Tingbudong

Thanks Golden Gate.

Right now Im in Plainfield but thats just an apartment, so temporary.

When / If... we buy here Im going to look really hard at schools as number one deciding factor.

I work in Rockford which I hear is tops, but pretty high property taxes and probably pretty homogeneous, demographic wise.. Ie, could it be the whitest town in America. Oh wait.. I lived in Fairfield CT for a while too and that could give it a real run for its (old) money.

When I was two we moved to the Netherlands and I picked up a perfect Dutch accent in no time, so Im hoping he will not have any troubles linguistically and I AM hoping to make him feel fully American… but MI, especially Western isn't anything like the diverse, big coastal cities I've lived and worked in all of my life. Obviously.. LOL, Im pro-diversity and don't have racial or segregational tendencies but I do see that going on around here. I think the camouflage wearing, amish neck-beard sporting hillbillies in Greenville are considered a fully different ethnicity from your East Town Hipster.. right? That would be considered a mixed race couple?

Anywho.. time will tell and my job (shoe designer) is big in CA and NY, MA, WA, OR.. All places where its more ethnically mixed up and maybe better in the long run for a mixed couple and our little family. My current company, Wolverine, is great though and now that winter is over I don't want to leave any time soon.. LMAO ask me again next Feb though… Holy #######, was that winter brutal.. Im a Southern boy, grew up mostly in North Carolina and Florida. Acclimating to this lake effect climate is proving ROUGH.

I don't think my wife (fiancee)… A tall (for China), leggy, beautiful Asian girl is going to get to much negative racism targeted toward her.. I am however expecting her to get a lot of sexually targeted harassment or to be stereotyped and objectified a lot in that way..

I'm not happy about that.. I mean.. sexually objectifying my wife is MY job!!! LOL..

The funny (dangerous?) thing is she doesn't really know when its going on at first.. In GZ some white guy came up to her and asked her the time.. but he was holding his cell phone and then asked her QQ and her email..

She just told him the time, gave him her QQ and sort of blew him off.. and her friend had to tell her the guy was trying to pick her up. She was like, Everybody with a cell phone knows the time silly… he just was trying to talk to you.. She had no idea and then ended up having to block him from QQ when he kept trying to get a date. She told me every Chinese woman thinks you can't say no to foreign people because you must be nice and they might need help..

LOL… I had to explain all about the ways we start up silly conversations just to get an excuse to ask for a number and that its just to get dates etc.. She really is clueless about these things.. Im going to have to send her out with my hot coworker to teach her how to shoot guys down.

She also doesn't believe she's that attractive (which I LOVE about her..) She knows in her head that Western guys like her style.. but she's so used to not being so attractive to Chinese because she's too tall and a little dark ("a few black") and smiles too big etc.. That she doesn't realize when just being friendly and allowing herself to get into a conversation is leading them on. She caused two friends to get into a fight over her when she was in GZ for her interview, LOL.. Im just looking for trouble marrying such a gorgeous girl!!

But I'm a lot more worried about our 3 year old (I'm not his biological father but he doesn't remember him so he THINKS I am and calls me Baba). He will be growing up a Chinese boy in a mostly white area in Western Michigan.. He might have a hard time getting dates and fitting in. Im going to try getting him into team sports like soccer where he can become friends with his teammates and get some confidence.. Sports where physical size isn't so important. But I'm worried about him. Anybody have any other ideas on that situation with kids? He's so young Im hoping to raise him so he feels like he fits in.. Spend a lot of time with his 3 little white cousins etc..

LOL, I had doubts when I married my ex. She was US citizen and we met in college.. (Im also US citizen) It didn't work out but we were together 12 years … So i don't think necessarily I was subconsciously knowing it was going to go bad...

Everyone gets scared before a big decision like that.. You have to listen to your heart.. If you know you love each other then trust yourself to have made the right decision BEFORE your last minute jitters kicked in. Don't put unfounded fears of the unknown on to your fiancé. I talk ever day about the things I or my fiancee are afraid of. We talk it out together and after, we al;ways feel better. (communication works)

Its going to be hard work for sure.. You will get mad at each other and fight sometimes but thats normal too. The trick is not to fight dirty.. You cant take back bad hurtful things you say in a temporary fit of anger or frustration.. Just remember you are in it together and work things out together.. Both people need to give and compromise so you will both be equally unhappy with the result.. LOL.. no really you need to meet in the middle and work together.. Don't go to bed letting bad feelings still float around.. Always remember you love each other and never take what you have for granted and you can get through anything.. COMMUNICATE your feelings.

