Sharon&josh

Me and my husband were in the bloomington office yesterday too for our AOS interview, and we were not separated. I did notice that quite a few couples were being separated but we were not. We did have a technical issue with my vaccine record, (an issue with the paper work on their end, not mine but we still got an RFE). The officer told me that all we have to do is get the civil surgeon to mark off the form and we have the green card, baring any further complications with the paper work. The only questions I got asked was my husbands date of birth. The interviewer didn't even ask for any photos or anything that shared our life together, even though I came overly prepared with like 7 folders of stuff, (2 from the paper work we had previously filled out, two filled with engagement/wedding cards, one with all the cards he has sent me and I him, one with our joint bank account etc information and a photo album). I did ask her before we left if she wanted to see the photo album. She did look at it and take some of the photos, as well as the thank you card we sent his family for the presents for the wedding and the save the date for the church wedding we are having in Ireland. She finished by saying that she is sorry for the reason that we got the RFE as it wasn't our fault, and that we clearly have a great marriage, and that once I send in the documents needed that we should be issued our green card barring any complications. I don't know if that helps or not, just my experience.

You do not have an immigration problem, you have a relationship problem. From personal experience, I am familiar with the kind of woman you are describing. The longer you stay with her, the more damage you will receive, and the more she will use you and subject you to emotional blackmail to get what she wants. Again, I am speaking from experience. You have two choices. Either end it now with minimum amount of damage to you, or stay miserable for the rest of your life. She will never change. That's her personality.

Children needs to learn to deal with disappointments, hiding it from them will only make it worse later on when they face all kinds of disappointments as adults. You will only get into problems if you try to tell the person interviewing you what he can and can't ask you, because then he will definitely ask.

I'm going to ignore the fact it does sound like all you want is a green card and focus on your marriage.How have you been surviving?
Where have you been living?
If you and your husband have not been together for three years but are trying to be, then I don't understand what you've been doing all this time.
Things to remember.
- you are officially out of status and illegal in america.
- a green card for you is based on a bonafied marriage that is real and works, yours isn't working so high chance for denial again.

I mean this from the bottom of my heart that if he really truly loved you there is no way that he would say that this decision was selfish. A person who loves you would not say something hurtful. Also, the decision is between you and him and so anything with his family or anyone else is irrelevant. The only feelings that matter is yours first and then his, but only if they come from a place of love which his do not sound like they come from a place of love. i hope that you can see this experience and learn and grow from it. I hope that it doesn't affect the way you look at love but that it teaches you to protect your heart more cautiously.
You don't need to be manipulated into believing that what is right for you is your fault.

I'm not sure how the entire conversation went, but if he is trying to say that you're selfish simply because you have cold feet, that should tell you everything you need to know right there. If he really loved you and wanted things to work out, he would be willing to do whatever it takes to show you how he feels about you and that he wants to be with you forever. The fact that it turned into the blame game is enough to confirm what everyone has said on here...turn around and RUN as fast as you can from this guy!!!
I know it's hard right now, but you will get over this and move on and find the right guy that will be willing to jump over any hurdles to prove his love to you.

Welcome back, Terri. Nice to see you.
Listen, I know you don't like advice or constructive criticism, but based on everything you have told us over the last week or so, this whole situation may not be the best. Let's just point out a few of the events I consider to be RED FLAGS:
His family is super-orthodox, conservative Muslim. You are Christian. This is not a deal killer, but it is bound to become a bigger issue later on down the line. I highly doubt he has plans of converting and you said you don't either. I know mixed-faith couples and yes, the challenge is real and is definitely something to consider. His uncle has already fudged things up by marrying and leaving your sister high and dry. Not to say the apple doesn't fall far from the tree, but again, this is something to consider. After meeting (in Morocco, I think?) he could not stand near or next to you. Instead, he waived at you from a third story balcony while a photographer tried to finagle photos that portrayed you two as a happy couple. You never got to hug him or even shake his hand. Instead, he tossed down to you a wet towel and a flower to keep as a momento of the time you two almost met. I mean, the guy gives Shakespeare a run for his money. Highly flaggable. After dating him for months and being engaged to him for weeks, you are just now finding out he is "father" to his niece (daughter of the estanged uncle/brother-in-law). Why hasn't he spoken with you about this before? Especially before filing? Why can't you discuss this issue? Why are you forbidden to ask or speak about the girl's mother? This right here would be the last straw for me. I could actually go on and on, but I won't. You see where I am going with this. You need to put on your thinking cap and your big girl panties and really figure this thing out. Is it worth it? I say HECK NO!

