Fan_Dancer

If he gave up job , apt and other stuff

Didn't we all?

I would go home even after 2 years of US if I were to get a divorce. I would still do it after 10 years, unless I have a child.

Cases like these make me mad.

Why not Fan_Dancer?...I sure would marry a 81 year old man as long as we are happy, respect and love each other...

Really what does age got to do with it?

If you live long enough you too shall get old....

My life and my relationship is not deemed by a age difference.

Kudos to you then!

You Want to hear A Age Difference??.....I am 52 and my Husband is 25...we got married April of 2013, and

have been together 4 years!!....

we got approved our I-130 petition and are no in process for Cr-1 visa, almost at the finish line!!...

True Love and a serious relationship has no age barrier!......

Best Wishes.......(age is nothing but a number)!......

So you would marry an 81 yo man because age is but a number? Brave woman.

Incorrect, in the sense that the 23 yo is the American and the 18 yo is the Australian.

Let it go.

How about this couple of doctors?

If she just would have made a peep..." a teary-eyed Dr. Beth Kozel told police after her 7-month-old baby girl was found dead in an overheated car.

A 42-page police investigative report, obtained Friday by the Post-Dispatch, tells how Kozel, 33, left the car, waved to her daughter, blew her kisses like she always does - and rushed to work.

The baby girl, Sophia Knutsen, was in her rear-facing car seat in the back of the family's Toyota that fateful day, Aug. 23. Kozel's husband, Russell Knutsen, 33, was driving.

Sophia was awake and smiling but - described as always a quiet baby - didn't make a noise when Kozel got out. If she had, her mother reasoned later to police, her husband would have been alerted to the child in the back seat.

Kozel, a pediatrician at St. Louis Children's Hospital, apparently thought her husband knew to take the baby to the day-care center on the medical school's campus, the report said. The father told police he didn't see the baby in the back seat.

Sophia died of hyperthermia within an hour, according to Dr. Raj Nanduri, who conducted the autopsy for the city medical examiner's office. The temperature outside topped out at 95 degrees that day. Experts said the car's interior could have reached 140.

Sophia was left in the parked car about 8:30 a.m., and a passer-by broke a window to get to the child shortly before 12:30 p.m.

The St. Louis circuit attorney's office is weighing what, if any, charges to file against the Richmond Heights couple. The St. Louis Police Department's investigative report is in the hands of prosecutors now. Neither parent had a criminal record. And investigators didn't uncover any evidence that Sophia or her 5-year-old brother had been left behind before.

This case has split investigators. Some want the parents arrested and charged with child endangerment; some don't.

The investigative report written Sept. 6 includes police interviews with more than 20 co-workers, witnesses and day-care workers. It elaborates greatly on the basic, preliminary account police gave the day Sophia died. It also discloses new details - including that Knutsen didn't go back to work after parking the car, but first played tennis for 45 minutes.

The report reveals a busy morning for the family. Surveillance footage confirms the parents' account of who was driving the car last. The police report and a separate report by a state Children's Division investigator offer a glimpse into how the parents cared for their children and treated each other after Sophia's death.

Inside a patient room at Children's Hospital, as a detective stood near, Kozel hugged her husband when he walked into the room. They cried and she told him, "I know, I know, I know."

Kozel seemed to take the blame, according to the police report. "Beth K. said she thought she told Russell K. to drop the baby off at day care but she could not recall for certain, " the report said.

The next day, Kozel told detectives she didn't think her husband had seen her waving at Sophia in the back seat. "Beth K's eyes began watering more than they had, " the report said, "and she said twice, 'If she just would have made a peep.' "

Distracted

For months, to ward against forgetfulness, the parents had been putting the bottles of breast milk that Sophia would need at day care inside a lunch box and setting that lunch box on Sophia's lap for the drive to day care. That way, when they reached in the back seat to get the baby, the lunch box was hard to overlook.

Kozel told detectives about the time she was so distracted that she wore two different shoes the day she returned to work from maternity leave.

On the day Sophia died, the family's routine of many months changed. It was the first day of kindergarten at Little Flower School in Richmond Heights for Sophia's brother. The family was on the first day of its new driving plan. Kozel would drive the children to school and day care because Knutsen was already at work. Knutsen's hours were flexible. He switched to early work hours so that he could leave early to pick up their son from kindergarten, the police report said.

This also was the first day for Kozel to park the car in a new lot near her work. She had a printout of the lot on the seat next to her. The couple discussed their new driving plan the night before.

