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You should receive email from embassy after they recieve your package.
It will list CENOMAR as a requirement.

First and foremost I'm sorry to hear about your mother in law, may her soul rest in peace. I wish you and your spouse much needed strength, love and light during these dark days. 
 
And congrats on the interview date👌

Good to know what it was for sure!
 
But the other thought that crossed my mind is that they might want to be sure she is going on her own accord and not being forced or trafficked, but good to know that it was because of her privacy  
Good she has open communication with you!

Category:
I-864 (AOS package)
My stupid RFE was:
Did not fill in the income totals for the last 3 years on question #25
What I learned:
Not to assume that the person reviewing your AOS package will see those totals on the enclosed tax transcripts you provided...and when someone named Ling Ling suggests that you fill those in, LISTEN to him...

In addition here's an excerpt from (yes, I know Wikipedia...):
 

Machismo  <--Link to clip above
 
Aside from my observation, she is just 3 years older than me. I have many friends who are filipinas and let me tell you, she's still very much a young person still. Hence the betty boop stuff and playing games on her phone. Do reach out to her and see if there is an activity that you guys can make a hobby, for the 2 of you. Something like bowling, or a sport you can engage in with your pets, do you have space for a garden? Being vegetarian can be quite a hardship for a filipino spouse. I am vegetarian and my husband isn't... There are times when we feel like we are a very unlikely match. I want to encourage you to maybe try learning to cook some simple things that you like and show her how, let her watch you, or watch cooking shows with her. Take her to Atlanta and go to a market like H-Mart or Other Asian markets and show her your interest in things she's used to, if she's been there for 2 years, show her that you still appreciate where she is from. It sounds to me like you have very little commonality and she may feel like there isn't any connection between you other than sex. (when you did have it) 

I haven't noticed any Filipino's who enjoy conflict, or discussions about problems or coming together to talk about things that might be difficult to say.
On top of that, if she is more reserved and shy with you now, versus in the Philippines, it might be that because there, she was expected to allow you to do those things while you were courting her. (To be a good option for you to marry her.) She was not taught to use her voice and let you know what she felt comfortable with. Now that you two are married, she feels that as long as she cares for you, she's doing her duty. Maybe she never expected a passion-filled marriage with you because she was probably told, that with the age difference you just wanted a woman companion, and she would learn to have feelings for you later. Maybe she just resigned herself to her life (bahala na), and hopes you will just continue to let her serve you and take care of your home without requiring her to sleep with you. Maybe she hasn't developed those feelings and just let you choose her.
 
Just my observation.

PaoSelle, you state: “…he just has genuine hate for the men in the Philippines.”
 
You say: “I can tell you all the good things about the people in the Philippines but it still wouldn’t change your mind man”
 
On one hand, you appear to lash back with the same sort of generality and judgement that clearly bothers you.  I have long ago learned: Never, ever, “judge” a person from the Philippines.
 
Generalizations are not appropriate here, yet the discussion of stedye’s OP, where people ask for family background is appropriate.
 
In the Republic of Philippines machismo is alive and well, and to the American mind, odd, impenetrable, hidden, and other things.  Generalizations aside, many men treat women poorly; perhaps the greatest reason a Filipina desires a Westerner, is because of lack of machismo.  A common (my opinion) predominant reason Filipinas desire westerners are not merely whiteness of skin, or opportunity, though these reasons exist—the true reason is simple:  Filipinas believe that their husband will always be true to them and woe to a westerner that fails in that respect!
 
More than half of ALL babies born in the Philippines were born from unwed mothers (909,783 or 52.1% of all babies born in 2016.  Oh yes, the men of the Philippines are excellent men—think about the facts please.  Think about this, more than half of babies in the Philippines last year were fathered by men who dumped their “love.”  Note: About 40% of babies born in America have unwed mothers—either machismo or stupidity is rampant here too.  
 
My brother-in-law to be Rolando is a sweet, loving, hard-working, kind, trustworthy man and I lament that he will not take a bride because he knows he cannot afford it.  Here is a good man who will, I hope someday make a good father and husband, I do not think that he knows the concept of machismo.  If he accidentally impregnated his girlfriend I have zero doubt that he would marry her.
 
However, do not, for a second, believe that, unless you live within the family that anyone really knows.  True things that I have heard over the years: “Mama’s caribao died.”  “That brother had an accident.”
 
