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Im able to watch episodes on Amazon Prime's online streaming video service for $1.99 an episode. Not sure if thats available outside US or not.

I just discussed this show with my fiancee in China.. It really scared her. She's not worried about me. She knows me and knows I love her, we talk every night for hours on Skype and never miss a day, how could she not? But she was VERY worried at seeing how negative the other people view these peoples' relationships. She's now more worried than ever about being viewed negatively and facing racism etc. when she gets here.

I talked her down this morning but it took well over an hour.

I have yet to see a complete show but I'll be on Bittorrent and iTunes, the TLC website, tonight for sure. I watched some clips this morning while talking to her about it and must say it wasn't all bad, in that it does raise some things that are legitimate issues with culture shock and being scared about dropping your whole life to move around the world to a totally new culture.. but it seems to really push the drama thing and like a lot of other people have already said.. ####### is with the lets do a k1 and see if we want to marry after 90 days.. This kind of BS is WHY people have bad and false impressions about our relationships.

They act like you just go out and get a visa for experimental purposes.. instead of spending yourself broke and waiting and waiting and waiting, stuck apart while you are the only one alone at parties and the holidays, carrying around an iPod trying to share your life via video with someone who is chugging coffee to stay up long enough to meet your family etc.. The real drama is front loaded and they skipped all of it to show the kind of people who shouldn't even have gotten their NAO1's because they never sent a letter of intent.. or who committed purgury by signing one.

By the way, Im 15 years older and desperately in love with my beautiful, young Asian fiancee (She's probably more mature than me though), LOL, who I met online!! There might be real cases of the stereotypes (apparently they all got on the show).. but there are also situations where they aren't real even when they SEEM to be and it just hurts people when these muckraker shows stir this ####### up as if they are out to educate people. I've spent a LOT of time in China for work and I know quite a bit about Chinese culture, have a ton of Chinese friends, speak functional , but bad according to my fiancee, Mandarin.. So I'm not one of these clueless guys who went looking for an underage trophy wife online knowing nothing about her or where she comes from.. (She actually found me, LOL) but I become that guy to everyone who watches this drivel on the tube and then meets us or sees us in a restaurant, etc.. We are not stereotypes to each other.

…Just makes me angry..

…And Disney/Holywood should not be allowed to make movies about historical events or people that take "artistic" license with those stories either… Thats another one that frosts my cookie.. But I won't get started on THAT rant too, LOL..

Something that a brilliant but unnamed woman on QQ told my fiancee… Go to the USCIS site to punch in your number and check your status. Then change the last one or two digits of your case number to go forward consecutively one or two five etc numbers.. go to higher numbers and check those too… and see how other people around you are doing. When I did this I found most people before us were accepted.. Most after were still processing.. So I knew I was probably next. Then we got ours a week later.

Another thing… I still don't have my paper letter of NOA2.. I called and requested another copy. I did however get an email 2+ weeks ago of my acceptance. Make sure to sign up for the email notifications from the USCIS site. Its quite possible that your paper letter can get lost or be otherwise late or misplaced but you will know right away if you are accepted and on to next step if you do the email thing.

I called and asked USCIS when I was getting antsy about the wait and getting no feedback was killing me.. more accurately killing her and she was driving me crazy! But the person I spoke to on the phone told me they were averaging 5 months, then I got our email notification at close to the two month point. So try not to worry too much.. You can't really know. It might come a lot earlier, or might take 5 months based on things totally not to do with you guys.

Background check is just part of what they do on everyone. Its no big deal. Try to relax and get back on Skype for some more quality time with your other half, at least you are stuck waiting with somebody who can relate perfectly to everything you are feeling.

All of the anti cousin stuff comes from the worry that you will compound genetic conditions that can lead to problems with offspring but really that wouldn't happen unless it was going on for generations..

LOL, I have some very cute cousins.. but then Im adopted..