When she took her son to kindergarten that morning in Richmond Heights, she carried Sophia in a portable car seat into the school while everyone said their goodbyes, the report said. Then, she put the baby back in the car and headed for work.

Running late, she called her husband and they agreed that she would swing by his work, on the Washington University Medical School campus, so that he could drop her in front of Children's Hospital and park the car, the report said. As Knutsen took over the driver's seat, he put his tennis racket between his legs. He had told a co-worker he'd meet him at the tennis courts south of Barnes-Jewish Hospital in 20 minutes to finish a set. Knutsen won the set in 45 minutes, then returned to work as a senior research technician.

A passer-by walked near the car about 12:15 p.m., the report said. She noticed what she thought was a realistic-looking doll in the backseat. She came in for a closer look and saw the baby. A nurse ran outside and tried smashing a window with a three-hole punch. That didn't work, so she used a large rock to break the window and get the baby out. They tried CPR but couldn't revive Sophia. The baby's rectal temperature was 109.

No call from day-care center

The day-care center, which Sophia had attended since the age of 2 months, does not call parents if a child fails to show up. Some doctors who use the center have such sporadic hours that their children don't typically have set days to attend.

But some day-care workers had talked among themselves that morning about Sophia's absence, the police report said. They joked about calling Knutsen to say that he "kept our girl out today." The workers told police they regretted not calling.

Kozel told detectives her baby girl was content, beautiful and quiet. She was such a good baby, she told police, that unless Sophia was hungry, "you didn't hear her." She would scoot around at day care, smile and interact with other babies.

Three days before her death, Knutsen mentioned to the day-care staff the latest milestone: He'd seen Sophia standing in her crib.

When Kozel talked to police, she said she and her husband had heard on television about "things like this happening to other children." They think that the parents in those instances "are horrible, " the report said. "However, she said that she and her husband are good parents. She said they take their children to the park and do other activities with them."

No, a dog is more active and more likely to catch your eye. Even if it is asleep, its superior sense of hearing makes it get up once you open the car door.

Quite common it seems:

Foster father was using marijuana when baby left in car

The foster father charged with first-degree murder in the death of a 10-month-old girl who was left in a hot car had consumed marijuana earlier that day and went into the home to use more when he left her, District Attorney Marc Bennett said Friday.

Prosecutors think Seth Jackson was getting high during the 2 1/2 hours that the baby remained in the car on July 24, Bennett said.

John Stang, one of Jackson’s defense attorneys, said questions remain, among them: Was his client impaired at all? And if he was, was Jackson impaired at the time the child was supposed to be taken out of the car?

“I don’t know the answer to those questions,” he said.

The baby’s maternal biological grandmother, Cindy Poe, said the prosecutor’s disclosure of the drug allegation “explains everything now.” Before, the 47-year-old Topeka-area woman said she had wondered how Jackson could have forgotten to get the child out of the car after bringing her home from a baby sitter.

She said she had viewed Jackson as a loving foster father and never thought he might be suspected of using drugs, especially around children in his care, she said.

Through tears, she said, “How can he be smoking (drugs) with my baby in the car? Why would he ever do that?”

The prosecutor’s disclosure of alleged drug use came at a court hearing Friday afternoon in which Jackson’s attorneys were seeking to modify his bond.

In response to the disclosure, Phyllis Gilmore, secretary of the Kansas Department for Children and Families, issued the following statement.

“Should the allegations prove to be true, I am appalled that a precious, helpless child suffered such an unthinkable death while her foster parent was allegedly using drugs. We expect parents to protect and care for their children. We expect even more of our foster parents. They have a duty to put the children in their care before themselves always and provide a loving, safe environment.

“This incident is a rare exception to the otherwise strong record of foster care safety in Kansas.”

The last foster care maltreatment death was in 2006, her statement said.

“Drug use is not tolerated among our foster parents,” she said.

Gilmore said the DCF continues its investigation into the baby’s death. Foster homes sponsored by TFI, the subcontractor involved with the Jackson home, are in the process of being inspected, Gilmore said.

“Presently, no serious concerns have been discovered,” she said, adding that the DCF expects to end the moratorium on placements with TFI soon, “upon the completion of the inspections if no issues arise.”

TFI sponsors 621 foster homes in Kansas, she said. Gilmore said TFI was a former foster care contractor whose contract with the DCF was not renewed in 2013. It serves as a subcontractor of foster care services to Saint Francis Community Services and KVC Health Systems.

In court Friday, in giving some background for how prosecutors have approached the case and the bond, Bennett said that on the day of the child’s death, Jackson allegedly had been using marijuana in the morning and ran out of the drug.

