you to convert to Islam, he used you to get to America for a green card. To quote him directly "There are too many beautiful muslim women or even orthodox or christian women in Ethiopia to marry a non-muslim or non-Ethiopian unless he was going to be able to leave Ethiopia for U.S. or U.K." Sorry about the bluntness, but he's a straight shooter.

I believe that statement from someone who had posted earlier in this forum is simply the opinion of that person's husband. I believe a misconception needs to be cleared up. In Islam a Muslim man can marry from the people of the book which translates to Christians and Jews without them converting to Islam. To say that a Muslim man is using a Christian woman for a green card if she chooses not to convert to Islam is painting Muslim men who marry Christian women with a broad stereotypical brush. I am sure there are plenty of people who could say the same thing about any marriages by American women to foreign men, that most foreigners are only looking to come to America to get a green card, and that statement would be just as untrue.

Enough said on that but I did want to say that I think it would be beneficial for you to learn about your husband's religion and learn about marriage in Islam. I think this would be beneficial to you. Although you are right in believing culture plays a role in your or anyone else's marriage for that matter, what is the final word on marriage in Islam is the Quran. There are clear roles that the husband and the wife fulfill in a marriage based on Islam and I am not talking about servitude as some would have you believe concerning Muslim women and their marriage. I know of some books that would probably help you to understand your husband more concerning marriage in Islam, if you would like to have the titles please let me know and I will send you the titles and where you can purchase them online.

My husband is from East Africa just as your husband is, sure there are cultural things that can't help but be in our marriage since I am American and he is Kenyan and we bring both of our cultures and traditions to the table. One thing for sure though we have open dialog with one another and try not to let our cultures clash so to speak.

Your post covered a lot of different areas and I addressed only one part of your post but it is a huge part of your marriage that needs to be addressed. If your husband is a practicing Muslim then it is imperative to find out what he believes since Islam dictates how he should live his life and also, you should learn what is truly Islamic behavior and what is his own thing i.e. culture and tradition.

I hope this helps

:energetic: :energetic: Very nice indeed, a wonderful way to close out the new year. I hope the coming year for you and yours is full of nothing but the best!

I really like the number one comment about commit to "Till death do you part." My husband and I are in total agreement that "divorce" is not an option...I told him "You are stuck with me baby." Thanks for the list.....also, by the way could someone please tell me how you are able to put the quotes in your email...okay so I am computer illiterate on this matter

All the best to you and yours, it's always nice to hear great news!!! Gives me hope

Billyboy,

I am so sorry to hear about your misfortune. Unfortunately this is one of those things where life happens and that is putting it kindly. I have a very close friend who went through something similar to you. Unfortunately, if my memory serves me correctly once her I-864 was processed she was obligated for the 10 yrs of support that is spoken of in the I-864. She inventually married another foreign national and had to list her first spouse in the number of people that she has to support. However, since it seems like your I-864 has not been processed perhaps you can withdraw it and if so, I would fax that information over to the NVC right away. Also, my friend tried to say that her husband had comitted fraud but was told that if she went ahead and filed for divorce on the basis of fraud that it would be very difficult to prove, but then again she was married to her husband long enough for him to get a green card so in your case it may be different. You may have to bite the bullet on this one sad to say, because I think no matter how things may appear in that the marriage was a sham, I think proving it is what will be difficult. As for supporting her while you are going through a divorce, I think a good question to ask your lawyer is if California is a community property state (and I believe it to be so) and if it is, does this mean that she gets half of what you have despite only being married a short amount of time?

All the best to you while you go through this but please know that this more then likely will be a long process and not one that will go away quickly sorry to say.

Paul,

I enjoyed the read, very nice and it made me think of things I learned and the age in which I learned them. Life and time is a wonderful teacher. Thanks!

Truly wonderful and what a great present to give

Thanks for sharing!!