I believe since it is an issue in some states but not others, that it must not be a federal law.. and therefore has NOTHING to do with your visa for entry. I wouldn't bring it up, but do know that there are about 10 states where its legal to marry first cousins. Colorado, New Mexico, Hawaii, Alaska, California.. and a slew of states in the deep south where they have a saying,"Nothin says luvin like marryin yer cousin!" I've also heard,"If you can't keep it in your jeans then keep in your genes!"

My lawyer suggested I have a wedding officiant hired via deposit and we drew up a "fake" or hypothetical wedding announcement naming the time and location etc of our intended wedding. I know, kind of stupid since we have no idea when she's allowed into the country, but doing both of these things in a California location will probably suffice for evidence of your intention to marry in CA. You can just look up Wedding officiants California (City of your choice) and get in touch, explain your situation and make a small deposit to get a receipt and the plan for the ceremony naming the hypothetical location etc.. For the Wedding announcement, I just bought a pretty generic card from a stationary shop, then in a computer art program with a nice script font wrote my own inside and glued it in. Voila… California wedding plans, hired officiant and location etc.. at least as close as you can get for evidence of future plans in CA.. I think I just put down $25 for the deposit.

Additional advice, even if you will marry in a state where it is legal and OK.. and mind you I don't have any issue with it at all, (if you are happy and your family supports you guys then you are luckier than most people walking around this earth) is to of course not act like its a bad secret or anything but really, knowing a lot of the judgmental people I run into in conservative states like TX or where I live in Western Michigan.. just don't bring it up unless you have to. If others hear your maiden name and ask you about it, you can laugh and admit it with a joke like the cousin luvin thing.. and they probably won't believe you and will think you are joking with them.. even though you never lied..

Good luck with your application. Mine's moving along a bit ahead of schedule but Im still going crazy waiting.

LMAO, Where was my offer of a million dollars when I was trying to decide if I should divorce my abusive ex-wife??

This one? No way I could give her up for anything in the world… After suffering through 1 years with the last one, I now know just how valuable what we have is.

Im sorry, but I just dont find he "i didnt know it was a fiancee visa until I got to the interview" story to be realistic. My Chinese fiancee's English is not as good as your boy 's, but she still had to not only write and sign a letter of intent to marry me within 90 days of entry, but she also had to write up a statement telling how we met and how our relationship progressed through to falling in love and getting engaged. Se had to sign these and snail mail them back so I could send them in with her original signatures.

She's proving she is single by getting documantation of this status too..

A lot of us here who are sufferring through long separations from our loved one and the "indignity" of jumping through so many hoops to prove we are legitamate couples (because so many others have tried to game the system can certainly be excused for finding ourselves feeling a bit offended by this hard to swallow tail.

Its of courese wholly possible that this time its the real deal. But I do hope as the US citizen, you are being cautious here and know what your getting into. If I were the consulate officer, Id find it hard to believe the story. Its like admission to prior purgery, or trying to claim complete ignorance to get out of having to admit it. Either way you will have a tough road ahead of you so I hope for your sake that you have some great documentation...

If I end up denied or waiting through long RFE's to be able be with my fiancee, or my mother, who has very bad metasticized lung cancer cant be at our wedding due to the delays, its these kinds of stories that are going to make it that much harder for me to stay calm and not flip out.

We got our NOA1 on Nov 22nd… and got our NOA2 last night.. it said on Jan 9, 2014 they sent our letter out saying APPROVED!! (I had the email status report thing set up, I haven't received my letter yet.)

This is quite fast compared to the timeline I got when I called the USCIS to change my address and ask about our status while I was talking to the officer.. He told me averaging 5 months right now.

My fiancee told me this morning (she hadn't seen my emails or apparently noticed my frantic Skype messages trying to get ahold of her from the night before.. right after we had logged off..) that her friend got her "P2" today and we submitted the same day. So I told her Oh.. did you check your email this morning yet baby? I sent you a picture, I think you'll like it. It was a screen shot of the USCIS page with the last circle lit up in blue! LOL.. She did indeed like her picture!