Bennett also gave the following timeline.

Jackson had been transporting a 5-year-old, went to a drug dealer’s house, got more of the drug, picked up the 10-month-old from a baby sitter, returned home and went into his house in the 1500 block of South Topeka to consume more marijuana. The 5-year-old got out of the car, but the 10-month-old remained in the vehicle.

Stang, the defense attorney, said he and the other defense attorney, Leslie Hulnick, heard the marijuana allegations for the first time in court Friday afternoon.

On Wednesday, Bennett’s office charged Jackson, 29, with first-degree murder. The charge alleges the girl’s death occurred within the commission of an inherently dangerous felony, according to the criminal complaint filed against him.

The underlying crime alleged is aggravated endangerment of a child. The endangerment allegation means recklessly causing or permitting a child to be in a situation where his or her life is in danger, Bennett said Wednesday.

Also Friday, Judge Dave Dahl approved an agreement between Bennett and the defense attorneys to modify the conditions of Jackson’s $250,000 bond. The modification means basically that Jackson would have to pay less to a bondsman, perhaps $5,000 instead of $25,000, to get out of jail. If Jackson is released and doesn’t show up in court, he would ultimately be liable for the full $250,000.

Stang said he expected Jackson to be released Friday night.

Dahl also ruled that on or before Thursday, he would decide whether to release an affidavit that might provide more information about the allegations. The document, known as a probable cause affidavit, requires authorities to provide enough information justifying the charges. Neither the prosecutors nor the defense attorneys objected to the release of the full contents of the document.

Read more here: http://www.kansas.com/2014/08/01/3577493/da-foster-father-using-marijuana.html#storylink=cpy

Were you required to register your divorce in Jamaica?

Whether it came in her name or not, I've done everything else regarding her immigration for her. Plus, we're still legally together. Additionally, if she could apply from outside the country without them finding out, it could be a nice bargaining chip.

I am pretty sure it is illegal to open the letters of your estranged wife, even if you are still legally married. You seem to be more preoccupied with it all than she is. The financial responsibilities may only be enforced after a continuous 5 years residency in one state, and by then most chose to become citizens. In reality, the chances of you being held finiancially responsable are almost null. Divorce and move on. And return pieces of mail that are not addressed to you.

BTW, she can apply from outside the country if she wants. The letter was just a reminder to her that it is time to remove conditions, that's all. Some might not even get one.

You received a letter about her Removing Conditions in YOUR name?

My wife abandoned me during her first green card, and has been gone over a year now.

I just received a letter about I-751 the other day, and I don't know what I should do about it. She doesn't want me to do anything, because it is "her case" and we're getting a divorce.

She received a letter, not you.

I applied in February 2013, got an interview in April 2014, and the green card a week from the interview. So 14 months for us, because we did move around the US twice in that time frame.

It is never 100% sure, you will have to wait for the paper in the mail. Normally, it should be the day you got the email/text, but I was surprised to see my NOA1 was issued three days before I got the virtual notifications.

You can also verify the USCIS site, and see what it says in the box with the "on the .... of .... we have received an application ...".

How about the post that I responded to? How is that helpful or on-topic?

Since he has the 10 year card, there is nothing you can do, divorce him and move on.

Shop around, most say that because of the extra $$$.

Try contacting the clinic in England, see if they can't send you a copy of the vaccination sheet. Then, if you have all required vaccination, just send that. There is a whole thread about the medical on the AOS area, you might want to check it out.

Do you have a rental agreement on both of your names?

My bff is currently going through a bitter separation and we don't know what to do to help her.

How about you open your house to her and her child?

I got a ticker on VJ.

I thought the medical was included in the brown envelope you give to the officer at POE. I only had a copy of the vaccination sheet when I sent the AOS.

I applied for SSN before marriage, got it without any issues, and replaced it after I got my cards, again, without any issues.

How about Texas?

I don't think it has anything to do with you being in a same sex marriage. If anything, it has to do with your spouse being Mexican.

It isn't like it says on the card how you got it (well, it does, but if they had no idea what it was, I don't think they also knew how to properly read what category was filled into).

Just unprofessional officers.

AP is not for emergencies only. I remember because I checked the "vacation" box, and wrote down the reason fr requesting it as "tourism" or smth similar. You are always pulled into secondary because you are being paroled back in the US, and I think this is something the officer at the normal line cannot do. I had a very pleasant experience in Houston Airport, it took less than 5 minutes for the whole thing, and I wasn't asked any questions.

Border crossings may be trickier, but I would not let that discourage me. If need be, carry a copy of the description of the card.