No.  The caribao did not just die—it was murdered, and I believe murdered because a loan shark demanded payment and that was the message.  No, the brother did not merely have an accident, I believe the brother was murdered, loan shark, bet-fixing—I do not know the reason why.  Yet I do know that what is apparent on the outside is often not at all indicative of what is really going on.  (Note: these examples are not related to my fiancee’s family, my history in the Philippines goes back quite a way).  
 
In America there are good men, and bad men (and lots of both).  In the Philippines there are good men, and bad men (and lots of both).  I like this quote:
 
The Philippines is a country of sharp contrasts and paradoxes. And the role of women in Philippine society is one area where this depiction is most palpable. While it can be said that Filipino women have gained more leverage than their other Asian sisters in elevating their status in society, their fight against oppression and exploitation is far from won. They may have come a long way but they still have far to go.
http://www.pitlanemagazine.com/cultures/role-of-women-in-philippine-society-filipino-women-and-feminism.html  also:  https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Machismo
 
steyde’s relationship is one of misery and it’s fully appropriate to look for reasons and oftentimes reasons come from looking at the family and its history.  I searched for and have specifically found a woman that so dearly loves her entire family that she would lay her life down for them.  So would her papa or mama and so would her brothers.  She comes from an intact family and get this:  Take Filipinacupid.com and ask 100 women“do you love your mama/papa?  Did mama/papa fight?  Was there an alcohol problem?  Was there cheating?  And I came to this conclusion:  Most of the women (90+%) on dating sites like Filipinacupid in fact come from broken homes—and broken homes do not create women OR men who want to grow up and have a loving family and create loving babies, or if they do want, they no longer know how to.  Like it or not, we are a product of our family. 
 
My advice for any man looking for a super-quality wife is go the Philippines and find a woman who loves her family and where momma and papa have always respected each other and then you have a chance at having a truly loving relationship.
 
And too consider, for in the Philippines, to an American it appears a Patriarchal society, yet is far from that, it’s a Matriarchal society and the females bear the burden, not the males, of supporting the family. In many cases a women will do what she has to do to complete that task—even if it means utilizing an American as a conduit to a better life.  Therefore, I also advise men who search for a loving wife: Beware of Ate.  If a woman has sisters/Aunts in America especially if Ate, the % chance that you are being set up goes up exponentially.  This is simply my opinion and not all Filipinas with an Ate in America intend to engage in fraud—it is merely a potential red flag that steyde may want to look to  understand his plight.  So my only advice to styde is to consider the family history for it may be the key to understanding what is going on.
 
 
 

visa cr1 approved mumbai 

Well, fellow January 2017 filers it is now 12 months later! 
Today, at 11:00 AM, the NVC received the final info they requested on the checklist. (Thanks to the IRS, it took 4.5 months to get my 2016 Tax Transcripts)
I am so anxious for this to be over and I am praying the review of the checklist items won't take all of the 11 possible weeks!
I feel like if it goes well he could be here as soon as March. I'm trying not to think about it so much that I start to stress out, but I'm so ready for this long-distance marriage to be over, and our "normal" married life to begin. LDR's are so stressful when you already had a life together before the decision to immigrate. That separation is just unbearable, as you all know, too well!   
 
This kind of agony just takes the life right out of a relationship!
 

A BIG CONGRATS to those who have been granted their visas!
 

