Ted & Janine

I noticed the same thing as "Hank_", lots of "I's". Your story made me think of "90 Day Fiance" with Nikki and Mark (for some reason). Maybe it is the separatism that you casted. But I applaud you for planning a financial future for your wife, it shows you care. Just keep in mind that she is your wife right now, and she needs to feel that way. The dollar can buy lots of things, but not love.
I really hope things work out for both of you.

Because she is your wife.
Otherwise... what "Boiler" said.
I think that "Amy & Randy" are spot on and were offering constructive criticism. In fact, that opened my eyes. Of course there is such thing as having the wrong friends, the wrong influence.
I used to work in a hospital and there were three young ladies working there, all from Philippines, and all married to American men. They told me that they did not realize that they would be living in isolation. No friends, no family, and a husband that was at work 40 to 60 hours a week. All they could remember was being at home alone. One of them told me that she understands how lions and tigers taken out of the wild and caged feel. Of course life improved for them once they began working... and now they are happy.
Don't misunderstand me, I'm not throwing her or you under the bus. But... we are only getting your side of the coin.

Because she is your wife.
Otherwise... what "Boiler" said.
I think that "Amy & Randy" are spot on and were offering constructive criticism. In fact, that opened my eyes. Of course there is such thing as having the wrong friends, the wrong influence.
I used to work in a hospital and there were three young ladies working there, all from Philippines, and all married to American men. They told me that they did not realize that they would be living in isolation. No friends, no family, and a husband that was at work 40 to 60 hours a week. All they could remember was being at home alone. One of them told me that she understands how lions and tigers taken out of the wild and caged feel. Of course life improved for them once they began working... and now they are happy.
Don't misunderstand me, I'm not throwing her or you under the bus. But... we are only getting your side of the coin.

Just got back from the Philippines after 8 day vacation with my honey.
Well my Finacee had her interview in Manila today and it's NOT good news .......................................................it's GREAT news! VISA APPROVED !!
Thank you so much to everyone here for their support. This has been the best visa journey thread I've ever seen well except for that Jaime character..haha...we love you bro!
Tyler
Greenbaum you are da man!

I noticed the same thing as "Hank_", lots of "I's". Your story made me think of "90 Day Fiance" with Nikki and Mark (for some reason). Maybe it is the separatism that you casted. But I applaud you for planning a financial future for your wife, it shows you care. Just keep in mind that she is your wife right now, and she needs to feel that way. The dollar can buy lots of things, but not love.
I really hope things work out for both of you.

I'm sorry I have this problem, it probably stems from being an Engineer. People seem stupid to me sometimes, it is easy for me to envision them as ants going about their business and not paying attention to whats going on around them. It is a less desirable trait and I do try to control it most times, however this is not one of them. You do realize that 14 bucks an hour is less then many fast food....I'm sorry...MCjob workers get now right? and if you think $18 an hour is a "plan" lol I have news for you buddy.....you are in your mid 40s and married a 25 year old woman, work it out, if not divorce her so she can get on with her life while she is still young, but above all don't go on a social site and blast everyone's advice after you aired your dirty laundry, we didn't ask about your business, you put it out there.

You totally scared the hell out of me with your "RESPONSE". I don't see any compassion in your response. If this how you communicate with us, I'm guessing this is also how you communicate with your wife. No wonder she don't appreciate you.
If I were you let her work at MCjob that you think it's a degrading work for immigrants. Let her decide for herself while she is adjusting. She don't appreciate your effort because it is too much for her to handle as of the moment.
You do have a good plan for her. I commend you for that. But the way you write comments here……….. It is out of question……..maybe you are a nice guy… but a nice guy won't even talk that way. Think first because you go ballistic with your response.
Why would you post your concern here if there's not a hint of appreciation in your part with our comments.
Maybe your wife just reciprocate how you treat her. Think it over.

Until you acknowledge that "MY" only works when follows by - wife and I talked and WE have a plan.
You are totally missing it.

