jacan

This is the hardest thing I ever had to do. But I have no desire to work things out. Every time I think about it, I get sick to my stomach.

I will never trust him again, so what's the point..I feel like the biggest fool. I feel so used. As I said before, there were no signs. He treated me well when I visited. We went out.. people in the neighborhood know me. I just don't understand.

I am tired of crying now. These part 2 months were tough. Lord I cannot believe that 4 months into my marriage I am talking divorce but I have to do this for me. I do t want to keep going on and on about this.

Thanks again all for listening, and consoling. I really felt like I was losing my mind at times. Seeing my husband smiling and hugging up another woman in those pictures was hell.

I cannot say I don't miss him. We had a routine, early morning calls, check in during the day, and the calls at night where he would sometimes fall asleep on the phone

Him calling and playing our song and he is the best cook ever. ..sorry I don't mean to keep going on and on..take care everyone and thank you. I don't want this thread to keep going since it is somewhat depressing.

.

Hi all.. this is how I found out. I went back for a quick visit after the wedding. One night I noticed a western union receipt on his dresser folded up. It seemed kind of strange but i brushed it off, i never felt i had any reason to not trust him. I never go through his things and he never hides his phone. He doesn't even have a password on his phone.

I got curious and when he went to shower I read it. A woman had sent him money from the US. I know he didn't have any relatives there so I checked for her on Facebook and couldn't believe it. Her profile photo was a picture of them together. Her page is not private so I was able to see all the photos she posted of them together.

That is how I know he was seeing her for our entire relationship. I literally felt like someone had kicked me in my belly.

Guys I would not wish that feeling on anyone.

The next 3 days were hell.. I cried, cussed him. He cried and begged me to stay with him. Some days I would not say a word but he did everything to please me. The day I left , we rode to the airport without saying a word to each other.

I cannot believe that 3 years wasted just like that. Sometimes I wished I had never looked at that paper and sometimes I wish that I was searching so I could have found out before the wedding

You guys have no idea how much posting this has helped me. I have been wrestling with it on my own for almost 2 months. Acting like all is well because I did not discuss it with anyone.

I have not had a good night sleep since I found out. I get angry at myself sometimes because I feel like I should have seen some signs. I gave all I had to him. I never once even thought about being unfaithful. I was so looking forward to spending my life with him. I loved him.

I just looked through our wedding album again, God only knows how many times I have done that.

Thank you all so much.. I know I am a good person and deserve better. I also know he is not worth my tears but i cannot just turn these feelings off. I am truly heart broken but I will take some time and focus on me right now.

Goodnight .. hopefully I get some sleep tonight.

Thank you.. It hurts so bad. I deliberately waited 2 years before marrying him, just to be certain I knew him enough. I met all his family. And except for that very first time I went back after meeting him, I always stayed at his house. I never saw anything that would tip me off. I was treated well when I visited. When my father passed in Jamaica, he was at the funeral with me. He called almost everyday, since it was cheaper for him to do so.

I still cannot believe he was leading a double life.

Thanks for your response. In my head I know what I should do. It's so embarrassing. My family flew with me to Jamaica for the wedding and I feel so ashamed to tell them it's over. I keep going over in my head if I missed any signs. But honestly, I cannot think of anything.

Hello all.. I have been lurking on this site for awhile, but decided to join today and tell my story. I met my husband in Jamaica about 3 yrs ago. We hit it off, and had what I thought was a great relationship. We got married in December 2014. However I found out about 2 months ago that he has seeing someone else from the usa the entire time we were together and even spent the week before our wedding with her in Jamaica. I have not submitted the paperwork yet. Should I just forget it altogether? He has begged me to forgive him, even crying on the phone saying she doesn't mean anything to him and I am the one he is in love with. I am so hurt .. I cannot stop crying