The wedding isn't the end goal.. A positive life together is.. The wedding is the beginning, its really not much a of a milestone.. Maybe a 5th, tenth, 20th etc anniversary is..

Good luck and don't freak out and run before you even get this thing really started.

Good luck.

My fiancee (and our son) gets here in only two days… Wish me luck too!!

My brothers kids are pretty much never spanked and it works great for them.. My 3 1/2 year old step son hs always been spanked though and Im not sure how he will respond to a change that seems like a downgrade to severity of punishment.

There are a lot of things we plan to institute when he gets here though, like time out, stars losing privileges or favorite toys for set time periods etc.

We are hoping the massive change to living in the USA from China and a new home, having a father etc will be major enough that we can make it seem like a game changing reset wherein all the rules can be changed too.

Currently his grandmother/caregiver doesn't maintain the same rules and repercussions his mother sets so it really undermines her attempts to get him to tow the line and do what he's supposed to.. He isn't a bad kid but its hard to lay down hard rules. So we figure it will be a rough transition but with both of us doing all the same things and the grandmother not here to break with the set rules, we can make it work.

I'm so lucky in this. MY soon to be stepson is only 3.5 yrs old. He already calls me "Baba" (father) as he doesn't remember his bio-pops and I regularly talk to him on Skype and sing songs like Twinkly twinkle little star in English to his Chinese of same.. We practice his A,B,Cs and sometimes I tease him with candy and things through the screen which since he doesn't really understand that I don't live inside his mother's mobile, results in him trying to get the candy/toy out of the phone then having a tantrum, LOL… much to my fiancee's consternation.. Though usually she laughs while giving me ####### for setting him off and asks how old I am… Last week he tried to give me watermelon through the screen.

When I was in China with my fiancee, meeting her family, he LOVED playing with me. He is starved for adult male attention and bonded with me immediately. He would cry and cling to me every time my fiancee and I tried to leave the house without him and REALLY didn't want to let go of my iPod after I taught him to play some car racing games (basically sit with me and watch me play and let me tell him when to touch the screen where for nitro boost etc..) and how to watch TV or movies on it..

My ex couldn't have children even after years of fertility treatments and I am adopted, myself.. So to me he is a gift that my fiancee is bringing me. While I wait for them to fly next month I am putting together an awesome bedroom for him with a wall mounted Hotwheels race track.. a life sized pterodactyl skeleton mounted on the ceiling.. a bunk bed.. Anything I can think of that I would have wanted at his age..

I had a godson (my ex got him in the divorce), and I have nieces, nephews.. So I am not worried about how to have fun with and relate to him and as I said, for a number of key reasons, I don't feel like there will be any awkwardness at all about having a child who doesn't feel like my own.

Hogwash!

People living is the USA are know as and called Americans worldwide.

Everybody know what country an American is from....whether you like it or not.

Us "Murrikans" have this thing we do sometimes when we talk...

Its called "sarcasm"

I know, I know… You Ukrainians have been living in the long shadow of Russia and they aren't known for their robust sense of humor over there (much like the Germans) so we will forgive you…

ONCE...

Make this mistake again though and we take away your card (the greenish-blue one, says hallmark and $6 on the back) and we send you home.

Don't give me stink eye. I didn't make the rules.

Just downloaded it.. Looks AWESOME. G great thing to do when I have nothing better to do but need biking destinations or/or motivation to get out and ride places..

"Murrikan" (phonetic)

Of course we can call ourselves American.. Just be aware that it is referring not to a citizen of the USA but to a large geographic area containing the North, South.. and grudgingly, the tiny isthmus connecting the two continents… but NOT Hawaians.. those dirty glommers on..

And your immigrant friend can call himself a "Murrikan" too… He's a Murrikan resident, legally if not as yet naturalized.

So when is the soonest that could happen?

Does a provisional green card count? Of would we have to wait the two, plus three years for her to petition for her mother?

Thanks..

We were thinking if we have a second child her mother could come be our nanny..

Thanx RandyW

LOL we are trying to stay calm.. After being so happy and excited when he got the OK at her interview we really thought the hard part was over but it seems the final stretch is the hardest of all.