Cough medicine.. That's all Im sayin...

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Its a Q

Uummannaq, Greenland

Shijiazhuang, China (my baby's home town)

Oh come on you can get amazing food in the States, it all depends on where you live though. Western Michigan is a foodies desert but Fort Lauderdale was incredible, New "Orleans was great, Seattle was awesome, when I worked in NY, I could get anything I wanted to eat... Carolina's has great food..

Rabbit Hash, Kentucky (there is a Lizard Lick, NC too, god bless those hillbillies!)

Haha, must be something to do with weird refresh on my iPod, cant be doing this from my work computer!

i love Vancouver btw.. Best Sichuan style hot pot I've ever had outside of actual China!

Tagbilaran, Philippines

Yeah, this is a HUGE tang zai wo de pigu... Pain in my butt.. (At least I can say all the important things in Chinese) More because being apart is so hard than all the paperwork though.. But I need to tease her about something, LOL.. The banter is fun.

Tambov, Russia

Yakutsk, Russia

LOL because I'm "Ben Dan" and I felt like burning more money than I have... Lol, please dont go there, believe me I've heard all about it, in two languages even. I dont know I was so afraid something might go wrong and I would lose her. I didnt know Id be paying all that for this guy to fill out a few papers I could do myself. But it's done, I guess if we do end up having any trouble it will be good to hv him in our corner then. Lol when she gives my %#^€ about our lawyer being slow and how much I spent I tell her now I know and I wont use a lawyer next time I do a k1

p1, maybe it's just how the Chinese refer to what step they are on. P1,2 are my parts,P3 is her end, Part one being the government accepting my initial application. P4 i think is the actual interview. I dont know, Id have to look it up on a Chinese site.

Abdaly, Kuwait

Sometimes I'm a little slow, .if you don't believe it just ask my fiancee who's getting crazy waiting for P1 status when all her lawyer less friends are passing us by.. Hopefully soon now though. Our lawyer got our last papers w original signatures yesterday!

Utica, NY

Lol, we're all out of order.

this games a great way to score posts and get out of Newbie status!

Jihana, you're supposed to name a place that begins with the last letter of the previously named city, but Ill continue from yours anyway.

Saint Croix, Indiana, USA

So now you need a city starting with an "X", like Xiamen, China.. But I ruined that one so you can't use it. ;o)

Ypsilanti, Michigan (I took Chinese here at Eastern Michigan University)

i always thought it was two genes for eyes and blue was recessive to her brown. Being Chinese, I was thinking its a sure thing for dominant brown and of course dominant black hair over my blond. It would be awesome if it happened and they ended up w green eyes or something in the middle, but I think if kids pop out looking ANYTHING at all like her they will be beautiful.. She's gorgeous, I have no idea how I managed to convince her to marry me.. But I must have done something right. I'm so in love my coworkers tease me about my goofy smile, LOL...

Anyang, China

Sandy, Utah, USA

Nope, dont have any.. Though I have experience sitting for my little nieces and god son.. Hopefully Ill have some cute little mixed kids n a couple years. My fiancee told me she wants them to be be blond w blue eyes like me, so if they are, then she will take care of them, if not its my job, I guess shes gonna go to work n design the shoes for me?

I told her light hair and eyes come from staying in utero longer.. So at 9 months we can see if she wants to go two more to lighten them up or does she want them out now? Lol, we will see what she says then...

Onaway, Michigan, USA

LOL, Happilycontent" I think you have too much time on your hands! I know Im supposed to be designing boots, but checking back here is a fun break from work, especially because my fiancee, Yang is asleep now in China n I can't chat with her..

-Tyler

Utrecht, the Netherlands

Gardiz, Afghanistan

Ust'Ordynskij, Russia