Lee&Ana

Pull the I864 immediately.  What I don’t understand is why you left your house after a fight in the car?  I think there is more to the story than we are hearing.

2 minutes ago, ethantboyd said:

I think I'm more confused than I originally was. So if we end up having the wedding in Ukraine, she has to wait 12-14 months before she can even possibly come join me in America?

Yes.  

Thanks for all of the comments.  We never filed ROM so the marriage wasn’t recorded in the Philippines.  We have talked on and off for the last 19 months, but not regularly.  I was thinking of taking a vacation and spending it with her in the Philippines or somewhere else that she would be allowed to travel with her passport and sort things out.  And I agree that with the 10 year green card she can leave again and it would be a costly mistake.

It is hard to get a tourist visa from the Philippines 

We have had major discussions about our past disagreements and we both talked about things that we both could have handled better and On the surface we both seem agreeable.  14 months is more than I would have expected for a spouse visa.  When I tell her this she will not be happy.  She has a friend that claims they had their spouse visa approval in 7 months.  

Yes

I am a long time member.  My wife came to the USA in May 2015, got married, filed AOS and then left and went back to the Philippines and her green card was cancelled at USCIS by me.  This happened in September of 2016.  She departed voluntarily 2 days later.

We never divorced.

She wanted to come back to me since December of 2016 and realized she made a huge mistake.  

So here I am 19 months later and find that I still love her and want to bring her back to the USA and work it out.  

Realistically, what option would be the best?

If I file IR- 1, how long would it take and would we have a good chance to be approved?  Would we have to meet in person again?

Or would it be better to divorce and file K1 all over again?

At this point, I don’t care about the cost, I just want to have an easier way to be reunited with her?  

All opinions and questions are welcome and encouraged.  

 

We are our choices. As an advocate for victims of domestic violence I would say if the victims decide to act just when something is happening then most of them would be dead.I don't see a victim of a scammer different than a victim of DV because at end they are abused in the same way just in different forms.

We don't have to wait for something to happen to take action, it's wise to see the red flags and act asap,it's in your hands

Good luck.

I agree

After going through the process and see the end result, I think the show is very unrealistic and to sign away your rights for $500 an episode is not worth it. They don't show the foreign spouse sitting in the house waiting for their ead combo card and being a pain in the ### in the process

They pay very little and you have to sign away your rights. Not worth it in my opinion

$1,070

Why not stay here and get your 10 year green card? Whether he wants to or not, he is responsible to provide support for his child

The i-864 is what may get you.

This is what you have to watch out for.

Wow. Your situation sounds exactly like mine. Almost to the letter. PM me op if you want to compare notes

I can definitely see where the op is coming from. He wants to protect himself.

Get rid of him and send him home. I regret filing AOS for my wife. It was a waste of $1,070. If he is acting up now, picture how much ####### he can pull when he has a work permit and 2 year green card. If it starts out badly it will just get worse. When I was in your position, my thinking was, she is adjusting, when she works it will get better etc. That was not the case. If there is no "honeymoon" during the honeymoon phase, you have nothing but an expensive lesson like I have.

Pm me if you want to talk privately and compare notes

He is out of luck and you will have to file all over again for him. He didn't have legal status just because you got married. Getting married just satisfies the requirement of the k1 visa. Without the advance parole, which is the travel permit, he isn't allowed to leave the country. If you had filed for AOS and received either the advance parole or the EAD combo card, then he would have been able to go home and come back easily.

Next time, get a working spouse from developed countries like UK. Then you won't have the problems of spouse not being able to pay for immigration process and household bill.

Lol. Thanks for the tip. After this, no more spouse for me. Besides, plenty of American women here already. I would never look abroad for a partner again. It isn't worth the hassle.

Pro VJ tip: It's against the TOS to tell other users they may not post in a particular thread.

I wasn't being literal

Typical american. Dont generalize it. U havent dated all filipina in the Philippines, heck not even more than 100 filipina to say that.

If I said typical Filipino/Filipina it would be a war. But you can say typical American and it is ok. And you say don't generalize yet there are so many pinay that all act the same way. If all the pinays don't like the USA or Americans then don't go looking for American men or come to the USA. It is that simple. No one is looking to emigrate to the Phils. If the women weren't beautiful, no one would even travel to your country. And even if they are beautiful, all that attitude is not worth it, no matter how good looking the women are.

seems to me there are a lot of misunderstanding here.. maybe u need to find out the reasons behind her actions? yes, she may be acting like a child, etc etc but why? why is she tampo? maybe u said something that to you sounded OK but to her, it sounded offensive?

i once dated an american guy and 80% of the time i feel offended with what he says, and yeah, it is because of the culture i would say, so i would always be tampo and worse, would have grudges and lots of unsaid feelings.

does she communicate in english well??

sometimes, since english is not my native laguage, when i am upset, i try to communicate my anger through words, sometimes, the words are not very easy to say so it gets frustrating, add to that the anger i have with the current issue we are fighting about... then sometimes he would interrupt me too, and most of the time when i feel he dont understand me, that also adds that to the frustration and anger i feel.. until i would just shut up and not talk bec talking doesnt help anyway..

i hope u can resolve this with your wife.. there are reasons behind her actions...

At one point I was interested in the reasons behind her actions. I am not interested any longer. Talking, which leads to compromise, is the way problems are solved as opposed to being quiet. I can't imagine the whole country of the Philippines is walking around all day silent, pissed off at each other and hoping issues are resolved.

This is too funny, made me laugh a lot. Really good catch, I thought this thread sounded familiar. This has to be a troll.

You are the one who is trolling in my thread. If you don't like my thread GTFO. If someone's misery is a source of amusement to you, I suggest you take your laughing ### over to the effects section.

I have to say I have a very happy marriage to my beautiful Pinay. 4 years and going strong.

Congratulations

She can change her mind and want to stay and continue the process.

Remember you have already mailed the AOS, if its gets approved you could have a tougher time with things.

So just make sure you send a cancellation letter and buy her the plane ticket she wants and let her return before someone convinces her to stay.[/quote

I agree

Well then, if it's so much easier for you in Canada, you can immigrate there.

People's sense of entitilement is amazing these days.

My thoughts exactly. The fact of the matter is that the OP was lazy and didn't maintain her right to live in the USA. If the OP likes Canada so much, she should move there and be a high income earner that pays 60% of her income in taxes versus 35% in the USA although she will get "free" healthcare. The USA doesn't care about your little bit of taxes. They collect billions of $$$$ every minute. Stop passing the responsibility OP and act like an adult

Unless I am mistaken, there is no reciprocity between Vietnam and the USA. I don't think she can file for benefits from Vietnam if you are divorced. Put her on the plane and be done with it

Put on your Nike's and run. How long have you two been in a "relationship?" Do you really want to marry a woman that slips in at the last minute that she has 2 kids? Pretend you are talking to a friend and they tell you this scenario. What would you say? You have to wonder what else she is hiding.