Whoa!! I see a lot of "I" where is the "WE" and for sure where the HECK is the input from what your wife wants.... she isn't chattel!
How about talking with you wife on YOUR plan, then report back on HER plan... not yours.

Because she is your wife.
Otherwise... what "Boiler" said.
I think that "Amy & Randy" are spot on and were offering constructive criticism. In fact, that opened my eyes. Of course there is such thing as having the wrong friends, the wrong influence.
I used to work in a hospital and there were three young ladies working there, all from Philippines, and all married to American men. They told me that they did not realize that they would be living in isolation. No friends, no family, and a husband that was at work 40 to 60 hours a week. All they could remember was being at home alone. One of them told me that she understands how lions and tigers taken out of the wild and caged feel. Of course life improved for them once they began working... and now they are happy.
Don't misunderstand me, I'm not throwing her or you under the bus. But... we are only getting your side of the coin.

I tried to resist not meddling here but I am a Filipina or Pinay and your statement is trying to generalize US. Let me share with you my favorite Bible verse. I am lucky to have a respectful and loving relationship with my American husband which meets every detail of this. We all have our share of failed relationships because sometimes we expect too much and count every detail of what we do for our partner and expect something in return. I am sorry that you are unhappy but please look also into yourself and analyze what went wrong. She must have deserved your attention when you wooed her to be with you.
1 Corinthians 12 1 Corinthians13:4-7NLT1 Corinthians 14 Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.

Has anyone experienced an ungrateful pinay, k1 wife? My wife has stressed me out with waiting for her ead combo card that I have shingles now, which is unbelievable pain. Everything is the end of the world. The Philippines is so great.
She got the combo card today, and I find out about it because she posted on her Facebook about it. No thank you, no I am sorry you are sick, nothing.
She has been asking to go back to the Philippines and I told her to wait until she can work and she can pay for her ticket back. I am not spending any more money on her. She isn't a gold digger and could care less about being a citizen.
She is just a stubborn, immature province girl that cannot be confronted when she does something I dislike. She is the queen of Tampo. A simple comment of how I feel something is lacking on her part turns into days of silent treatment. She complains that she is stuck in the house without work for 8 months.
We had no rfe's during fiancé visa or AOS. I am working 2 jobs to support us. We eat Filipino food 24 hours a day. She has a great internet connection and the top of the line pinoy directv package. I have done everything I can to make her comfortable while she is waiting to adjust status. She believes every word that comes out of another pinoy/pinay's mouth as the gospel as opposed to anything I have to say. I even have a good job lined up for her that starts at $14 hour.
No thanks, no compassion, just stress and drama. I think now that she has a travel permit, she needs to work and take a visit back to the Philippines to appreciate what I am trying to do for her. Can she travel with the advance parole before AOS and come back without trouble? I am under the impression that if I don't go to the AOS interview and pull the affidavit of support, she can go back and I am not responsible for her anymore?
Opinions anyone?
My friend I don't think she was the cause your shingles, or does she owe you any thankfulness for being brought to the USA. Put yourself in her shoes, she gave up her family and all her friends to be with you. Sounds to me like she is having culture shock and things just didn't turn out like she expected. I'm also guessing since 95% of the time fiancees from Philippines are going to expect you to allow them to help support their family, that she feels caged and unworthy of helping them.
This is the culture of the Philippines, and why many younger women from there are willing to marry older men from different country. Philippines is a country that is very friends and family oriented, it might be poor, but no amount of money or possessions can replace their love for family. My advice is for you to talk to and listen to her needs and what she feels she is lacking whether friends, family, job etc.
I don't think she is using you because of her willingness to go back to Philippines, which means she is willing to live in poverty than to live the life she is living now in the USA. Solution I believe is get her connected with other married Filipino local groups and spend time with other couples together. Allow her to work at least part-time in order to help her family, or you will have them against you too.
Love and marriage is not about what you can get from somebody but what you are unconditionally willing to give, and yes this applies to her also. Just be cognoscente of everything she has given up in order to be with you. If after you have examined yourself and truly tried to understand her and supported her needs and her supporting your needs. Then decide on what steps to take if things don't get better, but I believe they will, I think the bottom line here is she feels alone and trapped at home.