Considering you are feeling this way maybe now is the time to look at everything that you have been feeling and assess the whole situation. You are having these nagging feelings for a reason, and trusting your gut is the best way to go about it. LDRs are not for the weak in heart or spirit, but if you are doubting him, especially considering that he is keeping huge parts of his life from you now would be the time to look at the relationship as a whole and see everything with a clear head rather than your heart. I hope you get everything sorted out, and whatever you do, let it be for the best for you.

Considering you are feeling this way maybe now is the time to look at everything that you have been feeling and assess the whole situation. You are having these nagging feelings for a reason, and trusting your gut is the best way to go about it. LDRs are not for the weak in heart or spirit, but if you are doubting him, especially considering that he is keeping huge parts of his life from you now would be the time to look at the relationship as a whole and see everything with a clear head rather than your heart. I hope you get everything sorted out, and whatever you do, let it be for the best for you.

Even more impressive that I thought:
False Asylum Claim
Multiple marriages seeking a GC
Even Mother abuses her visitor visa and stays and adjusts.
Presumably last wife was not playing ball so smacks in a VAWA and we all know how legitimate many of those are.
And Nigerian, sometimes you can not make it up!
I was going to suggest a troll as he hits so many bases, sadly I think the story is true.

This sounds like a super messy divorce!! Hopefully you and a good legal team can get it all sorted out. I would start recording any interaction you have with her. Record phone calls, texts, any thing that can be used against her or where she may say something that could make it sound like she is trying to screw you out of money, or anything else. Also be careful of all contact that you have with her.
It is sad that what was such a genuine thing turned so sour. Hopefully you can move on without too much whiplash from the current circumstance.

My husband is also Egyptian and Muslim and I've met his family on many occasions. They are traditional as well, and we've all taken pictures together. Yes the hotel room is definitely an issue, but meeting family and sitting together isn't. This is typical in engagements in Egypt before marriage takes place. If you are meeting in Morocco and doing something that appears to be of issue with his family and his values, that is indeed a red flag because it makes it seem like and you are hiding something.

Miss, the reason people are saying these things is because they believe you're missing the point. And of course, this is all based on what you told us. Based on everything youve said--other than you uncle's issue--you have a relationship that appears to be full of red flags. So while you may have originally brought up your uncle, you opened the conversation to additional information by which everyone here is replying. No one wants you to fail. We're all in the same boat and have our own issues to deal with. But I've learned that people are incredibly frank and honest on VJ because they want to help. There's no sugar coating the immigration process, and the sooner you understand the learn from people, the easier it may make your journey. You may not like what people have to say, but they only want to help.

Terri. I'm going to be real with you.
Granted you may not like a single thing I'm going to say here, but here goes.
I don't really care if your story is legit or fake, okay? I'm not one to question whom one falls in love with and the differences they may encounter.
You have consistently posted misleading and evasively contradictory statements. As this is a site where people generally care about each other and want to help: there are things that YOU need to clear up or this will not continue in a positive manner. Help people help you. Or don't. If you don't then no one will be able to help you or continue taking you seriously.
I can guarantee to you, that the United States government does not care one iota about your hardships or difficulty, how good you think your photos are (real or photoshopped), or the circumstances regarding why you can't be in the same room or have to stand below a balcony with a person you say you want to be your husband. They don't care about roses or towels or love stories. They do not care how much you think you love him and how much you think you can make this work. They don't even care about the money you sent with your application either.
What they care about is fraud, people becoming a burden to their system, and the protection of their citizens.
Under the theme of fraud - many things you have stated raise red flags. Severe red flags, that I don't believe a person viewing your petition would be able to overcome positively without more information. Reality can be painful and harsh, but that's the way things are. The people who have sent petitions in here, and have been waiting for months and years to be with their loved ones, they have endured extreme hardships, painful separations, differences in cultures, and scrutiny. Don't think for a second that people don't understand the reality of hardship, because they do. This is something we take seriously. No one here wants to be hostile with you, but you're making it impossible for a person not to react that way.
I've had my say now, and I think what I've said is fairly reasonable and polite, if you are willing to calm down and actually start answering questions that do in fact pertain to if your case will be successful or not. Because trust me, it isn't about who's uncle ran off with whom right now, or even religious differences that you even need to be concerned about at the top of the list -- it's a whole host of other things. As it stands now, there is a high likelihood your case will not be successful. Sorry, but that's how life is.