She got sick after her multiple injections.. and then we are stressing about these passports.

We find the closer it all comes to being a reality the more we are afraid that every ezra day we get stuck waiting, something will go wrong and destroy all our hopes and dreams of a future together..

This process is a terrible thing to have to go through. Those in charge of setting it up and running it should be people who have been through it.. Im sure it would undergo massive and immediate changes if that were the case.

Today we are both doing a little better.. but give us time.. the day (on my side of the planet) is yet young.. I have at least a good 18 hours yet today to get worked up again!!!

Hrmmmmm….. please please passports get delivered so fast!!!

We are going crazy...

The interview was April 1st. April fools day. She was only asked a few questions.

First a couple about her son's father until they figured out that while the guy shows up every once in a while he lives 20 hours away and has never co-domeciled with them. Then they asked a few questions about our rapid timeline. She answered because her heart told her this was real and right. LOL, apparently he made a face like he didn't love that answer but left it and asked about my family's thoughts on her bringing a child thats not mine into the mix and when she told them I and my little bro are both adopted anyway because my parents couldn't have children and it turned out my ex wife couldn't have children either so we don't see accidents of biology as being relevant in building a family, in fact I and my extended family look at her 3 year old son (who calls me baba - father, on Skype) as a gift, not baggage, they said ok you are good to go.

We emailed a col days later to remind them that we intended to bring her son over 6 months after she entered.. they replied saying that it would require him to get a new medical exam and create some issues. So i got back to them telling them OK we will just bring him same time then..

Somewhere… here..https://ceac.state.gov/CEACStatTracker/Status.aspx?eQs=o/iS8zDpeAKjMWCuebHqOw==

website shows hers as good to go but lists his as being in Administrative processing.. But its never changed since the 9th and hers is issued. The other website says its good to go and lists her and 1 family member's passports as being transferred to post for a long time. Finally now it changed over the weekend to saying nothing, but then today it reads… "Passport has been received from the consular section, and is currently being processed for delivery" So its a change but kind of just means the same thing right?

This website (https://cgifederal.secure.force.com/applicanthome)%C2'>

Does anyone else have any experience with this same situation? Should we expect it to come soon now? Can we track the shipping? Should we worry they lost the passports?

Please help me keep my sanity…

Last time I tried to call the consulate I got nowhere and they were a bit terse and just told me to send in yet another email. Can i call CGI separately from government and get some actual info?

Does anyone have any contact info for that?

Thanks everyone in advance,

Tingbudodong

(Tyler & Yang… and little Wenwen)

OMG I cried like a baby right there in the restaurant where Id been sitting with my friends, boring a hole in my phone with my laser beam eyes, willing it to light up through the shere force of my desperation for good news.. when it suddenly came on and said one word.. "YES!!" I realized I'd been holding my breath and let it out in a long sigh then had to reread it for it to really hit me, "They said YES!!! They said YES!!" I jumped out of my seat w tears in my eyes and all my friends cheered and hugged me.. So much tesion suddenly let go and turned to pure joy and relief..

Finally after all our waiting she can fly here to me on/about April 30th or so.. She is already signed up for English classes starting May 5th..

Now I can breathe again. These last few days were so hard and "well meaning" people in Guangzhou kept telling her bad stories and scaring her so that when I'd get on Skype with her before bed she'd be in tears..

This process has been so long and hard to get through, but I think it has definitely made us closer and shown us how valuable our love is to both of us and how carefully we need to be to protect it and take care of each other. When you must sacrifice and struggle so much and for so long to be together I think it makes you that much more aware of how important it is to hold each other tight and never take what you have for granted..

I wish all of you luck and hope your journeys end with a big cheer and hugs and tears of joy too..

Tyler

I just highlighted n copy pasted from skype to word..

Then em we also take screen shots showing us both on cam... On my ipod you press the power button (upper right top) and the "reset" round button at bottom under screen, simultaneously and it puts the screen shot in your photos w date taken meta data. I then put them in photoshop so I could put three to a page with dates under them and an explanation of where they and the dates came from. I have almost one a day for the last 6 months since I learned to do that.

so we have daily text style chat logs with date/times and a daily screen shot showing us both in the video. Lol it's actually really sweet to look at because you can really see the natural smiles and all the expression and love on our faces in those pics that just some text could never express.. Plus there's pictures of me playing games on screen with her 3 year old son grinning at me and pointing or waving etc.. And her mom leaning into some.