Government officials are a different breed altogether. Think of them as robots, stupid in - stupid out. So dateinasia.com may not mean anything to them but Date In Asian may have. Or best I can think is that they need the TOS to complete your processing. If they were audited on their work and it was not there then they get a demerit on their evaluation.
Best thing to do is not try and figure out the Government.

Since there are so many who process through the Philippines they are rather quick with the visa deliveries. Keep your path clear and eye on the prize as you will soon be in each other arms.

Wow we haven't even called NVC once...because we know we cannot have the interview in FEB due to some job stuff, so most likely we will have to schedule it for March or April. Even if we wanted to have it asap.
Anyways my fiancé just received the letter with our case number and saying they are sending it to my embassy ? I find it funny that when you don't even try things move quickly!
The letter says they will contact ME before we can take any next steps. Let's see how long that takes if we don't do anything, also I wonder how they'll contact me.

Congrats!!
Or maybe they do have it :secret:call again tomorrow
I called NVC every day (Jan 4th through Jan 7th) and was given the scripted message. On Friday Jan 8th, I was told they just received it and she was entering in to the system right now (lucky me?... maybe). She then told me that it would leave Mon Jan 11th or Tues Jan 12th as they don't keep them very long. On Jan 14th, CEAC was showing "Ready". Hmm, 2 or 3 days to make the trip across the pond?
Did I miss something? I know, it's after the fact now.

This is funny

I would also reading what Nubianqueen wrote about the interview at Ethiopia. They were the last couple to get approved for a K1 from VJ group--back in May 2015; Look at their timeline as well, and you will be more thankful about how fast we are going.
http://www.visajourney.com/timeline/profile.php?id=194719

I am happy to report success today at least in part.. The service (GetHuman) was commendable and had great follow up and follow through with me. The NVC has not yet given our application a case number and my guy was told "it could take up to 42 days" but to call back in a couple days as the date of receipt was the 8th of January and typically K-1's are faster..
I did attempt almost 50 calls unsuccessfully prior to going this route and thanks to GetHuman I got a better number for when a call back is attempted should I try and do it myself. For non-immigrant visas such as a K-1 then 603-334-0888 was recommended for whatever it's worth I will try that number the next time I call as the 0700 number was ineffectual (for me).
When posting this as the OP I stated "SO I am curious as to whether anyone else has tried this?".. I learned what I have learned before...
First, hardly anyone that responded with an opinion had tried this service (1 I think).
Second that most of the posts were attacking my choice, thought process, status etc. with no rationale that was logical other than feelings except for one person that said they "might" place a hold on it if someone other than myself or my fiance called (that was the best argument against IMO).
Third, that class warfare exists..Even on VJ.. I am either"busier than the president" or lazy for not wanting to spend hours calling, or for paying $9 for someone else to call, or choosing another way to contact the NVC.. Or if I explain that I am busy (after the president comment) as a by product of being moderately successful and very hard working ( no Trump of course) Then I am a poser, making claims that are unsubstantiated etc. Success always threatens small minds and those who "feel" they are less successful by whatever measure they use. Crabs in a pot comes to mind.. For me success is a man who comes home to a wife that loves him and who's children grab him around the knees crying "daddy" when he gets home ( whether it is a tent or a palace). When I see a successful man like that I ask him how he does it and what I can do to copy him
Fourth, ( and maybe most importantly) none of those opinions matter to me (other than the one qualified one from a man that had actually used the service and the other person stating the NVC "might" place a hold on my file as they had his for 8 months seemed logical to me) I lead/act from the front and not by consensus or from the rear of the crowd. Don't mind being first to do or to try something..Never had a problem with making a mistake or being wrong (have gone from big bucks to starting over again more than once) I have never worried about what others thought when it comes to decision making. I evaluate available information and make up my own mind..
Thanks to all those serene people who avoided making judgment and who allowed me to have an opinion that differed from theirs and that might have been a different way than they would do it.
I wish all of you speedy resolution by whatever means you choose and now maybe a moderator will now shut this thread down as it serves no further purpose