Hi, 
So here is my story, Sorry if it is a bit long.
I am a Muslim, single mom of two children, divorced ,  met online( doing a project) with this man. He showed me interest but I rejected as he was a Hindu, and 10 years younger than me. Time passed by, we decided to meet. But because of my Pakistani origin I couldn't get Indian Visa and he couldn't get US visa,  so we met in another country. Neither my parents were happy with all this nor his, he being the only child of his parents. After first meeting we decided to marry. To marry him he had to convert to my religion so he became a Muslim. We got married after a year in another country, being a destination wedding on the beach with no family members, Our witnesses were hotel manager and one of my now husband's friend.  Before filing for I130, I was very upset so I collected courage and posted my first post here on VJ, telling this story and asked for an advice. I got so many negative comments and everyone was just coming up with one answer that this is a difficult case and be ready to stay away from him for many years. I cried and became disheartened. My husband told me to ask admins to delete that thread because it was making me more sad and discouraging me to even apply for CR1.
So the thread was deleted, I applied for Cr1, but I put daily one hour reading Visa Journey, I read almost all cases, do's, dont's, prepared evidence. made trips. I did everything that I could, and case moved on, my case was very well presented and front loaded, so I didn't get a checklist or rfe. Now it was the time of the interview, for that also, I talked about everything possible to him. But he got so many tricky questions. when he was in interview, all those comments on VJ were still in my head so I was quiet sure that he is not getting visa this time and I even made him prepared for that. When he came back I was shocked to know that he got the visa, Wooohooooo. I am still in disbelief. This is the happiest news of our life. we both cried before and after the interview.
I would like to thank you all for support that you guys provided the whole year. specially @Yeonin in our January 2017 filers made it a lil funner for all of us January filers, who kept group and discussions active. I love you all. I am just posting my story and interview questions here so that if there is another genuine couple in the same scnario, they can get benefit out of it and always listen to negative comments and precautionary comments as they make you prepare for the worst.

Here are his interview questions in Bombay US Consulate:

* Who is calling you?
* How did you guys got to know each other?
* What type was that software project that you did for her?
* Where does her parents live currently?
* Where is her mother from?
* Where is her Father from?
* No. Her Father is from India. He was born in India?
* Why did you marry her?
* Describe your wedding ceremony.
* What is common between you guys?
* How you share the same culture, she is from different country?
* In your Nepal trip you only stayed at hotel, Why did'nt you go anywhere outside?
* Show me Nepal trip pics.
* Describe your wedding in Srilanka?
* Does she have kids?
* Which grades are they in?
* Age of kids?
* Which school do they go to?
* Public or Private?
* If you do not know then how are you planning to pay the fees for kids education?
* What is "Jo dekhna hay dekho aur niklo yahan se" means. (It was in our Skype chat records after this statement we both had a big fight).
* What do you do for living?
* Did your father attended your wedding on Skype?
* If he was not in favor of it why he even attended it on Skype?
* How did you convince your parents after the wedding?
* Are they happy with the marriage now?
* What do you mean by easy marriage laws in Srilanka. In your statement?
* What are disagreements between you?
* What are you going to do in USA?
 
We got the stamped passport on VFS pickup location in two days. We both are luckiest people on the face of this earth and we thank our God to find the love of life. I pray all of you guys who are genuinely in love to be together as soon as possible. Please send us positive prayers so that we both love each other and respect each other even more in coming years.
God bless you.

Hi all, had my interview today went well. More of a conversation than an actual interview.  I was told I was approved however, they dis not receive my medical as yet from the hospital so once they receive it then my visa will be issued. 
 
I contacted the hospital and they were very apologetic that they made the error and dis not submit my results on time. I said you guys did not submit at all. The hospital assured me that on monday they will forward my results. So hopefully by Friday next week I will have visa in hand.

Thank you, i'm happy we were able to keep you grounded and i believe we will continue to show support one way or the other. Keep us posted on your journey! sending you love & light!

it's a wrap! waited  45 minutes  for a 5 minutes interview. 💃💃💃💃

Soooooooo this happened today!!!!!!!!!!!
 

 
After a long 276 day wait we can finally say we have been approved with no RFE!!!! 😬😬😬
 
Although we are smiling ear to ear this news has come just after finding out our joint sponsor will be moving to another state in the next 4-5 months. Would anybody here happen to know if this will affect our case? As if waiting for apporoval wasn’t stress enough we now have another 😒
 
Good luck to any Nebraska filers still waiting, don’t give up hope!! 

whooohooooo  got myself an interview date December 12th!

Ahhhh! Lil update - I had a  VERY last minute tonsillectomy on Wednesday... that's kinda irrelevant but basically im now recovering at home and have been checking the ceac website a few times every day. My husband phoned NVC on Monday which was our 6 week since scan date and they said to check back within a week or two as it was in the review department... When I was in hospital I read a silly horoscope and it said "you will receive interesting news by letter or email on Friday"... Ok so usually im not a believer in all that stuff but it made me smile. Well, guess FRICKIN what! Case complete as of today! No official update yet but the case status has turned to "At NVC" and our AOS section has disappeared. Sooooo excited! Making the pain of recovery so much more bearable right now  happy weekend everyone!