Its ridiculous to to assume people would hv phone records these days when things like skype are not only far superior as they are hs video and face to face AND free... Even the random short calls we do have are quick calls via phone card w restricted or otherwise numbers.. Actual calls from USA to China are serious budget busters and who can afford that with all the fees and expenses plus travel they kill us with trying to get through all this.

good luck!!

if you need more explanation or wanted to see examples email me..

Somebody's been watching too much 90 day fiance... Its true you aren't obligated.. But that is expected only to come into play if something unforeseen held up your marriage plans.. NOT because you think you get 90 days to decide. That's completely wrong and would be almost as if your letter of intent were purgury and visa fraud.

very bad answer...

we are going to say that my job and my parents health both mean I cant live abroad, so we have no choise but to have her come to USA. Also, the wedding will take place here so my mother, who has cancer and cant travel can attend.

true... And we don't feel bad about her omitting any bad mouthing of certain parties in her family who she doesn't want to attend....

My Chinese fiancee is much more frugal and better with money than I am. Not only will she be on all my accounts with her own cards when she gets here but I'm handing over managing them to her. Lol, we will be better off.

we have complete transparency and are completely on a share everything, all is both of ours plan. When she can finally work here so much the better but I think its the only way a good marriage can be. Trust and openness with each other makes this work. (I just hope someday she will let me buy a new motorcycle, LOL... If I'm really good and we can afford it of course!)

one of the reasons I broke up with a Filipina I was dating in the past was that even though her life was a shambles, every couple of months something would come up and she'd send ALL of her money that shed been struggling to save for her own place or a car etc back to the Phillz for whatever reason they all thought up to guilt her with. I can understand wanting to help but when the oxygen masks drop down on the plane you put your own on first before turning to help those around you. ...and your mother doesn't have enough money to buy presents for her 47 god children is not the kind of emergency that should make you homeless and unable to pay your own bills. Particularly when you have a pile of siblings who dont help and live right there. There seems to be a mindset that the ones who leave are like colonies that exist purely for the be me fit of the mother country and aren't allowed to actually have a life of their own. It's not fair for them to expect this but at some point you have to stand up for yourself and put your own life first.

Just do it.

I didn't know my fiancee that long when we started the process.

6 months later we speak every single morning and night on Skype. She just got her packet from the Guangzhou consulate and we made a small change and are waiting for a reply from them but then she will schedule her interview.

She's shopping wedding dresses now..

We really haven't had a single problem..though as i said our interview has not actually occurred yet.

What we have done is used the 6 months time to make sure we keep showing all this ongoing contact. We speak on Skype like I said and mostly w video that is no-varifieable so we make sure to send emails relatively often too even though they are kind of BS since we talk about everything face to face. Still they are a constant back and forth. printable form of evidence. We also send each other cards with silly little love notes so we have these. She goes on QQ duly and there is a great group on there for women (and a few gay guys) to advise each other on the process and we have learned a lot of valuable info. I really didn't need to waste all the money i dropped on a lawyer for this. Her QQ friends have been for more helpful overall and occasionally provide us with some comical drama that both gives us a lugh and also makes us feel better when we are stressing because seriously… If these some of these people are getting accepted we hardly need to worry!! Just use the time in process to continue to generate maximum evidence. You don't really need to worry about how much evidence or time you have NOW.. Its how much you have BEFORE YOUR INTERVIEW that counts.

As for Chinese girls and how much time is enough… When you know its right.. you know.. I knew,. I had other Chinese girl friends before and I lost the one I should have married after losing my job and losing my ability to go back and forth to China several years ago. Now I have met another girl who I clicked with in this amazing way and Im head over heels for her and I wasn't going to let her get away. LOL.. Im lucky to even have a second chance to have what i thought was lost and I didn't want to wait another year before even starting a potential year long process to have a life here, together. So I feel ya man. There are some manipulative materialistic beeyatches in China. you have to watch yourself, but there are some amazing, good hearted, beautiful girls there too and they will treat you so well and fall so hard for the guy who treats them right.

Good luck and don't let the long process scare you.. Just do lots of Skype.. keep sending each other verifiable "evidence of relationship" and in the end it will all be worth it.

