eric_and_teresa

The envelope says "Do Not Open". Don't open it.
You're not a "paying customer". Immigration is not a retail store where the customer is "always right". You do what they tell you to do and when they say "Jump" you say "how high".
Good luck with that.

WRONG! WRONG! WRONG! The OP MUST file her ROC asap as she is breaking the terms of her "CONDITIONAL" greencard, the condition being her marriage to a USC, by being divorced. this is quite common knowledge and the OP is correct.

A waiver for not being married to the USC does not mean you can file early. You still must wait for the 90 window which you state is in January. Do not panic, you still have a valid GC and will not be deported. As long as you entered the marriage in good faith and then got divorced you can still file for ROC nd the waiver is for not filing jointly with the USC as you are now divorced. Hang onto the paper work and resubmit when the 90-day window opens up and you will be fine.
Dave

Sure! Employment letters are optional.

Or maybe she's doing her job as an Immigration Officer. An IO cannot possibly know all the intricacies of every country around the world and who acknowledges what type of religious ceremonies as legally binding marriages. Even in the US it is each state that makes laws regarding marriage which can complicate things even more. It's a priviledge to be able to come to the US, not a right. The IO can't just take people's word that they "weren't legally married", but needs proof. I know it was an honest mistake and I do hope this lady is able to pass the RFE to get her AOS, but they never should have brought up the "m" word (marriage) if she wasn't legally married.

As you stated yourself, you knew that your interview would be difficult, not only because of your connection with Islam, but also because you are considerably older than your foreign husband. It's called a red flag, and it has nothing to do with communism.
Thus, I personally am not surprised that the I.O. tried to establish whether or not your marriage was genuine or entered in order to obtain immigration benefits.
If you ever watched Court TV or movies, you'll have noticed that often the defendant doesn't enter the stand. That's done because if you open that door voluntarily, it can be slammed right into your face. If your Islamic marriage was never a marriage in the U.K. nor in the U.S., why even bringing this up? Had you never brought your Islamic religion in the forefront of this immigration interview, the I.O. had no way of knowing any of this. No knowledge = no questions that could have brought you into the position you are in now.
Since you disclosed to the I.O. that you were married based on Islamic law, I can understand that the I.O. who may not know the first thing about Islam and may not care to know anything about it either will ask you to prove that you are not married to two men right now.
That's your task and hand. I concur with a previous poster to consult an Imam about helping you. If he won't be able to help you, it may be time for a lawyer to formally submit evidence strong enough that it will satisfy the I.O.

There's a separate section of INA 212 specifically dedicated to this subject. Anyone coming to the US to engage in prostitution, or who has engaged in prostitution in the past 10 years, is inadmissible. It doesn't matter if it was legal in the country where they live.

Really?
The way you FIRST told the story, your husband was there when everything happened.
Stop using ugly language with people just because you can't keep your story straight.

3. Buying return tickets is from Peru is certainly an option but as has been said before - make sure to cancel the return flight once they are in the country; somewhere on this forum there are a couple of threads with horror stories where AOS was denied due to the fact that they booked return tickets and never cancelled the second leg and the airline hasn't updated the passenger list so when it came to AOS the IO said they aren't eligible as they had left the country before AP. Some people also said that they had issues with the airline wanting to charge a penalty - maybe a way around this could be to book the return flight long enough out to be sure to have AP or to ask the airline to suspend rather than cancel but I'm not sure on that and would probably go with cancelling the flight.
This absolutely DOES NOT APPLY !!!! There is no AP requirement for a CR-1 visa just as there is no AOS.
Buy the return ticket way into the future as suggested, and then either use it later for a visit back to Peru or just let it expire.

who's fault is that?oh yeah the husband.she doesn't wanna see it for what it is.yes she shouldn't take ###### and abuse from anyone,EVER,that's a given,but you are living in someone else's house,you gotta respect their rules.honestly this whole is so juvenile.again I'm not taking any sides in this story but this belongs to an episode of teen mom or something off MTV.let's grow up,shall we?

Honestly,you're way out of line here.trying to hard to take her side and a be the nice guy.no one knows what really happens,and I think you can agree with that.she has a history and seems rude,obnoxious and disrespectful.while I wouldnt go to the same lengths as the grand ma,I can how she could have gotten frustrated.
I have nothing against deedee,but either she makes some major attitude change or she is screwed.
One thing I have learned during the past three months I have been here is that Americans are nice,calm,respectful and friendly people but you have to treated them the way you want to get treated and not expect anything from anyone.
This is just the beginning for her

Ah, but you do care or you wouldn't be so aggressively responding nor would you need to use intentionally degrading labels (such as hillbilly) to demonstrate your superior intellect/behavior/etc in comparison to the person said to be abusive to you. If you were in the heat of the moment (currently under attack) then such actions would be understandable but you are reportedly safe from further assault so we would expect you to have calmed down and processed things a bit.
Ever heard the phrase "Walk softly but carry a big stick"? Basically it boils down to not allowing someone else to work you over but not having to be boastful of how strong/tough/able to defend yourself you are.
In your telling of the incidents at your in-laws' you report that while you walk softly you in fact carried no stick at all. Honestly your posting style here contradicts those assertions but then again it's not uncommon for people to behave differently online versus in person as there is less risk of any real negative consequences online.
I'll say again that you're characterization of self and your posting style do seem to contradict each other and that could be what's leasing others to wonder "What really happened".
Not judging, just making a few observations...

