tomyka81

as a woman, you are dead wrong and you knew what you were doing, now trying to play dumb and innocent on this forum.... for what purpose? to take to him so that you have help smoothing it over. There is no smoothing it over. You have lost his trust, you will have to earn it back with time.

some of you are so disrespectful.
Oh and I was taught that if you throw a rock in a pack of dogs, the one that hollers is the one you hit....

I love how some people on this forum are so quick to assert what they "know" or misread.
Visiting the North in Nigeris is dangerous for HER as a Christian, that is why I asked did he live in the North. The North is where Boko Haram is actively pledging allegiance to ISIS/ISIL. You reread what I wrote. I said everyone NOT everyone on this forum. By everyone, I mean everyone around me that I care about. It is called identifying with what the person is going through versus people hiding behind a computer screen just being miserable.
But anyway, to the OP, it will be very difficult for him to come to any western country. There are only a few countries in the western hemishere who will grant him a visa: Jamaica, Haiti, and Oceania. Or you can meeting him in an ECOWAS country. I met my guy in Ghana. I am going back soon to Edo state which is in the south but I am not thrilled about having to land in Lagos at all.
British Airways has a flight layaway program. American Airlines also has where you can purchase several gift certificates until you "save" enough for a ticket. I don't know if American flies to Nigeria though. Good luck...

What I hear on this forum so many times is USC's holding a foreigner almost hostage with a GC or citizenship, etc. Would we seek to crush another USC's world for such a thing or give them another chance? It seems like some exspect these foreigners to grovel at their feet just because the gift of US citizenship has been presented. These foreigners leave bad conditions, yet. but they also leave their loved ones, their lives, etc to be with a person and they are people just the same. If one would seek to destroy a USC for adultery, then so be it. I feel sorry for that mentality. But if one would try to work it out with an adulterating USC, then he/she should try to work it out with their love. We married for love right? Love covers a multitude of sins. There are some things that i absolutely do not trust my fiance with. but I know that and i loook at the good and I look at the bad and yet I love him and wouldnt hold him to a higher standard than i would an american. and I certainly wouldnt make him a slave. not saying that hte OP is doing that, but so many times, the first thing i hear on difficulty is removing support, withdrawing the petitions, etc.

Hi. When I first met my African Guy, I noticed similar things with him. Doesn't do drugs though. My guy used to be all "dramatic like a woman" He quit. But as with any person, you have to teach people how to treat you. I am very stubborn, when my guy would throw these fits, I wouldn't speak to him for days. African men are used to african women "kowtowing" to their tantrums and trying to fill their every whim. If you show him that to hell with him and and your life will not stop without him, he will stop. I know not to put my honey on my accounts or credit cards or house. Some African cultures love to bling out and are dead broke all to impress people they don't even know. Plus you definitly can't tell a man your past. Lie if you have to but you can tell them the truth, they will hold it against you for life. That is ANY man not just the African man. I think that if you learn how to ignore him and SHOW him that he will not have his way, he will stop.

But round trip is cheaper though most times. I have heard this question before so it isn't that far fetched. My fiance asked me the same thing because of something that he had heard. We will get a round trip ticket for cost though. Way cheaper getting a $1500 round trip versus a $2400 one way......

But round trip is cheaper though most times. I have heard this question before so it isn't that far fetched. My fiance asked me the same thing because of something that he had heard. We will get a round trip ticket for cost though. Way cheaper getting a $1500 round trip versus a $2400 one way......

Make your facebook private. they can only see the things that you make public.

Make your facebook private. they can only see the things that you make public.

oh and the African man's way to show his ultimate love is by how he provides for the family. So he is getting these jobs and quitting them in a fight to make a statement to you but you aren't understanding what he is doing cause I am guessing that you aren't African. I am assuming that when he is working that he is very generous to you. They show love by money and providing. They need LOTs of ego stroking. If they feel inadequate in bed ALL hell will break loose. Pride is their #1 downfall. Unless he is very westernized, you will never hear the words "I was wrong" He will just end the conversation and say something crazy like "lets go to bed" or "Thank you" or "I have heard you". I dont know what to say about the weed smoking, but the bahavior isn't strange at all. It is just a culture clash I think. Plus you have probably realized that although he speaks English, that he doesn't "speak English". you could be having language issues too and not know it. I have found that my guy just speaks words and there is no emotion at all in his words and i am an emotional speaker. i am accustomed to feeling what a person is saying. I can't do that with my guy. If i did that to him, he would appear a noncaring insensitive blank blank blank. But he is completely the opposite once i understood him and where he is coming from and he understands me and where i am coming from. Sometimes he says that we are the same person cause we are so much a like. I would say talk to a senegalise woman and learn how to deal with him and it may get better

