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    Petulc reacted to Georgia16 in I'll be the first Swedish asylee.   
    Are you serious? You will be fine in Sweden you can move to another place in Sweden if you have issues in your hometown and you will be just fine. 
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    Petulc reacted to Penguin_ie in info needed   
    You may not use the J1 visa with the intent of getitng married and adjusting status.
    If you use the spousal visa, you can work immediately.
    Do not use bad language and denigrate advice given, that is against the TOS.  There is a difference between being able to find work, and being able to get an employer to sponsor a visa.
     
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    Petulc reacted to Georgia16 in Sponsored husband may have been cheating   
    There is nothing you can do about his immigration even if you divorce.
     
    But you can do something for yourself and daughter and that is to move on.
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    Petulc reacted to inloveVEN in Green Card in hand!!!   
    Vjs i want to share my experience with you, related to the interview and the whole experience till today.
    We were scheduled to attend to the interview last Friday march, 24th, 2017. at 9:20am. in the USCIS office in New York. we arrived early in the morning, We were called to the interview and a lady start asking questions, she was not rude  but very serious.
    something very curious was that she made Weird and mocking expressions while she watching the photos, papers, in general all the evidences, like mocking, I suppose it was to make us nervous. The interview was relatively short, lasted no more than 15 minutes, the officer gave us all our documents and a letter indicating that at the moment she could not make a decision. My wife asked if that was going to take a long time and she emphatically said that she did not stay long with cases. I left the office with a lot of doubts. when we returned to the waiting room, i could see happy faces, all i saw was sad faces. On the weekend my wife made great efforts to raise my spirits because I thought that this would be another long period of waiting in that limbo in which one walks. I even had some fever. On Monday 27 I went to the office particularly late and without encouragement and in the middle of an endless  meeting I received a message from uscis indicating that there was an update of my case. i updated the USCIS app and It said that my card had been ordered. In the afternoon another message and when checking in the app it said that the request for adjustment of status had been approved. Even in disbelief, I saw that an email arrived for my wife on March 30, saying that the petition had been approved, then another mail on Friday came for me giving me the welcome to USA. And the message that the card had been sent. This is to say that I have reviewed the app hundreds of times to see a change of status and when we arrived home today, checking the mail we found a big envelop with a  beautiful green card inside and the app remains in the same state ( card was ordered to me)
     
    Now we are celebrating at home the new status 
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    Petulc reacted to Ebunoluwa in Horrible life after K1 marriage - how to get out?   
    You can't change her but you have control over yourself, whether you decide to engage in the arguments, whether you allow
    her the power to push your buttons or to not. You can only change your own behavior. It takes 2 to argue, you yell and scream....
    have you tried to not engage and keep the smile on your face and let her ramble and rant on ? Do you realize that you alone
    can decide to give in to stress or not ? You are giving her way too much power over your emotions. Stop it.
    See a marriage counselor to learn how to communicate without dysfunction. Then see if she would go to a phsychiatrist
    for an evaluation.
    It often feels very empowering the moment you realize you don't have to go to every fight you are invited to.
    Empower yourself ! Lead by example. Start by changing without reacting.
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    Petulc reacted to ASMS in My wife and I have just recently completed out CR-1 Visa case alone.   
    Congratulations to both of you!
    But I think you have a shallow impression about the process, since is not simple at all, not at least for everyone. 
    Saying this process is only about following the instructions is malicious and inconsiderate, since it means to ignore other factors that a couple sometimes can't change/control.
    For some couples the process is smooth and it works perfectly, but for many others it can turn in years far from the people they love.
    The couples that deal with US.Embassies in high fraud countries for example, those with genuine relationships, and still going through a long, tortuous scrutiny, would you still tell them is only about following instructions?
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    Petulc reacted to USAMorocco in Horrible life after K1 marriage - how to get out?   
    Divorce her and move on.  You are not on the hook for anything. Don't file her AOS.  But please please make sure this is what you want.  It is said that the hardest part of this whole thing is the first part where the foreign spouse doesn't have working papers or anything.  Pretty much they get to sit and do nada.  I will tell you my now husband came on a K1 in December and all I did was fight with him (not saying you fight with her) I made the first few months miserable for him because I was scared of giving up my life.  I got scared that maybe he would be lazy and not work....since we have gotten married and sent in the AOS paperwork it has been so much stress off of us.  Not saying this is your situation but it was our he we talked and talked (I yelled trying to scare him away) and told him to go home 9 million times...but he didn't and I can tell you he proved over a million times that he loved me.  Sometimes it just takes some talking and waiting to get through this stuff.  Our son is due on April 28 and I just cry when I think about how messed up I was in all of this knowing he left a good job, a very very close family, and his life to be with me.  I was horrible.  I would
    have made the biggest mistake of my life sending him home.  My husband probably thought the same way about me as you do with your wife lol he probably thought I was insane. 
     
    Again, I just tell you this because I was ready to give up too....maybe you can talk to her and feel her out and then again maybe it is not meant to be.  Either way good luck. 
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    Petulc reacted to Ontarkie in Horrible life after K1 marriage - how to get out?   
    The only thing you can do is file for divorce and be generous to offer her a plane ticket home. She may or may not use it but at least you offered. 
     
    Btw you didn't mention much in your post. So I want to add make sure you're just not having cold feet. The OMG  I'm not single anymore and have to share my space issue. 
     
    I'm the type that gets into a routine and if something in my life gets disrupted. I get a wave of  OMG what have I done and until I calm down and rethink with my head and heart in the same place do I see clearly.  
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