Instead of avoiding everything anyone asks and jumping down everyone's throat.
Why don't you explain what evidence you sent with the petition.
Because having no photos together, never standing next to each other, being woo'd in such a manner and being two different religions in a high fraud country is suspicious and throws up so many red flags.
You sound fake, the relationship sounds fake and you don't answer anything anyone asks.
We cannot help you if you don't help us.
I will not hunt down relatable threads if you don't answer things we need to know in order to help you.
If you don't want help then don't post topics.
And if you have a problem with what I say then just read my signature.
I want to help but I can't help those that won't be helped.

There is literally no more advice anyone can give you that you haven't already received in this thread (have a strong case: a strong case includes lots of evidence of meeting him and his family, photos of you with him and his family, communications via phone, email etc.).
Since you don't want to answer any clarifying questions to make better suggestions to ensure your case goes smoothly, there is no way to help you further. You've had the whole story. This forum is made up of thousands of people, most of which have spent at least some time (if not a lot) thousands of miles away from their partners. with all kinds of weird and wonderful situations. We've seen it all.

Egypt is also a HIGH fraud country, so the same rules apply.
Why are you so sure after "one brief meeting" when you "didn't stand next to each other" (you said these things) that he is not a fraudster like his brother is? FYI the rose and the towel and other fishy things are typical when fraudsters from third world countries try to make American women fall in love with them.
This whole story is surreal.

I think this thread is one of two things:
1. The OP is not happy to have received some honest advice to make sure that she gets to be with her love by making sure she has a very solid case because of her familial relationship to a person who has previously committed immigration fraud from the same country. Hopefully she will take the advice regardless and she will live the happy life that she wants.
-or-
2. A troll.

People are going "on and on" because of that very topic.
Your Egyptian relative who did a runner on your sister is going to cause major red flags in your case, as such, people are trying to HELP you by making sure you have adequate evidence to ensure your case is approved. There's nothing you can do about your uncle other than make sure you have a rock-solid case - hence the questions.
Because you have given confusing (and, frankly, peculiar) stories about the photos you have with your partner and your plans for marriage, we as mere readers are concerned that you a) don't have enough evidence, so bad uncle or not you're gonna have issues and b) don't fully understand the requirements of your application. This is a DIY site, we help people through to successful visas.

So you *have* met?
We're not missing the point. Especially because of the uncle, it'll be important for you to have photos together - even better when they also feature group photos of you with his friends and family etc. You only mentioned the balcony meeting, hence all of our confusion.
The situation is definitely an oddity and a red flag. Your evidence needs to be rock-solid.

He dropped down a rose and a dirty towel and this is suppose to satisfy immigration services? Like....
really?
I don't mean to sound condescending but seriously, if you two have yet to stand face to face on the same level of ground, getting married should just be out of the picture. You haven't even shook his hand and I doubt you even have pictures together. This is just... strange.

To be aware of the worst case scenerio. Better prepared that way and less likely to be blind sided by something unforeseen. Much more useful than the best stories, which generally are "The interview was easy and I got my visa with no problem!!" Great for that couple, but not very useful in preparing yourself.

In your case, I think the fast move from meeting each other online to getting engaged and filing for a K-1 visa will be the real red flag for US immigrations, as it all happened within four months. But when you know, you know, right?!
Just make sure you have as much proof as possible of a real relationship, i.e. photos, chats, call records, emails. Does your daughter communicate with your fiancé? If so, add as proof. Make sure to have good answers to what you have in common, what made you fall for each other, how do you see the future and so on. Good luck!