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Tough love post to follow.
A man just starting his life in a west African culture has the thoughts of his heirs and many children. This is nation where people have little chance to raise out of where they are if they aren't a part of the corruption that is found at every piece of the country. Young men spend their every cent trolling the internet of a way out on every dating site and social network you can think of. They will even have several phones to help them keep their marks straight. They find an easy mark in past their prime US women who are ignored on the home dating market by men in midlife crisis trying to live out their dreams with their daughter classmates on a Viagra fueled second childhood. I know of women that have been talked out of tens of thousands of dollars chasing they young love. These men are full of sweet words and could write several books on how to sweep a woman off their feet. Even if the chase for a visa is successful the long term chances of such a relationship lasting more than a few years is dismal. If you are into helping someone escape a terrible place and likely moving on in a few years then go for it. However you will need to spend at least 30 days in country for even odds at getting a visa and get a lot more involved in his family and culture.

3 day visit + age gap + high fraud country = very slim chances of approval. I would also question the wisdom of marrying someone you've spent a total of ~72 hours with. Regardless of anything else, such marriages rarely work out.

I personally don't think that what is happening is South Africa will qualify for an expedite. I think that would be very hard to prove. I think you would have to show that you and your kids have be directly affected by this.
Also I agree with Tabeak I don't know how much time you would gain. I think you are probably pretty close. And once your petition reaches South Africa it will move very fast.

Sorry, I like reading people's stories and helping the best I can but I'm not touching this one, why would anyone try to help someone with your moral character stay here? You can go back to the Philippines with all your drama....and stop making it harder for the rest of us.

which house, and why, and does she know about it?

You should consider moving to Antarctica. Considering the breadth of his prejudice, he'll be miserable anywhere in this country.

This all seems too planned and fishy IMO

This all seems too planned and fishy IMO