Mary Lou

Well just let her believe that is true and divorce and move on.

You are not in a normal situation. It is not as if god forbid something happens....when you go to court it is not just going to be okay don't talk to her and go your own way...your immigration status is at risk and not only that it puts your future in jeopardy. Right now you have no protection. You have no proof and no one who has witnessed this first hand to even come forward on your behalf if something happens. It is not your fault she has no money. You don't have to get divorced right away but I would separate for right now until she gets help. It is not possible that you have 2 people who were in marriages like this and they didn't work and you are going to be the exception. Transborderwife is a rare story because she WANTS help so she WORKS hard daily. This isn't even a week old your problem and she is already coming up with excuses. I know they say in sickness and in health and stay with your husband or wife no matter what but you have to protect yourself. So maybe staying someplace else until she shows you she really wants to work this out is an option.

And the justification of why she can't get help begins. There will always be another excuse until she is good ready on her own and seeks treatment. And I don't for one second believe her ex isn't 100% aware of her mental problems already.

Since I am very familiar with the behaviors you are talking about, I will give you some very important advice. Document everything. Leave immediately with all the belongings that are important to you and file for divorce. Do not worry about alimony. Do worry about your assets and bank accounts. There is no saving this marriage. Do not talk with your wife. Record conversations. Do not get into situations where she can accuse you of domestic violence or worse. Don't argue with her. Don't say anything unless absolutely required. Please. I know exactly what you are experiencing.

What law is it breaking?

Sorry but I think You should go back home and start over. I doubt you know everything he has done at this point.

LOL your welcome and you are doing exactly what the Hag wants you to do! By giving her attention.

LOL your welcome and you are doing exactly what the Hag wants you to do! By giving her attention.

It's not up to us to ask why she wants a divorce.
If she has proof of a bonafied marriage she can remove conditions on her own.

I am almost 12yrs older then my husband and we had no issues at all regarding age difference.