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About shayden10

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  • Birthday 07/12/1995
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    Adjustment of Status (approved)
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    National Benefits Center
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    Dover DE
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    I met my husband October 19, 2014 while he was playing hockey in my hometown and we fell in love almost immediately. After moving in together in Canada right away, we lived together for five months before starting our long distance relationship. On New Year's Eve 2016 he proposed to me while we were on vacation in Niagara Falls and I said yes! In July of 2016 I was denied entry to the USA because I had too many shoes, at which point we knew we had to close the distance permanently. That was when we began our visa journey to acquire a fiance visa, I entered the country on the K1 exactly one year after we got engaged. We were married on January 20, 2017 and received my approved conditional green card in September 2017.

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  1. shayden10

    Family Relationship Issues

    Hello VJers, This is actually very off topic, but I don't know where else to go. My husband is an avid redditor so that forum is not an option... I immigrated on a K1 Visa two years ago, I am sending in my ROC paperwork in May. Life has been very good for my husband and I, we both have good jobs, in August we bought a house and a new car, we have four cats and we are talking about babies in the very distant (like 5 yrs) future. I love life here and I absolutely adore my husband, but there is a big issue and I am struggling to figure out what to do about it... My husband and I took a road trip to my Canadian hometown to visit my family (about an 11 hour drive) this past July. We had a great trip, I saw a ton of my family, we all had a good time swimming, eating, and drinking. BUT on our last night there, my husband and I got in an argument (they happen!), it wasn't an extremely bad one and after fighting for about 15 minutes he wanted to leave the house to cool off, which he usually does when we argue. My Mom saw that I was upset and got involved in the argument, she was screaming at my husband and physically tried to stop him from leaving the house, which included putting her hands around his throat (according to my husband). While everyone was screaming, my Dad panicked and called the police. My husband left the house before they arrived, he went for a walk and ended up at my Aunt's house. The police arrived and questioned me at my parents, then went to speak with him. They made a note about us getting in a domestic dispute, there were no charges against anyone. We were told to spend the night apart and not communicate, in the morning I was to pack the truck, pick him up, and we would head home. We did text a bit during the evening, mainly me apologizing multiple times and him saying he just wanted to leave me in Canada. I picked him up first thing in the morning and we headed home, we argued for the first hour or so and then talked it out. Fast forward to today: my husband and I are still great, our relationship is good and we love each other more than anything. My parents are planning a trip to visit soon to see our new house and bring some of my furniture, and my husband plans to leave the house and not see them at all while they are here. My husband feels betrayed, heartbroken, and has lost his trust in my parents. He saw them as his own parents because he never had strong parental figures in his life. He loved them and is so beyond hurt. We have had altercations in my family's house before (between my parents, with neighbours, etc) which have been much worse and never did my Mom lay a hand on anyone nor were the police called. My husband feels like my parents true colours came out and that they have always hated him, mainly because he took me away. I feel stuck, I want to support my husband in any way possible but it hurts to have to sever ties with my family more than I already have. I miss my hometown, I don't want our children to miss out on seeing where I grew up and having their Aunt, Grandparents, and the rest of my Canadian family. In addition, my Mom's health is poor and I worry that something will happen to her. I don't know how to continue to make my husband feel supported and like I am on his side, while also trying mend the relationship between them enough that we can at least be apart of my family still. I am hoping that someone here has any type of advice to help me through this. Thank you for reading the long post, and thank you in advance for any replies. Sydney
  2. While evidence will be helpful, it is not at all required. I had no receipts or any legitimate evidence that actually showed we were going to get married, other than he asked me and I said yes. The only time it came up was in my interview, the gentleman interviewing me asked "do you intend to get married within 90 days of entry into the USA on your K1 Visa?" to which I said yes, of course. I never sent them anything to say I bought a dress or to show my husband gave me a ring. We got married at the courthouse and didn't throw a celebration so there was no receipts from a hall or caterer or anything. I don't think anyone should stress over not having evidence to prove they are getting married, if you establish a legitimate relationship and send a letter that you intend to marry like they require, you'll be fine. Of course! I am always willing to help if you have any more questions
  3. It is fine to print on photo paper as long as the photos are clear. I provided a mix of photos professionally printed and some were photocopied, like most of our tickets and a couple of photos that I only had one copy of I sent on normal paper and I didn't have any issues!
  4. I definitely didn't want any delays or an RFE so I did it myself and was extremely happy with our processing time (from the date my husband sent the documents to receiving my visa was like 4 months and 2 weeks, which is so fast compared to some processing times!). I grouped certain documents together in the order listed on the "Step by Step Guide to filing a K1 Visa" with either metal paper clips or small binder clips depending on how many documents were in the group to create some organization, and then fastened the entire package together with a large binder clip. The two months worth of messages were over 200 pages so I used a separate large binder clip to fasten them together and put them at the end.
  5. I think that’s a great idea! I tried to keep my story very brief and to the point, I know they don’t want all the little details, so it ended up being just under 2 and a half pages. I put all of my evidence (photos, receipts, tickets, etc) in the order of events after the story. Yes my husband was the petitioner one’d and I the beneficiary. I put together absolutely everything and filled out all of the paperwork and then put tabs on the papers that required his signature. I sent it to him via overnight mail with instructions so he would sign everything and not rearrange or forget anything. I even included the cheque already filled out and the package for him to send it in so he had minimal to do. Not that he is incapable but I wanted everything to be right. He received the package and promptly signed the paperwork and went to the post office. It is stressful but worth it, I promise!
  6. It was even more hilarious when they were reviewing my approved K1 at the border when I was passing over and two male border security officers started reenacting our messages!
  7. AirBnb receipts will work even if they have just your name, do you have photos from the trips where you used the AirBnb? I used hotel receipts that had only my name and mentioned that we traveled to that destination together and included a picture. Such as a receipt I used from a hotel in Niagara Falls, I mentioned in my statement that we traveled there for NYE and visited tourist attractions on January 1st, so I also attached a photo of us at one of the tourist attractions in Niagara and our ticket stubs to the attraction which didn't have our name. You can use any receipts as long as they will help pull the story of you guys together. Another example is that I had mentioned in my statement that we took a vacation to a local beach and played mini golf, so I sent a copy of our mini golf score card. The way I presented it was that my statement was a (shortened) story that I was telling about our life and relationship, and I tried to attach things that correlated with the story and would pull it together a bit more. I did also include two months worth of our messages back and forth (I edited some of the naughty parts out) which border security loved. If you need help, send me a message and we can chat more!
  8. Thank you both for the advice! I am lucky in that my Canadian home is within driving distance, so I won't need an airline ticket, but I will remember the name matching the passport should I get a ticket prior to getting my name changed.
  9. Hello Vjers! I am writing because next week is my sister's wedding in Canada, so my husband and I are headed home for a week to celebrate with her and see my family.... I recently completed the AOS process from a K1 visa and received my conditional green card at the beginning of September. I am nervous because my Canadian passport is still in my maiden name, however my green card is in my married name. I intend to take my marriage certificate with us as proof of the name change, but is there anything else I should bring? In addition, my passport doesn't expire until 1/20, I want to wait until closer to expiration to get a new one as I just renewed it two years ago. Will this cause issues if I continue to travel with the documents displaying different names? Thank you for any advice in advance! Sydney