Hi. When I first met my African Guy, I noticed similar things with him. Doesn't do drugs though. My guy used to be all "dramatic like a woman" He quit. But as with any person, you have to teach people how to treat you. I am very stubborn, when my guy would throw these fits, I wouldn't speak to him for days. African men are used to african women "kowtowing" to their tantrums and trying to fill their every whim. If you show him that to hell with him and and your life will not stop without him, he will stop. I know not to put my honey on my accounts or credit cards or house. Some African cultures love to bling out and are dead broke all to impress people they don't even know. Plus you definitly can't tell a man your past. Lie if you have to but you can tell them the truth, they will hold it against you for life. That is ANY man not just the African man. I think that if you learn how to ignore him and SHOW him that he will not have his way, he will stop.

oh and the African man's way to show his ultimate love is by how he provides for the family. So he is getting these jobs and quitting them in a fight to make a statement to you but you aren't understanding what he is doing cause I am guessing that you aren't African. I am assuming that when he is working that he is very generous to you. They show love by money and providing. They need LOTs of ego stroking. If they feel inadequate in bed ALL hell will break loose. Pride is their #1 downfall. Unless he is very westernized, you will never hear the words "I was wrong" He will just end the conversation and say something crazy like "lets go to bed" or "Thank you" or "I have heard you". I dont know what to say about the weed smoking, but the bahavior isn't strange at all. It is just a culture clash I think. Plus you have probably realized that although he speaks English, that he doesn't "speak English". you could be having language issues too and not know it. I have found that my guy just speaks words and there is no emotion at all in his words and i am an emotional speaker. i am accustomed to feeling what a person is saying. I can't do that with my guy. If i did that to him, he would appear a noncaring insensitive blank blank blank. But he is completely the opposite once i understood him and where he is coming from and he understands me and where i am coming from. Sometimes he says that we are the same person cause we are so much a like. I would say talk to a senegalise woman and learn how to deal with him and it may get better

Hi. When I first met my African Guy, I noticed similar things with him. Doesn't do drugs though. My guy used to be all "dramatic like a woman" He quit. But as with any person, you have to teach people how to treat you. I am very stubborn, when my guy would throw these fits, I wouldn't speak to him for days. African men are used to african women "kowtowing" to their tantrums and trying to fill their every whim. If you show him that to hell with him and and your life will not stop without him, he will stop. I know not to put my honey on my accounts or credit cards or house. Some African cultures love to bling out and are dead broke all to impress people they don't even know. Plus you definitly can't tell a man your past. Lie if you have to but you can tell them the truth, they will hold it against you for life. That is ANY man not just the African man. I think that if you learn how to ignore him and SHOW him that he will not have his way, he will stop.

If all you are going to do is insult this person, why even reply?

YYYYEEEESSSSSS!!!! The things I have heard and read about Nigeria's interviews almost like they relish in giving the denials even if the K-1 is approved. We went so far as to front load embassy stamped bachelorhood certificate for him and affadavits from his family and mine. It is so sad almost. I was even considering putting the WEAC results to prove he isn't a fraud. Basically the hurdle is prove your guy isn't a fraud. He is nigerian. Nigerian man equals visa fraud. So I am like why even approve the petition?Save people some time and anxiety..... Then it is almost like the adjudicators want the USC to stay in Nigeria for more than a month or multiple visits to prove he isn't scamming...... Excuse me but I have a JOB and a kid in school. Who has that kind of time to be gone away from their house that long???? Ok I have vented.... Keep me posted.

YYYYEEEESSSSSS!!!! The things I have heard and read about Nigeria's interviews almost like they relish in giving the denials even if the K-1 is approved. We went so far as to front load embassy stamped bachelorhood certificate for him and affadavits from his family and mine. It is so sad almost. I was even considering putting the WEAC results to prove he isn't a fraud. Basically the hurdle is prove your guy isn't a fraud. He is nigerian. Nigerian man equals visa fraud. So I am like why even approve the petition?Save people some time and anxiety..... Then it is almost like the adjudicators want the USC to stay in Nigeria for more than a month or multiple visits to prove he isn't scamming...... Excuse me but I have a JOB and a kid in school. Who has that kind of time to be gone away from their house that long???? Ok I have vented.... Keep me posted.

Reading this almost made me cry. I understand the embarrassment will cause you to hesitate with ending the marriage. Of course some of your family was telling you not to marry him. But you can't set your self up for future failure because you don't want to face the embarrassment.

If all you are going to do is insult this person, why even reply?

If all you are going to do is insult this person, why even reply?

Reading this almost made me cry. I understand the embarrassment will cause you to hesitate with ending the marriage. Of course some of your family was telling you not to marry him. But you can't set your self up for future failure because you don't want to face the embarrassment.