You are correct if that was behavior limited to her youth or a single incident...
In another thread she mentioned at least on other incident where she was actually charged for knocking someone else's teeth out!
Then if you take the tone of her reactions to some of the replies here I can see a pattern developing...
Does this mean she's a bad person, of course not. Maybe she just needs to learn to reel in her reactions a bit.
She could also be prone to drama and chaos, exaggerating reality and reacting not to reality but her perceived exaggerated version of it.
But of course we will never know because few (if any) of us might ever meet her outside of VJ.

Actually there are 3 sides to every story:
Your side...
Their side...
And the Truth which generally lies somewhere in the middle...

I agree. I hope Deedee that you don't have to deal with problems anymore but have you given a thought to the fact that you get really pissy and mouthy with people very easily and that might have added to the family situation? I have never seen you being humble and polite, maybe that side of yours also comes up while dealing with your hubby's family. You are 20-21 and a little brash. Try being nicer sometimes it will help you in the long run (I said be nicer, don't feel that I am telling you to be submissive, just a little tact and better tone of voice and choice of words).

Well, maybe you did something that looked like you were fishy. I wonder why your husband yelled "she ran off" in the first place. Report her for hitting you, but you should keep your room clean and her house clean while living in it. Anyway, just dont talk to her again and get a job and get your own house. Good luck.

When it comes to family I have one rule of thumb... Immediate Nuclear Family (Spouse & Kids) are #1. The rest can wait in line behind them, that's for everything.

I do not think it is relevant if he is a member. In fact, I think, it would be useful for him to read this as it may change his prospective and change his behavior and may still save his marriage. Nobody is slamming him. Just merely stating facts and making relevant conclusions. I think this is a time for him to become a man. This is part of getting married: becoming a responsible human being.

I totally agree with San Diego!!
though, not about for you to leave him, since you are married to him and happily in love, but you def have to keep this in mind about him not defending you.
He didn't do his task of being a husband, as of he has to protect you at all times!!!!!
I would move away with him and give him a last chance, because he is the one who should protect you and make you feel safe whenever he is around. When the next situation occurs, hopefully not, and he'll stand there as a scared kitty cat, then keep the pride to yourself and walk away from this crazy situation/family.

I may be a little harsh, but I would like to advice the following:
1) I would like to say I am really sorry that it happened to you and I think this is awful
2) Never live with anyone but your husband! No relatives.
3) Finally, at least judging from what you said: it will not work., The fact that he cannot support his family outside of the house, that he made you live with his parents, and more importantly, the fact that he was not defending you from your in-laws from the very beginning is a VERY BAD SIGN. I know this type of guys: weak, unmanly, children forever, take abuse from their families and everyone else, do not defend their wives and loved ones. These type of guys will never be able to be MEN in the family, will never support or defend their family. The worst part: they never change. The fact that he started defending you ONLY after conversation with you only proves my point. I am sorry that it happened to you but unless you are OK with this and you like this type of guys, RUN AWAY. I know this is bad to give relationship advices but this is true. I am sorry...

file a police report and get a restraining order against the grandmother. Keep yourself safe.

You need to be scared. Apparently your husband grew up in an abusive enviroment. If he had jumped right to your defense that would be one thing but you had to tell him.
People that grow up in an abusive enviroment frequently end up being abusive. Him flipping out when you went outside is a bad sign.
These are not normal people to start with but apparently your husband set this thing off with an over reaction to you being outside.
For a short time this seemed like a loving family. beware your husband grew up in this family.
The worst thing you could do right now would be to get pregnant. If he flips out you'll be even more alone than you are now.
Take charge of the birth control and put this guy on probation for a year before you decide to get pregnant.

Your wife lives in a different state than you. She filed her income tax return without your knowledge as being single. And now you are asking if you can successfully remove conditions of your residency under such circumstances? I very much doubt that. But how did you file your income tax return?

Since when does military enlistment became immigration law evasion? That 's his legal right to join the service even though his Green card is not permanent. The military always need good people to serve our great country. It's obvious you have never served, so you wouldn't know. Peace ....

http://www.navy.com/joining/qualifications.html The link proves my point in the paragraph: "You must be a U.S. citizen or, if you’re a non-citizen, you may join the Navy if you entered the United States on a permanent residence visa or have an Alien Registration Green Card and have 1) established a bona fide residence, and 2) established a home of record in the United States"
So who is ridiculous now?