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Seen Mrs Maisel? After five seasons there's been one thing I always noticed - how the kids of the story are always in the background, abandoned, lonely, and usually a punchline to a joke. This final season showed there were consequences to that - these kids were raised by their dysfunctional grandparents, a part time dad, and a mom that chose career over her kids. The result left these now-adults dysfunctional, disturbed, and resentful of their mother. The lesson was their mom got rich and famous, gained the world, but lost the relationship with her kids. Women cannot have it all. Not exactly a feminist way of thinking for a show that's supposed to be about a woman deciding to follow her dream. In a way, it shows that men are the ones that want to have it all, and often seem to get away with it, by dumping a great deal of burdens on our shoulders. It's the husband of the story that has it all and screws up constantly, and ultimately pushes her onto this path. He does seem to try to be around for the kids, which cannot be said for other fathers out there. Not all fathers of course. But if we're going to say a woman cannot have a career and a family, so to perhaps a man cannot either - it is a partnership thing where both sides have to step up. Of course, there are many single moms out there that do manage to wrangle career and family and the kids turn out just fine. It's difficult for many, for others there's a lot of privilege involved in just how successful they are. I think a lot of kids are dysfunctional these days, because both parents aren't really interested. They aren't even trying. They never wanted the kids anyway, and the kid knows it. I knew it growing up, and I had a SAHM and my mother knew it and she had a SAHM. I've never looked at birth control as just something a woman should take on a whim. Of course it is a miracle drug, and does give women a choice. The side effect profile though and lack of knowledge from the underfunded and outdated OBGYN system leaves a lot to be desired. The people that speak at these conferences though and say 'women can't have it all' and 'don't take birth control' and 'SAH and have babies' are not interested in a world that is better for women nor are they interested in a world where every child feels wanted and loved. They are career individuals and are too busy making money to care. They are part of the quiverful movement repackaged into glitzy influencers for a purpose. A speaker that tells the audience to strive to be like their grandmother? Ooooh boy. No thank you ma'am. I think some influencers don't understand how far back the generational rot goes. There are many people thankfully blessed with good mothers.... and there are also many people that do not belong ever ever being a mother. Telling a woman that they should just SAH and be mothers will never make them get a cluephone at how to be an actual mother. They should only be stopping birth control because both adults have decided they are ready to have kids and put in the work. Affordability, except for the wealthy isn't going to change any time soon. We should not expect government to take care of it. It's a pipedream. At the store the other week, and there was this one mother who was screaming at her daughter (maybe 7?) for just touching a couple items and asking about them. I mean she went from an ok to a teeth gritting murderous tone of voice pure frothing hatred for her kid in public loudly. I do not get it. If you do not want kids and do not want to do the work and love them, please stop having them. Currently society wants to blame every other thing for 'ruining' their kids, instead of taking responsibility for their own failings.

Thought of something this weekend and am now a little concerned: 5 years of tax transcripts. Well, the IRS doesn't hand out that many and unfortunately we're missing 2018. I put in a request but I don't think they will give me anything. I can get everything else from 2018 and of course I can upload our entire copy of taxes from 2018 but that will be a lot for the IO to sort through wouldn't it? Should we attach a letter explaining and then upload the whole copy? Kicking myself as we have older transcripts from before that year, but are just missing 2018.

Yeah I'm guessing it's Baltimore, and they are supposedly slow. Biometrics always make us go to Delaware though.

Oh that is hopeful! I had been hearing it will take so long these days.. Like I said he came via K1 in 2015 and we married. AOS approved in 2016. ROC 10yr card approved in 2019. He's been eligible for citizenship for a while, he's just a giant procrastinator. 😉

Thanks guys. A lot of this is just my husband overthinking it and then me overthinking his overthinking. 😉👍