All,

Thank you much for your thoughts and comments. The good thing about this forum is that you can voice your opinion and people will respect it and give you the lattitude to voice your frustrations and encourage you to hang in there. When I talked to my husband by phone I told him about the great group of people on this forum. I tell you right now if it wasn't for this forum I believe I would be going crazy

Looking 4 Wife, I will take you up on that offer for sure

Thanks again all, everyone of you are the BEST

Sad to say but he only voiced the opinion of a lot of ignorant people. One other sad thing is that VA has a high concentration of Muslims that he evidently had no qualms in considering a part of his constituency. His remarks are proof positive that some people believe that Islam is evil and that it will eventually take over the country.

Didn't Ammar say that they gave his passport back to him and that once he collected the paperwork they were asking for then the passport and the paperwork back to them by Fed Ex? My question is why did they give Ammar back his passport instead of keeping it?

No one seems to have patience anymore. It is all about self satisfaction now.

o anyway, don't blame immigrations, blame those that went through the system before us and because of their actions you now have all the proceedures in place because ofthem. Of course, as time goes on and more people try to berat the system more procedures and further delays will b built in.

Well, some may choose wanting to be with your loved one self-satisfaction, and maybe it is. However, I don't see what is wrong with wanting to be with the person you are married to and for others it may be their fiance. I don't believe that to be self-satisfaction, what I see it as is what should be normal. And no I don't have patience in wanting to be with my husband however, there is nothing I can do about that at this point.

You are right in saying that alot of this process can be attributed to those who try to beat the system, however sending a fee bill first before sending the paperwork after the receipt of the money seem a complete waste of time. Why not kill two birds with one stone, send the fee bill and the paperwork together, that would shave off a few weeks for sure. Also, and oh by the way, I just found out that they won't be sending the paperwork but will have you download the forms yourself and then you send the paperwork that has the barcode back with the form you downloaded off the internet. So I do blame immigration for this portion of the wait. It's called barcode hostaging

I'm taking deep breaths and waiting to exhale over here. Let's just say I am not holding my breath for immigration to change. As you said in your post: " as time goes on and more people try to beat the system more procedures and further delays will be built in"

I hope my case will be complete before more procedures are added so I can get back to living a normal life which does not include waiting for word from immigration.

I know I shouldn't complain and I know there are a number of people who have waited to be with their loved one longer then I have, but despite knowing all of this, I must say I am quite disgusted and depressed by this whole immigration process. I do believe the immigration process is a process to discourage people from marrying people from other countries and thereby stopping people from immigrating to the USA. Although I have read in other posts that the people at the NVC have been helpful, it makes me wonder who the heck were they talking too? I have gotten nothing but vague answers or downright lies. An example, that automatic voice response telling the lie that a fee bill has been mailed and three weeks later after talking to a customer service rep, I get a response that the fee bill was mailed yesterday and not three weeks ago. Or how about the amount of time it takes to process paperwork you overnighted but does not get processed 3 or 4 weeks later. My theory is...half the time this stuff sits on somebody's desk who doesn't give a rat's bottom that people are seperated from one another. Oh yeah and is it asking to much to include a fee bill with the paperwork that you need to fill out to keep the process moving? What is this pay a fee, we send you the paperwork and holding the barcode hostage until they receive the money? It's real simple, if the fee isn't paid, then don't process the paperwork. Oh but then again if the NVC should happen to do their job in a timely manner or equip applicants with the information they need to speed things along then some government workers would be out of a job.

Now I feel much better now that I have gotten that off of my chest!

Ashar,

According to the I-130 instructions if you look at item 3 alphabet D you will find these words:

For whom you may not file?

D. A husband or wife, if you and your spouse were not physically present at the marriage ceremony, and the marriage was not consumated.

It appears from this statement that you would not be eligible to file and I-130 unless you were physically present at your wedding ceremony and consumated the marriage.

All the best!

Peezy,

I don't think you read my very last post. I think if you go back and re-read it I think you will find that what you have said I am in agreement with, you might not have seen it. I think the last post will answer the question you just posted to me. Sneak a peek and I think you will agree I am on the same page as you. Thanks