Exactly

Some will say to keep it short but I believe yours is fine. They do want to see more than the date of your actual meeting etc. They want to see some thoughts and emotion behind what you're saying.
Sure a lot of people get away with sending in the bare minimum with the I-129F but I believe that with more evidence and slightly longer "how we met" than 3 sentences shows more that you're a genuine couple

Add me to the list of making a one page declaration. I didn't know it could be that short either. In fact, I shortened mine from two pages down to one page with four paragraphs and all was fine.

I know the wait is discouraging. But now that the holidays are over, things are happening, approvals are more frequent and rfe's. There is still today and tomorrow for this week. Good news is coming soon for everybody.
Short story (Jaime's fault). Almost 3 years ago, met my love on a dating site and started researching the K-1 Visa process. I read all kinds of stories and remember seeing that it could take 7 to 14 months to bring our fiance' here. That's a hard pill to swallow. When I proposed to my fiance', I was prepared for that wait. I wasn't prepared for a company layoff. After getting reestablished in the working world, I finally submitted our petition. Was overjoyed to see people with approvals under 5 months and some with as soon as 2 or 3. What could go wrong? Another layoff... should have been a doctor or mortician
I feel guilty in some ways that we received our NOA2 in 30 days. This morning my fiance told me that Ceac is showing "Ready". But we are stuck like Chuck now. Not at all looking for pity. Our plans are still very doable as we are planning for her to come here in April and have a May wedding. That has been our plan for a while. Fortunately for all of us, things happen much quicker than they did in the past... as referenced by the Amazing Greenbaum in a recent post.
Why the story? Sometimes the misfortunes of others can make your situation seem "not so bad". I know my situation will turn around... Hopefully yours and everybody else's will too.

I have never made a prediction, until now. Tyler is the one who says his is cloudy... I think he lies

I'm definitely not here to criticize. One thing that I did take note of was that some of the criticism came from people that actually grew up in Philippines... lived there all of there lives. That's constructive criticism based on first-hand life experience.
Short story:
I talked to many many many ladies from phils before meeting my fiance. We became friends first (the best way). She was warning me about different money games and scams that girls there play. She educated me on how to tell if I was being played. Her son had a birthday coming up and I wanted to send some money for a gift and pizza or Jollibee. She wouldn't accept it and told me she was fine. I could tell that she was very independent and Hell-Bent on raising her son. Of course I became interested in her. I admired her. To this day she does not like me to send money and I send very little. Frustrating because she is my lady and I want to do my oart. It was a major act of congress to give her a decent phone. I had to demand it so we could communicate better... She lives decent on less than 300 a month. There are all kinds of ladies there, some very good at acting (yep, I fell for the no rice story). Some are very independent and other that are more lazy than me!! Some are honest and some redefine the cheating game. Kind of like here in the good ole USA. That goes for men and women all over the world.
Conclusion: I want to defend the fellow VJ'rs for their opinions. They know the game as do I. I think the ladies from there that replied have the best insight and the men (perhaps) have the "been there done that" experience(s).
They are looking out for you.
At the same time, I will defend you. Can't tell you how irritating it is when I'm asked if she might be after a green-card. Been asked how much she is soaking me for. I've been there, spent time there. My fiance lives without air-conditioning. She rides the tricycles and makes a scene if they try to charge her one extra peso. She won't ride a cab. In fact, she wanted to take a jeepney somewhere and I said "NO, I need air" haha. We got in a cab and she exchanged words with the driver then she told me to get out. I asked why and she said he pre-billed the meter (convenience fee?).
So I know my fiance' and I know her environment (somewhat). I have a feeling and/or hope that you know your fiance very well. Glad your fiance is in a better situation now. My fiance is in the Laguna area. If your lady still needs work, shoot me a message