So after a very long time of life getting in the way, I think we are ready to start the citizenship process. My husband had previously been content to just keep up with the status quo, and or couldn't decide what he wanted to do. He's finally ready to proceed. So far he's started with beginning to fill out the form online, but there are a few questions I have, so as to ensure he's not confused with anything. 1) He K1 immigrated and we have been married since 2015. His 10yr card was granted in 2019. Does he apply on the basis of the 3yr rule or 5yr rule at this point? 2) What additional materials does he need to upload? We have tax transcrips/returns, insurance, job stuff, marriage and birth certificates, bills. Basically anything that we had sent for the ROC we kept copies of. He has not traveled abroad yet. Are passport photos still needed? Obviously we'll take everything to the interview, but does all paper evidence like this need to be uploaded as well? 3)A few years back early in pandemic my husband was going to an appointment in the morning when he was pulled over by an officer. The encounter was polite but strange. He asked him where we were going/doing. When my dad (who was also in the vehicle at the time) asked the officer what was the matter, he said that my husband did not stop at the stop sign. This was curious news to everyone in the vehicle and also our neighbor (following behind) as all of us knew that the officer was not correct. My husband did indeed stop at the sign, but we certainly could not argue. After returning with the car documents, the officer made a comment that he was surprised that there was a clean driving record, then said my husband did stop at the sign, just not long enough for him in his opinion. No citation or fines or trouble was caused. He allowed us to go with a verbal warning and a note about the encounter. We still think about that day a lot, as it was really uncomfortable. My husband's cop buddy has a theory that they were looking for someone else with a similar car and it was an unlucky excuse. Still, does this need to be reported on the form? We want to answer the questions correctly. He has never been detained, arrested, fined etc so I would assume the correct answer is no on the form, but he does not want to be dishonest in any way. 4) He has a many many many years long knowledge of the US and it's history already, and he does very well at all those practice questions tests, but is there some other materials that he should be studying I can get for him? I'm sure more questions will crop up but I think that is it thus far.

A small rant from me.... I'm usually crabby, so sorry if I seem more so right now. It's been really five years of hell with my dad in hospital stays, getting him well enough to get back to a good place, being dragged back to square one, rinse and repeat. I never know how long stability is going to last. Two weeks ago we were off to the hospital again. He was obviously in a great deal of pain, and I sympathize as I've been there. What should have been routine turned into a nightmare. They just couldn't find out what was wrong. They shipped him off to another hospital, and then eventually dumped him back home. An 80 year old man, frail, his arms now black and blue, confused, and still according to daily nurses doing blood draws - seriously unwell. At the same time I end up getting stuck on jury duty, for a rape trial I did not want any part of which was... let's just say I had some exasperated thoughts with the judge and he promptly let me go, so that I could run through streets to get back to the hospital. Anyway by the time dad is now home, it's still clear he is in very poor shape and no one is listening to me. So I start from scratch, and book an urgent appointment with his primary doctor, who cancels at the last minute, but we are being seen by the head doctor instead which I preferred. He's a give it to you straight kind of guy, which is not always personable, but blunt. So I get pushy, I give it to him straight. I go over everything (the hospital hadn't even sent over results so he was thankful I'd printed off copies) and I am begging him for help for my dad. He tells me he's going to run a huge amount of tests and scans, and mentions two options - one not great but okay and the other very very bad. My dad is kind of checked out during this convo, but I can tell by what the doctor is saying, he thinks it's the very very bad option. His suspicions were confirmed based on those results, and a blunt and crushing phone call later where the C word is dropped and they are sure of it and he needs more urgent appointments. My dad is a frazzled and a scared mess and I'm trying to assure him that it is okay. But guys I know it's not okay. I know this C word of this kind is very deadly. And I know for all the crazy my dad has survived, I know he will not survive this. And then I have to tell my mother. The woman that has survived the C word and has lost friends to it and beats herself up about it. It wasn't great. She's in denial because that's how she copes. And then I have to tell my sister, and it's devastating for her, because she's lost so many patients to this. And now... I have to tell my other sister that lost her husband and is constantly afraid of losing her father. I have to tell his siblings, because he can't bring himself to speak without crying. I honestly feel so numb, but also angry, because a lot of time has been wasted at a hospital that just wasn't interested in getting to the bottom of something serious with an elderly patient. Healthcare in this country is a shitshow. The tests that picked up on this? Not even covered by Medicare. Most people don't even know they have this until too late it takes some doctor somewhere with enough of a brain to pick up on this. I nodded and said I didn't care the cost, whatever it would cost if it could prove what was wrong with my dad. I'm not even sure what I'm saying here. It's all so absurd and surreal.

I look no further than our town's own crumbling post office, in a building that's been around since the 1800s, no air or heat, sometimes no running water, moldy, damp, falling down, and certainly not secure in any way. USPS's incompetence has just ballooned to the extreme since DeJoy and it's my opinion the entire place needs a cleaning out. My old mailman has retired, and even though I had issues with him from time to time, he would deliver the mail daily with only occasional delay. Whatever we've got now cannot read or deliver more than exactly one piece of mail a day, and we're lucky to receive mail after sunset let alone at all. Mortgage went missing this month and an insured package has gone AWOL.