I was just at a great lecture at Aquinos College here in Grand Rapids at the Foreign Policy Council and there was a great speaker on The 3 Geos, Geopolitics, Geography and .. something.. but she spoke a good bit on this subject and I learned a lot that wasn't really from and center in the news. Great maps and pictures and a good explanation of the situation..

My take? If you but look at a map of the contested area in the South China Sea, and see the convoluted border of seaway China claims.. and also look at some of the small rocks where China has literally built a hut and dumped a couple poor soldiers on 20 square foot of rubble to claim habitability and thus lay claim to a wide sea border around them, you can't help but laugh at the ridiculousness of their argument. Its pure BS. The entire rest of the world needs to put them in their place over this.

Letting them swagger around and be bullies now will only make it harder to deal with them later.

…And I do agree Abe is an A$$ and being inflammatory in his actions but still.. China is way overstepping its bounds here..

Forza 4 or whatever racing video games are "realistic" in respects to car physics.. LOL.. its not about reality its about virtual reality. On a decent size screen she can del like she's driving. And speeding crashing racing flipping etc the point is its fun and will make being in control of it not seem weird.

Then take her to the mall on Sunday morning or some other place with a huge empty parking lot… or a really empty country road and let her drive around slowly without other cars until she's comfortable. Gocarts too.. We are comfortable with the idea of riding around and steering.. just do non traffic things so she can get a certain comfort level with it before she has to be afraid of othe cars squeezing in around her..

THEN Id say drivers ed.

Im buried under lake effect snow in Western Michigan but I have to say my little '02 Acura RSX (170k miles and Ive only changed clutch disks.. and that was soooo due to my particular driving style, LOL) sports car is great in the snow. Light weight n huge antilock disks so its easy to stop, front wheel drive, 50/50 weight ratio means when I inevitably slide or start to spin I can catch it easily and its got great antilock breaks all around. We won't talk about how that "sporty" suspension feels like Im getting kicked in the kidneys when driving over these goat trails they have the nerve to call paved roads in this state though.

With good tires I think a good front wheel driver is just fine. You have to know how to drive though. I see big heavy 4 by 4s off the road and sliding out all the time. Those rednecks in their monster trucks think they can just power over or through everything and then all that weight starts to slide on black ice and they don't know what to do so off the road they go.

besides, my car looks AWESOME sliding sideways around icy turns like a flat tracker or drift racer.

Know how to drive in limited traction conditions and use gentle throttle and ease into brakes etc.. you can go over/through anything that isn't higher than your side boards in a front wheel drive with decent tires.

My fiancee likes SUVs though because she feels safer. So next winter might be a change.. But Im still thinking WRX or something rally racer for MY next wheels.. (right now I just miss my motorcycle though… Come back sun!!!! HATE Michigan!!)

…I thought that commercial was REALLY bad.. glorifying a lack of work/life balance to push over valuing consumption..

OK OK I know this is old but its V-day this week so I thought Id bumpit.

My Ex once ripped me a new one because I bought her flowers and delivered them to her myself. We were on a pretty limited budget back then right after graduation so the triple normal delivery price on Valentines day was really seeming like a lot to me. I thought it was a great idea.. I bought them myself and fancied them up a little, wrote my own better than a tiny note card and put that in them and then left my work to haul it 20 minutes to drop it off at her office myself and had someone there take them in and put them on her desk so shed be surprised after lunch.

When she got mad at me for cheaping out by not having them delivered.. (her friends later ripped her one back defending me and saying I did way more to make her happy than anyone who just dropped plastic and went bak about their business - yeah friends) I should have divorced that materialistic B!@ right then and saved 9 more years of suffering.

Since then I flat refuse. My last girl friend had no problem with me telling her we celebrate V-day the previous or following week on whatever day we choose ahead of time because I refuse to pay into the blatant price gouging that we get forced to suffer through because if we don't our women will make us pay yet again. Anywho.. how is it romantic if its only done out of obvious duress. I buy flowers and do romantic things all the time. I love doing it and surprising her with a nice cooked dinner and bubble bath with rose petals or other fun date things, flowers just because, surprise turn away from the movie theater and go to her favorite restaurant instead, cards for no reason etc.

I like the concept of Valentines day but really hate the way you get judged on it in reality. It only creates expectation and women use it to compete with each other for how much their man is willing to spend. Commercial BS in my opinion.. NOT romance. Romance is when I diode jot because I love you, on my own, without a threat hanging over my head if your flowers aren't bigger than the woman at the next desk.

I don't think my fiancee is like this, she would rather I save money for her wedding dress and our new place. Hope to god she doesn't "learn' this stuff from her American friends after a couple years here though.

Coursera is very good. I take classes on there periodically. They are well done and by reputable profs at prestigious universities. Many use video lectures and they have real assignments and papers, essays due throughout class, peer review and you can even get certificates of completion. They can take a lot of time commitment though. I have dropped more than I care top admit due to work schedule etc.

I recommend it.

I enrolled in the immigration course and Im also currently doing one on fantasy and science fiction by a professor at University of Michigan. EXCELLENT!!

I now (end of first month) have a Moto X from republic wireless and Im pretty happy with my $25 unlimited everything (3G speed roaming data) plan. $40 for 4g speed roaming data.

Pretty sure I'll get my wife the same thing when she gets here.

Its $300 up front but no contract...

I do think the clarity of my calls is not always amazing but Im not sure if its my phone or just the wifi at work? Anyway for the money Im quite happy with it and I use txt and data far far more than I make actual voice calls. Skype to China is great on it from my home wifi.

Im tempted at times to go to the $10 a month no roaming data plan and then because they let you swap your plan for free twice a month, just turn on the wifi again if I find I need it. It doesn't seem thus far that I use this a lot though as Im in wifi at work all day and can't do much data roaming while Im driving my commute, then Im in wifi at home plus restaurants n bars, my gym all have it. Maybe Ill just turn it on if Im traveling etc.

Overall it get a 1 and 3/4 thumbs up for me for service and two thumbs plus two big, fat, hammer toes up for the price and the phone itself… I like this Moto X…

I am very worried about my fiancee being bored when she gets here to Western Michigan. You need a car and we will only have one for a while and in the winter its rough out there.

Im going onto meet up.com to try to find some fun groups for her to join and she wants to learn to dance so I found a studio of the right kind thats an easy walk from the house. She also likes talking on qq on the computer and we are trying to find other things that she can do (on a convenient bus route) when Im at work. I changed gyms from near my job to one close by home so she can go do that too. Hopefully by the time she gets here we will have a whole set of fun things she can get to easily and do to keep busy and make additional friends.

As for work, there are a couple schools nearby that have Chinese language programs so we are going to see if we can set her up to do some Chinese tutoring and she is also going to be doing some computer based work from home.

I just worry because I want her to be happy and feel fulfilled. I know dropping everything and coming halfway around the world to be with me is a huge sacrifice that she's making for us and Im trying to do everything I can to be sure she won't regret it… LOL theres not much I can do once next "lake effect" winter hits. Its a shocker for me too, coming here from Florida.. But the plan is to be sure she's already plugged into the social network by then and we can just suffer through it together. A lot of cuddling up under a pile of blankets to share body heat? Fortunately it looks like she will get here just in time for Spring/Summer so she can see the nice before the major bad part of life in MI comes back around again!

LOL, I used to date a girl. from the Phillz, before meeting my current fiancee. We joked a lot about her pronunciation… and mine. She put the accent on the second syllable of EVERY word, whether it was correct or not. It is incredibly hard to understand a word even with so simple a change! But after awhile I could do it too and she would laugh pretty hard to hear me say things exactly how she would say it and she'd immediately hear how it was off and why I was confused. Her son was hilarious when he would imitate her and say "MOM, you've been here as long as I have you should be speaking better English by now.. When we'd both get on her case, she'd pout and say ganging up is not fair.. but then she'd laugh.

We also found that Americans really do squash a lot of words together.. Like when I asked her… "Donchyagot Teathome?" "Whaaaa???" "Baby, donnncha… got… teeeyatoam?" Don't you have tea at your home… OOOHHHHH!!!

There are a bunch of unofficial smash words in common usage that we just don't think of when we say them… You really do have to annunciate carefully when you are helping your SO with language.

Im bad about using Chinglish back to my Chinese fiancee because I know she will understand me and we can continue our conversation without any bumps, but I have to stop myself when I find Im parroting her smacked up grammatical style.. It may make our current conversation more fluid but she will never improve if I do it and in fact I find myself accidentally using Chinglish with others if Im not careful.

Now I find my English become a few not good!!

Think I'm going marathon this sht with a bottle of wine tomorrow morning.

I think this particular show calls for BOXED wine!!